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Made my OKCupid profile today. It took a bit long to set up, especially profile photos. I don't really have a lot of good photos. I used photofeeler instead of hotornot to rate my profile pics.
I thought I have to play Double Take forever for any like to come up until I discovered the Browse Match function. I will probably start messaging tomorrow but i guess it's enough for today. I didn't know what to write for summary about myself so I just copied Rooster. Anyways here is my profile link:
No- don't match with anyone on OkCupid. Go into "currently online" and message every single girl who's currently online with a copy-paste message. Your conversation will go something like:
"You're cute. I'm Radical. Watcha up to?"
"Cool, I'm (whatever you're doing). What do you like to do for fun?"
"Nice, I'm into (your hobbies). What part of town are you from?"
"Cool, I'm from (your suburb). You seem cool, we should grab a drink. What's your number?"
So there was this girl (about an 8 or 9) whom I messaged on hotornot (not sure why I'm still swiping that app). Everything went well and she seemed horny (even flashed her private nude photos with a dildo up her ass). Until I broke Rule 3 by Rooster (Don't act too serious). She asked me whether I did it raw before; I told her too risky, I didn't want kids. Then she stopped talking to me. And it dawned on me later in the day how desperate and un-chilled I was at this first encounter.
But I need to move on and learn anyways so that's good. I might need to remind myself consistently from now on that for every failed encounter, I would not have gained the experience had I not started this journey.
I decided to give up on video games from today onward too. With a full-time job, gym, dance, piano practice, and this assignment, texting girls, I am completely swamped. My life will be a game instead. And I find this game much more interesting.
So nothing much for the assignment today. I just approached five young women, asked the time, and left. Totally uneventful.I noticed that I was picking targets however. I was secretly wanting to see some 'odd' girls who would refuse to tell me the time in action, but nope, didn't happen.
But I have some noticeable improvement at my yoga class today. I felt much lighter moving through poses. It's very surreal. I also enjoyed the cypher session with my dancer peeps greatly. Looking forward to tomorrow!
Not much for today either, so I pretended that it was a time-attack event. I finished my first set in the morning in 20 minutes and my second set in the evening in 4 minutes. Pretty sure that I can't beat the guy who was under 2 minutes though -- that was madness!
I want to clarify what happened to you with the girl who was sending nudes:
You didn't scare her off by telling her you use condoms.
What happened was she is the type of girl who likes to talk dirty and then not actually meet up, and you ruined the fantasy lmao.
She wasn't gonna meet up to fuck in the first place, usually girls who are actually dtf are NOT the ones sending you pics of dildos on their ass. The girls that send you graphic photos tend to be the ones who enjoy the fantasy online, like exchanging pics and talking dirty etc. but not meeting in real life.
If she had actually been down to fuck, she would have thought "oh good, he takes care of himself and probably doesn't have any STDs".
Nothing much happened today too. It actually felt like 'business as usual': I just walked up to women who seemed not to be occupied with anything in particular, looked bored, swiped their phones, etc. I was not picking my targets that much either.
There was one cute girl who even pulled out her phone and tried to look for direction to 'help' me, though I was quite sure she was faking it because the location I was asking was a very well-known shopping mall that was only about 500 meters away. She even threw an excuse that she was "not very good with direction". I literally asked her whether I should walk left or right, and she couldn't even tell me that! To be honest I had to hold my laughter in at that moment...
Today did feel harder than Day 6, simply because I was trying to go by the 'GET IN THERE' mindset. I was stopping girls left and right while they were on their move, and while some simply just ignored me and walked by, some looked at me like i were the weird freak who was going to rape them or try to sell them something. It was hard once or twice to even hold them down to ask for directions. For those failed cases, I simply moved on and tried again, all because I wanted to complete the set. I noticed that my state was a little down today, feeling a little tired, and that might have affected my performance. I think girls actually notice this (can someone confirm?) as it might affect the tone of my voice or something.
I will count the failed cases as victory as well. It's not the end of the world if I got turned down even if it's just to ask girls some simple questions, without any other intent. But I think this is important to realize because I used to think too much about the negative outcomes during social interaction. Even if it's 'negative', it's still better than 'unknown', which is not very useful.
I walked a lot today, because of the last set of 4. A number of girls said they haven't been to said locations before, so I couldn't ask whether they liked it. And it felt really weird when I asked them if they liked the lecture theater (i was walking around campus), it took a moment for them to think. It was hilarious now that I think about it. Really though, I walked so much that I just wanna say screw it i'm gonna ask her whether she likes it or not, without caring about her previous answer.
I also noticed that it seemed to be harder with hotter girls, some of them looked at me with either a serious or uninterested face. Could be that i tensed up a little when asking them the questions. Maybe I should try to relax and smile? I don't know, it's harder than it sounds... because the smile and the tone of my voice will feel forced.
Anyways, I'm glad that i completed the day. Even with failed ones, my mindset was that I just want to 'finish the mission'. Also, I took solid, quantifiable actions that will make my social life better.
What a day! I started the set at a popular shopping mall in town and things didn't go smoothly even when I just asked for the time. I was not sure what was happening until I notice some women just quickly looked me up and down and then ignored/avoided my approach. I was dressing all hobo-style. And probably not the 'cool' hobo type, but more like the sloppy hobo type. So I went to a clothes store and picked up a pair of new pants. Tbh i was needing new pants anyways but... the important thing is that right after putting on the new pants I looked completely different (well, not exactly, but at least not sloppy). First lesson of the day: dress properly when leaving the house. And no more buying new confidence-boosting pants while on assignment any more, because it feels like cheating.
I got really down when I got to the 2nd and 3rd set though, which I had to ask whether the girl likes the place to eat. I got so obsessed with getting a 'yes' that I forgot the purpose of the exercise: no matter the outcome, keep to the game plan. Fortunately, after getting 3 yes for the 3rd set, I realized this mistake, and restarted the set. With renewed confidence, and new pants, I crushed the 3rd set. I've never felt so free and happy socially in my life. My old way of thinking (waiting for permission/green light to proceed) has suffocated my social life and in today's exercise, it made me miserable one whole morning and made the exercise much harder for me. Once I recognized this mentality, and let it go, everything went MAGICALLY well: no pressure, everything was relaxed, I didn't need to please anyone, I didn't need anyone's permission. Just fuck it all. I just do whatever the fuck I want, because fuck the 'rules'.
In other news, I've been texting this girl I approached at the gym. She seemed nice, and we even had a lunch together. But I was a huge pussy and never dared to touch her. Several days ago I quipped something a long the line of I was too busy looking at her ass that I forgot to look at her face, and she didn't reply. So today at the gym I asked her about it, and she said it was 'weird'. I teased that she was just shy, but didn't initiate any kino, even though the moment felt right. Welp, probably I've been conditioned so much that the 'rules' are still binding me, even though I said 'fuck the rules'. I think the problem with me is not about how to kino, but more of the mentality.
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