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Abc’s and day 19 revisited, day 20 finished, 22a begun
Opened today with the abc drill because it was bugging me yesterday. I am now happy to move on from this drill. This is a drill that i believe will never be completely enjoyable or comfortable for me, because its just odd and makes me feel like a weirdo haha. But, I have done it to death, and i know i can do it again.
I revisited day 19 because i realised i was opening yesterday by asking the time and not “hi, hows it going”. Drill was easy once got used to new opening. Did the hows it hangin challenge on a really hot girl- definitely my type. I was able to open with no issues and she was really receptive (showed signs of interest like smiling, eye contact, laughing, lit up face). However, as i worked through the stages of the drill (directions, Bieber style and whats her fav style) i felt myself getting really nervous. I could tell she wanted to keep talking but my anxiety was really high haha- thank god for being able to eject when the drill is complete. This shows me that though ive had great progress, i still have a long way to go before an actual approach. I embrace this uncomfortableness tho because it’s proof that the program is working.
Day 20 was easy. Straight forward, had no dramas just asking where the bathroom was. Biggest challenge was just powering through the steps even if they didnt know where the mens room was- got a couple chuckles.
Did a big no no today by skipping day 21 and started day 22. I did this because its tuesday and i dont really wanna lose my momentum by doing no drills and waiting until the end of the week to do day 21. I live in a small town so theres no night life during the week. I personally think that this activity is focused on providing night time exposure therapy for going out alone. Because of this, i think/hope that delaying this drill wont hinder my future performance in day time approaching so therefore i should be alright to continue day drills for the rest of the week. I Definitely plan on completing day 21 this weekend however, but lmk if u disagree.
My opinion as someone who has done the program, is you should definitely try and do them in order. For me at least, once I start veering from the program, it becomes easier to make excuses and not do everything right.
Maybe redo previous drills while you wait for your night out.
# girls: 4
-Summer 2016 (she approached me)
-January 2020 x2 (daytime cold approach)
-April 2020 (social circle)
6 new girls (completed: 3 / 6)
* Include one abg / party asian girl (completed?: NO)
* Include one fobby asian girl (completed?: YES)
* Include one "alterntive" girl (tats, maybe piercings, etc.) (completed?: NO)
soggy biscuit wrote: I need help!! Even though i got through these drills and can objectively say i performed well, my mood was off today and so i left feeling a little uninspired/unsatisified (especially with the abc drill). Even though i can do the abc drill, because my mood was just off today i really dreaded doing it- even more so than day 18 and 19 drills. I even tried to revisit it at the end of today but only got one set out. Do you guys think this is a sign that im not ready to move on and should focus on abc drill? Or do you think that its somthing that will never be totally comfortable and my mood (lack of sleep) was also a factor?
Will be out again tomorrow. Any advice/input is greatly appreciated.
Not at all. Some days you just don't feel like approaching - just like some days you don't feel like going to the gym, doing the dishes, going on a date with a new chick, or going to work. It can depend on tons of stuff.
The important thing is that you do what you know is right even though you don't feel like it.
Seriously, fuck your feelings, and fuck your mood. They'll only point you in the right direction some of the time. Props to you for doing the drill again, but personally, if I was able to do that drill in spite of the fact that I didn't feel like it, I'd consider that a massive success.
And also - I swear, if you max our your looks and know you can get laid, when you approach in front of other people, it will eventually have the opposite effect - you will feel like a massive BOSS. Instead of meeting their gaze right after a rejection and feeling embarassment, you will meet their gaze and feel pride. You will look at them and think "Yea, I can do that. You can't". And they will know it too. In short, you will think "I am a man, and you are a boy". The feeling is amplified 100x when you meet a girl who's clearly into you and gives you her number/agrees to hang out with you, all within earshot of some guy who's attracted to the same girl but doesn't have the balls to do anything about it. It's one of the most masculine and empowering feelings I've yet to experience on this earth.
Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die.
I booked an apartment in the city tomorrow night because i want to do this day 21 drill ASAP and feel bad for skipping over it. Its a pretty big city so i think a thursday will be busy enough to get the job done- excited but super nervous.
Today I just went straight into day 22b without warmups. Finished it with little anxiety. Something really cool kept happening to me that i want to jot down to look back at later. Whenever i approach someone and they are rude or blow me off, i just find it so god damn amusing. I tell myself “youre not really happy youre just telling yourself that to get over the rejection”, but seriously it fills me with genuine joy to just laugh at how silly i am and how silly it is to reject someone who just said hey haha. I think i also find it funny that the normal reaction for someone in my position (just got rejected) is to be extremely embarrassed- cant help but laugh about it. Hopefully getting rejected in a real approach will someday be this entertaining and ill be this unaffected!
23 was pretty entertaining. It taught me that when u go in with the mindset of “im just fucking with her”, it kind of takes u out of the mindset of “i hope she likes me!”. It just turned the whole drill into just a funny entertaining experience, and i also got some great and hilarious reactions. Did the “im not a rapist” challenge on the final girl (solid 8/10), she was so shocked and cracking up at the same time- i loved it.
Today was good! I learned that if u go into interaction not hoping that the girls will like you (i was just there to fuck with them) and you look good, available girls will laugh and be receptive to anything. Sesame street is not a funny joke haha. But when girls know your not trying to be funny for their approval, and ur just fucking with them- i think they become a alot more receptive and interactions are alot more enjoyable/entertaining.
Ps. Ive come to realise i blabber on alot in my logs. This is more for me to look back on than anything, so i understand if you guys arent making it all the way to the end haha. If you are- repect!
Same time tomorrow boys! Night drills comin in hot.
I had a bad day today- just wasnt in the mood from the jump and neither was my sense of social freedom. I tried to do day 24 but had real trouble just finishing the drill. Girls who were walking generally just said “im not sure” and kept walking. After about 10 attempts and only 2 successful completions (the rest just walked away) I called it quits and went to workout hoping it would improve my mood. Went back out in the city and it took me like 3 hours to finish this drill. Everyone in the city is in a rush so they just blew me off like i was trying to sell them something. Hated every moment but powered through and got the drill done. Its not a particularly challenging drill to execute, its just hard to complete when youre dependent on their participation. The young and hot girls who were stationary were always the easiest, the old moms hated me haha- especially when they were on the move. Feel bad about how today went so not sure if i should repeat. I didnt necessarily have lack of commitment im just in a mood today so my outlook is poor haha. Im going out tonight to do day 21, fuck my mood this shit is getting done tonight. Will report back!
Alright went out at 1030 but its been shitty weather tonight so the bars i went to definitely weren’t busy enough. I wanted to be able to do it while still remaining somewhat anonymous- the last thing i needed is some girls boyfriend hunting me down. The first bar i went to i squeezed some girls arm and she flipped out at me- acting like i grabbed her chest or somthing. It was pretty confronting and definitely made me feel like a creep, after that i had to bail
Anyways i got the 20 squeezes, took me like an hour. I had to jump from bar to bar because the rooms i went to were just too empty and i felt like everyone could see if i squeezed the girls arm. Most of my squeezes were just in passing scenarios- like id pretend i needed to pass by someone and id put my hand on them and squeeze haha gotta do what you gotta do.
Definitely wasn’t anxious about going out alone which was good. Was just chillin didnt really speak to many people was busy trying to find girls.
Im going to revisit this drill i think. I could really tell the difference when i was squeezing to show attraction/screen vs. when i was doing it just to walk past. I aim to reattempt sometime this weekend. Let me know what you guys think. WOULD APPRECIATE ANY TIPS TO SQUEEZING GIRLS AND NOT FEELING CREEPY/GETTING HECKLED. Tomorrow im back out doing day drills. Will report back
24 revisited, 25 finished, 26a
Opened today with high-fives and revisited day 24 to build some momentum. Worked like a charm- going to open w high-fives everyday now.
Day 25 was easy but is suuuucks! To do this drill successfully (like day 24) you have to find a receptive girl to approach. The only receptive girls i could find turned out to be the attractive ones, which were few and far between today- got the drill done within an hour though. Its an easy drill that doesnt give me anxiety at all, but if people think youre making fun of them (usually the moms or unattractive girls) they dont stick around. Pretty challenging
Started day 26. Got 3 successful reps done. Again. I was fully socially free by this point and approaching alot of girls, but the amount of reception to this drill is really low. Walked around for an additional hour but couldnt find hot girls or couldnt get girls to stick around long enough to finish. Super annoying haha
I got a couple good reactions today which is a positive to take away. Had super good chemistry with a hottie who grabbed my arm after i said “im just messing with ya” when i finished the drill. Another small victory . Im off for the weekend will check in on monday!
Jesus christ today sucked. Not only was i coming off 2 days of non drills but i had to finish 26. Took me a solid 2 hours to get 7 reps in. Im so fucking glad thats over with. Approaching with this drill and executing the steps isnt hard and doesnt make me anxious at all. The hard part is finding receptive girls that will let me finish this stupid drill. I had a bunch of rejection and one girl told me her dad was in palliative care dying of cancer, real bummer. For any guys out there- the receptive girls were always the hot ones that were around my age. Other than that everyone else just blew me off
One good thing about this drill is the girls who did let me finish showed clear signs of attraction. One girl in a particular was biting her lips playing w her hair and wouldnt break eye contact, she wouldnt answer then suggestively asked “what do you mean by daddy”. Was enjoyable. Thats the closest ive been to breaking the rules and asking a girl for her number- ah well.
Back out tomorrow with day 27 and hopefully 28. Cant wait to be done with this ‘funny man’ weird guy shit. Starting to get annoying haha.
Based on how the last couple days have gone, i felt alot of anxiety coming into today. So decided to do a refresher of the past couple days with challenges and i was fine- until i got to the days where you have to force an answer out (bday, lunch, who’s your daddy). These days im not comfortable with because i can only complete them on hot girls. Everyone else just walks away from me and im not really comfortable chasing them down to finish. It doesnt come off as messing with the person and instead i feel like im harrassing them. Also these past days have been terrible for my momentum/social freedom. All those rejections start to wear me down and i cant even focus on my execution because i dont even get the chance to do the damn drill.
My question is should i not move on until i can do these on moms and ugly girls who arent usually receptive? Im comfortable enough to attempt, however i dont see myself ever making much progress based on the reactions im getting from these crowds? I did do them today on hot girls but theyre not as easy to come by (especially ones that are also sexually available).
Let me know, curious to what your guys’ experience with these drills have been. Cheers
Day 27 & 28 finished
These drills were easy. I wasnt able to tap girls on the shoulder when we were already making eye contact though. I tried a couple times and got really over the top reactions and one girl flipped out at me haha.
Hardest part of today was holding the flex because i was drilling in a mall, so i instantly became the centre of attention whenever i did it haha. However (for the guys out there*) it gets alot easier after the first set. You just gotta laugh at urself and not give a fuck lol
Update*- Did who is your daddy spur of the moment on a hottie who was passing by, she told me her dad was dead. Instead of leaving i felt compelled to atleast console her and make sure i didnt just ruin her day. Turned out to be a really cool chick and we ended up having a little convo. Was hard not asking for her number but rules is rules.
Good day today though! I feel as though my momentum is back and im satisfied to move on after questioning myself the last couple days.
**Note to myself & fellow losers** if u ever feel overwhelmed or unable to start a new drill, do a set of revisiting the last couple days beforehand. This really helped to build momentum and also solidified my confidence that i was ready to move on. Sesame street is my new favourite drill to warm up with because you either get a laugh from the girl, or u can laugh at the girl for not getting the joke and taking you serious.
Finished within like 15 minutes. Easy if u get someone who doesnt have their hands full. Didnt feel like doing any other drills today, in a pretty shit mood. Met up with my fuck buddy last-night but i couldnt get it up. Not sure if its from finasteride (0.5mg pd), over training on my bathmate or just psychological- really really really sucks tho and is weighing on me. Glad i got a drill done today atleast.
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