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Started logging a bit late. Haven’t signed the petition yet but started doing the drills. I wasn’t going to log anything because I thought the forum was dead. Turns out it isn’t.
Background; I have moderate AA. I’m completely socially free with a few drinks and moderately AA sober. That’s unacceptable and I figured that this needs to be beat NOW.
Drill 1-ask for the time.
Walked down the block from my house. Realized it took me a little time (10 minutes) to ask the first person. Once I did it I felt great. Asked 10 more people easily
Drill 2- ask for the time. Ask for directions.
Asking for the time no problem. Asking for directions took some nerve. Was surprised at this. After the first go completed the drill
Drill 3- ask for the time. Ask for directions, ask have you been there.
Same pattern. The Have you been there was hard to get out. Walked around the mall for a little bit. The first “have you been there” was a struggle to get out of my mouth. Once it was out I felt great. Did it 10x more times with a big smile.
Responses were the same: They kind of just looked confused and said yes. Example “the Ralph’s? Yeah I’ve been there.
Some thoughts: Social freedom really is something that is fought for and earned inch by inch. I’m exited that there is a systematic way of handling something like this.
DRILL 4 time, directions, have you been there (Get in there version)
Went to a local college and did the drill.
I had NO problem "getting in there." On the way to the college there was a girl right in front of me and I asked for the time without flinching.
What I am struggling with: I am noticing I am struggling with doing the same drill in the vicinity of the girl I previously did it with. I find myself having to walk away from the previous girl to continue the drill on a different girl.
Also, I don't really have any anxiety approaching THE GIRL. However, I am realizing that I am MORE concerned about
A) That people around me are thinking that me asking the same questions over and over is weird and
Evoking FEAR in the girl. I am pretty intimidating (6ft, muscular, facial hair) so this is a normal reaction.
I understand these fears will go away with more time spent doing the drills.
Another observation: The hotness of the girl does not affect my level of anxiety OR their reaction. Whether a girl is really hot or not does not make seem to make me flinch. All that seems to matter is how close the girl is to the last girl I performed the drill on.
Today I re-did drill 4 and did one complete rep of drill 5. I didn't puss out on drill 5. It was cold AF and it started to rain.
-I was in an incredibly good state and smashed the day. I pumped myself up by smiling at girls in my car on the way to the local college I do these drills at.
Re-Do of drill 4 (Time, direction, have you been there?)
-Blew it out of the water. I really pushed myself on this one by making sure that I got rid of all of the blocks that were screwing me up on the first run of this drill. The challenges include:
1) When asking for the time I had my phone ON, visible, with airpods in.
2) When I would ask for directions I would go the opposite direction.
3) I would immediately approach subsequent girls near eachother so the other takes notice.
4) I made sure to approach EVERY GIRL that walked past me, NONE got away... even the extremely intimidating hot ones.
A) Responses were very good. One girl (who I found really attractive), made eye contact with me before I approached and was straight up grinning when i did. I wanted to ask for her number so bad. Fuck that damn rule. Oh well there will be others.
Social momentum really matters. The more you push the better your results will be. With every "push" i can almost feel the anxiety sort of leave my body.
-Dif more than the remaining 4 because I let a lot of girls go by. I was walking down my street and I keep getting goofed when I am in crowded areas. However, for the first girl I still got in there. I drilled it until I was completely comfortable though. Don't know how many as I lost count.
Drill 6 (Direction, have you eaten at nearby restaurant, did you like it?)
-Drove to a local cvs and did the drill on 3 girls (one set). I got in there and it was a struggle to get that "Did you like it." Especially since the girl whose turn it was A) Never ate there and was a total bitch. However I got out that first set.
IDK if this was bad or not but I did not finish the drill in the same location. I went to another crowded street.
-I drilled this over and over again until the anxiety was completely gone and I was having fun with it. Out of disappointment from leaving the previous cvs I went pretty hard and tried to really get my creep on. I did A LOT more than the required amount. Some behaviors include.
A) Asking girls with boyfriends but ONLY paying attention to the girl . (I seem to like this)
Making eye contact with a girl ACROSS THE STREET walking over to her and doing the drill (This ALWAYS GOT A BAD REACTION but evoking fear was a problem I had in the beginning)
C) Doing the drill to a girl that was withdrawing from an ATM in a semi-sketchy location. I got a good reaction here. It was from a semi-ghetto looking hispanic girl. She was still smiling even after I asked "did you like it" after explaining she hadnt eaten at a nearby restaurant. It was hard for me NOT to ask for this girl's number.
C) Approaching Groups
D) Blowing kisses at girls while I'm driving between locations. (Always a good reaction... but I need to STOP freaking changing locations).
1. Again hotness does not reflect reactions. Fear does. Shyer looking girls will sometimes say "no" when I ask for the time or something. I am starting to get a kick out of this.
2. I like approaching girls with boyfriends. Its so funny because this ALWAYS gets a good reaction from the girl. The guy also always answers but I really try to REMAIN FOCUSED on the girl.
Did one rep, but at a crowded night club area. Was pretty funny. Will finish the drill tomorrow.
I decided to go out with some friends and hit on a bunch of girls.
I ended up going to a different bar by myself and hitting on a bunch of girls. Made out with one and got a bunch of phone numbers. I even got the number of some college girl that I ended up Uber pooling with.
As I said in the beginning I am 99 percent socially free while driunk. However. I believe I am now 100 percent free while drunk.
However, the point of this was to be able to become socially free while sober. It would be pretty sweet to turn the world into a giant night club.
Idk if I broke ant rules for approaching. However, I have NO intention of quitting the drills.
Drill: (Time, place that sells candles, candle lit dinner for my gf, I’m the sweetest guy ever)
-This drill seriously tripped me up. Nothing about the this drill felt natural or comfortable and I had to force it out... especially saying “aren’t I the sweetest guy ever.” Still did it even though it was a real grind.
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