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- Set up a POF profile.
- Texted ~ five girls. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem like POF has taken off here yet (Switzerland). The total search results for girls in the relevant categories in Zurich were around 30, only those 5 matched my taste. (Or maybe I'm too retarded to handle that Website, haha!) I will look into it again on the weekend and make another account on a German-speaking dating site if necessary.
Task: Ask 5 girls for the time. Execution: on my way to work, quick and clean Reflection: I got to say that it feels nice to get back into chatting people up during my day. Haven't done that in a while due to confusion how to move on and am glad to be back at it. After the drills, I gave a tourist directions to her hotel when I saw her holding a map; even if I might have done that anyway, my slightly altered state made it feel more natural.
Task: Ask 5 girls for the time. Then chill a little, and do it again -- faster. Execution: First, I went around the block, not many people around this morning. Got to a bit busier area, took me like 10 minutes in total. Second time was after like 2 hours. Went into the busiest shopping street here, took me 3 minutes. Reflection: First one was all easy, I did not have to push myself since I could let difficult situations pass by. Second time was with slight discomfort. Crowded streets made me feel watched. I felt especially uncomfortable when I thought that the girl I asked before could still watch the next approach. I think I took a turn around the corner every time single.
I also signed up at a German-speaking dating website. It's pretty shit since you can only text girls if you have a premium account or use a phone app and there is no profile text. Might switch to another one soon. Anyway, texted ten nice-looking girls. I felt quite uncomfortable doing that, who knows why. Maybe because I always found online dating weird, maybe because it shows direct intent and I'm not used to that anymore. I'll grow into it.
Task: Ask 5x3 girls for time, time+directions, time+directions+"Have you been there?" Execution: Walked around town, took me like an hour because there were not really girls around in my area. Got way faster once I decided to circle in the main station where there's always enough people -- although they're mostly in a hurry and there's clocks everywhere. Reflection: All good, nothing really special. Fairly annoying to do that stuff on Sunday, but at least I had a nice walk around town. Because girls where rare, I noticed that I often chicken out in the more socially unacceptable situations (girl with a guy, on the phone, in a rush). But that should be normal. Also chicks I really find hot make me feel excited which usually leads to me not talking to them. Nothing new, either.
As a side note, I got a few messages on the dating website. Sweet!
I appreciate your advice, Horny. Read parts of your thread, seems like you're talking from experience in terms of social freedom.
Rush is the least of a concern (and probably also the most important situation since there's heaps of girls rushing), talked to a few that seemed to be in a hurry today -- in the station most people are. Phoning girls I don't care that much about yet, there's not that many. Just the guy thing is a little annoying as it also limits me in nightclubs, and boys are usually chill about it. (Plus, most won't mess with me anyway.) Need to grow some balls soon. I will follow the program for now, of course, but will definitely keep your tip in mind for when it's time if that makes sense. Thanks!
Task: Ask 5x3 girls for time, time+directions, time+directions+"Have you been there?"; get in quickly on the first one. Execution: Did this before lunch, cruised around town. First one I chased down running. Took me a total of 30 minutes. Went better once I got to a lively area, the last two sets à 3 girls were quite quick. Reflection: I did not see a big difference hunting down the very first girl since I had no strong stress response asking for the time and was not in a too bad state. I can see how it can make a difference when state / situation is more challenging, though. I did have a little more feel about "social momentum" during the last six girls when that awkward feeling about asking the same question over and over again subsided. By then, I had come to an area with little open space which made me feel less observed.
Task: Ask 4x4 girls for time, time+directions, time+directions+"Have you been there?"+"Did you like it?"; get in quickly on the first one. Execution: Did before going to work since it was supposed to start raining soon. First girl I had a glance on from behind was like 30m away and entered a real estate agency or sth. After freaking out for like one minute, I knocked against a window with a girl behind and pointed on my wrist. Not sure if I got the right girl, though. Benefit of the doubt on this one. Took me a total of 45 minutes with a lot of walking to find girls. Reflection: First day that was actually kind of fun. Asking girls for grocery stores and then asking them if they liked it has some potential for hilariousness. Also, yesterday I tried to avoid social pressure by adding a quick "Is it good?" or "Is it large?" once I noticed their confusion about me asking whether they had been there. Today I just stared at them after I asked almost all of the times. All reacted quite confused, some tried to relieve the pressure: 4th girl described me in length which things I could buy at that supermarket. 12th asked me what exactly I meant, after I had ignored her never having been there and had asked her if she liked it. 16th one said yes and gave me a better description for the way. All in all quite funny, especially because I often confuse people in situations in which I feel socially comfortable in a similar way. It's also noticeable that winning this little social pressure game seemed to make some a little submissive (-:
Task: Ask 5x3 girls for time, time+"Do you know restaurant...", time+"Do you know restaurant..."+"Do you like it?" (no matter if she has been there); get in quickly on the first one. Execution: Did it after lunch break. First girl was talking with two guys, engaged her anyway and only reacted to the guys when they told me the time. The other 14 girls I did within 30 minutes or so. Reflection: Slowly I see where this is going, and I have to say I like it. Almost as funny as yesterday. I did the drill three times with a restaurant nobody could possibly know and two times with McDonald's (inspired by Horny's thread if I remember correctly -- brilliant idea!). Don't know which was funnier: the confused reactions when I asked with a blank stare if they liked the restaurant they just said they didn't know; or me asking if they knew a "restaurant McDonald's" and how they liked it. Most gave me directions when I asked them if they knew the restaurant. Girls number 6 were laughing and like: "Yeah, I mean, McDonald's -- they have burgers and fries." (-: The rest was just really puzzled. Still have to say, though, that I chicken out from taking the piss out of very classy girls and when I feel that people are watching me chatting up several girls. Nevertheless good day I guess, no strong anxiety.
Task: Ask 3×5 girls for the time, time+directions to a cinema, time+directions to a cinema+if they have seen any good movies lately Execution: Originally, I wanted to take a break today since I should have been on train for 8hrs and subsequently on a business meeting. However, I got stranded due to delays in a decently sized city in Germany for ~45min. I decided to do the drill since I didn't have anything to do except waiting. Took me 35 minutes. Reflection: Doing it in a random city might be harder or not. I felt less safe if that makes sense, on the other hand I knew that I would be gone in 1h anyway. In the end, it didn't harm my performance on paper, but I was more conscious also because girls were less polite than in Switzerland (-: I noticed that I could've held it a little longer with the last question -- at least a pro creep would have. All were obviously weirded out, but I gave in when I noticed that they were about to move on and said "Alright, goodbye." All in all fine, but I had little fun. Probably had to do with the new environment.
Task: Ask 5x4 girls for time, time+directions to a cell phone store+... [ah fuck it, short version, I'm typing on the phone:] ...+what phone they have+if they like it (nosy day). Execution: Did it in a foreign city again, big enough though. Had to walk around a little, then I got to a busy area. Took me 45 minutes in total. Reflection: Environment was strange and so I'm happy with my performance. No strong anxiety whatsoever. Did most of it in a crowded shopping area which I usually find stressful, but it wasn't too bad. I mind less and less when people watch me being weird. Reactions were mixed, but didn't bother me too much. Except when I couldn't finish one drill because the girl ran away. I was getting pissed quite obviously when they didn't wanna answer me. One pair of girls helped me out then. Last girls I yelled after to finish the drill when they didn't wanna tell me what phones they had. Ha! The CEO article helped a lot for the mindset btw, I felt a lot less like a beggar by adjusting how I expressed myself.
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