TOPIC: Maximizing my social freedom

Day 37

Holy shit guys. What a night. I'm on cloud nine right now.

This drill was squeeze on the arm, stop, and say "I dig your style," then keep walking, 20 times. After failing day 39 today (more on that in the next post), I was feeling kind of down. But I yearned for redemption. I went to the same bar as yesterday. After it got crowded, I started attempting the drills and pussied out so many times in a row. I probably did five laps around the place (thankfully it's a multistory bar, which makes that less awkward). Then I got a cup of water and dug really deep. I told myself that after I finish that cup of water, I HAD to approach. No matter what. I did and got a positive reaction. Then I did it again and got another positive reaction. I realized this shit is easy. I started rolling through and my social momentum built up really quickly. I felt fucking untouchable. Here are all these guys in this bar just standing around, drinking till they get the courage to say something to girls, and here I am going around and squeezing girls on the arm and directly complimenting them. Like a fucking boss. And these were all girls I was attracted to (above average at least). This was probably the most euphoric I've felt from doing drills. Like I unlocked a secret cheat code.

Now, the 10th girl was in a group of three girls. I went from the side and squeezed her on the arm and said the line. She grinned from ear to ear and gave an ecstatic "thank you!" and actually separated herself from her group to talk to me. Her friends saw that she was into me so they let her isolate herself. She was really cute too. Apparently she just turned 21 and they were going out for her birthday. After talking for a minute or two, I asked if she lived around me and she said she lived in a college town kind of far away, so I just cut the conversation short (besides, gotta do drills). Crazy how easy playing the numbers game like this is.

Afterward, I took a mini break, then started doing the remaining drills. The 12th girl I could tell was also feeling me super hard. She touched me back and said "thank you" in an almost seductive tone. I said "you're welcome" and she laughed. Later in the night, I ran into her again, and she said "are you the one?" while grabbing my arm, and I said "yes" and kept walking lol.

So I got to around 18/20 girls done (lost count, to be honest) and decided to go to another bar to see if I could do the drill in a different environment. Once I got there, I did three more really quickly, and the last girl, who was fucking hot, introduced herself to me! It was ambiguous if she was down (unlike the other two girls I mentioned), but wow it's so easy to play the numbers game like this.

I did 21/20 reps total, I think, and all done sober. Most were positive responses, the ones I mentioned were girls who seemed down, and then there were about 2-3 negative responses where the girls seemed creeped out (some still said "thank you" though). I'm starting to believe that with enough volume I can get laid pretty easily. I'm glad to be caught up, and now I can focus solely on week 6. Let's kill it.

Awesome man!

Day 39

This drill is 10x "hey wait a second you're cute", followed by 10x "hey wait a second you're cute, I'm X" and then repeat.

9/21/19: I went out to a crowded shopping mall and failed hard. Did 2 reps, then girls ignored me when I tried to stop them for the next few reps, and my AA built up. I got in my own head real bad. I'm only doing this on girls walking which makes it way harder. I think that's how Chris intended it. I know I can do the drill on stationary girls, but there would be no growth if I just did what's easy.

9/24/19 A: Took a break the previous two days; just didn't have the time to go out. The sheer volume of this week is crazy. Because of that, I decided to go to a college campus to do the drills. Finished the remaining 8 of the first set, and did 4 on the next set, then ran out of time. I'd say about 3-4 creeped out / negative reactions, 2-3 extremely positive, and the rest polite or positive. Planning to go back later today to finish.

9/24/19 B:

Just finished the remaining 6 on the second set, and did 7 more on the 3rd set. Holy shit, one hot girl (the 8th rep on the 2nd set) smiled and yelled as I walked away "wait you cant just say that and walk away! That's my line!" Yessssssss. It's all about the volume! Got the usual 2-3 negative reactions, but it's worth it.

9/25/19:

Finished the remaining 3 and 10. Funniest reaction: "hey wait a second, you're cute", "yeahhhhh" lol. I also noticed what Chris was talking about before. Some girls are shy and just hang in there in the conversation cause they don't want to fuck up. One girl just said "hi" twice in a timid voice, as if she were expecting me to keep going.

Stopping girls and saying "you're cute" doesn't really faze me now. Exposure therapy is a crazy thing.

Day 40

This drill is 10x "hey wait a second, you're cute I'm X", "10x " hey wait a second, you're cute I'm X" and then high five, then repeat for a total of 40.

9/26/19 A: Took me forever to get started. I don't know why, I think it's cause something wasn't settling right in my stomach. Got easier after the first few. What's interesting is that I got 4 positive reactions, 3 negative, and then 3 positive again. Are streaks a thing or is it just luck depending on the girl? And again, some girls seemed down, and some were super creeped out. Anyway, I just did the first set so far. Taking a break before set 2 (the high fives).

9/26/19 B: Alright, set 2 was hard to get started, but I did it. I did 6 successful reps in a row, all polite positive responses. Kind of surprising to be honest. And then it got dark and girls started walking away before I could high five them. Continuing this drill tomorrow.

9/27/19 A: Did the remaining 4 high fives reps and 2 of the next reps. Something came up for work, so I had to stop early. Planning to finish today. Even girls who seemed confused gave me high fives lol.

9/27/19 B: Phew, it took a lot out of me, but I finished the remaining 8 and 10. I got mostly polite but not interested responses. Surprisingly, I didn't get any blatantly negative reactions, although two hotties smiled and brushed me off and walked away haha. There was maybe one girl who seemed like she was interested. Am I focusing on reactions too much now? Another thing to note: some girls introduced themselves to me after I said my name. Happy to be done with this day cause the volume made it exhausting.

Awesome! Youre doing great!
It's all luck obviously hahah
In my case, my first(sometimes first 2) rep for a new drill would "always" be a negative reaction, which would totally kill my motivation and I would get stuck in my head thinking about what I might be doing wrong or if I'm ugly or something, even tho I knew it was just the anxiety. It would just suck to get in there for the first rep, get demotivated, and then take forever to get back in th ere.
I realized this is just how I'm going to destroy my AA, by having to actually fight through the anxiety since getting in there for the first rep sucked lol.
Obvioulsy after about 3 reps I'd be rolling through them pretty easily loll and mostly good/positive responses.

Good job man, you're almost there!
Let me tell you, doing the AA program has been the best thing I've ever done, I'm a new person now.

Day 41

This drill was "hey, you're cute" *pause*, then time, then directions, then high five, then second high five. Repeat 4x for a total of 20.

Did this day all in one go, but it took a long time. Went to a mall, which honestly doesn't have as high of a concentration of hot girls as colleges. There were two things that made this day hard: one was pausing after saying "you're cute", as if prompting the girl to react, and two was hanging in there when the girl clearly wasn't interested or had a negative reaction. But even in those cases, most were nice enough to give me the time and directions. There were a lot more neutral and negative reactions today (I think because I'm not on a college campus), but, again, there were 3 great reactions from girls who seemed into me. It makes it all worth it.

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Thanks @Fahad! Yeah, I feel like the first rep can set the tone of the rest of the reps. If the first girl gives a great reaction, it builds confidence and social freedom, but if it's a negative reaction, it builds anxiety. I just keep the mentality that with enough volume, there will eventually be a girl into me. This has proven to be true over and over again.

And agreed about the AA program. It's actually crazy how much easier approaching girls is now. I went out last night and did the *squeeze* "hey I dig your style" to a bunch of girls, no problem. And today I felt like a robot that was programmed with the ability to stop girls and call them cute haha.

Day 42

This drill was "hey you're cute, I'm X", then handshake, then time, then directions.

I fucking did it!

Was unbelievably nervous and anxiety ridden when I first started. It took me about 25 minutes of walking around to get started. I got on a roll and did 5 pretty quickly. Then the AA came back with a vengeance, so I stopped again and regrouped. I got the balls to approach again after 20-30 minutes, got some not so great reactions, and then the AA built up once again. I kept walking around not able to do a rep. I kept repeating myself "don't be a pussy, just execute the drill." Over and over again. I also told myself to pretend I was a douchebag who doesn't care what others think and goes for what he wants. These mantras shifted my mindset. What was interesting, was that after I had this mentality shift, almost all the reactions were positive. Whereas before when I was anxious and nervous, most girls were nervous or brushed me off. Maybe my sample size is too small, but confidence seems to make a huge difference. The last girl I did the drill on said "are you filming a video or something?" which made me let out a belly laugh. If only she knew.

I'm so excited to get to day 46 so I can do real approaches.

Awesome! the ball really gets rolling now.
You're 100% right, theres always gonna be that one girl that makes it all worth it with enough volume.
Not that its a race but youre really close to the finish line.
I remember at this point I would really do the drills over until I was 100% comfortable until it was almost boring.

One thing that I noticed, is how when i would look at week 7 or week 8 drills before starting the AA program, I thought NO WAYY I could or would be doing that, im gonna end up in jail. Now, it feels "doable" lol its crazy

I feel the same way, when i think of myself as a player/fuckboy, my approaches seem to be easier.

Keep at it

Yeah, I remember peeking at future weeks when I was just getting started and seeing the ABC and nighttime squeeze drills. I never thought I would be able to do those.

I honestly was not enjoying week 4's "goofy" drills, but week 6 has been awesome. It's all the stuff I've fantasized doing during the day, but had too much AA to do.

I skipped drills yesterday and today because of work, unfortunately, but I'm going back at it tomorrow. I scheduled completing the days on my calendar, so my aim is to be done with Day 46 by Oct 9th.

Day 43

This drill is high five, "hey you're cute", "I'm X", handshake x7 for a total of 21.

10/03/19: I'm disappointed. I was swamped with work all day and couldn't go out until there was only 45 minutes left of daylight. With that said, I still could've finished the drills had I not skipped girls. It was the usual today: hard to start, easier after a few, used the "player" mindset, mostly neutral reactions with a couple of positive. One notable thing: I approached a girl on a bench who looked hot from the back and when she looked up it turned out she was crying. Whoa. She still high fived me anyway and I called her cute. Hopefully made her day better. Did 9/21 today. Not terrible given I had a two day break and limited time, but I need to push harder tomorrow.

10/04/19: I dressed and groomed much better today and it made a world of difference. The reactions I got were SO much better. Almost all polite and positive; some girls giggled and blushed. I finished the remaining 12/21. Besides that, nothing else notable to report really.

Moving onto day 44. Anyone have any tips? I'm concerned getting 3 seconds of eye contact will be difficult logistically.

Day 44

This drill is eye contact 3 seconds then "cute", high five, "I'm X", handshake.

10/04/19: I took today to just practice making eye contact. It's tough honestly, most girls look away after a second. I may have to lower the requirement of 3 seconds to 2. I know you're not supposed to change the drills, but I can't control what girls do, only what I do.

10/05/19 A: Tried the drill for 30 minutes, at a shopping center this time, got maybe one drill worthy eye contact, but I was so surprised that I didn't do the drill. I looked up tips on the forum and saw that a bunch of people have skipped this drill because we're not in control. All the other drills are about your personal performance, whereas this one requires you to wait and react. Ultimately, it's making me more passive than aggressive. With that said, I'm going to try for another hour today. If I don't get any drill worthy eye contacts, I'll just do the drill without it. I don't want to kill my momentum.

10/05/19 B: Well, my ability to make eye contact and not break has certainly improved, but getting 3 seconds, or even 2 seconds, of eye contact basically didn't happen. I notice girls looking at me, and as soon as I look back at them, they look away or at their phone. I'm just going to do this day without the eye contact requirement.

10/05/19 C: There were a couple great reactions to start, so the social freedom was flowing through my veins. I felt in control because I wasn't waiting for eye contact. There was one notable interaction where a young woman refused to give me a high five and I asked why. She flashed her ring at me. I said "it's just a high five" and she gave me it. Man, she was being a total bitch though with her tone. I said "have a good day" after the high five, but I wish I said "see, that wasn't so hard, was it?" It's the do what you want principle. Other than that, got mostly positive reactions. Feeling pretty good at calling girls cute now and getting high fives and handshakes. I'm going to keep eye contact in mind in the future. I think it's most applicable at bars.

Day 45

This drill is highfive all girls in a group, "you guys are cute", "I'm X", handshake, repeat 3x for a total of 12.

10/06/19: I went to a college campus which was a huge mistake. Very few groups of girls on a Sunday. With that said, my performance was not good. I skipped lots of groups. It didn't help that the second group I attempted it on made a weirded out face and just walked past me. But the real reason I struggled is because I've been neglecting groups throughout the program. Chris even said that it's not recommended to approach girls in groups during the day if you're trying to get laid, but I understand that this drill kills approach anxiety even further. Anyway, the reactions aside from the second attempt were all pretty positive. In about 2 hours, I did 6/12, and then it got dark, so I decided to stop.

10/07/19: My performance was muuuuuuch better today. Did the remaining 6/12 in about 30 minutes. Not too much else to say.