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At first, this one was a little awkward, because it was a little out of character for me. But, after the first round of 4 drills, it really wasn't that big deal. Did about 25 encounters in about a hour and 15 minutes.
Probably the biggest thing for me to work on from today is going more out of my to catch up with attractive girl I see from a distance. There were a couple of times were I would see a hot girl, but I would let get away because she had a big head start on me or a little out the way going the other direction.
Drove out to a different suburban mall today. I think the drive took almost as long as the drills (fucking rush hour.)
After I got the fist couple under my belt, the anxiety was pretty minimum. I think the hardest part was there were a couple of times were the girl seemed attracted to me, and having to cut the conversation short (as required by these drills.) Damn, one of them was really hot, too.
All really positive reactions, with the exception repeating the same drill on the same girl.
I performed a total of 25 encounters in a little over a hour.
Thanks again, Tatu. I’m only on OK cupid, right now. Maybe I’ll try POF in a little down the road.
Day 14 - This was a hard one for me.
First of all, I took Friday off because of lack of time. Fridays are my longest and most taxing nights at work (Saturdays are the second.) Since Chris put big emphasis on this drill, I thought it would be best to wait a day where I had more time.
On Saturday, I struggled from the beginning. Went to a mall in the city. Part of the issue was there weren’t many of semi-attractive young girls for some reason. But, I was also very hesitant and let a lot of opportunities pass by, especially in the beginning. After the first four, I struggled less. But, it still took me about an hour and 15 minutes to complete the first 10.
For the next 10, was mostly spent outside, downtown. Although, I think I was getting better, the opportunities were even more sparse. I think I got seven in 40 minutes then had to go to work.
So today (Sunday,) I re-did the drills at a suburban mall. Quite a few more opportunities this time. I did ten in about 45 minutes. Got a water at Starbucks, then did the next ten. This time in 15 minutes.
This was definitely the most challenging drill for me, yet. I’ve never been much of a high fiver.
Good job, Henry. I did day 14 today as well and this was the 1st drill i found difficult. Part of the reason was the 1st girl didn't put up her hand and was all "UH UH!!" She was not that attractive either . Im repeating tomorrow.
Thanks TY34. Yeah, I had several girls leave me hanging on the high five, too. Becomes less of a big deal through repetition. It seems the more energy/confidence I deliver the drill, the more responsive they are to it. Also, I would change up the wording occasionally. Instead of saying "high five," I'd say "give it up for _____!" with my hand up. I'd fill up the blank depending on the situation. If it was sunny out I'd say give it up for sunshine, or if I was at Whole Foods I'd say give it up for Whole Foods.
Day 15 - Sunny day I so tried a community college again. I pretty much matched my time from the very last drill, 10 in 15 minutes. Although, I think my execution improved, for some reason there weren't many girls (or people,) in general walking around.
So, for the second group, I drove to a College Campus were there was more of a cluster of people and was able to do 10 in 10 minutes.
Day 16 - Started at a Bookstore since that was recommended. Took me a couple of times to gather myself, but ended up doing six high fives in there. It was a pretty nice day, so the bookstore wasn't exactly hopping with attractive girls. Went outside and did the rest on the street. The last four were either standing smoking or waiting for some sort public transportation. I didn't do an 11th girl smoking because the two out of the last four were outside smoking. I finished this part in about 35 minutes.
After about a 20 minutes break I did the next 10. Most were standing waiting for a bus or train (this was around 5pm, so the transportation stops were pretty crowded.) A couple were sitting outside a cafe. I did do a 11th one smoking, too. These 11 took me less the 15 minutes to complete.
On the way back to my car I did a few more too, just for practice. Also went back in the bookstore and performed an additional couple, since that was where I struggled the most.
Today, at some point I found myself in the women’s underwear section of Wal-Mart, reciting the alphabet to some poor lady. Wondering how I got to this point . . .
Day 17 - Was feeling like shit (physically,) yesterday, so I didn’t do any drills. Focused on feeling better.
Thursday, I’ve been concerned like I’m already getting redundant as far as the places I go to perform the drills. So, I decide to hit up a mall in a different part of town. The neighborhood is on the poor side. I get to the mall and there wasn’t much to it. Most of the store fronts are vacant. There’s basically a Target, Home Depot and a Bed Bath and Beyond.
I had a horrible time getting started, I’d let several potential approaches walk by. After about a half hour of not “approaching,” I sat down at a bench and took a five minute break, trying to gather myself. Went in to Bed/Beyond for 10 minutes and still didn’t do anything.
Walked into the Target. After several minutes of not performing the drill, I just start asking people for the time/directions. Trying to get some kind of social momentum going. I left Target and went and got some sushi, realizing this drill is going to take me a while.
Next, drove and stopped at a couple of grocery stores and a Wal-Mart. I got to the point where I was just standing next to girls saying the alphabet. Not saying it directly to them, but standing parallel/next them, facing the same way or walking next to them, going the same direction.
I got to another mall, and was doing the same thing. But, there were a handful of times I was now saying the alphabet directly to the girl, but usually only to “G.”
At this point, I decided to go sit down in a bar, located next to the mall. Since, this week, Chris encouraged us to experiment with different state enhancers I go ahead and have a couple quick drinks. When I go back out, I have my best performance of the night. I approached nine girls and did the entire alphabet to almost all of them . . . hmm, go figure. Altogether, I worked on this drill, for about five to six hours.
So, tomorrow I’m going to do the drill over again. Hopefully, start from the same comfort level I ended at tonight, without the buzz going on.
I just did the same drill today, I also thought it was one of the more challenging ones. It's special since it's the first one that does not make sense at all.
First, alcohol helped of course. I do not want to make an argument for or against drugs. I personally regard them as a glimpse beyond reality (if I don't simply get smashed with my boys, haha), but do not want to rely on them too much. However, I think in this case it was a good thing that you mixed your pride with a nice drink and swallowed it all down.
Second, I always relax. Life is too short to beat yourself up over your emotional reaction. It's a part of you and you're working on getting comfortable with it. I think you did the right thing when doing baby steps within the baby steps. (You could also ask her if she can check your alphabet because you think you lost a letter. Or you could give some alphabet high fives. Sorry, just some quick thoughts in case you need some inspiration.)
Alright, enough of my spiel. I could share how approach the drills in general, which might help you or not. But I'm pretty sure you'll nail it within the next two tries. This day is actually quite fun once you're in as you probably noticed when boozed up. Look into my journal entry of today if you need some more motivation (-:
Keep the ball rolling, you've come a good way so far,
Thanks Ernest. Yeah, I usually don’t drink much when I go out now. Nothing against it, but I find it usually makes me sloppy and tired. I usually reserve alcohol for winding down. But, I guess it was helpful in this case to get over a hurdle.
Day 17-B - Much better today. Did 12 in less then an hour (sober.) I gotta go work now.
Good job man. the part of this drill that makes me nervous isnt so much saying the abcs to the girl, its the thought of people around hearing it. i felt the same doing high fives on seated bookstore cafe girls.
Good job man. Even if you get through the day, if it was hard, I recommend doing it again.. it'll be 50% easier. I want you guys to finish your days thinking "That was easy" rather than "damn that was hard"
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