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Hey, I am 19 and I want to do this program to overcome my social/approach anxiety, it's my goal for 2021.
I started by creating a tracker where I plan what I am going to do the next day and then write "yes" or "no" depending on if I did it. I also gave myself a deadline that I will finish week 1 in 3 weeks. I live in a fucking shithole so I must drive 10 minutes to get to a city. My progress will be slow until I move out to college when the COVID situation gets better.
I gave myself a goal to do the first drill and go for more if I feel good. I was hyped in the car, went in the supermarket and started looking for girls. I saw 2 girls walking towards me. I was nervous, but i started going towards them. They made a turn and I didn't want to chase after them so I just went my way. 10 seconds later I saw 1 girl going sort of my way so I stopped her and asked for a time. She told me the time right away and she was nice. I felt good and a bit erurophic. Then I saw 2 girls at the checkout but I didn't ask them. Guess I was feeling like I accomplished my goal for today. Then I went to another supermarket but didn't find any girls.
I am happy I did something, but a bit disappointed I did only 1 drill. If I didn't hesitate on the other 2 opportunities, I could've done 3 drills instead of one. I reached my goal for today tho so I am happy. Next post will be shorted and I will have hopefully completed day 1, I promise.
And yeah I'd say don't chase. You can and for these drills it should be fine but it's lame imo and some girls will get creeped out - more so if you're following them and don't approach for a while - which is stalking..
I went grocery shopping again. Feeling good and hyped to finish the 1st day. I was telling myself it's not that bad and was looking forward to progressing.
I went in the shop and it was basically empty. I asked one ~25-35 yo woman where I can find a product I was looking for. She was nice and helpful. The interaction was about 2 minutes, but she obviously wasn't a girl I want to do drills on (made me only slightly nervous unlike 18 yo girls). I felt good about myself afterwards tho. Then I went on with my shopping and I tried to find some girls, but there weren't any. I went to my car and did 3 pushups on the parking lot. I set myself a goal that I will do this because I am trying to overcome my social anxiety.
Then I went to another grocery store just to find a girl to do the drills. There was one at the entrance. I asked her for the time right away, she gave me the time but it was weird. I was looking at her from ~7 meters away and she was looking at me so I guess she felt I was staring at her. I found another girl inside but she was in the isle and I didn't want to chase after her. As I was comming up down the elevator she was leaning on her shopping cart and looking at me from the other one. She seemed anoyed/bored. Not because of me, but I still felt weird and looked away. I didn't find any more girls today.
I did something, but I don't feel acomplished at all. I was so hyped telling myself I was going to finish this drill... It took me 90 minutes and I asked only 1 girl for the time. I need to do something more challenging like finish the whole day for AA, or do 20 pushups in "public" for SA. I also came off as nervous/lifeless and quiet. I will try to speak clearly in the future. I can't wait for this COVID situation to get better. I am going to try again when I'll go shopping in a few days.
Allright, so the COVID situation in my country is fucked up. We are in full lockdown, can go only for the groceries. My parents are old, so I can't risk it... I've only completed 2 drills from the 1st day. I am quite pissed, I was and still am really motivated and wanted to do this, but I can't. I will be in this lockdown till the end of this month, so I will fail my "safe" resolution of getting the first week done in the first 3 weeks. I will focus on my other resolutions like fixing my posture and lifting. I also thought about going on omegle with a webcam and trying to find some girls to talk to, what do you think?
I will continue when I get to my college or when this lockdown ends. I hope it's soon.
I've decided to keep going with the drills when I go shopping, trying my best to stay safe. I've managed to finish day 4 and asked 5 girls for the time. It took me so long any many grocery trips till I got it. I missed many opportunities either because I was scared of groups of girls or I didn't commit for some reason. I'd say I missed about 8 girls until I finished the day. There are next to no girls in my town so I can't really miss more opportunities. Today I decided to not miss any opportunity and asked a girl who was with her friend for the time right away.
Progress is painfully slow, but better than nothing. I can already feel my improvment still. The first time I did this I was shaking, anxious and scared. Not I just need to commit and then it's easy, I feel next to no anxiety after I say "Hey".
Side note: I've been also doing social anxiety drills. I did 10 pushups in a parking lot, 10 pushups in a grocery store and 10 pushups + 3 clapping pushups in a grocery store (not in one day). It was pretty akward but also funny as both of the times someone walked right nest to me. These drills also push me outside of my comfort zone and I don't need girls for them, just people. I'll keep doing AA and SA drills when I go grocery shopping and I'll try to miss no opportunities until COVID gets better and I can go to my college where there will be many girls. Thanks for the replies, I'll write when I get another day done.
I did half of day 5 and then jumped to day 6 since I don't meet almost any girls when I go out. I will skip to harder days and go back if I can't finish them.
In the last month I was doing that 1/2 of day 5 and missed many opportunities. My problem is I always wait for the perfect opportunity, that is 1 stationary girl. I rarely get these so I missed some days where I didn't approach anyone.
Today I finally stopped being a pussy and asked a walking 2 girls for the time. One of them looked me like I was fucking retarded because I was asking for the time in front of a clock (and pointed at it) but whatever I didn't feel bad and her friend gave me the time.
I did my second approach where I asked 2 girls for the time + directions. They seemed quite akward and anxious which made me feel really good because I always feel like I am the one making the situation akward. I asked for directions to a grocery store and she gave me only the first turn and then said that there it is. Not very helpful because the shop is further than that.
I will keep asking girls for time + directions + have u been there until I feel very little anxiety and then I will jump to some harder drills.
time + directions + have you been there
Asked this 5 girls. The last questions is kinda funny. I can imagine myself enjoying some of the future drills.
I don't have the volume to do the full day so I just do the final drill 5 times. Asking for the time also doesn't give me anxiety so I don't want to waste my opportunities on easy drills when I could be doing harded ones.
I almost never see a girl alone so I do all of my drills on groups of 2-3 girls which is good I guess.
The volume is low and progress is painfully slow but it's better than nothing.
I will post when I finish day 8(already started), see you in ~2 weeks.
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