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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 02 May 2013 19:04 #32748

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it just occurred to me that i might be doing the program wrong....

are we not supposed to move onto the next day until we feel 100% comfortable doing one day? if so i will never finish this program....i'm a generally anxious person, most of my anxiety isn't social, its because i worry about shit. not to say that my social freedom doesnt leave a lot to be desired....i'm just saying a lot goes into how comfortable i feel at any given moment, even during the drills. i.e. the temperature in the room, how my allergies are, how well the previous approach went, how positive my self talk is at that moment, ect...

i've been going through the days with some problems here and there, but i havent been redoing the days because i can usually do them within an hour or two including the challanege (usually, not always. i didnt do the day 28 challenge...scary).

do i need to go back and redo a bunch of days until i feel totally comfortable in my skin doing them?
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 02 May 2013 19:09 #32750

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that´s a good question!

I think I´ll also have to really fight me through drills to do them. And if I have to really feel comfortable doing one drill that I have to fight through this will take forever.

But I also see a point in what Chris says that you should be able to do them without struggling. When I started the high five drill I already was worried at my place that I have to high five girls and had this "pre AA"....now I´m thinking, "ok, let´s go out to high five some girls" and it´s nearly as easy as asking for the time.

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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 02 May 2013 19:11 #32753

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it just occurred to me that i might be doing the program wrong....

are we not supposed to move onto the next day until we feel 100% comfortable doing one day? if so i will never finish this program....i'm a generally anxious person, most of my anxiety isn't social, its because i worry about shit. not to say that my social freedom doesnt leave a lot to be desired....i'm just saying a lot goes into how comfortable i feel at any given moment, even during the drills. i.e. the temperature in the room, how my allergies are, how well the previous approach went, how positive my self talk is at that moment, ect...

i've been going through the days with some problems here and there, but i havent been redoing the days because i can usually do them within an hour or two including the challanege (usually, not always. i didnt do the day 28 challenge...scary).

do i need to go back and redo a bunch of days until i feel totally comfortable in my skin doing them?


As long as you're doing them -- you are moving along, some of them will be hard. We want you to reach a point were you can legitimately say "oh shit I could do those drills better than I ... lemme do them again and KILL IT" rather than 'okay i finished'

if you drill some of the drills from week 2-- today... would they not be easier for you?
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 02 May 2013 19:14 #32756

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it just occurred to me that i might be doing the program wrong....

are we not supposed to move onto the next day until we feel 100% comfortable doing one day? if so i will never finish this program....i'm a generally anxious person, most of my anxiety isn't social, its because i worry about shit. not to say that my social freedom doesnt leave a lot to be desired....i'm just saying a lot goes into how comfortable i feel at any given moment, even during the drills. i.e. the temperature in the room, how my allergies are, how well the previous approach went, how positive my self talk is at that moment, ect...

i've been going through the days with some problems here and there, but i havent been redoing the days because i can usually do them within an hour or two including the challanege (usually, not always. i didnt do the day 28 challenge...scary).

do i need to go back and redo a bunch of days until i feel totally comfortable in my skin doing them?


As long as you're doing them -- you are moving along, some of them will be hard. We want you to reach a point were you can legitimately say "oh shit I could do those drills better than I ... lemme do them again and KILL IT" rather than 'okay i finished'

if you drill some of the drills from week 2-- today... would they not be easier for you?


10x easier for sure. but for example, the drill i did yesterday, tapping girls on the shoulder and asking them about nerd glasses ect....that wasnt easy, and i couldnt do the challenge. most of the reactions i got were negative, though, so that had a large part of it. i had no problem feeling fine after if the girl didnt freak out or ignore me.
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 02 May 2013 19:16 #32757

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10x easier for sure.


it's working.


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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 02 May 2013 19:26 #32760

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10x easier for sure.


it's working.


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well of course it is, thats never been a question in my mind and i'm extremely greatful and happy about that. i just want to make sure that i'm doing it right. days like yesterday and the night drill a while back where i squeezed girls arms were tough for me, but i did them in a matter of an hour or two, so i moved on. just want to be sure that thats legal
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 03 May 2013 17:40 #32980

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Sooo it looks like this site have 2 programs for beating AA
#1 http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2013/03/25/approach-anxiety-program-week-1/ (and week 2, 3 and so on)
#2 http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/05/15/beat-approach-anxiety/

Which program has better efficiency?
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 03 May 2013 17:46 #32981

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Sooo it looks like this site have 2 programs for beating AA
#1 http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2013/03/25/approach-anxiety-program-week-1/ (and week 2, 3 and so on)
#2 http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/05/15/beat-approach-anxiety/

Which program has better efficiency?


oh #2 is an old post.. its just an example of how the program works-- the program is here :) -

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/approach-anxiety-program/
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 03 May 2013 18:22 #32991

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oh #2 is an old post.. its just an example of how the program works-- the program is here :) -

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/approach-anxiety-program/

OK, I will stick to #1. Thanks for info.

Anyway today I have done 20+ drills and it was quite easy (I was anxious at beggining but after 10 aproaches I was like - fck the system!).
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 03 May 2013 19:04 #33002

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oh #2 is an old post.. its just an example of how the program works-- the program is here :) -

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/approach-anxiety-program/

OK, I will stick to #1. Thanks for info.

Anyway today I have done 20+ drills and it was quite easy (I was anxious at beggining but after 10 aproaches I was like - fck the system!).


good there ya go--

the anxiety might not a choice, but approaching is--- you're there already and you'll do just fine
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 03 May 2013 19:20 #33009

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@Chris
Thanks. :)

Anyway, I got another question.

Here you say:

12-13 weeks is usually about right.

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/approach-anxiety-program/

But on index page:
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/category/approach-anxiety/approach-anxiety-program/
There are pages for weeks 1-6.
Where are the rests?
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 03 May 2013 19:36 #33012

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@Chris
Thanks. :)

Anyway, I got another question.

Here you say:

12-13 weeks is usually about right.

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/approach-anxiety-program/

But on index page:
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/category/approach-anxiety/approach-anxiety-program/
There are pages for weeks 1-6.
Where are the rests?


coming soon.. most of it is done though, i didnt want skipping ahead and we've a little situation with the audios on the mobile site.. but those just get fixed.
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