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Day 9 (Redo): What I did:
I got really close to finishing the drills, then I ended up hitting a wall when I was 1/3 of the way through with the last set. I don't know what happened. I had plenty of chances to finish it up.
I did notice that being turned down by one girl made the next one more likely to say no if they were too close together and they saw/heard the approach. However, everyone's always moving or going someplace else, so even if I weird out a few girls near me, they'll be gone pretty soon because I'm moving or they're moving. I'm gonna finish up today's set tomorrow and then begin Day 10. Approaching and not giving a fuck really is a skill.
I couldn't get out of my head today for some reason. Even asking for the time seemed harder for whatever reason. I'm going to hit it harder tomorrow, and I'm not gonna stop till I'm done with Day 9 and Day 10.
Day 9 (completed) & Day 10 (In progress): What I did:
I finally finished my day 9 set. It was a lot more difficult to get the ball rolling this time, but I got myself out there and did it. I did 2 sets of day 10 as well.
This week is turning out to be a lot harder for me than I originally thought it was going to. I'm just glad I was able to break past the mental wall I've been feeling these past couple days and get shit done anyway. I'm going to retry Day 10 from the top. I feel it's a little easier than Day 9 since it's a lot like asking for directions again.
If I can get myself to start approaching girls despite other people being around them, I think I can get these done a lot faster. Walking around in this heat for hours is making me sweat me balls off.
Day 10 (In progress): What I did:
I hit a wall. This whole week is proving to be more of a challenge to me than I originally thought. I finished the first two steps of set one before stopping. I feel weird asking about time->directions->have you seen any movies. I gotta break outta this mentality and go for it. I am getting past Day 10.
Day 10 (In progress): What I did:
2/3 of one set before I got muddled up again. Even lay-ups AKA what were once easier approaches for me now seem impossible. I let one girl slip by and think "that's fine, I'll get the next one." The only problem is I say the same fucking thing for every other girl. WHAT THE FUCK. I walked around and sat down multiple times trying to recharge and get back into it and it never happened.
I'm not giving up. This is fucking frustrating nonetheless. I'M GETTING THROUGH THIS SHIT.
Day 10: What I did:
I didn't post yesterday, but I still went out and tried. I got stuck at 2/3 a set again. Today I made it though 4 full sets and 2/3 of the last set. I'm pretty proud of myself, and I'm considering Day 10 done since I've done multiple sets of Day 10 over the past week.
Foot traffic is by far the biggest obstacle for me next to other people being around the girls. When classes just get out, there's a lot of people going every which way. I just have no idea how to approach girls in this scenario without their being a high failure rate. Girls, or anyone really, won't want to stop and talk/help when they got a bunch of people right on their heels. Plus it makes it easier to give the excuse that they have class soon because it's probably true.
I find it's the best time to approach maybe around 15-20 min after most classes get out. That way I'm catching stragglers who are less likely to be rushing somewhere, and I can get the drills done. What helped me the most today is figuring out a better way to get a girl's attention.
When I have some girl walking towards me and I wave at her, it makes it easier to get her to take her attention away from her phone even if she has earbuds in. This way I didn't have to completely rely on stationary girls, and I could get in there and get it done. Also, rejections were a little bit easier to handle this time. I could ask a girl for the time and even if she said no, I got that part of the set done and could move on. It was only frustrating when I would try to get the last rep in a set done but get stopped because she had somewhere to go or whatever else popped up.
I'm also finding it's almost impossible to tell why a girl might blow you off. If she says "she's in a rush", it could easily mean she actually has a place to go to, maybe she's highly anxious and has a hard time talking to people, or maybe the approach was off or my vibe was off and she wasn't into it.
This might take me a year to finish, but I'll do it even if it takes that long. I used to sit by myself and just wish girls would approach me. And even when it did happen, I had no idea what to do so nothing happened anyway. I feel so much better about myself when I'm out there taking steps to get things done. And any time I procrastinate or put things off, I just remind myself of where doing nothing got me all those years before.
Day 11 (In Progress): What I did:
Nothing again. I couldn't even approach and ask for the time today or yesterday. I'm feeling exhausted lately. Just the thought of approaching 20+ girls for this one exercise seems like a huge hill to climb. Man, here I was sure I got over what was stopping me before in Day 10, but I guess it's still there.
I'm gonna try again tomorrow. Finishing Week 2 is gonna feel so fuckin' good.
The past week has been more stressful lately, so approaching has lost it's priority for me right now. My work added another 8 hour shift on Thursday which was one of my better days to do approaching because I'd be done with classes and everything by 12pm. I've also been trying to keep up with schoolwork which has been piling up lately. There's also midterms happening this week and next week which I want to stay on top of.
On top of all that, the weather's been getting colder. It's been raining pretty off and on, and it might mean snow isn't far behind. To anyone who's been approaching on college campuses, have you ever had to handle snowy/rainy weather? How did you make it work?
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