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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 02 Jul 2013 19:05 #43802

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I'm just starting out, I feel like I can do the missions, but if I try to be charismatic, I can't do that yet. Do I just focus on doing it, and the charisma is something I can work on when I feel more comfortable? Of course I'll smile and look them in the eyes, but especially my voice and probably body language is not going to be very refined.

It will improve, my first day of doing drills were disaster.. i got shitty body language etc
but after about ~28 days of drills I can see improvement & difference

just stick to the program

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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 18 Jul 2013 19:59 #46628

I started last week.. week 2 day 1 today. Asking for the time followed by directions is one of the hardest drills I've done, and I've been doing direction drills for at leats 3 months total now.

I guess it's because I think in my head the girl will 'know' i've got an ulterior motive once I ask that second question. It got alot easier once I manned up and got it done though.
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 31 Jul 2013 11:51 #48664

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I started last week.. week 2 day 1 today. Asking for the time followed by directions is one of the hardest drills I've done, and I've been doing direction drills for at leats 3 months total now.

I guess it's because I think in my head the girl will 'know' i've got an ulterior motive once I ask that second question. It got alot easier once I manned up and got it done though.


lesson learned.

yeah you'll see that the ulterior motive fear is just in your head, during the day they have no idea-- until you touch them-- at which point - they get the point.. which is what we want
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 01 Aug 2013 12:51 #48865

I started last week.. week 2 day 1 today. Asking for the time followed by directions is one of the hardest drills I've done, and I've been doing direction drills for at leats 3 months total now.

I guess it's because I think in my head the girl will 'know' i've got an ulterior motive once I ask that second question. It got alot easier once I manned up and got it done though.


lesson learned.

yeah you'll see that the ulterior motive fear is just in your head, during the day they have no idea-- until you touch them-- at which point - they get the point.. which is what we want


Defo. Loving the program so far, feel i'm being challenged everytime, high fives next
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 04 Aug 2013 14:28 #49414

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Do I loose my gains if I stop approaching for a long time (some obstacles like work, disease etc)?
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 04 Aug 2013 15:31 #49427

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Do I loose my gains if I stop approaching for a long time (some obstacles like work, disease etc)?


it depends how far in you are-- if you complete the program, you largely are over approach anxiety forever. sometimes it takes some "warmup" approaches to get back into the swing of things and gain social momentum
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 04 Aug 2013 16:23 #49431

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Do I loose my gains if I stop approaching for a long time (some obstacles like work, disease etc)?


it depends how far in you are-- if you complete the program, you largely are over approach anxiety forever. sometimes it takes some "warmup" approaches to get back into the swing of things and gain social momentum

Awesome, just fcking awesome!

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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 14 Aug 2013 08:53 #51299

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Do I loose my gains if I stop approaching for a long time (some obstacles like work, disease etc)?


Hitsu,

I just re-started the program after taking about three months off. (I do the drills on a local campus and it's a ghost town for the summer season). I experienced a GAIN in my ability to do the drills.

I was worried that I'd have atrophy in my development but the exact opposite happened. I'm actually more on point than ever.

The sensation is similar to lifting weights after taking a week off to allow the body to fully heal. You think you'll suffer some loss due to the time that should have been in the gym, only to find you've become stronger.

Also, college doesn't start for another week and a half, so all the girls I interacted with were freshmen (or assisting the freshmen). For most of these girls, I was their first college experience with a guy. Now a high-five may not be much of an experience, but for a freshman girl on her first day on campus, it can't be a bad thing for  a good looking guy to approach and give a high-five.

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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 18 Aug 2013 19:31 #51956

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Hi Chris

there is a problem with day 44

I have no problems with previous drills, but this is almost impossibly to do in Poland

The may be some differences in mentality between Poland and US.
Most chicks don't given long eye-contact 3s+ cuz there are too shy.

Or maybe I am just not able to do this of looks threshold.

Currently it is summer, I am skinny and I look 'skinny' in t-shirt, it is too hot to wear elegant shirt.
On winter when I put my high-status coat "SOMETIMES" I get looks, but not often.
Just women check guys 'subtly' and if you don't hit on girl - you can tell if she was attracted to you (I know this from doing drills lol)

Also sunglasses on girls eyes made things HARDER.

I just got two 3s+ looks from chick who were giving leaflets lol
after that - no hope + negative momentum

this drill is not helping it is getting me depressed

I think I am gonna to skip this drill and on next day do ~10 drills from day 43 and then go to day 45.

What do you think? :)
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 21 Aug 2013 16:34 #52421

@Hitsu: I'm going have that problem in Finland too. Can't you just tell them to look into your eyes? lol

Anyway I'm at day 8. Once I start talking I got no problem whatsoever but my anxiety sometime kicks hard right before the interaction, damn.

I let 3 really nice girls slipped away (they got closer, touch me, ask questions, laughed harder than needed. etc...) because the remember the petition we signed. Is it really ok? I always feel bad regretting those chances.

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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 21 Aug 2013 17:21 #52423

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I was worried that I'd have atrophy in my development but the exact opposite happened. I'm actually more on point than ever.


this is generally what guys experience (with approaching in general).

while I could credit our drills, it's mainly your motivation and sub-conscious decision to "lets do this shit" and "fuck it"

similar to
When To Stop the AA Program and Hit on Girls Instead "The Fuck It [I'm Not a Little Girl] Moment"
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Re: **Your Questions About the AA Program** 21 Aug 2013 17:23 #52424

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Hi Chris

there is a problem with day 44

I have no problems with previous drills, but this is almost impossibly to do in Poland

The may be some differences in mentality between Poland and US.
Most chicks don't given long eye-contact 3s+ cuz there are too shy.

Or maybe I am just not able to do this of looks threshold.

Currently it is summer, I am skinny and I look 'skinny' in t-shirt, it is too hot to wear elegant shirt.
On winter when I put my high-status coat "SOMETIMES" I get looks, but not often.
Just women check guys 'subtly' and if you don't hit on girl - you can tell if she was attracted to you (I know this from doing drills lol)

Also sunglasses on girls eyes made things HARDER.

I just got two 3s+ looks from chick who were giving leaflets lol
after that - no hope + negative momentum

this drill is not helping it is getting me depressed

I think I am gonna to skip this drill and on next day do ~10 drills from day 43 and then go to day 45.

What do you think? :)


i understand what you're saying.

in this case, get their attention.

"HEY"
(get eye contact)
(get eye contact, and smile)

even in the USA you'll have to do this to some degree from time to time.

shy girls, that are interested, might only shoot you eye contact for 1-2seconds.. but shouldn't be discarded are not interested.

never can tell, until you touch them (screen)
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