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First of all. Congratulations on finishing 4 weeks of the program. I enjoy reading your blog-posts and seeing that you have very high standards for yourself, is very inspiring to me.
Funny shit about meeting the PUA Guys. I just happened to meet some too yesterday and I will take part of a free daygame workshop today and see how it goes haha. You will probably run into those kind of games more often in the future, because based on the actions that you and them do. Law of Attraction nd shit.
Keep going man. We might finish the program at kind of the same time.
The most epic moments are found outside our comfortzone.
- Finish the AA Program until End of this Year ~Beaten Levels:3/8
Thank you very much Siggy. I was about to mention Law of Attraction, I tend to laugh at that stuff, but the more I do this pick up thing the more I believe it. I think it is mainly: 1) FOCUS. If you think about your 1 goal all day you will TAKE ACTION and stuff will happen to you related to your no. 1 goal. 2) Law of averages. I go out to highly populated venues to pick up girls. It was a matter of time until I found guys from the seduction community.
But I also think that maybe it actually works in a cosmical sense and shit. Who knows. You can't prove it wrong. The presence of an observer changes the outcome of an experiment, in quantum physics, right? (I don't know if I got that right) Some guys here reported that they get asked directions and shit way more frequently. You could say it is social momentum->body language, but I think there's something more. Sense of entitlement is actually believing that you deserve hot pussy. If that changes the outcome of interactions then you can actually modify reality with your thoughts. Besides, you can't know reality objectively, so your thoughts ARE your reality, if you feel happy you live in another reality than if you are sad.
Enough with this esoterical bullshit. Of course this is overly exaggerated in pua communities. The main cause of this is HARD WORK. If you do the drills, you get good. Period. If I stop doing drills I will lose progress. You can't think your way out of Anxiety.
I've been reading your blogs/vlogs and you're inspiring too, you also have high standards for yourself, and you are more wired than me for being social. It doesn't matter that much what day or week you're in, there is no"crossing line". When you were on week 2 you had more social freedom than me now. Keep doing the drills, be consistent and you will have top 0,1% social freedom, smash the program, repeat days because that's when you get a good taste in your mouth and do a lot of progress. I'm serious, don't waste MOMENTUM, obliterate the program so you never never never have to worry about anxiety in your life. That goes for me too. "Something not finished was never worth starting". That's pure killer instinct, you have to learn to 'seal the deal' in life.
I feel kind of sorry for them because they just don't have access to the right information. Everything is late in Latin America and PUA is still a thing. I could show them GLL (well, maybe not because they don't read stuff in english) but it would be hard pill to swallow, they would give me shit.
I had similar experiences with PUAs. I have been at this for little more than a year, they were into it for years, yet when presented with GLL ideas, they either were mindblown about how come they don't know it after years, or kept insisting on selling me RSD hotseats.
Seeing how much more simple it was for me to approach despite being less than a year in at the time, while they made it be dark arts and overcomplicated things with not much to show.
I made the conclusions I needed to.
It's great you saw in action that simple material beats PUA gibberish.
And yes, most can't be saved, it's like a cult for some.
10 daygame lays ✔
complete my redshirt year [900+ approaches / 10 lays] ✔
approach 1000 women ✔
learn screening [partially done]
Played guitar all day long. Haven't play in a long time so I binged played. I don't regret it because that's what I wanted to do. I should control it more though (play a little bit every day instead). Productive thing I did: quitted this PUA whatsapp group, it was toxic as fuck. They posted pictures of every hot girl they matched on tinder, screenshots of every little textgame "win" (making her laugh basically), stupid advice and links to ebooks. However I still keep contact with some guys there.
Asked 40 girls for the time. Asking for the time is easy but I struggle with some situations. Doing big numbers somehow makes me anxious because I feel like everyone will notice or something like that. But that's a stupid excuse.
Asked 15 girls for the time. I did 2 reps very quickly, deliberately trying to make girls overhearing me (I want to handle this issues specifically before moving on in the program) That made me very anxious, I will work on that. Went to a bar but I was tired and didn't do s single drill and left.
Did "daygame" with puas. Talked to 5 girls total. Also I talked to a girl before meeting these guys, it was my first 'solo' cold approach. The girl was very shy, even intimidated, but not in a negative way. She was with her family.
One "set" went really well, I approached a group of girls with another guy (with 10 years of experience!!!). I talked to a girl, he talked to the other girl. The girl I talked to was hot 8-9/10, blonde, gorgeous blue eyes. She was from Denmark (the other girl was from germany) so we talked in English. I wasn't nervous at all, didn't run out of stuff to say, made eye contact, smiled but not in a validation seeking way. The girl was extroverted and the was vibing me, so the interaction was pretty smooth. The other girl wasn't comfortable though and she looked repeatedly to the girl I was talking. I asked for a date at that moment but they said they couldn't and they were about to leave the next day. She gave me her instagram but didn't accepted my request. In hindsight, I should have tried to make out with her. Positive reinforcement.
Didn't go out. Studied and played guitar (excuses).
-My approach anxiety lowered SIGNIFICANTLY since jumped directly into the real thing. But of course I will keep doing the program, the goal is to make approaching ridiculously easy (thus, success will be inevitable).
-I am the only one getting in my own way at this point. A lot of guys complete the first half of the program but very few complete it in its entirety. I don't want to be like them.
-I am training Muay Thai with a new trainer. He put me to the limit (fail reps a lot of times). So I actually so what my REAL threshold is. My muscles were so sore that I couldn't do a single push up. Even if my life was in danger. Even if they payed me, I would lose the money. I just couldn't, my muscles didn't respond my orders. It was very frustrating.
What is my real limit when it comes to this? Why am I not hitting on 200 girls, 8+ hours every day? Is there such thing as over training? Is the 'emotional drain' from cold approach real? If so, wouldn't I get used to it? Will I go to jail if I talked to so many girls?
I think that the only reason that no one does is because no one does it. No one has done it so we don't think it is possible. We don't give ourselves permition. If you think something is impossible it will be impossible.
So I basically tried to do cold approach but failed. I did 1 cold approach in 6 days. And it was a bad reaction, she was a semi hot girl, walking fast, I follow her, say to her hi, she walks faster, I tell her she is cute and she says "you are a jerk!". I laughed at the moment but I could feel how I would process badly that experience. To make it worse it was the only approach I did.
These days kinda confirmed to me how irrational is our behavior. I say I want to fuck hot girls but my actions say that I care more about validation from girls/society. That is the answer to the question of why nobody on the forum talks to 30+ girls daily. We men are erratic in our behavior too.
I have an inner conflict between the "A little bit everyday/consistent progress/smart work" vs "be a fucking man, just do it, limitations are in your head".
So... BACK TO THE PROGRAM BABY.
Did 3 sets of day 32 (Mr sunshine). On the street. I felt rusty and my performance was awful. I could feel how my cold approach experience set me a few steps back. But that's good, now I have the opportunity of making a bigger stretch. Having said that, I feel like this week will be way easier than week 4 (that took me a month!).
Did all 4 sets of day 33 (clumsy) without challenge. Gotta re do it with challenge included.
I really liked this drill. So far I really liked the autistic drills, it proves how unimportant smoothness really is. Almost all reactions were worried like 'Are you ok?' hahaha
-I used killtheinnerloser's "finger pointing" technique (subtly, not with my arm fully stretched), it really made the difference between people staying in the interaction or walking away. I felt like a fucking boss. People are incredibly obedient, you gotta watch those youtube videos of a guy giving orders to people. You have to get in there more, engage people and be more charming (you learn that with experience).
-I always thought that "being unattractive" kind of insecurities and "guilt of being a creep" were separate components of aa but they are similar. In life, if you are good looking you can get away with a lot of stuff. If you really thought of yourself as someone with high status you wouldn't worry about being seen as a 'rapist'. It really isn't the same a poor ugly minority guy talking to girls in a college campus than a white well dressed good looking guy doing the same, is it?
-I'm at my maximum anxiety levels when I'm sitting home THINKING about talking to girls. Don't torture yourself like that. QUIT YOUR HOUSE=QUIT YOUR HEAD.
Handling your schedule is fundamental to be productive. The other side of it is handling the environments where you do stuff, not letting random circumstances to determine so. It is crucial to have a system that màkes you quit your house, like going to x place to have a coffee everyday at the same hour.
Did 4 sets of day 33 with challenge. Today I felt very anxious, it just wasn't my day. But executed and my performance improved over time. I hate when AA comes back all the sudden. Observations:
-almost no interaction that I had in the program fell into pieces. One of my biggest fears is running into my own words, freezing, but that never happen. I was actually pretty smooth in the few real approaches that I did. That isn't a good sign, that means that there are a bunch of potentially autistic interactions that I could have experienced but I didn't step up to the plate. I didn't have many 'be a man' moments, I just gradually waited until I became more comfortable with the drills. My AA isn't as big as I would like to believe, I'm just a giant pussy with a fragile ego that makes me afraid of looking like a moron.
-I still dedicate only 2 hours of talking to women out of 12 (I go to college but just attend to some shitty classes). That is less than 20% wtf? How important is this to me?
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