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First day of drills boys. There's a bridge I cross to get from work to home. There's a lot of tourists and people relaxing so it seems easier than the streets of NYC (to the point it feels like cheating). I asked for the time 5 times. I had to really force myself to do the last 4 because the end of the bridge was coming up. Felt great when I was done.
Notes: I find it difficult to approach girls with boyfriends, I let those by the most.
Online: I got a few numbers off Hinge but no replies when I text. Just have to do it more I guess + text more promptly (I usually put it off to the day after).
Style: I dress pretty plain, especially at work. My coworker calls me uniqlo ):
Tried some clothes. Any of these working?
Thanks for the feedback Gravy! Lol yeah it is silly, probably comes from the 'all or nothing' mindset. I'm in NYC.
Similar feelings/pace as yesterday. Didn't do the second group much faster than the first one, but I think that was more of a volume problem on the bridge today.
Online: I switch up between trying to get the number fast and being conversational, because when I push things fast I get no replies. Maybe I'm wasting my time, and I just need to up my volume? I'll share my profile in the next post.
Day 6 - Yesterday
Drill is to ask time, directions, have you been there.
There’s no landmarks to ask about on the bridge, so I’m asking for where Manhattan is like a fucking idiot. Some girls started laughing. I thought it was funny too.
Same deal, but "get in there" this time. One girl looked me up and down and said "no", quickly leaving.
I’m realizing negative thoughts build up pretty fast when I let girls pass by. Doing the set dispels the negativity but it builds up pretty quickly afterwards.
I also feel bad when a girl who is holding her phone or wearing a watch will say "no" and walk past. I know this shouldn't affect me though, because it says more about her than me.
Online: This is pretty exciting for me. Friday night was my first online date and first online lay. I had a realization: game is bullshit. I didn't do anything. It was the girl wanting sex + me sending out a lot of messages the previous week + logistics working out + me being relatively normal. (Kind of the GLL formula, without the style and aggression I want to develop in the future) I asked her when she decided she was going to sleep with me, she said something like: "Well there's a baseline level of attractiveness...and then you were sensible..."
Thoughts A problem for me is complacency - whenever getting laid in the past I stop trying completely and then lose and progress I've made building towards it. So this is all the more motivation to continue these drills.
Drill is time, directions, have you been there, do you like it.
Hey dudes. Hope all is well with your money and women goals.
This was my first stumbling block. I'm frustrated with myself, and feel like I'm going backwards. I've tried three times so far:
First time, during lunch at work. This is my first time doing the drills in the city as opposed to on a bridge with lots of tourists. I felt incredibly weird building up to the "do you like it." Got to 1 set, felt deflated and stopped.
Second attempt, in a crowded space. A girl gave me a super big frown even before I asked the question, and looked at me weirdly the whole time, which shook me up. Stopped after that.
Third attempt was tonight. I went to a livelier place (more people chilling, less people straight out of work), got to 3 sets of 4. Much happier with my performance, but it did take me an hour and a half. I've been working on my style (boots, skinny jeans, the whole shebang) and got a few looks from girls which helped with doing the drills A LOT. I dread the "do you like it" because it seems so out of place. I know the drills ramp up far far beyond this, so I gotta be better with the social discomfort.
Completed it this time. It took a freakin' long 1 hour 50 minutes but I'm ecstatic to finish. There was a girl that looked to the side and edged away when I asked "did you like it?" because she thought I was hitting on her.
After that, things seemed a lot easier. So much of my hesitance comes from being afraid of girls thinking I'm hitting on them. But even if they do, and they leave, it's not such a terrible feeling at all.
And that's the whole point. To be able to hit on hot girls. So why am I so afraid?
Drill is time, have you been to a restaurant, did you like it.
Took 50 minutes to do 15, which is longer than I would have liked. Felt easier than Day 8. A girl kept on staring (confusion? Attraction?) after I asked her the last question. I wanted to turn that into an approach but Rules.
Trying to forget about being likable or smooth. 4/5 girls hadn't been to the restaurant so there were a bunch of odd moments, which I felt good about after I left the interaction.
Thoughts. I might redo this day. Still a lot of hesitation, passing by girls that are really hot and pairs of girls.
Drill is time, is there a movie theater nearby, have you seen any good movies lately.
I’m happy. I did this day in 20 minutes, it felt significantly easier than the past two days.
I think it’s a combo of:
- On Sunday people are just happier
- I did a lot of them in a food market, everyone is chilling
- I’m trying to do them faster, I have more momentum
- I had some positive reactions to start, with good eye contact. I’ve been cutting and I picked up a leather jacket, here’s a pic
A girl was super flustered when I asked her if she had seen any good movies which was cute. Looking forward to tomorrow
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