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"maintain that frame"? Dude, you're not a robot, stop trying to be cold and confident. Read this and stop trying to be perfect:
You're nervous; that's fine. Give yourself permission to suck at this, and go on a date with this hot girl. If you're nervous and it's awkward, who gives a shit - we were all nervous and awkward at the start.
Face your fears, don't try to skirt around them. Run direct towards them.
Day 45 finished
Monday today so nerves were abit high coming in. Also took acid on weekend and brain still abit foggy and kinda dreaded coming into today. However noticed my recovery time getting alot stronger. After like 4 warmup appraoches (telling girls they are cute) i gained enough momentum to start. Definetly still bitching out but was comfortable enough to start drilling. Groups were hard to come by but thankfully got them done (just). Was running day 43 throughout today also between groups. Happy to be back on the horse after being so stale and dreading this morning. Will revisit day 45 tomorrow when i get the chance when passing groups. Day 46 tomorrow!! Yew Cyas then!
Day 46 finished
No warmup today just straight into it. After like 2 reps this stuff was super easy. Feels worlds more natural and comfortable than asking for a high five or some of that funny guy shit. At first it felt like any other drill then like halfway through i realised what i was actually doing and how comfortable it felt. I got hit with a great sense of pride and confidence in myself. Walking down the street i was approaching girls and i didnt care who saw me or the reactions i recieved. Hard to put into words but it just really affirmed what ive been working for. Did the hand holding challenge and also held convos after asking wat theyre up to. This really solidified it for me- what im working towards im actually fucking achieving! Finished in like an hour.
Walking out i felt like i had a superpower or somthing. Every girl i passed i saw it as another opportunity to go get a number or a date or just an opportunity to chat with a hotty. It was like an invisible barrier had come down and the whole world opened up infront of me. I approached some hotty as i was leaving and she was visibly more nervous than i was and showed definite interest. This stuff is crazy. Got to my car and had a little celebration to myself. Really savouring this- i think ill remember that feeling forever.
Going to do day 46 again tomorrow to solidify my comfort and will attempt the hand holding challenge throughout. Cya tomorrow guys
Only got 1 set done and did like 5 of the final rep extra. Went to the same mall ive gone to the past 5 weeks. Really starting to dislike it and i cant help but think im hitting on the same girls ive done. Everyone i pass that gives me a weird look or stares a little i just assume i mustve done a drill on them haha. Think im done here for a while
Really unmotivated and dis-interested today. I think its due to lack of sleep, getting laid lastnight with fuckbuddy, and just being over the mall. In the city tomorrow where i think ill just move onto day 48. Going to end the day with atleast 1 real approach. Cyas then
Day 48 finished
Felt comfortable today. City feels alot more anonymous and im alot less outcome dependant i think. Finished day 48 within like 1hr with little to no struggle. When finished i felt great. Did 6 real approaches to get numbers but no luck. Only got to ask 2 girls for their numbers everyone else said they had bfs straight away. Ive gotten alot of numbers in my life before and the rejections werent bad or embarrassing so im not discouraged whatsoever. Actually feels fucking amazing. When im in momentum i can definetly make approaches, the problem is now holding the convo. Holding conversation i think will be the next challenge for me to overcome which again will just come with experience from dates and approaches.
*Learning lesson for today that i want to look back on*-
At the start of my drilling I always feel a little uncomfortable and start thinking to myself “oh no i havent be thorough with my days and i shouldve taken my time this is moving too quickly”. But after literally 2-3 reps I become comfortable as fuck and realise im right where i want to be. THIS IS MY DAILY STRUGGLE THOUGH. I constantly forget that I cant out think AA I just have to experience it to overcome it. I also discovered that i pretty much now have the choice wether or not i want to act anxious. Days im most anxious are the days i forget that ive done this all before and i that i CAN choose not to be anxious.
Out tomorrow, cya then boys!
This one took a long time today. Wasnt too hard or scary i think i was just being too picky with the girls i drilled. I was low on sleep and got laid last night so probably just had less urgency than usual. The first arm squeeze was a little awkward i just leaned in squeezed and walked away ahah. I eventually learned how to work it in smoothly. Repeated 5 times for a total of 20 reps. Not one bad reaction even when girls weren’t necessarily interested they still didnt flip out or anything. Was expecting atleast one girl to overreact like i was trying to kidnap her or something haha (theres always one). I think i want to work this technique into my real approaches so i will probably use the arm squeeze in my next couple drills just to make it a little more challenging and solidify my confidence with it.
Ran out of time to do real approaches today but will be on the lookout over the weekend. Cyas all monday
Was super nervous coming into today for some reason. Think ive been overthinking my results lately and also wasnt excited to return to the mall i usually drill at. Hit on a bunch of tinder chicks before starting- actually really did take my outcome dependence away. This drill was pretty simple. I was super clunky at first and didnt warm up just jumped straight in. I found it hard to be vulnerable as this drill asks and brush it off when someone was rude to me. I kinda felt needy when doing it too- did get easier tho. Got 4 sets done because the mall was super quiet. Chris asks for 3 repeats w total of 18 reps so i assume he meant 6 repeats- will finish tomorrow.
Missed opportunity/ learning lesson-
My current focus alongside approaching is to try and get a date for exposure therapy. I did a drill on a super cute girl that is definetly my type. Straight away she lit up and told me im cute too without me asking. Ran the drill and complimented her shoes (genuinely). She said she liked my entire look was super lit up, happy and basically was obviously ready to exchange numbers. I was a little nervous because how attractive she was and how perfect the situation was (stupid i know) so i just ejected. She looked super confused and disappointed. Im so angry just writing this right now. From this moment on opportunitys like that arent going to pass me by. What the FUCK was i thinking. Ive heard chris talk about a missed opportunity thats sticks with him to this day and using it as a learning experience. This is definetly my learning experience. I know its only one girl but just the principle is killing me. Im looking for dates, a perfect opportunity presented itself with the perfect girl and i ejected. NEVER AGAIN boys.
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