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Before I start I have to address the past 2 days in which I did not do any drills. After writing some excuses now and deleting them I realise that it doesn't matter. All that matters is that I continue with some strong level of consistency and this post is a testament to that.
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Random question-Do you know anywhere that sells nice candles?, Leave
Time, Random question-Do you know anywhere that sells nice candles?, I'm planning a candlelit dinner for my girlfriend, Leave
Time, Random question-Do you know anywhere that sells nice candles?, I'm planning a candlelit dinner for my girlfriend, I'm the sweetest guy ever, Leave
Repeat this 4 times today, you will speak to 16 girls in total.
Stayed at my friends place the night before then contemplated whether or not I should do them cause I hadn't showered felt like ass but was like fuck it. Went to the mall had some breakfast (mcdonalds) and committed to the exercises.
On Day 10 I had some goals written down and some of them were:
Face people square on for all interactions and no tension relieving body movements
Stronger eye contact
Talk to more hot chicks
Stand closer to people
I improved in all of these faculties (not perfect yet!) which I am super happy about and the result I believe was that there was more sexual tension, more engagement from the other person and a more pleasing AND LONGER interaction in general (most people took their time to help me). I focused mostly on talking to younger +hotter (18-20ish) chicks. In this case it meant about 75% of the chicks I'd I talked to were actually my age (or around it) which is sooo much better than what I usually do (i'm going to get this number up). But because I was actively looking for younger chicks and hot chicks to talk to it meant that it took far longer than usual to take my exercises. I did them in about 49minutes (16 exercises -> avg 3 minutes per interaction). This is the payment of talking to younger chicks. I am always going to actively do this now as it removes more of my anxiety and is far more enjoyable.
Edit: I also forget to mention that I FORGOT TO SAY "RANDOM QUESTION" LOL but I feel like that would make the drill easier. So i'm proceeding to the next exercise.
People were super helpful and I got alot of awwwws when I said I'm planning a candle lit dinner for my girlfriend. I said the "I'm the sweetest guy ever" in a cocky manner and for all the 4 girls I said that to they giggled/laughed. I had no trouble saying that line because I know I can pull it off (its close to my style). Because Halloween was tonight I also wanted to use the line "I need the candles because I'm doing a satanic ritual" but I never got to (drills were taking too long and weren't too many hot girls around today). Maybe tonight when I go out I'll use it.
I had a girl like stay with me for like 5 minuites searching on her phone for a store and people were just so helpful in general. I came back to one girl (who was working at some store) after walking around and reinitiated contact easily. Some of the girls showed IOIs like playing with their necklace and looking at me in a "you are sexy" look. However, none of them were really my type - I aim to talk to girls I'd smash (i couldn't really find any today from memory) but I'm getting closer to doing this.
I'm feeling more confident every day along with my nofap boost (I've nearly completed all of October). I want to also say that I haven't been laid during this exercise and really its been just under a year since I last fucked (feels like im a virgin again). But life is feeling good and its feeling easier. It feels like these exercises are crutches and I really want to take them off and just fuck around but I'm going to keep going and see where it takes me. These future exercises are looking less and less daunting and it's exciting.
So I see its been almost 3 weeks since I've posted and damn yeah that's pretty shitty of me. BUT I did not forget about the program. Nor did I run away in shameful fear with my tail between my legs. I've been extremely busy with exams and assignments and procrastinating coming to the end of the year so I haven't organised the time to do the drills. But I've got only 1 more assignment and 1 exam left so you will see me doing the drills somewhat regularly again - but I can't do them EVERY day. But I will be consistent and try to do them as often as possible.
I've been going out about 2x a week (no I did not fuck anyone but i made out with like 4 chicks in clubs since the last post) so I have still been socialising and going out of my comfort zone about. I even went to the club SOBER with my sober friend and it was so fucking uncomfortable (i made out with one chick because she literally came up to me and asked for a kiss), my goal is to go to a club SOBER with ONLY myself and make out with a chick. I also ended my nofap streak at about day 36 (failing nnn in the process) but I dont consider that a failure since the frequency of my faps has decreased phenomenally and I went the whole of October with out it. I'm getting more self control.
I'm writing this a few days after doing the drills because I am slacking off.
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Random question- Do you know anywhere that sells good wine?, Leave
Time, Random question- Do you know anywhere that sells good wine?, I got a promotion at work/Passed my test at school and I want to celebrate, Leave
Time, Random question- Do you know anywhere that sells good wine?, I got a promotion at work/Passed my test at school and I want to celebrate, What type do you recommend?, Leave
Repeat this 4 times today, you will speak to 16 girls in total.
I did the drills with my friend (who also did them) it took us 2 hours and 30 minutes to go through all of them (barren streets and looking at stores). I didn't really get to talk to any hot chicks with this one due to doing it so late I guess. However, the drills I found quite easy and I'd get "awws" or "wow nice wokr" when I mentioned I passed my test or I got a promition at work. I prefered to say promotion at work because it sounded more interesting although in hindsight saying i passed my test is kinda funny. I got a few weird reactions when I asked "what type do you recommend" because some said previously they dont know where I can get good wine. They would just look at me weird and be like "I dont know, red wine?" Some of the people were really helpful tho (it gets a bit annoying listening to shit you dont care about but - like when you ask for directions for the sex shop but you really dont give a single fuck about what they are saying cause you dont actually want to go to
the sex shop). Overall it was a pretty boring exercise as it was mostly just random shit. And since I'm writing this a few days after the drills I can also barely remember any of it - it was just so bland and stretched out cause my mate was also doing it simultaneously.
I find saying "Hey" in a direct, loud manner always gets peoples attention. Combine this with standing infront of them gets them to stop what they are doing and look at you. I do need to improve on standing directly in front of them.
Things to improve;
- standing infront of people so they dont trail off, or if they are drifting away tell them to come back motherfucker.
- Stop looking for only hot girls and be indifferent (realise that all women are sexual by default - all women want to fuck or to feel feminine because its their nature just like it is ours)
Yesterday I was coming back from my mates house (I slept over at his) to my own, after a night out. I felt like shit with a hang over but a sequence of events had me walking passed this chick that was super hot that I had talked to like 5 months ago. Super feminine and hot AF (Cute, Blonde, titties, 18). I was nervous as fuck to talk to her and pick up a conversation. She walked past me (we were walking in the opposite dir.) and she didn't notice me (she was also with her mum I think??). I went to the train station but it was closed because of track works so I had to walk back in her direction to catch the bus instead. I ended up looking for her (fantasising about tlaking to her) but couldn't find her (i was somewhat relieved about that).
I was about to get on the bus like one foot on... and looked to my right - i see her walking into a store. I was like fuck what am I going to do: regret not doing it forever or be rejected - and as Maximus says “Brothers, what we do in life… echoes in eternity.”. I thought about my eternity and how pitiful it would be if I just went on the bus... I didn't get on the fucking bus and seeked her out instead. I guessed the store she was in (didn't even look if she was inside I just knew) and walked in. I noticed her immediately. I was like fuck what do I do in here - it was like a second hand store. I just looked at some clothing and was like sneaking glances at her. In my mind I was shitting my pants because I was like holy fuck I can't bail now but what do I do she's in the womens section arhghhhh. Anyway she ends up drifting to me where I am and shes walking past me now and i'm like holy fuck here goes nothing. Lets call her cupcake. As she walks by i say "cupcake", shes got earphones in and looks up at me and doesn't recognise me but I go with it, and I say "It's ConqueringFear". She remembers me and I'm like cool (but I am also shaking like a mother fucker). We engage in some small talk which is super awkward cause I'm fucked up from last night and nervous as fuck but then I go fuck it and say "Look I want to go on a date with you" she goes "why?..." i go "idk we can have fun or smthn... here I'll get your number". Whip out that bad boy and she puts those digits in. FUCK YES. We continue to look around this store for like 5 minutes and we talk with such discord (not disagreement but lack of harmoney - awkward pauses and overlapping speech etc) its painful and awkward but shes in my presence and thats all that matters.
If you thought it was good it gets better.
I go, you know what I'm going to grow some fucking balls. I tell her straight UP "hey so look do you want to make out with me right now in the store" ahahahhaa. She goes "ughhhh no like i can't i'm kinda... in relationship... like... my ex..." ahahahhahahaha funny shit right there. i'm like take off your face mask and I go to do it but she doesn't want to so i'm like ok fine no worries... LOOOOL I ASKED TO MAKE OUT WITH A CHICK IN A STORE. Anway so I get rejected in that regard but I still feel fucking good so I talk to her for like 1 more minute which is kinda weirdish/awkwardish but then I'm like fuck this I'm out of here. So i say I gtg hug her and bolt out of that store like i just stole something. Outside I'm running to my bus stop giggling and laughing cause I actually grew some balls for once. Thank you chris and the AA program. I'm making strides and I'm being straight forward and I'm being honest.
So yeah that happened and turns out she gave the real number but because of complications relating with my life and friend I can't pursue her for now. But thats ok cause I got the Phattest W that day and there will be many more to come.
Next challenge is high-fives. I'm super fucking excited for this exercise (because its going to be so painful and I see Rook struggling with it ahahahah FUCKKKK i feel you bro!). I want to get this done day after tomorrow so keep tuned for that brethren. Take action and share your stories. This is your part of the deal for mentally masturbating to my stories.
Before I start I have to say I've been so lazy in my fucking life and it's completely unacceptable. But I will not give up on this challenge. I will complete it. I finished exams and then felt so terrible in my brain and can't figure out what I want to do in life and have just been wasting my days letting them drift past unplanned - squandering the fruits of my youth. Yet as I write this in reflection I can grow my burning desire to use it to the best of my ability and in doing these drills I have found that in order to do this I must venture into discomfort and suffering with triumph and cheer. Brothers as you read this remember that what we do in life echoes in eternity!
Note: I am writing all this at once trying to remember what happened on these days that I did it. ALSO I DID BOTH OF THESE DRILLS WITH MY FRIEND WHICH I KNOW IS NOT ADVISED BY CHRIS BUT I WILL NOT MAKE IT A HABIT (perhaps 1,2x per week).
Day 14 (end of week 2) dated 29th November
Holy fuck have I been a lazy fucking winner. I completed week 2 on 29th of November and it is currently the 13th of December. Chris said that most guys found this easy but holy fuck like @isomar1998 I struggled bad with this one (I advise you to do this with a friend perhaps and then do it by yourself). The difficult I think for me was not doing the drills consistently and also due to the place I went which was filled with fucking asians. TBH bringing my mate made the drill harder for some reason but upon reflection it was just really fucking hard to begin with.
Give 10 girls a high-five.
Guesstimate how long it took you and record it in your AA Log.
Repeat this 2 times today, you will high-five 20 girls in total.
Ok so this was easily the most painful drill I have done. I did it at a place where I did not fit in culturally. I timed both sets and the first set was 46 minutes and the second was 42 mintes. Ok I know that was a fuckload of time to do 2 sets of 10 high fives but know that I was with my friend so he was doing them with me and I also got rejected 12 TIMES IN A ROW. HOLY FUCK that was so PAINFUL. It was mostly older asian women who didn't know what the fuck a high five was but man I pushed through with my mate and we got the job done. I didn't really achieve much social momentum because it was stretched over such a long period of time and I felt so brittle and fragile with no virile essence coursing through my veins. So the whle thing was just an endurance of suffering which NIETZSCHE would have been proud of.
OH there was a memorable high five which was some young chick in a group that was super hot and all I did was say "High five" and lifted my hand off and BOOOM the paroxysm of energy caused by the high5 caused my feet to tingle and it felt fucking awesome. I later saw the same group and did it again without a word and one of her friends wanted one too. But I still felt so fuckign weak in the face of all the other people in the mall.
Day 15 completed on 11th December (2 days ago)
In contrast this day was 10000x better. There was less cultural difference and the whole mood was better. My friend told me from the wise words of Nietzsche to charge into suffering and embrace it as "The body must be fashioned, bruised, forged, stretched, roasted, and refined – it is meant to suffer." Embrace it brothers embrace the discomfort the scarring the pain and let it define you. Back on day 14 had I truly embraced this I would have done better I think but today I went in wanting to suffer.
Give 10 girls a high-five, in half the time it took you on Day 14.
Try to do it even faster or equally as fast.
Repeat this 2 times today, you will high-five 20 girls in total.
Again did this with my mate. At the beginning I had this feeling of just pure negativity and felt like this sack of shitty feeling in my stomache. I felt fragile and cared completely about what people thought. (this is because in my life I haven't been doing good time worthy stuff - just watching youtube videos and dwindling away, waing up at 2pm in the afternoon and sleeping at 6am).
Was able to do 3 alone but had to like finesse it by saying I had a GF or like starting a conversaiton. Then my mate came and I adopted the embrace the Suffering mindset immediately went to a hot chick and got the high five (low key wish I got the number but AA not pickup). I went to the next one which was an old woman and she rejected me with her old daughter (that was painful and my mate laughed). I then just continued to attempt to high fives but still felt brittle and weak but i just kept trying and getting rejected or getting the high fives. I went to a food store got highfives from 2 hot chicks then asked the cashier babe to get a highfive. My hand was up just looking at her as she said, underneath her COVID mask, "no I can't bceause of COVID" - her face started getting red as I left my hand up and then I was like ok (man that was pain) and walked away my friend was dying of laughter at this point and funnily I felt like she was more embarrassed than me.
It was near the end of the first set and we went to a target clothing store. My friend and I were telling each other to step into the discomfort with brazen honesty and sheer determination of will. I went to the self-serve checkout and tried to get highfives from everyone but NO ONE gave me any. At that point I started to not give a fuck if people gave my high fives or not. I was completely unaffected. Then my mate said to turn around as there was some legendary babe that had her hand up. She gave me a high five when eveyrone didn't - thank you girl. At this point I was building up social momentum.
Then at the last rep of the first set I realised and became aware of how I actually felt at that moment. The suffering had faded and I literally felt NUMB. LIke i don't know how to say it but none (well near 0) of my thoughts were thinking about how I looked nor the reactions of others - it was merely me trying to copmlete the drills and nothing else - purely meditative.
I then walked past a shoe store and locked eyes with the two babes at the cashier. It was a straight line through the store to them and in full terminator fashion I walked towards them wtihout looking away and a subtle smirk. One of the chicks had those resting bitch faces and as they whispered to each other "whos this guy? why is he looking at us? why is he walking towards us?" I looked calmly at them as I strode toward them. They couldn't hold eye contact with me and imminently glanced away, breaking in my frame. As I reached them I said with a smile "High five" and they questioned me on it and I simply replied "I just want to high five two pretty girls" the non0bitchy one was like oh yeah cool and gave me it. Then I looked at the bitchy looking one and she was breaking I could see. She said "I can't cause of covid." I smirked as she realised her error in being a "Baddie" but confining to such preposterous rules. My hand was still held high and my mind remained unaffected by her attempt to resist me. Then she couldn't resist and gave me a high five . Immediately after she resumed her petulant look and I righteously laughed and walked out of the store victorious.
The first set took 22minutes 50 seconds which was half the tiem of day 14.
The second set took 11minutes 22 seconds half the time of the first set. Note I was doing them with my friend and we were looking mainly for hot babes so I think this is an awesome result.
The second set was pretty easy and went smoothly and was done after a small lunch break. Nothing too memorable to note here , besides the fact that it was easy and a worker only wanted to highfive me if I used sanitiser. I put sanitiser on and she said ok im ready and I said in a funny tone "wait I'm still wet" she laughed and then I said Ok im ready and boom high five. I banged the rest out on any chick I saw (although my mate was taking some of my targets but thats fine Lol.
Going to try get Day 16 done tomorrow. I know I haven't been good with this all recently but Im trying to get back on top of my shit. Wish me luck boys, thanks for reading and remember to embrace the joy of becoming.
You fulfilled the Drill which made me go depressed or made me understand in what kind of shitty city with shitty people i live. I is fairly a small town with zero sexappeal.
Let me explain how i did the drill.
I started walking around the whole city just to find girls.
And don't get me wrong i did get aome high fives. But not as much as needed and i can't really remember... why i stopped AA programm. Maybe because i was too uncomfortable with myself and anxiety came through. I would rather make a cold approach than asking for high fives.
But i am going to start this drill again. Even tho i am 32 now (did that stuff when i was 26).
Wish me luck.
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