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I went out yesterday for about 2 hours, to a college campus and two shopping malls, and there couldn't have been more than five approachable girls. I'll probably try again today, but given that it's Christmas Eve, I'm not expecting many people to be out.
Alright guys, after a long hiatus made up of various excuses (not enough girls out during the holidays, getting sick, going on dates), I realized that I haven't made this my 1b priority (after work) like Chris said. I'm going to go out today and approach 10 girls and ask them all for the time, no matter how long it takes, no matter how unpleasant their reactions may be. Tomorrow I'll go back to doing the drills; today will be a warmup. I'll edit this post after it's done.
Edit: done! It was raining, cold, and not many girls were out, but I pushed through. Back to drills tomorrow.
Today was time, cell phone store, type of phone, and do you like it. I did not like this drill at all (I think it hasn't aged well), but doing it was easy, if that makes sense. There were not many girls out, so it took me 2 hours to do 3.2 sets. I then took a break, ate some food, and did the next 2 reps pretty quickly. I was honestly tired of walking so much so I decided to stop it there. There were some overly helpful girls who started to look up stores on their phone. There were even some who started asking me questions, making conversation. I'm excited to finish the AA program so I can finally start doing real approaches. I'll finish this day out tomorrow.
Managed to finish this day out before the rain got too bad. Super happy be to done with this day. I remember day 12 and day 13 being a lot of fun, so I'm excited for tomorrow. Just hoping the weather gets better.
Today was time, candles, candlelit dinner for girlfriend, sweetest guy ever. I woke up today feeling anxious. It was because of some work and girls related things, but it definitely carried over to my approaches and made my performance worse. By far, I skipped more girls today than on any previous day this week, mostly due to stupid reasoning (she turned away, she's carrying her dog, she looks like she's in a rush). I managed to do reps 1.1, 1.2, 1.3, 2.1, 2.2, and 2.3, meaning I didn't say the "sweetest guy ever" bit. The one time I was planning on saying it, the girl's response to the candlelit dinner was "sorry I don't know of a place," which made it too awkward for me to say. Then it started raining pretty hard and the quantity of girls dwindled, so I stopped. Tomorrow there might be thunderstorms so I may have to put this on hold. On the bright side, once the weather gets better, I'm expecting these drills to become easier.
Areas to Improve:
- Don't skip girls
- Don't care about awkwardness, just say the lines
Done! It finally wasn't raining, which made doing the drills more pleasant. I skipped far fewer girls today. Not too much else to say. Onto day 13 tomorrow.
Edit: Remembered one thing while walking. Two of the girls I talked to were extremely flirtatious and were so happy to just be talking to me, almost as if they were expecting me to ask for their number. More motivation to finish this program so I can start doing real cold approaches.
Today was time, wine, passed my test, and which type of wine. Did two sets today. I skipped a lot of groups but not many single girls. I realized one part of what causes my approach anxiety: when I have to do the later reps (saying 3 or 4 things in succession), I freak myself out thinking that if the girl keeps walking, I have to shout the second or third part of the rep. For example, if I ask a girl for the time, she gives me it and keeps walking, then I have to shout and ask where I can get some wine. I'm not sure if I should try harder to get them to stop (saying something like "hey wait up I have another question") or just move on to the next girl. It seems like if they're not stopping they're not interested, so when cold approaching I wouldn't get hung up on these girls. Anyway, finishing day 13 tomorrow.
Today was high fiving girls. This day took me forever. The first time I went out with the intention of doing this, I didn't do a single high five and went home frustrated. The second time (today) I tried, it took me about 1.5 hours before I attempted a single high five. From there, the time to the next high five kept exponentially decreasing (i.e. the first high five took 1.5 hours, the second took 10 minutes, the third took 3 minutes, etc.). I was able to do 10 high fives, then I grabbed food and went for round 2 afterward. I gassed out during round 2 and was only able to do 4 high fives. That leaves today incomplete, which I think is good because I definitely need more exposure therapy to this. It's also worth noting that I did the drills on a college campus, which I think made it easier since I expected girls to react well (and most did). My next attempt will be back to random streets / outdoor malls.
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