TOPIC: Day 9

Day 8

I have reflected a lot on what Chris writes in relation to what I have experienced myself these few days. I find that pretty much all the advice he gives hits completely what I find to be true. Even the advice of calling girls seem to work even though some seem to find it outdated. Real social interactions never become outdated. Calling girls is gold.

Just as important is what he doesn’t say and focus on. Social skills for example. I think that social skills matter, but is a weird phenomenon, which I think he himself outlines in don’t be smooth. Also, in the article swag factor he barely mentions anything about social skills. He mentions a lot of other factors like social standing, being able to relate a little and so on. Social skills are just mentioned in passing. He actually mentions in other articles that besides confidence, social skills don’t matter apart from very basic stuff. This is not me taking his words as gospel, this is my own experiences too. This guy really knows his stuff.

Screening mentality, social freedom, advanced entitlement, killer instinct is pretty much born from extreme confidence. These are not social skills. These are a mindset that makes you act a certain way, that is extremely attractive. I have always had the best interactions and most attraction from girls when I was really relaxed, confident and myself. I didn’t try to be funny or impress. I was expressing myself and actually enjoying the moment without the fear of losing the girl.

The girls were completely electric and I thought it was magic, because I didn’t feel like I did anything different. But I did everything different. One even weirdly texted me to go on a date with her, the day after we met. I was there to look at her apartment, which I got afterwards. I was completely carefree because I was after the apartment, not her at the time. I always have better interactions when I don’t think about what to say and it is easy. Even just being completely silent a lot and at ease, would make them become really into me. Constantly being funny and charming not so much. It feels fake because it is fake. If you want to say she looks good then say it. If not then don’t. She will smell if you are genuine. This is not magic, but body langue, facial expression, eye contact, tonality, speech pattern even the word you say or don’t say will be different when you are relaxed and genuine. A good vibe is born from confidence. An awkward vibe is born from lack thereof. It’s that simple.

Exposure therapy will give you that, just as going to the gym will give you a nice attractive body. Meditation will help. It is about making you truly believe on an emotional level. Chris talks about this to. I personally believe extreme confidence and good looks are the two most important aspect too this whole puzzle. Good looks being equally important for lack of a better understanding of what is the most important off the two. They are connected and both needs to be there to succeed.
Good social standing/circle is coolness and very important, but you can get hot girls without it. Social standing/circle is born from your confidence and looks. Being able to relate comes from social standing/circle. One comes before the other and so on. I think it is important to understand these principles to form an actual and practical plan to execute. When there is correct understanding the right action can be taken.

Day 9

Did all the drills in the inner city. Quite easy because there are plenty restaurants around and there are plenty of tourist in the inner city. Also, I have an accent, so I am easily mistaken for a tourist. It might be little bit of a cheat code, as it will be easier for me to seem legit and not weird. Don’t know, but it was not that hard either way. A little anxiety in the beginning, nothing new. Pushed trough it and it quickly went away. Almost everybody stopped to help and most the reactions were quite friendly.

The ones that hadn’t been, I still asked if they liked it. Some of them of them couldn’t help but laugh, because I couldn’t help but stand with a big grin. Some just looked a little perplexed. Most had been to the place I asked about.

Also, I am going out two times a week now, even alone if needed, to challenge myself further. Went out today and after standing in line for half an hour got in the club. At the same time, I am going hardcore with diet and gym now. Will lose fat in record time to get better results during and after AA program.

Day 10

Did not let the 1 girl slip by, so continued. It was pretty fucking easy this time. Mostly the same drills and you feel really good going out knowing you can already do something most guys can’t. Went to the inner city to get it done fast. Took maybe half an hour, a little more. Interactions were good. Two of them where a little confused when I asked if they had seen a good movie, one laughed nervously. Poor Scandinavians are very shy.

Day 11

Did all the drills. Talked to 20 women, didnt let the first one slip by. Went to the inner city to get it done faster. It took about an hour and 15 min from when I got there. I Walked around a bit I before started, but still much better than in the beginning. Now it is 20 women in about an hour. Had pretty good interactions with most of them. Girls in Denmark generally are sweethearts, especially to strangers that needs a little help, I find. A little anxiety in the beginning still, but it quickly goes away. I definitely feel I am getting closer and closer to just talking to random women when I am out and about, outside doing the AA program. Very cool.

Day 12

Did all the drills. Did not let the first girl walk by, so continued. Talked to 16 women. Went to the inner city. Timed myself and tried to do it as fast as possible as a little challenge. Did it in 27 min. Sped trough the conversation as fast as possible and left. Was fun and over before I knew it. Not hard this time. Approached both single and groups. Going to gym now, maybe try to talk to chicks there also. Going out tonight, also to talk to chicks. Will do day 13 tomorrow. All in baby!

Approuched girl at gym. Very friendly, but not DTF. Cool, bonus points!

Day 4

Restarted the program. Did all the approaches in 34 minutes. Had AA but not as much as I did the first time I starts the program, so it is still better. Did not do it in the inner city so it took a little longer.

Day 4

Restarted the program. Did all the approaches in 34 minutes. Had AA but not as much as I did the first time I starts the program, so it is still better. Did not do it in the inner city so it took a little longer.

Day 5

Did all the drills. Talked to 11 girls. Took about an hour. Did it in the evening because of work. Went pretty well with 10 of the girls. One kept walking but rest was good. Doesn’t matter though. This is to train being comfortable not get good reactions and 10 out of 11 is good. Hell 3 out of 10 is good. Girls are reacting very well to me lately. Don’t exactly know why because I already had good style and cologne. A strong guess would be weight loss, genuine smiling and stronger eye contact.

Day 6

Took me about half an hour. Did it in the inner city. Went well. Most reactions were positive, some neutral. Nothing special. Most girls really are sweethearts and will happily help you.

Day 7

Sick at the moment the moment so I won’t be doing any drills today. Need to get better asap so will just stay in bed and get a lot of rest. Need to get back to work as quickly as possible. Will do drills tomorrow.

Day 7

Did 15 approaches

Did not let the first girl go by. Took little over an hour. Combined it with grocery shopping to save time. Felt a boost afterwards that just made my day better. It builds momentum for the rest of the day. For me at least. Still sick tho, so it is though, but did it anyway. Hope be able to do tomorrow also.

Day 8-9

Did both day again. Nothing special as i have done it before. Will do day 10 tomorrow, keep the momentum going.