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Task: Ask 4x4 girls for time, ...+directions to a store that sells candles, ...+"I'm planning a candlelit dinner for my girlfriend", ...+"I'm the sweetest guy ever." Execution: Same foreign city as yesterday. I only had two hours to catch my train and had to get some stuff done; that's why I had to do the drill on the side, and it took me 80 minutes in total. Reflection: A pleasant drill since one releases the slight social tension that builds up after you asked for a candle store (I don't really mind about it at this extent, but I notice it of course) by telling about your girlfriend. Reactions were all nice, some girls were amused by the rather random question. I was actually close to cracking up when telling them that "I'm the sweetest guy ever" and always had to smirk (-: Definitely one of the easier and also one of the funnier drills.
Tatu, thanks for the encouragement. I skimmed through your thread and you're also doing a great job. Keep it up (-:
Back to the journal: I got laid by a cute girl Sat night. Since I also finished more drills during the business trip the last three days, I decided to give myself a break on Sun. Thus, day 13 only today.
Task: Ask 4x4 girls for the time, ...+directions to a good wine store, ...+that you just got promoted / whatever and want to celebrate, ...+if she can recommend any wine Execution: Did it between breakfast and lunch. Public holidays today and all stores closed, that's why there were not too many girls in town and I had to walk around a little. Needed like 35 minutes. Reflection: All fine, nothing special. I could chat up the girls easily, it's getting better in most situations. 8th one I had to shout after the last two sentences because she was leaving after she told me she didn't know any place. 7th one gave me a recommendation without me even asking. 16th one I think fell in love with me. She gave me a long-winded description for directions and a beautiful shy smile after I thanked her and wished her a nice day. All in all, it's getting old slowly and I am excited to enter the goofy drill stage.
Task: High-five ten girls. Then chill a little and do it again -- faster. Execution: First set while walking to work (usually I don't walk). Almost no girls around in that area, but time didn't matter anyway. Took me like 35min. Second one during lunch break. Took me 12min. (I took the time from when I decided to start until I high-fived the last girl.) Reflection: That was fun! For the first set of 10, I didn't have a strong feeling of momentum: There were not too many girls around and I had to do it on some women in their 30s of which a few rejected me and to others I first had to clarify what I wanted (I used the English word as it is also used in German usually). In the second set of ten I had a nice flow and the time from first to last high-five was sth like 5 minutes. There were heaps of girls at my age chilling in the sun which made things easier. I could also feel my high-five demand being clearer and more imperative. Athough I feel that social pressure makes it a little harder, I think a lively area is of advantage here -- people watching or high-fiving girls who saw me doing it before did not matter that much to me (even though I noticed social pressure). As a side note, I mostly said "Yo, free high five!!!" or "I'm distributing free high-fives, bring it on!" while holding my hand out. One or two I did non-verbally, but since in Switzerland making eye contact with a stranger is a no-go, I decided to back it up verbally to make it a little easier for myself.
Task: High-five ten girls at least half as fast as on Day 14. Then do it again, at least at the same pace as just before. Execution: Did it before and after lunch. Took me around 2min and 90sec, respectively. (Time from decision to start to high-fiving the last girl; for the second set of drills, I used a stop watch.) Reflection: I was really lucky: The weather is perfect, so there is tons of girls around on the university campus, chilling in the sun. I was a little psyched before going out due to the time constraint. But once I decided to start, I had no strong anxiety. Most of the first ten girls were nicely lined up sitting on long stairs. I probably high-fived around 15 because I didn't know which ones were in groups. Second ten were also stationary, sitting around at a different location. I got nicely out of my head, not particularly minding that heaps of people were watching (both drills were executed on a wide open space). I also high-fived a male friend of a chick who didn't wanna high-five me. Just to teach her a lesson to high-five strangers in the future. Ha! Tomorrow should not be a problem since today was almost solely on stationary girls.
Task: High-five 2x10 girls that are stationary. As a challenge, high-five an 11th girl that smokes. Execution: Quickly before lunch because I have work to do and would like hit some trails tonight. Did the first ten in 7min (had to walk between two different spots), the second one in 5min while walking to the supermarket and in the supermarket. Chilled 15 minutes between the two until I felt some inner tension creeping up to get out of the flow. Reflection: No big deal, I did stationary girls yesterday already. I get no strong emotional response even if I was a little psyched again before going out. I got in fast on the first ones to not get into any stupid thought loops. No girl refused to high-five me today, even though quite a few obviously thought it was weird. I attribute this to my better overall feeling ("strong frame" if you wanna call it like this). Some reacted cool, some were boring -- just as always. As a side note, I did an 11th smoking girl pair in the end of the first set of ten. I thought it was no different than girls having lunch or texting (which I also did) and ditched it for the second set of ten because I didn't see any.
Task: Present the alphabet in increasing lengths to 3x4 girls. As a challenge, repeat it over until a girl leaves. Execution: Shitty day, raining like a motherfucker. That's why I did it around lunch time to meet at least some girls outside. Took me a bit more than 20min. Did the challenge, too. Reflection: Was quite tense when I went out, but went in fast on the first one (this is really helpful) and had no problems or strong anxiety whatsoever. Usually I said something like "Yo, check this out." or "Hey guys, I got sth new!" and recited the alphabet like it was a poem. Afterwards, I either stared at them and waited for a reaction or said sth like "Damn awesome, right?!" or "Just learned that -- cool eh?!" Some girls thought it was funny (two groups of younger ones totally cracked up), some thought it was awkward. One was either dead-seriously ironic or thought I was mentally retarded because she really complimented me on it as if I was a child. One pretty hot one tried to strike up a conversation, apparently she liked me. The last girl (challenge) walked away to after I had repeated it two times with different pronunciation and had just started the third time. I was cracking up when she left. I chickened out sometimes as usual, but I get more and more comfortable high-social-pressure situations. All in all fun day!
Cheers, Matt! Yeah, this day was actually entertaining. It always reads as if it was all easy and chill, which is certainly not the whole truth. But it gets more and more fun and I certainly feel social freedom growing bit by bit (-:
Task: Ask 5x4 girls for the time ...+if they like your shirt, ...+that you can't decide, ...+that you're gonna leave the price tag on and return it perhaps. As a challenge, tell them your boyfriend bought it for you, but you think it's gay. Execution: Asked for my jacket instead of shirt (cold today). It's Saturday, so there's people shopping and tourists. Unfortunately, the weather is still disgusting, so there were less young girls than I expected. I started of well, but then changed location which took me a bit of time. In total I was busy for around 50min. Did the challenge twice, too. Reflection: I didn't think it was extremely hard. In fact, I was curious about reactions because I wear a buff leather jacket. It makes me look badass, but I never knew if girls dig it, too. However, pressure of judgement was definitely noticeable which I didn't expect. It especially took me a minute to gather myself when a (little older, German) girl said she hated it because she connected it with an unpopular German subculture that used the brand in the 90s (I was aware of this possibility before, but it is no issue in Switzerland). She was the only one that was straight-in-the-face honest, the rest were more cautious even if they didn't like it. Some girls really loved it, too. The additional challenge works not very well in German because the translation of the term boyfriend is ambiguous: It could just be a friend in case of imprecise word choice. That's probably why the first girl didn't get the joke. The second one did I think, blushed, laughed, and walked away. I didn't think the challenge was any harder than the normal drill, maybe even the opposite -- in the end, you give up responsibility for wearing the jacket. That the girl might think I'm gay I didn't give a shit because I'm non-judgemental about this myself.
Took another break yesterday because I didn't feel like running around for ages in bad weather on a Sunday. So day 19 only today:
Task: Ask 4x4 Girls how they are, ...+if they know a good hair salon around, ...+that you are getting the new Justin Bieber haircut, ...+what their favorite hair style for guys is. Do it 2x yourself, 1x dead-seriously, 1x gay. As a challenge, do the last repetition again, but with "How's it hanging?!" instead of "How are you?" Execution: Did it right before lunch which turns out to be a good choice usually. It was. Took me 25min, did the challenge three times in addition. Reflection:I was most psyched before of the "How are you?" because it's not really common here to just ask that without any real request. I did it mostly when passing by with a smirk on my face (except on the gay set; I was waving and saying sth that might be translated as "Hellolee, how are youdelee?"). In the end, it was pretty easy, I am fairly good at executing the first one to get into a flow. I could tell that most of the girls were close to laughing when I did it in my gay voice, but suppressed it out of politeness, haha. (I really don't look gay or at least not faggy gay, so that made it even funnier.) Interestingly, the only three girls that just kept walking were on the gay drills (which, interestingly, did not matter to me a lot despite quite a few people watching) -- otherwise they all stopped and helped as I asked them to. As a side note, they didn't really answer on the "How are you?" I made sure I asked for the hair salon before they could run away. I found the challenge easier than the real drill because I like being slightly inappropriate and I felt that it confused the girls a little more.
Task: Ask 4x4 girls for the time, ...+where the next public restroom is, ...+clarify you mean the men's room, ...+tell them you hope it's clean, ...+tell them men's restrooms are usually gross Execution: Was late to work today and had some stuff to do, so I did it while riding to work on my bicycle. Took me sth like 40min, including a 15min pit stop at a bike store. Reflection: Nothing special, I thought it was really easy. Two times I had to keep babbling while the girl was walking away. Apart from that, with a bike it's awesome! In less crowded areas you can chase girls down without effort, in more crowded areas you get off and just walk like usual. Fuck yeah, more bikes for the world!!
PS: You can even sit sideways on the top tube while talking -- very comfortable.
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