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- Signed the petition
- Started the journal
- Learned the most important thing
The most important thing is to execute mother fuckers.
Actually pretty keen to do this challenge. So many chapters of my life have been missed because I didn't have the balls to talk to a chick I wanted to. Imagine the growth, the sex, the enjoyment, the pain I could've had but instead I was playing games and being a pussy. I can do this. In fact I have the biggest balls in the planet. I am an executor.
I choose my women freely. If I see a girl I like I'm going to talk to her. It doesn't matter what the context is.
Created a Tinder profile - I despise doing this cus of my ego but fuck it. I uploaded 3 photos semi nude lets see what happens. Also made another profile on something called yubo but it seems pretty shit. Did some swiping. Got some matches texted 4 of them. Some chick (or bot) snapped me some nude which was quite nice. Will update.
Man I feel it already. The social momentum. Super keen for tomorrow - I'll be going to a large mall for this one.
I did this exercise around the place an office (where I study for uni) it has quite a few stores around.
The exercise was ask 5 chicks for time. I started a timer on my phone before I started and I forgot to end it when i finished the 5 approaches and realised this as I was paying for my subway in which the time read 15minutes. So I reckon it would've taken me 12 minutes to do the challenge. This large time is mostly due to the fact that I didn't want to approach elderly women and that I didn't enter a grocery store (woolworths) when I should've (i had some fear about leaving it without purchasing anything).
The first one was a woman 50ish in a woimens clothing store that I entered and after she responded (to "Hey whats the time" I said thanks and she smiled. The second was a milf with a stroller at an atm she had a deec ass and she gave me the time swiftly. The third was a chick MY AGE (finally) working in a bakery store. The fourth was a 30ish woman standing in the middle of a walkway. The fifth (which took me ages to find had to walk far) was a 40ish woman who also smiled after she told me it. I went to subway after and asked some random guy for the time and joked around with the male worker.
So about 7 interactions in 15 minutes. Feels good but can't wait to see how I will feel after the future exercises.
Also note that: Definitely after the fourth approach I felt so much better than when I left my house. Now also feels like my energy isn't as blocked and I can relax more.
cya tomorrow around same time for another execution
I know i know its only fucking day 5 but It was hard at the mall i went to and my social momentum didn't really kick in even after heaps of approaches. I didn't exactly do the drills as I had some anxiety about asking the time to every one I was walking past as it was a busy AF shopping centre and so I opted to ask directions for places instead. However I did have some success. It took me about 16minutes to do the first set but i talked to like 10 people in total asking the other 5 about where stores are and some other random shit.
I was at a grovery store and I asked this non-worker chick (30 ugly) "Where can I find the Juice" she said "i don't know I dont work here - wait is this a tik tok video?" LOOOOOL i laughed and said "no it just looks like you been here before" she laughed and pointed me to some actual worker and said "ask him" so i did and got an answer Lol. I didn't end up buying any juice or groceries for that matter. Then later on 5minutes later (still at the store) i saw her again with her back facing me. I walked up hbehind her and said "excuse me do you know where i can find the juice" it was hilarious and i said some things to her and laughed and she was laughing and i walked out the store.
Even after all those 10 approaches the density of the population in the place anxietied me out. I did some more talking and it got a bit easier and easier but it didn't feel like how it does when you are on FIRE - i just felt like i had no energy. I think its because of all the swiping i've been doing with the dating apps and my last two days of sleep have been 6 hours each. I'm going to get good rest and kill Day 6 drills.
Oh the dating apps. I haven't had any success really. I got some matches but they dont reply and they are pretty ugly. I need to add more apps and stuff but its time consuming so i'm just going to stick with these two apps and see what happens - i'll update you guys if anything actually does.
I met up with my mate after my first set we ate for a bit and talked and then we did some fucking around and trolled randoms. I asked a chick my age if i look better without my mask she said yes. So nice. then i really wanted to just cold approach (to beat my anxiety and fear and get LAID) and I know i signed the petition that i shouldn't be thinking about this shit just do the drills and leave. But i was with my mate and felt okayish. We ended up in a chemist shop that had like 10 isles. I saw a chick i thought was hot and went hmmmm fuckkk i shoudl do it (approach her). I ended up walking around with my mate and saw her again and said fuck it (she was a worker at the chemist like 18ish looking (im 20)). I went up to her and said "hey do you know where i can find..." i paused for a little then said "your snapchat" LOLLOOL she said "ahahah that was a good one but i dont have snapchat" i was like bruhhhh then she left to do work. But it turns out she wasn't hot anyway and had a face mask on so i was fine with that.
Was out for like 4 hours total with many interactions I felt completely drained but i'm going to say it was a successful day. I'm going to say I did day 5 anyway cause i literlaly pushed myself to limit and did like ~20 interactions in total. I know i shouldn't be jumping the gun but hopefully it pans out alright.
Tomrrow is day 6 and I'm tired and not looking forward to more talking and approaching but i think after some rest i'll feel good again. See you tomorrow for the next update.
Its monday here and I have got 16 hours of sleep in the past 3 nights soi iv'e been fucking tired and i didn't want to approach today but i was like fuck it I said i was tgoing to execute and I am a man of my word.
I drove to a different mall this time to do the exercises. I went at 2pm and hadn't had lunch or breakfast so i was hungry so I asked poeople where the food court was for the first 2 sets. It took me 25minutes to do the first 2 sets. I did approach more people during this period like I asked a couple if i look good inm a hat that I picked up in a store which was funny. After the 2 sets I ate something then got down to doing the next 3 sets. This also took ages 30minutes i think. But I kept being delusional like I thought on 2 occassions that a chick was at least an older teenager (one asian i thought was an adult) but they were both <= 14. I guess thats what happens when you are tired. I talked to them and instantly realised how young they were and was like OH FUCK LOL. I didn't count them as completing the drill cause I balied immediately after asking the time.
Nothing special to note besides most of the woman i talked to were 30+ only one occasion did I talk to a chick my age who was working at a store and it was with the 3rd exercise of the set. I said in a monotone non energetic voice "hey whats the time" she gave me it then i asked where the food court was she directed me (up until this point her expression was bland - empty) and then i said "have you been there?" she was like "have I been to the food court?" (like wtf is wrong with you no shit i have I work here) then she "yes I have" and started smiling. I started smiling under my face mask and my eyes creased. It was funny. I walked out of the store after that.
The whole ordeal (driving, drills, eating) took me about 3 hours which kinda sucks but atleast its done and onto the next day - DAY 7 NEARLY WEEK 1 DONE.
My focus for next time is to approach the first chick i see and minimizing the time it takes for me to do the drills. I want to average <2 minutes per person. So if im talking to 15 pewople i want it take a maximum 30 minutes. This should be an easy goal to beat considering I was lazy as fuck today and it took me nearly 1 hour to talk to 15 people. Just need to approach twice as fast. Then I'll try get <1minute avg time p/ chick.
I want to note that my baseline confidence levels has increased. I feel more comfortable walking around the shoppping centre with people around and going up to people. I also think that the fdace mask sucks because Its black covers my face and so people aren't open to me they kinda reserve their energy and look at me as if I'm going to attack them or some shit.]
Also i'm doing no nut october at day 19.
And sorry for the late update today I had a nap after i got back from the drills.
Tomorrow I go to my nearest city to do the exercises as i have errands to run there. See you guys tomorrow for another update will probably be at the same time as this - btw if you have anything to say i would love to hear it as i always wonder who is reading these posts. Let me know your thoughts. Tomorrow I'll try to improve my writing so that it is more concise and structured so that I can improve the evaluation of my performance and the depiction of my emotions/feelings during the exercises.
Oh and with the dating apps I did have a success last night I called up some chick and it sounded like shes keen to hang out as i gamed the fuck out of her but I dont find her that hot. Should i just go on a date anyway and test the waters? Haven't texted/called her since. Will probably call her tomorrow if i decide to pursue. Besides that i have nothing other to report. Enjoy your days brethren and make the most of them.
Day 7's drills were all about getting IN THERE and executing - reducing the time between interactions, etc.
So for today I had to go to the city to get my 2nd vaccination for covid - i can go to clubs now and will probs go tomorrow - i'll let you guys know how that goes. To be concise, I essentially met up with my mate after my vaccination - had lunch with and talked about approaching, girls, social dyanimics, 19th century cultural matters relating to sex i.e. 30 year olds wifing 16 year olds and todays society and how we think that "it's terrible" - i dont. After lunch I started my drills with him and he did some of the exercises as well.
The first approach I did immediately after I decided to start - it was a chick my age and i got the time said cool thanks and left. For the most part after that I did my approaches to pretty much any woman I saw - i wimped only on 1 approach. The annoying thing was that it was raining and no one was on the street so I couldn't find many people and so the exercises took ages. Like 1 hour again total like last time. But I definitely have improved. My baseline confidence is getting higher - i feel good.
Tomorrow I'm not too sure I'm going to have time to do the drills. As I have accumulated quite the pile of uni work since a chunk of time is going into this approaching. Furthermore I will be going out at night and hanging out with friends at a bar - i'll let you guys know how that goes. Although i might do some of the drills before I go out to get some social freedom and have a better time. So it might be a Day7a Day7b kinda thing.
But yeah i feel so much better. Anxiety is lowering, feel more free, week 1 completed. Cyu guys for week (hopefully tomorrow). lmk if you have any questions.
Firstly would like to thank Jake for congratulating me - good to see other people active here.
Secondly I had about a 5 day rest of no approaches this was largely due to my workload and a bunch of other big events happening in my life like my dog giving birth. The resting period was longer than I would have liked but alas I am back and back renewed with more energy to knock down week 2. I will be doing daily approaches until I complete week 2 so expect updates tomorrow and the following days.
I'd also like to mention that my baseline anxiety even after 5 days of rest has stayed higher than it was at the beginning of the program. It went down a little because the social momentum of the Day 7 challenge wore off but I still feel quite relaxed in social settings - one thing I do have a problem with is eye contact.
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Directions, Leave
Time, Directions, Have you been there?, Leave
Time, Directions, Have you been there?, Do you like it?, Leave
If the girl says "No, I haven't been there" repeat the drill on another girl who has and ask her "Do you like it?"
Repeat this 4 times today, you will speak to 16 girls in total.
So I was out with my mate at my local mall. We had lunch chilled and I was looking at people to try improve my eye contact. Ended up looking at this tatted dude and he said "Why you lookin' at me bro, Huh? whats wrong with you etc". I trolled him a little and replied by mouthing words to him then said bye and went on my way. I have a small tendency in my being to fight someone and feel the instinct and get punched in the face and punch someone else. Perhaps it'll happen soon.
I said goodbye to my mate and told him i was doing the drills. I IMMEDIATELY went to the first WOMAN in a massage place i saw and asked her the time. After that It was me walking through the wall visiting mostly shops and asking women in the stands the required drills. I kept in mind that it was about getting the drills done irrelevant of what they say. In one instance I asked have you been there? and she said something that I didn't hear but then I continued with the lead up question. In another Instance a girl said "no i haven't been there" but I still asked "Did you like it?". It was funny and interesting and I'm becoming more relaxed - I also think that this is the next step for tomorrow.
Overall it was a good day and I got the drills done in 30minutes (I timed myself) this averages to about <2mins between approaches (16 approaches) which is A GOAL ACHIEVED as I stated in Day 6 that I want to average <2min between approahces. Now my current goal is to get to 1.5min between approaches and to maintain a consistent time of <2min between approahces for the rest of the challenges (most). Furthermore I think I will talk to males as well (I wont count them in reps) but I find that talking to anyone improves social momentum and could then overall decrease time taken to complete everyone (as I'll be more confident). I want to also note that most women I approached were in their 30's I will try and reduce this number to people more my age now.
Super happy to complete today after the rest period - it was hard to bring myself to do it but I got it done and now i've got some momentum to follow through with the other exercises. In the future I think I will do abotu 3-4 days rest between weekly challenges. We'll see.
Side shit - note to self: Day 26 NOFAP, I want to read more masculine shit and listen to more affirmations and lift more weights. I am sexy as fuck and I am a fucking unstoppable powerhouse.
So I went shopping with my mates before I did the drills and man shopping drains me so much holy fuck. I got some new running shoes (full black), champion shorts + nike trackies - nice. I dropped my mates off after then went to another mall to do my drills and was so fucking tired and was highly considering to not do it. But I said fuck it just fucking get the drills done and stick to your guns. Now that I'm writing about It I feel pretty proud that I got through that laziness and I will continue to push through until I finish this week.
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Leave
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Did you like it?, Leave
If the girl answers "No, I haven't eaten there," you need to still ask her "Did you like it?"
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 15 girls in total.
So this drill was a bit of step from the previous one. Asking if you have eaten at a restaurant right after asking the time is like a shock to some people like "why would you want to know that?" - after asking, some (~3) people just immediately assumed that I was trying to get to the said restaurant and proceeded to give me directions which was funny. I did also have like 2 cases I think for the last exercise in which they said "no i haven't been to the restaurant" and I continued to say Did you like it. It was pretty funny but I also didn't feel that happy cause I was completely drained of energy from shopping - still gave me a smile as I walked away.
Most of the people again were older than me about 30-40ish. It's because I am going the drills when chicks are at school. So I am going to start doing them when school time ends so I can defeat more of my anxiety.
Other than that the interactions weren't that memorable as I just wanted to get the drills done and get out of there so I didn't really care who I did it to - although I still have some resistance to husband/wife pairs, running past people to ask a chick something when I could've asked the dude next to me with his phone out, etc. I'm going to keep these small anxiety bubbles in mind in the following proceedings and defeat them.
In regards to time: I completed the drill in 45minutes which I know is worse than yesterday HOWEVER, I did get a gym tour while the time was running as I'm looking for a new gym as gyms have JUST opened up AND I bought some trackies (tried them on) all during the time was running. I think I had done 11 drills and the time was at 20 minutes So overall I think my performance was about equivalent to yesterday. Still I will try and improve the time taken and will go at a time when there are more young chicks around (I WILL NOT TARGET THESE CHICKS - since my mindset is now to value all women the same (and men) so If there so happens to be a really hot chick it will be like approaching some incompetent asian grandma - no pedestalising). Simply going at a time when such young women are around will just mean that the amount of them I approach will be higher - that is all.
I've also been integrating some youtube content in my approaches to improve my masculinity. I think any of you guys reading my posts will find it valuable. But do not just watch it and not apply - go out and take some action and stop mentally masturbating to my posts.
So again I was lazy as fuck and I think its because I have some sort of energy blockage - aka I NEED TO FUCKING LIFT WEIGHTS WITH MY LEGS (and meditate). I've been going from gym to gym to see which is the ideal one for me and I think I've found it. Signing up either today or tomorrow - either way tomorrow is my first session super keen.
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Do you know if there is a movie theater near here?, Leave
Time, Do you know if there is a movie theater near here?, Have you seen any good movies lately?, Leave
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 15 girls in total.
Let me first preface this review by saying I was sitting in my car for 15 minutes debating whether or not I should do the drills. It was a mental battle and I didn't want to do it because I had been to the same place for 2x days in a row and was scared people would recognise me and I felt anxious for some reason and I felt weak and I felt like there is some energy stuck somewhere and I am just frustrated as fuck. BUT I was like NO MOTHER FUCKER FUCK YOU CUNT AND YOUR PUSSY ASS EXCUSES and I got out of the car started my timer and GOT. IN. THERE.
For the first drill I got straight in there and talked to a pair of people (one was a girl) and asked for the time (yes! I defeated one of those anxiety walls from yesterday). She gave me the time. Now I think I have been forgetting that FOR EVERY SET when I am on the first exercise (straight after last) no matter what - the first girl I see I need to ask for the time. I haven't been doing this (only been doing it for the VERY FIRST GIRL of the drill - so I'm going to start doing it from now on. I blitzed through the first few sets absolutely killing it. Nothing special just asked any chick that I saw (none were really hot tbh from memory - will try and improve on this again tomorrow). I felt pretty monotone again but even so I'm standing in front of people and looking them in the eye more now (for the most part) and asking them the questions - I am definitely more comfortable in my own skin now. I still have a ways to go but its going good. The end of the 3rd set was funny. I was near the cinema and stopped a girl with earphones in and asked her the time and then when i aksed her if there was a movie theatre near here she laughed and was liek wtf its right up there (like super close). And then I asked have you seen any good movies and she was smiling and was like wtf no bahahahahahah funny interaction. After that I slowed down a little for fear I would walk into the same people - need to defeat this for next time. Anyway it's funny because I barely remember much of the interactions - they just happen and I get them done. I think I will try and amuse myself more with the people so I can have far more memorable interactions and so I can entertain you guys. Moreover, going to try and talk to HS chicks to defeat more anxiety.
In regards to TIME I LEVELLED UP. It took me 22 minutes to do the whole exercise (15 interactions). which is <1.5 minutes PER INTERACTION lesssgoooo. I think this is a good avg time but for the exercises in the future where you have to speak to 40 people I don't want to take 10 hours to do it so I'm aiming to be faster.
Not give a fuck if someone I just talked to sees/hears me saying the same shit to another person
Not give a fuck if I see the same person 10x
Not give a fuck if i am running past people to ask a chick something when I could've asked the dude next to me with his phone out
Face people square on for all interactions and no tension relieving body movements
Stronger eye contact
Talk to more hot chicks
Stand closer to people
1min per interaction
FOR EVERY SET when I am on the first exercise (straight after last) no matter what - the first girl I see I need to ask for the time
Solid and fast day - not memorable and would like for the drills to be more funny. I feel like achieving some of these goals above will make it more memorable as well as the upcoming drills. Thanks for reading and cyu guys tomorrow for Day 11.
Good stuff, keep going! Having a good pace is also important for momentum. Very nice.
Yeah unfortunately the forum is kinda dead. I encourage you to crosspost your AA log here and on killyourinnerloser.com for more feedback. There is 5 active posters over there who finished the AA program this year. The site is run by Andy who is a moderator here on GLL.
Thanks for the reply Cain. I'll post on KYI as well but I'll probs start later this week cause I'm filled to the brim with shit to do. Thanks for letting me and Rook know.
Again I'm going to try be more concise and focus on the drills rather than talking about other random shit so lets get straight into it:
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Is there a place that sells cell phones around here?, Leave
Time, Is there a place that sells cell phones around here?, What phone do you have?, Leave
Time, Is there a place that sells cell phones around here?, What phone do you have?, Do you like it? Leave
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 20 girls in total.
I had that anxiety before doing the drills - was not looking forward to going to the same mall for the fourth day in a row. Listened to Chris in the parking lot before hand then said FUCK IT put on my timer and got IN THERE. From memory talked to the very first girl for the time (was a woman). Again most of the people I talked to were fucking older people which pissed me off (some were young NONE WERE HOT - mostly because I was a pussy). I'm really going to try focus on this tomorrow. None of the interactions were exactly memorable but alot of the older women just looked at me weirdly some helped me out alot which was cool - it was funny as fuck I felt like they thought I was some old grandpa that doesn't nkow shit about phones. But let me tell you my baseline aanxiety is definitely lowering which is awesome. I am giving less fucks and I am even saying more random shit to people. The only memorable reaction was saying the last exercise to some girl in a toy store in which she was very helpful but thats about it. I also fucked up by not putting power behind my voice when I asked a chick for the time and she just ignored me and walked past me on the escalator LOL that sucked but then these two other girls were also there behind her so I asked one of them and she "uh no" then i said louder "WHATS THE TIME" and she was ohhhh and gave me it and continued down the escalator. What ever Lol. Fuck it. I'm going to try get more memorable interactions because at this point im just talking to old pepole to get the shit done. I also need to go slightly earlier because when i got there alot of the chicks had left cause it was getting late ~5pm.
Anyway I executed and I also did my first session at the gtm today and holy fuck its going to be a game changer. I did legs and I can feel the muscles working and the bloody and energy circulating from no fap. I'll update you guys on this aswell and Im doing bench tomorrow. Also I deleted the dating apps because It was wasting my time too much and I didn't want to buy tinder gold because all the reviews said it was fucking trash. Approach or nothing and grow big balls mother fuckers. Tomorrow is going to be a huge day for me and I am not sure I'll be able to fit in approaches so thats just a heads up but I willl try my everything to get it complete.
Almost forgot: It took me 38 minutes to do the drill (20 interaction) which I know sucks and I have no excuses. Definitely, however I am getting better so I just need to keep going. ALSO i'm excited to do tomorrows exercises - they look like a laugh.
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