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As previously posted, ive put aside 7 weeks where im not doing anything but AA drills 5 days a week. I will be aiming to finish 2 drills a day to a comfortable standard (wont rush to finish), and overall Hope to annihilate my AA before going back to uni. Already completed week 1 so ill be picking up at week 2. I havent created a tinder profile yet because i currently have 2 fuckbuddies so dont feel i have too high sexual dependence, however i plan to get some good pictures and create a profile eventually (lmk if u disagree with this logic). Look forward to whats ahead!
Did these drills today quite easily. Found the technique of getting in straight away without hesitation to be very helpful in getting the ball rolling. Completed within like 2 hours and left feeling as though i could conduct these drills comfortably on the majority of girls that passed me by. After a while i found myself bored/tired and didnt want to risk burning myself out within the first day, so bailed after completing day 10. Pleased with progress- definetly felt good social momentum and when leaving the mall felt very tempted to start approaching girls- wisely decided against for now. My favorite drill was asking people if they liked a restaurant when they said they hadnt been there. Creating that awkwardness was weirdly entertaining for some reason haha- found myself hoping theyd say they hadnt eaten there just to have the moment again.
Biggest learning lesson of today was not judging performance based on reaction. During my drills i hit a funk when a rude unattractive yoga mom just blew me off when i asked if she’d eaten at a nearby restaurant (just stared at me and kept walking). Instead of realising how lame that old bitch was i took it personally and let it effect me for the next couple approaches. After a while i regathered myself and started having fun again. Its funny the hotter girls gave me the best reactions while the washed up moms were always the rudest haha (not that reaction matter in the slightest). Instead of focusing on reaction, i enjoyed just reviewing my performance and congratulating myself regardless of outcome when i performed well.
So far so good! Will be back out again tomorrow, will try to log again soon. Cheers!
Finished these pretty easily again today within 2 hours of walking around the mall. A couple reactions i got from lame people almost threw me off my game, but was able to regather myself and finish strong and confidently. By the end i could legitimetly laughed when people would be rude and bar me off for asking the time. Idk it was amusing how lame/ uptight some of them could be. Two tips for guys doing these days. Firstly act interested when they tell you the time. I found when i brushed off the girls response and rushed to my next question, they often decided to keep walking and i wasnt able to get out all the steps within my rep. Also, for guys doing day 12, i found when i said “weird question, can you tell me where to buy a candle...” that the person also started walking away before i could finish, like i was trying to sell them something (mostly unattractive moms reacted this way haha). I found instead if you ask time, then say “i need your help real quick” and then begin the drill, girls were more receptive to what i had to say.
My biggest time waster today and yesterday has been giving up too many opportunitys to approach. For example i hate approaching old ladies, unattractive moms, busy people or ladies with their kids (throw in groups aswell depending on my momentum). If i wanted to im confident i could walk up to any of them and do the drill, however i find that id rather wait for better opportunitys where i think id enjoy the encounter more. Do you guys think this is a kind of AA in disguise, and do you think i should over come this by just running drills on every female that passes my vicinity?
Finally, a big realisation i had today that i want to document to remind myself later- girls dont always project their interest levels when you pass them by, so dont deny yourself before they even get the chance. I realised this when i would approach groups. At first i could always tell the bitchier less interested one just off their reaction, so i would instead focus my questioning to the more receptive one. However, once we got talking more often than not the seemingly disinterested one always became the more talkative and engaged of the pair, which just showed me she may have been to shy to otherwise indicate it beforehand. I observed the same pattern on solo girls as well- at first they avoided eye contact and seemed disinterest, however a lot of the time this was just a front they were putting up out of shyness. Very eye opening
Cool day. Left feeling empowered- performed final drill on two hotties, got a chuckle when telling them im the sweetest guy ever (not that reaction matters). Plenty of notes to look back on. Starting a tinder tonight- Chris’ audio convinced me of the value. Will be back out again tomorrow, les do it boys.
Day 13 drills were a breeze. Like all drills, at first it was weird just getting used to having new words come out of my mouth to strangers, but once I got in the rhythm it came very easily to me.
Day 14 drills were actually pretty challenging to me at first. I think firstly because I thought about it for longer than usual instead of just getting straight in. The biggest road block for me was not getting shut down or asking for a hi-5, i was just too concerned with everyone around seeing me just walking around only asking girls for hi-5s. This bothered me for a while (heard someone say to their friend “thats creepy”) and i was ready to call it quits for the day. Instead, i just forced my body to go through the motions , regardless of the crowds around me and quickly gained momentum to where i know longer cared if anyone saw me doing it. Who gives a fuck about hi-5s haha- seems kind of silly that someone would find it creepy- all my reactions were either very positive or just rude (just as entertaining).
Guys out there- push through your anxiety and just do the drill. Dont try to reason with it or out think it. Just. Do. The. Drill. Any excuse you have is AA in disguise. Expose yourself to the fear and realise u were making it all up.
Cool lesson for today was again i realised the people who denied me were actually amusing to me. It reflects their personal insecurity or them being too stuck up, so when they flat out denied me i couldnt help but make fun of the situation and chuckle to myself- oooo ur too good for a hi-5, that showed me!!
My plan is to revisit day 14 despite feeling comfortable, just to solidify the physical game/not giving a fuck what bystanders think. Back out again tomorrow will blog the results. Cheers boys!
Polished both within like an hour today. Not sure how fast i did the first couple sets but i know i got to a point where i couldnt get much faster, because i was comfortable literally asking every girl that passed me by. Ive been doing it in a crowded mall, i only timed once and recorded 2 minutes to completion. Im sure i did some sets faster and some slower, but all were done with the same amount of commitment and therefore i was happy to not necessarily be timing every single set. Lmk if u disagree
Today was quite effortless when i got on a roll, and at the same time i left feeling slightly down/uninspired. I think it has to do with having a late night last two nights with my fuckbuddy, meaning im sleep deprived and my desire to talk to women is less because my balls are empty haha.
Going to get a goodnights sleep tonight and open tomorrow with a quick set of speed hi-5s just to put the nail in the coffin- before moving onto day 16 & 17. Cheers
Day 16- Feel ALOT better about high fiving people and am alot better at not giving a fuck about other people seeing me. The stationary woman hi-5 felt cool today also because its starting to feel more like a real approach. You have to see the girl (make eye contact), stop what youre doing, walk over to her compose yourself and execute. Though its only a high five i really see how this mentality applies later on down the track. Wasnt able to complete challenge of hi-fiving girl with cigarette, nowadays its really hard to find someone smoking outside of a mall (in australia) because its illegal within a certain radius- didnt wanna spend too much time on it however this challenge will be something i keep in mind into the future though, if i see a bitch smoking she getting a hi-five.
Day 18- holy shit. I polished the abc exercise in like 10 minutes. Did an extra 2 sets just to be sure. That high five drill set me up to where i couldnt give a fuck if other people saw me. Powerful stuff. Hardest thing was just keeping the girl around long enough to finish the song. Other than that and the embarrassment u feel from acting like a jackass (easy to just laugh off), this drill was ALOT easier and more enjoyable than expected. Never felt more inspired about my progress and future trajectory.
Big question though. Im about to have my first weekend off (2 days in a row where ill be doing no drills.) How would you guys advise me to not lose this momentum, or how can i regather it quickly come monday? Do u think 2 days off is a big deal? Im happy to open monday with high fives or ABCs again if thats what it takes. Cheers boys, have a good weekend, see you monday!
Dude Im stuck on day 15, have been for 3 days now. I cant seem to shake the embarrassment. How tf do you just get 10 high fives in 2 minutes? Also, what do you say and how do you approach? I've been stopping girls by walking up while they are walking towards me and saying excuse me, high five. Get mixed reactions but mostly confused/scared. Do you walk around with a big grin or what? Hope your doing well, getting momentum back is easily done by just repeating some drills you feel comfortable with. I usually start asking time and then directions a couple a times but i want to start high fiving for momentum.
2 days off - you'll be fine. I took a few breaks during my AA journey, I think the longest was 4 days off in a row. You'll be a bit nervous on your first few girls, and you might pussy out a bit - that's fine. Just keep pushing until you do 1, then 2, then you'll be back to normal.
Arianke: You do it by just doing it. Yes, have a smile on your face but if you're too nervous to smile, doesn't matter. Stop thinking; your mission is to DO THE DRILLS, not to think. Be like a soldier in the military: You have a mission, and you will shut up and execute it.
I feel your pain man walking around the mall i just felt like everyone was staring at me thinking “what a weirdo, he’s probably getting off on this, stay away from him... Ooo he Just got rejected how embarrassing... This guy is pathetic he’s not worth my time... etc.” I completely agree with andy in that you literally just have to do it. You cant think your way out of it, the comfort comes from just doing it. When its hard it means that its working- youre beating your AA! Just think to yourself- if i make my body walk over to this girl, say “hi-five” and smile, my job will be done successfully and im closer to acheveing my goal. Its that simple! At the same time its challenging because its the only way- so just full steam ahead do it. You got this!
A BIG thing that helped me get over it also is on day 16 audio chris gives a great speech about making the challenge of the day to not give a fuck. Really internalise that. If you solely focus on your personal execution and make it a focus to not give a fuck about anyone else’s opinion- this challenge becomes alot easier and alot more rewarding. After enough reps it just becomes funny when you get rejected or judged- seriously! End of the day its a HIGH FIVE. Anyone who takes it to be more sinister or creepy than that is not worth your time bro.
You got this, make me proud!
Today was a success. Opened with high fives and a set of abc to build some momentum. Felt really uncomfortable doing the abcs but kind of expected it considering the two days off. Got through day 18 pretty easy no real anxiety when i decided to pull the trigger. Day 19 same thing, was pretty easy when i decided to actually execute. Got an amazing reaction from a solid 9/10 when i ran the drill on her in gay voice. She could tell i was putting it on even though i didnt break character, started laughing, eye contact and her face was lit up- she stuck around long enough for me to complete the drill. These small victories are always encouraging.
I need help!! Even though i got through these drills and can objectively say i performed well, my mood was off today and so i left feeling a little uninspired/unsatisified (especially with the abc drill). Even though i can do the abc drill, because my mood was just off today i really dreaded doing it- even more so than day 18 and 19 drills. I even tried to revisit it at the end of today but only got one set out. Do you guys think this is a sign that im not ready to move on and should focus on abc drill? Or do you think that its somthing that will never be totally comfortable and my mood (lack of sleep) was also a factor?
Will be out again tomorrow. Any advice/input is greatly appreciated.
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