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Is your mission to not make an ass of yourself? Or is the mission to just do the drills?
What helped me with the AA Program was thinking of myself as a private in the army, or a robot. I'd tell myself constantly, "Your mission is NOT to think. Your mission is to shut the fuck up and DO THE DRILLS."
Stop thinking mate. Tell yourself to shut the fuck up, and do what you're told.
It's the worst week of the program, in my opinion. But, that's kind of the point. By the time you finish it, you'll be so fucking sick of acting like a clown that you'll be ready to do more serious drills.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
Thanks guys! Went out today and completed the drill. Had Abit more dialogue, did the Arnold drill with the game being super super high five. Was a lot fun, I even did the drill on one girl that I ran the Arnold drill on before and she recognized me hehe
I've got a bad cold right now but I might go out later tonight for the hit and run drill
Today was a good day, finished day 32 with ease. Started by only walking up to unattractive/older girls, all of them have terrible responses. When I forced myself to walk up to actually pretty girls I felt a lot better and got some compliments back even.
I haven't forgotten about day 30 and 31. I'm saving 30 for the end of this week as I can't go out to a club or bar because of my job (usually I wake up at 5 am). Doing shit at bars and clubs aren't that difficult for me since Im a really social drunk but also kind of an asshole
Anyways I've started seeing a pattern, whenever I do need drills the first 2 sets always give me bad reactions. I'm fairly sure my body language is nervous and I usually dart my eyes around or make weird hand movements. But as soon as I take time to "ground my self" and regain composure all of the interactions feel like the girl wants to fuck me right away. They keep staring into my eyes waiting for me to make a move
Been a long week, I've started spending a lot of time and energy getting my income right to allow me to improve my style and get my own place, I've also started dieting and spending more time and the gym since about 3 weeks ago. All to further my success with girls but it's taking a toll on my AA drills. Yesterday I barely had any energy to go out, I forced myself today and got day 33 done but it didn't feel right. Most of the girls I stopped where halfway walking away when I gave them the compliment
The diet and exercising together with work is leaving my exhausted by the end of the day, I thought I could manage it all and still do the drills everyday but I'm not so sure anymore. Im thinking of doing drills on Friday to Sunday only and leave the rest of the week for my other goals or is that too little exposure therapy?
Definitely not a good idea, in my opinion. Slowing down now will probably lead you to quit.
Never seen someone finish the program like that. Not saying it’s literally impossible, but doing it that way means you’re getting a small fraction of the experience per week.
Plus, it’ll make the program much harder. You’ll have all week to let your anxiety build back up.
This isn’t something you would do if beating AA was your #1 priority. It’s something you would do if you “kinda want to beat AA”, which probably isn’t going to lead to success in something as challenging as this program.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
Day 34 (Valentine's day) Was out for 3 hours today but couldn't find any girls that were alone, the few ones I found were far in between and were all older women. Maybe it's cause it's Valentine's day or whatever. Tried the drill on a girl with her boyfriend, needless to say they did not like it, approached a couple of groups of girls but couldn't bring myself to it. I'm thinking too much again, need to ready my mind to the "don't give a fuck mentality" each time I go out. Gonna retry tomorrow!
Day 34 complete, I have no idea how I managed to complete this day, feöt so strange singing baba phone on the Streets. I even approach a girl that was eating a banana and it made the whole thing funnier. Gonna go out tonight and hopefully complete day 30.
Day 30 complete, was tired as fuck today so just did the drills and then bailed. Easy calling girls cute after a couple of beers, especially since the clubs I go to for the frillsy generally have younger less attractive girls than I'm used to.
Day 31. Up until this day I would say the high five drill was probably the hardest for me, the super high five was also difficult but I got past it way quicker than high-fiveing 10 girls is 5 minutes.
I would say I've come pretty far, I can easily Walk up to most girls and to random shit/ say stupid shit, although I still won't do it to the hottest girls. Im both looking forward to actually approaching and yet pretty nervous about it, but I know now that doing shit that scares me is what makes me feel alive so even if I fall of or it takes me longer than other guys I'm going to keep at it.
I will note that doing this stuff was a lot easier when I wasn't working 9 to 5, I often feel too tired to keep my head up and stay positive and have the mindset to approach girls. At the end of the day I'm often very tired. Could have something to do with my knee injury z having constant pain is really tiring. I'm having surgery in about six weeks, hopping it'll set me right
Day 33 revisisted and Day 35a. Only had about an hour for drills today plus it was kind of difficult finding girls my age. No bad bad reactions only laugh's and confusion, continuing tomorrow but think I'll use direction in stead of time since most girls don't even stop to tell the time they just half walk while they tell the time
Think I need to go to a store to do day 36 since I noticed it was kind of difficult keeping girls from continuing to walk when I do goofy shit
Day 35b, today went good. Redid the entire sets to really feel comfortable but the bro talk didn't really work in my language. Fun excercise but don't think I'll be using this approach much more. Having some difficulty getting the mindset of my compliments meaning something. I want to have the "frame" of "I'm cooler than u and am making u feel good because I can" but it keeps coming off as validation seeking. Maybe it's just my mindset that needs to change.
Tomorrow and Friday I'm doin super nice guy, hoping to build that mindset then
I've struck a bad case acne right now, don't know if it's tress or my new diet but from my past drills I haven't had many "good experiences", confidence it quite low so I'm holding off for a couple of days/ a week till it dies down
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