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cool bro, good to see you're starting AA drills. before you go any further have a read of
to see if you are ready for AA drills. i've been doing them myself for the last couple of months. if you continue with the drills you will be able to do them any where you like, and not give a fuck if you get recognised as the random dude. at the moment, however, it sounds like it would be best to go into town and doing them. knowing you're anonymous really helps, and i think you would progress faster (get more drills done). you should work on the drills until you have no more AA. one of the guys Chris got doing AA drills did them for 10 months i think before he started approaching. i think i will probably do around 4 months of drills before i start approaching. doing the drills reprograms your brain, which doesn't happen overnight. don't expect it to.
it sounds like at this stage you shouldn't be concerned about doing a structured drill as such. it sounds like you would be better off asking as many people as you can what time it is. do it on people who have to be friendly to you (like people working in shops) if need be to get some momentum going.
i do the drills on my uni campus cos im studying, but wherever there are chicks are good places to do drills. also, you can do the drills on guys as well. ive done that before just to get my numbers up.
ideally do them every day, and as many of them as you can. the more the better. you need to do them every day to keep up your momentum otherwise you tend to fall back i find.
let me explain how to do a drill. each drill usually consists of around 4 approaches. the first you do something like 'Time, Thanks, Leave', the next chick you do one on you do 'Time, Directions, Thanks, Leave' , the next chick you do one on you do 'Time, Directions, Non-Sexual Compliment*, Thanks, Leave' . the idea is you start easy and then increase the difficulty of the approach as you warm up. however, it sounds like it would be best to just focus on asking for the time at the moment.
don't feel like a failure. you are only a failure if you quit. be a champion and continue this journey to the end. believe me bro that continuing with the drills will have far reaching effects on your life, and not just with chicks. it has with me. its improving my confidence, self belief, self image and lots more.
Hey Pete- yeah these guys offered some good perspective here-- do them anywhere. on any girls... frankly you can do them on guys. nothing magical, its just low/moderate exposure therapy where you LEAVE (important) to prevent outcome dependency. Stuff works great, basically a 100% success rate if you do it daily.
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I can easily ask for time, ask for directions. Asking for time + directions is a bit awkward but not really that bad. I'm stuck at the compliment part now. I tried to do just compliments today and I couldn't do even one. So i'm going to go back to the city again and do more time+directions and try my best to give a compliment.
Also could a compliment be something as simple as "I just had to say your really cute" I can't think of much more to say as a compliment because the AA gets in the way.
I've been trying to do pick up for about 2 years now and i've realised in all this time the I have always avoided putting myself on the line and showing sexual interest in a girl. So I need to get over this fear of mine.
What's up dude? Do you feel anxious going up to guys as well? Either way, try to do the drills with both guys AND girls. Talk to everyone! Talk to the busdriver, your neighbors, anyone. You'll get some momentum. Good luck dude.
Hey. I'm about as equally uncomfortable with girls as I am with guys.
I have a block of fear when it comes to giving compliments (sexual OR non-sexual). Sure i've given compliments before but it's very rare so I want to do so many compliments that it becomes second nature and is no longer a fear but something I enjoy doing through out my day to make a woman feel good. I can easily ask for time and directions and I can easily say a hello or hows it going as I walk past someone in the street or in a bar or any where.
The other thing stopping me working on this is I think a mixture of just feeling shit about a bunch of things. I don't think it is severe anxiety. Mixture of things such as breaking up with my very first long term gf, Lost in the family, losing a job where I had a lot of support and losing the comfort in my life I had about a year or 2 ago. I'm still getting over all this.
My plan is to do the low moderate exposure therapy drills whilst working on the other things. I'm going to try to see a counsellor every fortnight and keep up my diet. I posted about taking phenibut but I used it to get high which was dumb but I know the stuff works, so I will have a small scoop when I need it just to settle any anxieties before doing some drills.
I'll be updating next week with drills I will be doing.
I haven't been sticking to my plan of doing this stuff daily but I made up for it on Wednesday. Went to the city and got a friend of mine to push me and be my wing. Played the money game so that I would have to work hard at this stuff.
My sticking point was giving compliments, for some reason this was awkward and weird for me. I went out to originally do 5 but ended up getting pushed and doing about 15 compliments to women and also in the middle of crowded areas which is something I avoid usually. I skipped with asking for the time and directions. So now i'm comfortable asking time, directions and semi comfortable giving compliments but I'll have to go out and do the compliments drills by myself to sink it in. Really pushed my fear on Wednesday.
Total = 15
Edit; This was done WITH a wingman, I have way less anxiety with a wingman to push me than going to the city all by myself to do this. My goal is to remove all my AA while alone so that in the future I can approach and try to pick up girls without fear while i'm alone, since I spend about 80% of my week alone.
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