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colorado88 wrote: I might even try something like taking off a day from work and spending the whole day doing drills to really build up momentum and get a lot of exposure.
Would recommend. Just make sure you pick a place that's got lots of girls during the day (i.e college campus). That would also help solidify in your mind that you're serious and doing whatever it takes to beat AA.
Keep up the good work, you're pretty close. I think you're the furthest along of anyone currently doing the program.
colorado88 wrote: I've also been making an effort recently to be more social throughout my life. I make more conversation with people I know and work with. I've been making a lot of eye contact and smiling at people in public. I'm also starting conversations with people around me I don't know especially in elevators where I live and at work. This has been helping me become more social and chatty, which I hope will lead to making more friends and finding more girls.
Sorry to revive an old thread, but I'm trying not to read too far ahead of where I am, and I wanted to drill in on this a bit. I've had this same observation, and I'll take it a step further - as I've really committed to working on this, I've found myself wanting to revive old passions, pursue new ones, and generally just become a more awesome person. I've definitely become more social in the way you describe, too - and not just that, but in a more confident, relaxed way of interacting with people. It's really a great feeling.
Also, now when I am interacting with a woman in a social or even transactional situation (waitress or whatever), if there's something I like about her, I'll tell her. The other night, I was grabbing a bite with an ex that I've stayed in touch with on and off, and the waitress was just fucking gorgeous. I complimented her smile - because I wanted to, not because I cared how she'd react (which is way different than I probably used to feel) - and she just ate it up. After that, of course, my ex unsurprisingly wanted to jump my bones.
[edit: I see from past posts you're in CO.] I spent lots of my childhood out there, it's the best state in the country.
I'm not sure if the AA program is making me more social in life outside the drills other than feeling more social momentum right after. I think I'm just on a self improvement kick and putting more conscious effort into these other things at the same time. It may be more related though, I don't know.
Hey- you're cute, I'm [Name], Handshake, Time, Directions, Leave
I haven't done so well this past week with the AA program. I went out drinking a bunch of times and also hooked up with a girl several different days. Most of the days I blew off doing the drills because I was either hungover or just not feeling motivated after getting laid. I need to get back on track so I'm not going out drinking this week, and I probably won't see that girl. I'm going to make sure I go out every day this week and do drills for at least an hour. I might also take a day off work this week if I have a light enough work load, so I can do drills all day.
I've gone out and done this day 42 drill only 3 of the last 7 days. Most days I've only done about 4 reps other than today. I've had a lot of resistance to getting started every day and the handshake part definitely gives me more anxiety to do. Most girls either stopped and were friendly and shook my hand or just kept walking without really stopping so I couldn't keep doing the drill. I don't think it's worth trying to chase after a girl going the other way when she shows no interest. One of the girls I actually tapped on the shoulder while I was walking next to her since she had headphones on and didn't see me waving. I haven't done that since the day 28 drills. Then I asked her where the train stop was and she told me she was walking to it and I should follow her. I guess I could've used that to practice taking the interaction further, but I told her I was just gonna walk since it was nice out and left.
This day definitely feels more real than the other days. I actually feel weird asking for the time and directions after introducing myself to a girl. It seems like it would be just as easy to ask what she's up to like the day 46 drill once I've gotten through the hard part. I'm going to repeat this drill tomorrow, I want to really do it solid.
I did a repeat of day 42 again today. I just did the full reps with a high five added to the end. I spent around an hour and did 10 reps. I wanted to do 20, but I got moving pretty slowly to start. Then the wind just started going crazy here. Apparently there's a fire across the street blowing smoke everywhere Since I do all my drills outside I had to stop for now. Maybe I should try to do some drills in a grocery store or somewhere inside. It'd be good to change things up a bit.
It's interesting to me that pretty much every girl will shake my hand. As long as they stop for a second or are seated I've yet to be rejected on the handshake. They might tell me they have a boyfriend or act like they don't want me around, but they don't refuse the handshake. I would think that handshakes after hitting on a girl would get rejected more than high fives from back in week 2, but they don't.
High Five, Hey- you're cute, I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave
Today was a good day. I took a big steaming dump on this drill and flushed it down the shitter. Yesterday I only managed to do a few drills before calling it quits to do other things. I've been sick and dieting and sleep deprived so my energy has been low. Today I said fuck it and ditched work to go do drills all day. I drove up to my old stomping grounds in Boulder and did drills on college girls. I wish I had done this shit back when I was actually in college. Initially I planned to do drills for 6-8 hours, but I ended up getting bad blisters and a sunburn after 3-4 hours.
I did 40 or so of the drill. I tried to do the whole drill every time unless a girl wouldn't shake my hand. I also did some random high fives to get going at the start and to keep some momentum going. I probably high fived 60 girls today. One of the girls I just high fived interlaced her fingers with mine and kind of held on. I get that a lot when I high five girls that are drinking at night, but rarely during the day. I wonder if it means they're interested or if some girls just do that. I got some rejections on my handshakes today unlike the other days. I think it was because I was being more aggressive and stopping girls more. I would say about 4 of the girls said no thanks when I put out my hand.
I started trying to do the day 44 drill with eye contact. Most girls are shy and look away too fast or are somewhat far away. 3 seconds of eye contact is a long time unless a girl just locks eyes with me and doesn't look away. I probably only got that a couple times today, and I'm good at holding eye contact. I think for this drill I'm just going in with 1-2 seconds of eye contact or a smile. I like winking too. I gotta remember to do it.
I need more days like today. There's only a few weeks until colleges turn into a ghost town for the summer. I'll see if I can do a dedicated day once a week for the next few weeks to take advantage of it.
I've walked around a couple days now trying to do the eye contact drill, but barely getting any. It doesn't help that it's sunny outside and a lot of people are wearing sunglasses. I chose to do some more of the day 43 drills instead after walking around for a while. I think I'll have to skip over finishing this drill and come back to it later.
They day 45 group drill seems like it's going to give me a lot of anxiety tomorrow. I've been feeling down recently and having some trouble getting myself to do drills. I'm going to try to do another whole day of drills in the next couple of days to push myself through.
Walk up to a group of girls and give BOTH/ALL of them a high-five, say "You guys are cute,", I'm [Name], Shake hands with at least 1 girl, Leave.
Finally got today done today. I tried yesterday but wasn't finding enough groups due to the snow and only ended up doing a few groups of fat girls. This was the hardest day in a long time. Going up to groups was pretty intimidating. I didn't really mind high fiving people. I actually high fived all of the girls in big groups, but the handshake part at the end gave me some anxiety. I shook both girls hands most of the times I did it. It was much easier to try to do these on girls that were sitting around or walking next to me. Trying to stop a group of girls walking the other way is pretty hard. I could definitely use some more practice on these in the future.
I'm going to start day 46 tomorrow, but I expect to be kind of dead since I'm going to a show tonight. I think I'm going to take Friday off and do a marathon day of 46 drills with some 45 and 44 drills thrown in when I remember to.
For some reason I'm having a hard time getting going on this day 46 drill. I decided to do some of the previous drills to get some momentum going, but I never really got started on the day 46 reps. I did a bunch of the day 43 drill and some 45 drills which are the same thing with groups. I probably did around 20-25 girls total. I feel like all I've done recently is high five girls to start an interaction. It feels weird not doing the high five, plus the I know this is random line feels weird for me to say. I need to really push myself this weekend to get these going.
These week 6 drills have been slow as hell for me to get going on. I guess on the positive side I have no problem high fiving girls in most situations and then telling them they're cute and introducing myself. Slow progress.
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