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Listened to the 15 minute message from GLL, made an account on the forum, introduced myself on the forum, signed approach anxiety petition, made a dating profile on okcupid according to the Rooster guide.
Day 2: Made my journal post and relistened to the 6 minute message
* Listened to GLL's 15 minute message
* Remade my pof profile that pof keeps deleting. I think they think I'm a spammer or something because I end up messaging girls very quickly so I'm not messaging any girl on it today. Because of this I had to settle with my okcupid profile. Which is what I don't want to use since you have to have a mutual match before they receive your message. Did 30 minutes of messaging girls I didn't even match with.
* Listened to GLL's voice message
* Went to the mall and asked 7 girls for the time. I noticed that the girls looked taken aback when I would ask. I think I was phrasing it weird so I changed the way I asked to be friendlier and got more willing to help responses rather than nervous ones.
* Listened to DLL day 5 message
* Went to the same mall and asked five girls for the time. Went much smoother than yesterday. Got it done in about 10 minutes.
* Took a break to buy a new pair of shoes then asked 5 more girls (a couple of them were walking with another female friend) for the time faster. I did it in about two minutes this time. First girl told me it was 2:10, last girl told me it was 2:12. Much better than yesterday.
* Listened to DLL day 6 message.
* Did the drill as instructed at the same mall. Did 5 sets of 3 girls asking for the time, then another asking the time plus directions to the movie theater, then another asking the time plus directions plus how the theater was and if they'd been there.
I was anxious about this one on the drive there more than any other. Mainly because I don't wanna be the guy who imposes demands on a stranger. But one thing I noticed was that generally the hot girls who are used to getting attention were very willing to help and even seemed down to have a conversation (I didn't). It was the more decent looking chicks that gave me the nervous/lemme exit outta this ASAP vibe. It makes sense. Hotter girls tend to be more social and aren't gonna be a deer in the headlights when you ask them basic questions.
Good day. I'm anticipating the honeymoon phase to end and then we'll see what I'm really made out of.
* Listened to GLL daily voice cast
* Went to the mall right after work and talked to the first woman I saw once I was in the mall.
This was an unexpectedly fun day. I say unexpectedly because I was tired as hell after work (I work a job as a set up guy for a hotel, laying down all the chairs, tables, dance floor, etc. for whatever event they have planned. It's like running a light marathon with a lot of lifting involved). After I finished I wasn't motivated to go AT ALL. Halfway through my day I was like "Fuck my life....I don't feel like it at all today". But I knew objectively that that thought was just an in the moment thing of fatigue after I'd been lifting chairs and tables for a few hours. I went straight to the mall after work. Got the drill done. I'm getting comfortable looking girls right in the eyes and I'm noticing that they're a lot more nervous than I am. Food for thought.
Edit: This was a half ass post. I'm gonna elaborate. When I was walking on the parking lot I saw two old muslim bitches walking with bags. They look like they barely spoke english so I just said "Fuck it, next woman you see, GET IN THERE". I was telling myself over and over get in there. It worked very well on the last woman I spoke to. She was a high strung older lady and I think speaking to her was actually more valuable than talking to the hotties. She was very eager to get out of the conversation. As soon as I asked her the time she looked like a deer in the headlights. She gave me the time. Before I could even get my next sentence out she was walking away quickly. I told her "Hold on, I got another question for you." And she reluctantly stopped and looked ready to dash off again. I made sure I asked her where the amc theater was and if she'd been there. She told me what she knew and I said thanks and went off. This interaction stuck with me the most because that's the one where I got in there the most.....even though it was an older chick. It never ceases to amaze me how much more friendly hot girls are than regular girls. I'm starting to go for them more. One part that I was unhappy with was there was this hot chick that was walking by me, but I didn't stop and ask her the time or directions like I was supposed to because there was this cluster of people she was walking with (not like she was part of the group, just happened to be a bunch of people walking together at the same time and I didn't wanna follow her. I just figured I'd move on to the next chick).
* Listened to daily DLL
* Went up to over 16 women and did the drill and LEFT.
This was a tough day. Mainly because my performance sucked AND the reactions sucked. The second girl I talked to was young looking but I figured "Hey, no harm in asking the time". She looked like a deer in the headlights, this already fucked with me a bit, but her father then walked by and tapped her on the shoulder and directed her away from me. Embarrassed I said "Sorry" and he just relied "It's okay". I already wasn't feeling today because I was going to do this right after work....and I just wanted to get the fuck out of work. I carried that same mentality to these drills. Don't get me wrong, I still did the drills. BUT, after that incident I was hesitating. I was in my own head now on top of the crappy attitude I already had going in. I would see girls and let them walk by because I was scared of another embarrassment like with that guy. A few of the girls I would talk to, they were trying to walk away from me but I didn't GET IN THERE. I just let them walk with a resigned "fuck it" attitude. On my last set I asked a girl the time and she said "I saw you as someone else this already, but it's <insert time>" I tried to force a "Do you know where the AMC theater is but she just said "no" and I lost motivation to push it. So I just started talking to girls who were already sitting down instead of trying to stop ones that were walking past me.
I hate being looked at like a weirdo when I stop chicks. I think confronting this outcome dependence and learning to act in spite of that is what's going to kill my anxiety. Because of that I'm redoing this day. Not because of the shitty reactions, but because I allowed the shitty reactions to dictate whether or not I executed the drills. Granted I spoke to other girls to replace the ones I hesitated with and didn't push to get all the questions answered. But I don't wanna skip ahead. I wanna see this through.
I need yalls feedback on whether or not I should redo this day again.
Day 8 Repeat:
* Did the drill and left. Spoke to 16+ girls (did a few extra) as instructed on day 8.
Much better today because I walked away with self respect because I REALLY didn't wanna go out today. I was self conscious as fuck today because I'd been chewed out by a few bosses at my job today. So I was emotionally drained. I wasn't gonna try and force myself to go out and approach after the shitty day. So instead I went straight home after work. Winded down for a couple of hours and THEN went out. I was really nervous today after yesterday's rejections. I still bitched out when there was a girl in the midst of 5 people she didn't know walking around her. The idea of a group of people judging me for being a "creep" for stopping this girl to ask her something makes me just wanna get the fuck out of there. I didn't get the fuck in there as often as I should have for this reason. So what I started doing was going into stores rather than just walking around the mall. Approaching a woman in this context was easier for me because I felt like I wasn't being watched. I was less thrown off when a girl told me no she'd never been there. I asked her "Did you like it?" but in a half-hearted joking kinda way. Doesn't really count because she could tell I was joking. I should've kept it a straight non-sensical question. But I'm not that brave....yet.
The best part about today was my mood changed from scared, to relieved, to proud of myself. This was a small example of my actions controlling my emotions rather than the other way around. I need more of this in my life.
What do yall think, is this the grounds to redo this day?
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