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I can do it on non-attractive girls. but the momentum I gained with this didn't help to do the drills on attractive girls. |
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I think you should get in to a see a psychotherapist!
You've put a really, really good effort in. WAY more than I was expecting when I asked. You're obviously tough and dedicated. Respect. But, I think you may have something deeper going on. Not being able to ask an attractive girl for the time, after 10+ attempts is definitely MORE anxiety than is normal or healthy. Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
So long, and thanks for all the fish! |
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I couldn't do drills on attractive girls unti like 20 days into the program. Start doing it on *any* girls, and when you're about 10 days in, start hitting on a few "cute" girls. 5 days later, do some "very cute" girls. Eventually do "hot/sexy" girls too.
One step at a time. Andy / 32yo / Australia
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I think therapy could help. Sometimes things in our past hold us back and it's not always immediately obvious and sometimes an outsider who isn't emotionally tied to it can lend ideas.
It's funny i would have more anxiety asking 5 girls in front of eachothers what time it is than asking out 5 girls all in front of eachothers and getting rejected. But one of them i have done the other i haven't. Another thing is to not think about it but to just do it. Easier said then done. But if you just think your asking for the time the fact she's attractive had no bearing could help. But it's much easier said then done. But you are trying harder than hell. Till the end of 2020
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Respect on trying this hard. That’s a lot of anxiety though man. I actually would go see a therapist or something.
If it helps, i felt the first drill was probably the “hardest.” Once you get it down, moving up the program becomes easier.
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Update?
Andy / 32yo / Australia
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I've been seeing a therapist for the last 4-5 months (not because of this issue, but we talk about this) And I'm considering starting a second therapy that specializes in phobias / social anxiety. Funny thing is... my anxiety is more like an avoidance syndrome. It's so shitty. You know what else is funny, I just started doing salsa classes... and I'm not feeling ANY anxiety or nervousness or anything when dancing with girls... so wtf? (but hey, if I have to go to any of these girls and talk to them with the intention of dating/getting laid... I don't think I can't do it, haven't tried yet)
that's very interesting, I haven't thought about this approach. --- so, you wanted an update. I took 2-3 days off and went back to it... but I'm still stuck. The moment I see an opportunity to do the drill, my mind and body go full "avoidance mode" and I just lose it. I'm going to try doing drills on not attractive girls, maybe that helps... |
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Hit me up for coaching, man. $25 for your first 30min session. You don't have to see me more than once if money is tight. There's something wrong here, but none of us can pinpoint it without talking to you for a bit. PM me.
If you don't want to do that, then just ask ANYONE - man, woman, ugly woman, etc - for the time. Repeat that 30 times. Report back. Andy / 32yo / Australia
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Andy has some great advice there.
Another option is to bring a buddy with you (one who is a freak like us) and do it together. The rules of the AA program require you to complete each drill alone, for obvious reasons. However, if you need a boost to get to the point where you can do that, I see no reason why you can't bring a friend and turn it into a fun thing. Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
So long, and thanks for all the fish!
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So I managed to do time+directions.
Didn't have anxiety in the sense of "oh my stomach hurts, oh I'm sweating, oh I can't think clearly". However, I had the thought of "doing this is weird". And it's the same thought I have whenever I want to approach a girl and set my intentions straight, I find it like it's weird! But hey, at least is something. I did on a variety of women, so no qualms there.
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Yes it's fucking weird talking to strangers. Most people don't do it. But we're not here to be "most people" - we're here to be exceptional people.
Keep pushing. Andy / 32yo / Australia
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Hey man I've had the exact same issue as you. Even though I've been on more than 200 online dates, banged enough women for it not to be a major issue and work a pretty social job, it took me 5 HOURS to complete the first drill and even that was extremely difficult. I don't have a solution to offer you I'm afraid. Some people's brains are just wired differently. Many PUA guys can just spam approach women because they don't seem to have been born with the same inhibitory mechanisms in the brain that we have. Have you found the therapy helped at all? |
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