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Walking out of the mall i approached a girl who i expected to reject me because she was out of my league (out of most guys league tbh). She was a solid 9- perfect body, cute face, good make up and was wearing a tight sexy short dress. Anyways i used the stock opener (know this is random thought u were cute i wanted to say hi). Straight away she started blushing, laughing and wiping tears away from her face. She said “omg im literally crying rn”. She was visibly overwhelmed and kept nervously laughing and turning away after everything i said. Got the number, its live. What the actual fuck just happen boys hahah. Speechless. Was having an average day but that really just turned my entire week around. Success! In the city tomorrow, going to try arrange a date tonight on tinder with a city girl. Cyas then
Completed the final 2 sets of day 50 today. Pleased to find I'm getting a lot better at just going right into the drill with no warm ups. I'll sit and procrastinate for a bit, but when I decide its time to start it takes me like 3 reps to get into the swing. Started day 51. Was pretty straight forward got 1 set done of that before I had to leave. Somewhat easy, the part where you have to keep asking what the girl said is a little uncomfortable. It feels like the interaction looses its charm and feels like im harassing the girl in a way. Not gonna argue just gonna do the damn drill hahah.
Once id run out of time I decided to approach a girl. She was clearly nervous but I felt super comfortable and confident because I saw she was nervous and she was a little below my league. Really proud of the small talk I made and how comfortable I felt during the exchange. Got the number its live but she went cold on me- probably too shy I think. My goal again when getting these numbers is to organise a date for exposure. Yet to be successful. I really want a practice girl before I try to go on a date with the hottie from yesterday. Will persist on tinder but so far no takers haha.
Drill 51b finished-
Super nervous at start for some reason. Got good reactions and the confidence just carried over into every interraction, ended up having quite a fun time. The final set took like 30 minutes though which sucked. I think i was being too picky and all the cute girls in position to be approached were no where to be found.
Walking out i only approached 1 girl- got her number its live. Held good convo about what she does and what shes up to today. Stoked with my progress on holding convo and asking for number.
After 2 sets of approaching i had what i thought was my fuck it moment. I wrote the following in my notes. I ended up finishing the drill which im glad i did-
I just drilled a cute girl who was my type and she was receptive. Unfortunately i was doing the drill so i had to ask “what did you say” 3 times- leaving her thinking im a weirdo. This drill is gay. I dunno if this is creative aversion but i dont want to do this drill anymore- im ready to go hit on girls. I can already tell im going to hate tomorrows drill too haha. What should i do? Stick it out and finish week 7 or embrace this fuck it feeling and go hit on girls forreal?
Out again tomorrow. Any input on the “fuck it” moment will be appreciated. Cheers boys
Got four sets done today within a limited time frame. Not alot to report on, got pretty puzzled reactions but for the most part didnt find the drill hard. Kind of in a down mood today. I think it has something to do with starting finasteride again around a week ago. Not necessarily depressed just doubting myself, lacking motivation and questioning the point of everything. Going to stop again, get more extensive blood work and see if i can make supplemental adjustments to optimise my hormones. Will finish tomorrow and move onto 53. Cyas then
I have a question for the experienced guys out there. Ive come a long way with beating my AA the last couple months, but im afraid it wont be applicable in my life. To beat AA ive been drilling exclusively in the city or at a major mall, both 60-90 minutes away from my home town. I did this because i didnt wanna get a jackass reputation where i live, and also to remove any outcome dependancy. Now, as i near the end of this journey im worried that ill still be too nervous to approach girls in my home town because im afraid to get a ‘creep’ or ‘weirdo’ reputation. I know this is silly but even after drilling today and returning home i thought “right now i should be able to pull up to that grocery store and if i see a cute girl, i should be able to approch her”. The thought repulsed me and i was filled with anxiety.
Granted, this may be a result of my general bad mood today which i hope is caused by restarting finasteride. But, that being said, im still yet to have approached any girls in my home town and the ramification of doing so has been a concern for some time.
If anyone who has dealt with this could help me out or if anyone has advice to overcome this, itd be super appreciated. Cheers guys <3
Guess it depends on how big or small your home town is, but generally, any fears you have of gaining a "reputation" you can pretty confidently dismiss.
The number of guys who've come here and had fears of garnering a reputation for being "that creep" numbers in the thousands, and includes myself. The number of reputations actually gained in reality is holding steady at about 0.
The way to get over it? Just go out and approach. Yea, you might be nervous since it's a new environment, but you were nervous at the start of the AA program and look how far you've come. Plus, while yea the stuff the AA program has you doing is definitely a little 'weird', telling a girl she's cute and asking her out isn't weird at all, people do it all the time. As long as you're respectful and at least somewhat polite, no reasonable person would even think it's that weird, certainly not enough for you to get any sort of rep.
That said, I would probably move to a bigger city if you can. If your home town is small enough that you have fears of gaining a rep, then it probably isn't big enough.
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Hey, don't be disheartened about it. I see you're on day 52. The thing about beating AA is that it is essentially learning a skill. If you stop practicing it, even for a year or two, of course your skills will rust. If it makes you feel better, it took me about a year(and years of contemplating beating AA and not doing anything about it) before the first time I was able to consistently approach. I'm in a smaller town too, so I haven't stuck with it long enough, but every time I try to get back to it, I can consistently start approaching again within 2 weeks or so. Also, consider my background, I went through a period in my life suffering through crippling anxiety and panic attacks, so I'd consider myself as one of the harder cases, hell I still have AA. So your experience trying to get back to approaching may be less stressful.
@Torroidal, dude, I wish that had been written in fine print somewhere, that you have to be in a major metropolitan area for best results.
Alright i live in a college town so everyone knows everyone. It's weird but i prefer everyone knowing me then being in a big city and no one knowing me. People hate me but honestly if people hate you it means your special.
Obviously not everyone but people. If the idea of getting a rep bothers you then yeah be careful. The idea of me having arep bothered me for a long time but I'm learning to accept it.
Last year i almost got into a fight with 15 guys it was pretty sweet. I stood them all down
But i want to rule my stomping grounds it's weird. Then move onto big cities. I without a doubt have a rep but I'm learning to accept it because if i can beat the anxiety in my home town i can beat it anywhere. Like zero anxiety in cities but in my home town it was bad.
But one night i saw one of the 15 guys and hit on a girl in front of him and knew i didn't need to worry anymore.
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When i think about it, moving to a city makes alot of sense for me and what im trying to accomplish. The town i live in isnt small (the population is about 300,000), but its super spread out and theres no real cbd or busy areas i would be visiting going about everyday life. My goal isnt to be going out of my way to do approaches, i just want to be able to do so when the opportunity arises and still remain somewhat anonymous. Moving may do wonders for my everyday life but at the same time its a massive leap to make on a hunch. Im also worried that by the time i do move all this progress will be gone
That being said, im going to finish out this program- i made the commitment so im gonna see it through. Then im going to look at my hometown life as if i can move away so why the fuck not atleast try approaching. Im also gonna become more involved in online dating because there is definitely benefit to be had.
Thanks everybody. Im out tomorrow ill see everyone then
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