TOPIC: quick update

Ring... ring... ring... Banana Phone!, Hey there, do you hear a phone ringing?, Leave
Ring... ring... ring... Banana Phone!, Hey there, do you hear a phone ringing?, Non-Sexual Compliment, Leave
Ring... ring... ring... Banana Phone!, Hey there, do you hear a phone ringing?, Non-Sexual Compliment, I think it's your banana phone, Leave
Ring... ring... ring... Banana Phone!, Hey there, do you hear a phone ringing?, Non-Sexual Compliment, I think it's your banana phone, Hey- I think your banana phone is ringing, Leave
12 girls

Did 7, going to finish the rest off tomorrow. A bit hard, perhaps the second/third hardest drill so far. Most earlier drills give you an easy starting point like “You know what time it is”, “Where is XXX”, and then let you ride the momentum and flow into the other parts. With this drill, you are a weirdo right off the bat, and we all know getting started is the hardest part, every set in this drill felt like the first set and it was hard to build the momentum.

Most girls were confused, “Banana phone?”, a lot of them checked their phones, even when they were just on their phones or holding their phones. It’s that feeling when someone spits something random at you, and all you could do at the moment is to react and follow their instructions. I held my frame firmly for the most part, you can still be cool even when you’re saying something as absurd as “your banana phone is ringing”, as long as you do it assertively with confidence. I bet some of them went back and googled “banana phone”, they are probably still lost in those heavenly tunes as I type. You’re very much welcome.

Went surfing today, chatted up this newbie surfer girl and ended up teaching her how to surf. A lot of flirting, I was not shy about getting physical, joked about her lack of muscles as I squeezed her arm, then flexed my muscles and let her have a squeeze, poked her belly through a hole in her rented wetsuit, guided her arms in paddling motion, hugged her when she was trembling from the cold. I tried to go for a kiss but she said no. It was a bit of a letdown/turnoff for me but I gave her my number, she texted me and I wrote back "Wrong number", then an hour later followed it up with "JK, that's for not giving me the kiss", giving her the adrenaline rush and the emotional roller coaster ride that she desperately needs. She's very into me, give it some time and I think this is a sure bang in the bag, but she seems like the relationship type and I don't want any of that. I don't really care where this goes, she's a 6/7, maybe a 7/8 if she's out of the water, with makeup on, dressed up. I don't even know if I want to bang her. Anyways, you gotta start somewhere, right?

Edit:
Finished the rest, I was walking around and singing "ring, ring, ring, ring, banana phone" as I walked past people, just to build momentum and get over the initial hump, a lot of people didn't hear it though, most people have headphones on nowadays, I think it's sad, why even go out.

Nice man! Fun day with the surfer girl and great you're being consistent.

Hey Bro, Time, U Mad Bro?, Leave
Hey Bro, Time, U Mad Bro?, Non-Sexual Compliment, Leave
Hey Bro, Time, U Mad Bro?, Non-Sexual Compliment, U Mad Bro?, Leave
Hey Bro, Time, U Mad Bro?, Non-Sexual Compliment, U Mad Bro?, You really helped a Bro out, Leave

Chris said 99% of guys enjoyed this drill, guess I’m the 1%. It didn’t feel much different than any other drills. Only a few girls chuckled, most others were just confused by “Are you mad bro”, they were like “what?”, “no”, or just straight up walking away. There were a few super nice girls, coming to a full stop, giving me the time, being patient, and I felt like I was being a bad representation of men for saying this nonsense to them. I haven’t gotten the exhilarating feeling from the drills for a long time now, everything just feels flat to me, it’s hard to build up momentum but at the same time, the bad reactions don’t get to me as much either. I think the ratio of nice:average:psycho girls is about 3:5:2, doesn’t really matter how hot they are, how I dress or what I say.

Meeting up with the surfer girl again tomorrow for a sesh. I could see surfing becoming a medium for me to pick up girls consistently.

Time, Leave
Time, That's a nice shirt, Leave
Time, That's a nice shirt, Those are cool shoes, Leave
Time, That's a nice shirt, Those are cool shoes, That's a cool haircut, Leave
Time, That's a nice shirt, Those are cool shoes, That's a cool haircut, That's an awesome purse (even if she isn't holding one), Leave
15 girls.

Did 7, approached way more than 7 but most girls didn't fully stop and I could only get to the first compliment before they were gone, will finish the rest tomorrow. Usually, the drills get easier as soon as you start, this one gets progressively harder, girls rarely come to a full stop with time + compliment combo, so 2 compliments are the most I could get to, might need to go somewhere more relaxed with more stationary girls.

About the surfer girl, I thought she liked me but maybe not, quote her "jamessss mateeee i have friends for you because i’m not avail" She told me she's got a bf, I don't buy it though. She wanted me to come surfing with her girl friends next weekend, said I would get along with one of them. On the other hand, she was receptive to my touches and said she's still down to hang out (We live in 2 different states and she's willing to drive an hour or two to my city to hang out). Whatever, she could be a cool bro too, we'll see where this goes.

I've been hitting on some girls at the beach, it's surprisingly easy, the conversations are all very easy and non-rushed. Flirted with a girl and we agreed to exchange numbers after the sesh, but she seemed to be psyched out by COVID and I was hanging out with other surfers, it wasn't going to work and I just left.

Skipping day 37 (Club drill)

Walk up to/pass by 10 girls and say "You're cute." and Leave.
Walk up to and stop 10 girls and say "Hey, wait a second- you're cute." and Leave.
2 times, 40 girls.

I did 20, took me a few hours. A lot of them didn't say anything, it was too quick, some might not even have heard it (headphones), close to half of them said thanks. I've been going to downtown Boston to do these drills, and people are mostly on their way home, grocery shopping and whatnot with their headphones on, the plaza I used to go to is pretty much empty now as the days get shorter and colder.

The more girls I talk to, the less importance I place on girls' physical appearances. Some girls could be such bitches with this condescending look on their faces, like bitch just because I said you're cute, doesn't mean you deserve it and can take the compliment for granted and not even acknowledge it, a girl that's less good-looking but is vivacious will blow these "ice princesses" out any day of the week.

Will finish the rest 20 tomorrow or on Saturday, expecting the same results so I probably won't be updating this. Meeting up with surfer girl's friends this weekend but I'm not expecting much from it, especially when I can hit up girls on my own now.

Ohhh, and my green card application process has finally kicked off after a year and half of material gathering, corporate politics and people bottlenecking the process. I'm super pumped!!! Only 5 more years to go, lol.

Walk up to and stop 10 girls and say "Hey, wait a second- you're cute." and Leave.
Walk up to and stop 10 girls and say "Hey, wait a second- you're cute." say your name and leave.
Repeat this 2 times, you will speak to 40 girls.

I've been gone for almost a month, but I have been trying to do this drill many many times, I've complimented over 100 girls but I'm stuck on the second part. Something about saying my name just feels off, maybe I'm not picking the right spot but I don't know a better spot, maybe it's COVID that's making everyone hypervigilant, maybe I just need a kick in the butt and stop being a pussy. Week 6 is almost all physical drills too.

On the other hand, I'm hitting up the beach and talking to almost everybody, guys and girls, no problem giving compliments, introducing myself, shaking hands, blah blah blah, conversations would usally fizzle out after some basic small talk, everyone's floating on their boards and there's not a lot of chance of getting physical and escalating. Some surfer girls would peak at me, and get excited when I go and talk to them. Today, I ride a wave straight into a girl, hop off right in front of her, and go "hey, you're cute, are you 18?" (She looks young), "I'm 19", "I'm James", a handshake, she's giggling and says "my boyfriend is actually right there" (behind her on the beach). I go "well, he can cook us breakfast", she giggles, I spit some shit and then tell her I won't disrespect the boyfriend, and that's the end. Could've gone further with this one if I persisted, but the point is, the vibes are VERY different on a beach, versus downtown Boston, and I don't have access to the beach every day.

Something about getting right into a girl's face, telling her she's cute and introducing yourself (maybe even a little bossy) can sweep a girl off her feet, but again location is important. When in town, people will be like "shit, does he have COVID, get out of my face". I don't know, man, I should just bite the bullet and get rejected like it's going out of style.

Can't say for sure since I'm not in Boston, but definitely where I'm at it's much more my insecurity about covid than girls. The girls that leave the sidewalk to walk around people obviously they fear covid. Most people around here are fatigued and don't give a fuck any more. Also probably why I'm in such a hot spot lol.

I'm actually in covid jail right now because two of my roommates are positive. One of them has it like a bad cold, other one has no symptoms. Moral of the story is, ya it can be bad for some people, but just don't go approaching cougars, you don't really have to worry too much about yourself if you're in your 20s or 30s and girls partying are spreading it more than you talking to a few girls a day.

EDIT: About the name being a hangup: say your starbucks name or make up one for a few. Realize it doesn't matter then GET THIS DONE!

I was looking for motivation to get my ass to do this drill, and I was looking through Andy's AA log. Man, he was nervous as fuck, to the point that he was going to throw up, that made me feel like I wasn't even qualified to be anxious, and it's good to know that it's not only me that's having a hard time with these "cute" drills, all the crazy shit I've said in the earlier drills and I'm fucking stuck on this one? I was doubting all my previous efforts, thinking I was probably going back to ground zero, etc, etc.

I figured out my fear with this drill. Saying my name is inviting a conversation, and I wasn't sure if was ready to handle it (Even though I've done this a thousand times at the beach). Besides, I'd feel terrible to walk away from a girl who's receptive, fear of missing out.

Anyways, I walked around for a good hour and a half and eventually did 5 approaches before I had to come home. 2 girls just kept walking, it didn't affect me in the slightest. In one of these 2 sets, I introduced myself even though she didn't stop or say shit to me, and I closed it with a "Have a good night". Another set, a cute girl was standing on the curb waiting for something/someone, I walked up, did the drill, she was a bit flustered and went "Nice to ... meet you", 10 seconds ago she was in her own world, and then I walked in and just snapped her out of it, it was a great feeling.

The most interesting one, and one the boldest sets I've done, I was in my car, driving home, and I pulled up next to another car waiting at the traffic light, I looked over, the driver was cute, so I rolled down my window, "Hey, do I know you?" (She kinda looked like someone I knew), she shook her head, I said "You look cute though", she smiled, blushed and put her head down, "I'm James", she was unresponsive, probably didn't know what to say, and I ended it with a "Have a good night", got a "You too". I bet that's going to stick in her mind for a looong time. It reminds me of 6 years ago when I first came to the states, a car pulled up and a guy said to me "do you want to have sex with them" (Pointing to 2 girls in the backseat, as a joke probably), I was only 17 and I barely spoke any English, in my head, I was thinking "fuck yeah" but I was totally caught off guard and didn't know what to say. I still remember it like it was just yesterday, good times.

It's really not a big deal like how my mind made it out to be (even with COVID), I was in euphoria after just those few sets. It's going to rain tomorrow but I'm going to try and finish the rest this week, now that I've started it, it's going to be much easier.

P.S. I know Chris said this week is when we "do what you want", lash out at the girl if you'd like. My approach is always to take it easy on the girl unless they say something rude to me. If they're just walking away, it's fine, they didn't ask for any of this, and if you are graceful about it, the girls might later realize that she's the one being a dud. Never give a girl a reason to justify her "rejection", if you were a dick to her for something she didn't ask for, she's got the reason.

Proper good work, mate! Now you almost got this drill in the bag. Go get it!

And what you wrote in the end. Man, I couldn't have said it better; it's pretty much exactly how I approach these things. Staying positive, upbeat - not letting them get the best of you. Of course if they're being total cunts return the favor (I haven't actually experienced that yet).

Mother bitches, took me 6-7 hours, my feet are fucking gone. I decided to do drills today and skip surfing (It was a tough decision), I haven’t done drills during the day for a long time and I’ve forgotten how much more at ease people are. I chose an all-black attire, dark brown boots, black jeans, black dress shirt, black leather jacket, black mask, black leather gloves, all fitted, and I’m not exaggerating when I say 8 out of 10 girls passing by were peaking at me or overtly staring at me, even the 9s and 10s. If I wasn’t doing game, I would've been over the moon with all that attention, but I was just not in a great state, walked around for about two hours feeling self-conscious and not approaching anyone, felt like a fucking loser.

Then I remembered what @RogerRoger told me, to make up names. I started thinking of some ridiculous names like “I’m Thor”, “I’m Chad” and was laughing out loud, which instantly took a ton of stress off me and got me into a lighthearted state. Before, the drills were fun and silly, and ever since I started the “cute” drills I’ve been very tense and serious, I had to remind myself that I’m just having fun, this is fun, and I started getting on a roll and approached almost every girl I deemed attractive, except, groups, I was scared to do groups. I made a point that I must approach a group before I leave, and for my last set, I crossed path with a group of 5-6 girls, I stood right in front of a cute girl, stopped her, “Hey, wait a second, you’re cute”, she blushed, “thank you”, and her friends were like “aww, that’s so sweeettt”, I even held my hand out for a handshake, she was so wrapped up in the moment, I don’t think she even saw my hand, I waved her off and walked away feeling like a fucking pimp.

Almost all girls acknowledged my compliment, either giggled, thanked me, or introduced themselves, I think 2-3 girls told me their names. Motherfuckers, I’ve never felt so accomplished in this program, this was a fucking tough drill, I literally tried to do this for a whole month, it’s such a great feeling to smash this one. Getting all kinds of positive responses reaffirmed that I'm a confident and high-value man, it's setting me up for the cold approaches, I know I've come very close to doing that. FUCK I'm pumped!

Great job dude. Persevering is what sets you apart from 99% of guys out there. Be elite. Keep going.

Walk up to and stop 10 girls and say "Hey, wait a second- you're cute." say your name and leave.
Walk up to and stop 10 girls and say "Hey, wait a second- you're cute." say your name and put your hand up for a high five. Leave after you get a high-five.
Repeat this 2 times, you will speak to 40 girls.

Didn't do the high-five part. I’m absolutely exhausted. Took today off to do the drills, fucking 10 hours, 49000 steps! It was 6 hours of walking around, procrastinating and fighting my anxiety, only did 9-10 for that whole time. After it got darker out, I felt less visible and got more comfortable, also just pure exhaustion, I didn't even have the energy to be nervous or give a fuck anymore. Then it was 2 hours of solid approaching, so tired that I walked and talked slowly, and towards the end, I was totally at ease, I had zero anxiety, and talked to every cute girl that I crossed paths with. I lost count, but it was a lot of girls.

At one point I just stopped walking, stood outside a mall, and did some sets as the girls were walking by (I think I'll do this more often from now on, let the girls come to me). Got a few that had boyfriends, one was actually Facetiming her boyfriend, all good though. Most of them thanked me, about 1/4 introduced themselves, I'd say I only talked to 7 and above today.

I consider this one done, telling girls they're cute and introducing myself is getting easy now. For the last hour, it was about 9pm and there were very few people out, I was looking really hard for girls to do some Day 41 drills on. Fuck, I was so carefree that I swore if I could just find one girl, I'd ask for her phone number. I couldn't find anyone though, and I didn't want to leave, it took me so long to get in state and I didn't want that feeling to end.

One interesting thing, I talked to this cute, not hot, but definitely cute and bangable girl, and she was totally socially awkward, like straight out of a movie, "hi... hi", "oh...thank...you", "you... too". That made me rethink just how many of these beautiful girls are just a shell, just as nervous if not more than me and don't have their shit together. I think I am actually better, cooler than most of these girls based on the simple fact that I am putting in all this work, orchestrating my own future, while they're just waiting for guys like me to change their fate and waiting for life to happen TO them.

I'm going to spend more time on the drills and less on surfing and other things, as they've taken a toll on my progress. I really need to make this my number one priority and get it done. People are going to start getting vaccinated in December, and I think once the high-risk groups are vaccinated, the whole quarantine will just break loose, young/healthy people already don't give a fuck, bars and clubs will be opening back up, and I need to be ready to do cold approaches by then.

A final note, it's VERY UTTERLY important to slow down, walk slowly, come to a full stop, face the girl, maintain eye contact, and speak at a slow, controlled pace. It puts the other person at ease and the conversation naturally becomes unrushed, the girls would be more likely to stop, give me time and listen to what I have to say.

I'll be back out there tomorrow if I'm still able to walk, going to pop a few Motrin now, FUCK.