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^Glasgow was just sharing photofeeler photos on KYIL. He's bald and has a 9.1 after 80 votes. And he has others in the 8s.
Meanwhile I have all my hair and the most I've achieved (yet) is 8.4 and most of my photos get 4s.
Maybe there is "bald stigma" but don't let that be an excuse. Try harder.
EDIT: there's also nothing wrong with rocking beanies and hats. If you feel more attractive with a head covering, that's probably the bigger reason for your 6 vs. 7 scores. Confidence, while visually subtle, is a big deal for attractiveness.
I'm frustrated Roger, I'm finding it very hard to create a good edgy photo. I definitely want an edgy photo for my profile, but I can't get my expression right.
Maybe there is no way to make an edgy face?
I'll keep trying but man this is difficult. Every single day I leave the house at sunrise and take 300-600 pictures. Think I'm going to begin looking away from the lens.
It's not that I feel more confident in a hat... I honestly don't. I have ZERO shame walking around bald. The only reason I'm using a hat is because I wanted it to be my lead photo. If the first picture women see of me is with a hat, they will be less likely to just dismiss me based on baldness.
Of course I know the lead photo should be whatever gets the best score on photofeeler.
Most of my photos get 6. My highest rated photo is 6.9, and my face looks furious.
I just don't know how to create sexy.
About getting the edgy photo, what photos are you using for inspiration? While facial expression always matters, I'd imagine style is more important for getting an edgy look.
Anyway, I definitely don't have photos down yet. Will be going at it hardcore Dec 15 - Jan 1st. Andy has a super long guide I haven't read all of but might be worth a look.
I did that pausing thing today at the grocery store. Went to the only cashier in the store and simply began pausing at odd times.
It wasn't the best results because I could tell this guy wasn't super social either.
He ended up slightly confused. As was I.
It was an odd experience.
Conversation flows pretty smoothly these days. I even had to explain to the tanning girl how I was not going to tan today after all, as my tanning goggles got broken.
I'm still not good at creating dialogue out of thin air when passing by strangers.
I've come such a long way socially. It just feels normal talking to people now. It feels normal to shout hello at everyone I pass. I can't believe I'm saying this but....I look forward to small talk. Never in my lifetime did I see myself as a guy that asks strangers personal questions just to start a conversation.
I used to dread small talk. Dreaded convos of all kinds. When people would start a convo, my mind would scream for them to shut up.
Life changing stuff, but it won't mean anything if I never get laid.
I want to kill myself Roger, today I was an idiot.
I hate myself so much right now. After this morning's photoshoot, I was walking back home dressed all edgy. You can visibly tell my clothes cost money, even though they are unusual pieces.
I couldn't believe my eyes....walking along the sidewalk towards me was probably one of the hottest girls I've seen in this town. Girl next door hot. Innocent looking and incredibly sweet.
She couldn't tell I was bald because of my beanie, but I began smiling ahead of time to convey I'm not a bad guy. (I've learned that not smiling at all scares the crap out of women, as a bald man especially).
She was the first to say hello a good distance away. I said hello right back. Then I said, "how you doin' today?" She said she was good....then she asked me how I was doing.
While still in motion and passing each other, I said "I'm good, Thank you".
I maintained eye contact and a friendly face the whole time.
She had to actually turn her head while walking in the other direction just to speak to me.
I could tell she was attracted to me. I could sense it. Other than the very pleasant exchange and gentle expressions we both shared, I could definitely pick up on subtle cues that told me she was interested in me.
It's weird because I've never had the social awareness before to pick up on such things.
The old me would of walked by her without making eye contact. I probably would have acted like a statue. I doubt I'd even say hello. I used to be so utterly terrified of pretty women, I wouldn't even look at them.
Today was actually pretty groundbreaking.
Yes....I screwed up. I screwed up royally by not initiating conversation and then getting her number. Something tells me I could have gotten it.
Even though I want to kill myself from failure to act, I proved to myself that I can talk to crazy hot women finally.....for once in my life.
(It also probably helped that I looked sexy stylish).
This gives me a huge confidence boost that I'll be able to handle going on dates and engaging in convos....leading to sex.
Awesome man! You definitely have improved. It's awesome you were hit up the hot girl. Really nothing to beat yourself up about.
And cool you finished the pausing in convos thing. I'd say it's more useful if you find that you're monologuing or if you ask a question and get nervous and fill empty space instead of waiting for a response.
But it sounds like you're very comfortable with small talk now which is great.
About approaching, next time instead of walking by just stop. If she's in a rush she'll keep walking but if she stops to then game on. Even better if you can get in there and block their path to make them stop, handshake and all that.
You'd get a ton of practice if you actually do the AA program, which I'd bet you'd do on trips to the city near you.
Yeah, I'm delighted that I have come so far as to confidently interact with hotties. Maybe next time.
Yeah the pausing thing was odd for a cashier. Even I knew that going in. I thought I'd just do it because It's really hard to get a one on one convo here outside of businesses/employees.
I'll practice more in the future once I develop a social life of some kind.
Yes, after a few minutes had passed by I realized my mistake with the hottie. I wasn't thinking right. In hindsight, I knew I should of told her a compliment and then proceeded to have a small convo about anything.
Finishing by getting her number.
Picking up chicks is such a foreign chain of events, I'm never mentally prepared when a hottie talks to me. (Which is once every 5 years it seems, lol).
Hopefully as I go on dates, I'll learn a lot about interacting with women. That should lead to easier convo flow with ladies in general.
Great news Roger, I think I finally pulled off two edgy photos. They are essentially the same photo, with different facial expressions. They both look great imo.
I also attempted a sexy photo today. Honestly....I think I nailed it. I'll upload it on Photofeeler later on to see if it's a hit.
Very proud of my photos lately.
Hey man, don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re gonna have these moments and they’re all just learning experiences. Stopping and paying her a light compliment sounds like a really good next step for situations like that
Focus on those first couple of steps and save the rest (conversation, number etc) for later or let them come naturally
When I was still approaching (I’ve been a real little bitch boy about it lately) this was the only way I was able to do it. Stop and engage and do what feels right once that part is over with. Give yourself permission to eject after if you need to. For now of course.
Basically the same strategy I set out with the touching. Break it down into manageable steps, get comfortable with one part, move on to the next.
(I’ll be doing the same here soon because it’s about time I got my ass back out there)
Yeah, I'm not trying to beat myself up too hard. It's also easy to forgive myself because I know ultimately I can't date anyone without seeing a dentist first. At least, I feel I need to do that first.
I'm all about baby steps, but I just feel so far away from actually hitting on women. Like, my stupid brain didn't even think to compliment her at the time. I didn't even have the sense to tell her to have a nice day at the end.
I was so caught up in this moment....it felt magical. A hot girl talked to me today and for the first time ever, I didn't make a fool of myself. For the first time ever....I picked up non-verbal cues that let me know she was interested in me.....
That's HUGE. Like gigantic. My entire life I've been so confused on how people pick up on cues. Social cues never made sense to me, which I guess is what made me socially awkward.
So, I have roughly 3 photos I think might be worthy of a dating app. One edgy, one sexy, one silly. I can't possibly improve on any of these photos I feel. They are pretty solid.
The sexy photo was taken yesterday and might I say....it's a masterpiece. I've never looked so desirable in any image. I'm testing it out on photofeeler right now.
I've decided to wait several days before checking my score. I want at least 40 votes before I decide if it's worth keeping.
Aye man I recently joined the forum and was reading your posts, and thought of a challenge for you. You said you planned to take a photo on Christmas in some place, I don’t remember where you said, when no one was around. Try to go instead when there is a lot of people around and ask a girl you find mildly attractive to pick which photo she think you look the best in. Ask like 4 to get more than one perspective. That way you have confidence in your photos when you use them for your profile. Also I have some something about your attitude toward getting laid that can be improved. Chris said something about learning to appreciate average women. If your planning on getting laid their was a quote where he said something like guys who approach average girls get laid significantly more than guys who only approach only hot girls. Try and focus on a certain feature of them that you find attractive, like that it said, it was the Learning to Appreciate Average Women section, look into it. If being a virgin is a part of your personality that brings down your confidence try to get laid with an average girl or a girl you think is below you in appearance to get it over with, that way when you land a hotter girl you have more experience and self confidence.
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