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Time, Do you know where the nearest restroom is?, I mean the mens room, I hope it's clean, The mens room is usually gross, Thanks, Leave
Today's drill was pretty easy, but turned out to be a bit awkward. Most girls downtown didn't know where a bathroom was or gave me a long winded responses about how to find a starbucks that would let me use theirs. Saying I meant the mens room after got me some weird looks and "ya duh" responses. Saying the last part about I hope it's clean the men's room is usually gross got a laugh some of the time. I really have no problem asking how to find things including a bathroom. The part about the men's room made me hesitate a few times though.
I've been feeling a bit less excited about doing these drills recently. I guess the initial excitement wore off. Luckily it's been a few weeks and I've made doing these a habit. I just need to really push myself to get through and make progress even when I don't feel like doing these now. I'm sure the increased social freedom I can get out of this will be worth it.
Onto week 4. Some of these drills seem like they'll give me anxiety like the ABC one did. They almost seem harder than actually approaching a girl.
Hey, Do you know where I purchase suspenders?, My mom says I look good in suspenders, Suspenders are good idea because I've lost so much weight my pants won't even stay up, You can see my ass crack, Leave.
For today's drill I started it downtown where I usually do my drills. I did about 6 approaches. Most of them sort of laughed and walked off after I said my mom thinks I look good in suspenders. It seemed more like a drill I should do in a shopping mall. So later when to an indoor shopping mall to do the rest. This is the first time I did drills somewhere else so at first it felt a little weird to get started. It seems much easier to do this stuff in an indoor mall. There's way more girls taking their time looking around and they seem a little more helpful. Maybe I'll do some more there in the future, but it's a lot more effort to get there.
This drill wasn't really hard other than trying to remember the lines and get them out before someone walked away. I laughed most of the times I said it.
It seems crazy how many of these girls are on their phone constantly while they walk around. Either talking, texting, playing a game, or listening to something on headphones. They're completely disconnected from the world around them.
The online dating stuff hasn't turned out the best recently. Even when things go well on a date these girls seem to be getting attention from so many dudes that I'm not really keeping them interested. I've had tons of flakes and multiple girls recently tell me they have been dating someone else and want to see how it goes. I almost want to just stop using it, but I'll keep trying for now.
Today was a pretty easy drill. It took me a little bit to get going for some reason. Once I got going I did it pretty fast. I approached way more girls than I usually would on the other drills. I guess because I had to do 30 and didn't want to take all day, especially since I'm sick right now. Initially most of the girls kept on walking and didn't really laugh or anything. I started getting in a bit of a bad mood thinking girls are assholes and have no sense of humor. I started adding a bit of a pause before I said Sesame Street so girls would stop. After that most of the reactions were a smile or laugh or just no.
I feel better about today than some of the other days. I think it's because I approached so many girls including groups and got a lot of social momentum
This ended up being a really good day overall for me. I was off to a slow start initially, which seems to happen most days. I walk around for a bit feeling weird before I get going. I started in my usual areas downtown asking girls that were by themselves. I got mostly decent reactions to start. Some really pretty girls were super friendly and gave me an answer, and some other girls needed to be asked a few times before they said something.
I made my way over to the college campus close by for the first time to try some of these. That ended up being a great decision. There's so many young good looking girls walking around by themselves there all day. I started knocking these out really quick and gaining social momentum. I high fived a lot of girls that gave me good answers. I also started getting some less than great reactions there. This drill doesn't work very well on girls walking the opposite way of me. A lot of girls said they wanted nothing or "no thank you" and walked off but I followed them a little and asked again. This is the first time I felt pretty creepy doing these drills. I did several of those in a row where the next girls I asked saw me talking to the previous ones.
I ended these by going back to my usual area downtown around some stores. There were a bunch of groups of girls sitting around near each other. I went up to all of them and asked each of the girls in the groups. They all saw me go up and ask the other girls before and after them too, and I didn't care at all. I high fived the ones that gave me good answers again.
Doing 30 of these definitely builds up a lot of social momentum, way more than the other days. I'm also definitely going back to that college campus in the future for more drills and maybe to pick up girls in the future.
I'm currently travelling a bit, but I took a bit of time to do some drills. So I went out around downtown San Diego about lunchtime and asked 6 girls what's for lunch. I mainly did this on girls that were walking along side me or standing around. This doesn't work at all on girls going the other way. I did a couple of groups of girls as well. I got a lot of blank stares until I kept asking. Most of the girls said they already ate or gave me some sort of negative response. I'm not sure if it's the drill or just the people here suck. I'll need to do some more drills another day to find out.
I felt a bit weird doing this in another city and I'm not sure where the best places to do this are, but it's good exposure. I'll try to finish this in the next couple of days, but I might not have a lot of time by myself.
Side note - taking a large dose of phenibut turns me into an asshole when I hang out with friends, but is good for picking up random girls.
I went around my usual areas in downtown as well as the college campus to do this. I did around 12 reps today. This drill worked best on girls that were sitting around or walking next to me. It doesn't stop people very well. Overall I got a lot of blank looks and what do you mean responses. The majority of the girls said I don't know or nothing as their responses even if I asked several times. A few girls gave me a pretty positive response though. It's always nice to do these drills on a cute girl that is super friendly.
So I had a few days off travelling where I didn't do any drills. I definitely felt like I lost some momentum coming back because starting these drills today felt pretty hard. Once I got going though I felt a lot less resistance to doing these than I would've a few weeks ago. So there's definitely been some progress.
Onto the next day finally. The Arnold one looks like it'll be tough, but it can't be much worse than the ABC one that I already did.
So I did this all around the college campus. Almost every girl told me no when I did this drill on them. Usually followed by please stop, and go away. I had a couple of girls say no then give me a shitty answer like I don't have a dad. I definitely came across as super creepy. Overall I really didn't like this day. None of the girls thought this was funny or got the reference at all.
I'm getting a bit tired of these fucking with them drills. They make me kind of not give a fuck about embarrassing myself, but I feel like just hitting on girls would too and might even feel easier.
I had a weird day today. I initially went out during the day to do day 27 where's the beach. For my first rep I went up to a girl that was on a bench with headphones and sunglasses on and tapped her shoulder from behind. She jumped up and ran away like 10 feet before she took out her headphones and looked back completely freaked out, I didn't even realize someone would be so jumpy and paranoid. I went through and told her I had a question and asked her where the beach was and she was like breathing hard and told me she didn't know. That freaked me out a bit especially since there were a bunch of cop cars around the college campus I was on and I didn't want some crazy bitch getting their attention. It took me at least another half an hour of walking around before I tried again. I went up to a few girls walking the same way as me from behind and tapped them on the shoulder. They all went ok and the girls laughed. I only ended up doing about 4 today so I need to do more tomorrow. That one weird first reaction freaked me out a bit.
I decided to try to make up for the shitty day by doing the day 30 night out alone since tonight may be one of the only nights out I get alone for a bit. It's a thursday night and I live within a few blocks of several bars and clubs that get pretty crazy on a thursday so I went for it. I had a couple beers and went out around 11. There's two places across the street from each other that I went between. I mostly stayed in the bar that played hip hop and was packed. I really don't like hip hop, but I'd prefer to be a in crowded place with lots of hot drunk girls. I went around and squeezed girls upper arm and said nice a bunch of times. I felt weird doing it, and switched it up to saying something like nice shirt or another similar real complement instead of just a vague statement.
Then I went around and said cute and walked passed a few times before I just decided to stop and look and them and say you're cute. I feel more comfortable actually stopping and making eye contact and telling a girl she's cute than I do walking by and saying something she can barely hear. I feel like it's also more useful experience for me to do that.
I actually feel really comfortable being out a lone, and I don't mind talking to random people at all. I still feel a bit uncomfortable aggressively hitting on girls though. I definitely feel like I could bring a lot of these girls home, especially if I wasn't being picky. I live a couple blocks from the bars and I get a good amount of attention from these girls without doing anything. One of the girls I said was cute and talked to her friend a bit, seemed to be following me around. I also had a few random girls grabbing my ass haha.
Tap on shoulder, Hey - I have a question, Do you know where I can get nerd glasses?, How cool are nerd glasses?, Pretty fuckin cool huh?, Leave
I spent quite a while doing these drills. For some reason I feel weird about tapping someone on the shoulder unless I walk up behind them or on the side. I guess I'm used to doing these drills on girls walking the complete opposite way and coming at them with my arm out to poke their shoulder feels like a bad way to get someone's attention. Other than that this drill is easy. Most girls don't know where to get nerd glasses and I'm not doing these in a shopping mall that might have them. A lot of the girls I asked wore glasses so they thought I was making fun of them. I feel like any of the slightly positive responses I got were either sarcasm or the girl just being agreeable.
I've missed a lot of days of drills recently. My motivation has been low and I've also been going on dates or out to bars alone every day. So I have been working on related stuff, but I need to keep moving forward with these drills. Overall I feel like I've had good dates, but they haven't really gone anywhere beyond making out. I don't know if it's just bad luck or what.
Thats great dude!
I feel you since I'm in a similar place. Feeling much more comfortable in club/bar spots the more I go. It just seems like a higher mountain for me as far as just talking to chicks even though I know it would be fine.
Good luck with future dates, shouldn't be too hard to plow a girl if you can get to a make out level.
I usually take some phenibut and a few drinks to put me in a good mood when I go out alone. I think doing the AA program has also improved my nights out alone. Worth trying both if you are having trouble talking to girls at bars.
I'm not sure what's going on with the dates recently. I usually have a way higher success rate of hooking up with a girl I go out with, recently it hasn't happened in months. I even had a girl telling me she was coming over to have sex and ended up falling asleep and has been a flake since.
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