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So I did day 9 of the AA Program today and one of the girls, who I asked if she had been to the restaurant and if she liked it, started to ask me questions.
She asked whether I had reservations, if I had been there before, and if I was new to the area.
It seemed pretty clear that she wanted to have a conversation with me. I politely answered her questions and left, because I took the pledge to do the drills as written and not modify them, but I'm not sure if that was the right thing to do or not.
Wouldn't seeing how long I could talk to that girl be a good experience for me?
The point of the program is to get in there, do the drill, and get out. I remember Chris mentions (whether it's an a video or an audio I don't remember) "I don't care if she takes her top off, after the drill, get out of there." It's meant to reinforce neutral/good experiences and slowly condition your tolerance toward slightly more negative responses.
However NoStringsAttached brings up a good point. If you had chemistry with the girl, asking for her number couldn't hurt. However, The AA program is designed so that you get in there, say what needs to be said, and to get out before things go sour. Accidentally turning your AA drills into weak indirect approaches may elicit some negative responses you're not ready to hear, and could undo all the progress you've made up until that point.
That's why it's only suggested you only ACTUALLY start hitting on girls after Day 46, at which point you've already made a fool of yourself and witnessed pretty much every type of reaction out there, seeing as if you've followed the program day-by-day, drill-by-drill, you will have interacted with a MINIMUM 750+ girls. At which point, you've been repeatedly conditioned to see pretty much everything there is to see in terms of a standard interaction.
Main points I'm trying to get across:
Don't turn drills into weak indirect approaches.
Bad experiences this early can undo all the progress you've made thus far.
Trust the process.
As someone who has completed the AA program: DONT do it.
It literally completely destroys the entire point of the program. Then every drill you do will become an approach in the back of your mind.
Don't do it. It sets a bad precedent. When you start breaking rules, you start losing.
This doubles as the official response from Chris, who has expressed this thought many times.
Keep in mind NSA never did the AA program. He jumped right into approaching, which doesn't work for most people. If you do the AA program, follow the rules
To address the original poster: eh, it's probably better to do the drill and leave. However, talking to them a little longer isn't anywhere near as bad as turning the drills into approaches and trying to get laid from them
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
If you notice that the girl is giving you some good vibes and you think she is cute save her number for later and proceed with the drills. I think having some sort of incentive to keep doing the drills is necessary, also it's a good sight that your apperance is attractive to girls which is a great moral booster. I still regret not asking for the numbers of some really hot girls when I was in my social momentum while doing the drills, even some opportunities like: fucking a 10/10 French girl, an air waitress right there in the spot and having a threesome. Shit, it hurts just to remember :/
I don't know man, I should say trust your instincts. If the girl is clearly giving you signals "I WOULD LIKE YOU TO FUCK ME" then I say fuck the program. I actually got laid doing the AA program. I'm glad I didn't fuck off after completing the drill. The girl was like "what are you just gonna leave without even giving me your number?" What was I supposed to do, decline? No, I gave her my number. Then she texted me she would like me to ask her out. Then I did, and we fucked.
But that was then; I was small and ripped. Now that I'm a big guy girls don't like me. At all.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
If SHE approaches YOU, let her. Don't do it the other way around.
I think that's what Chris was trying to help us avoid, if we start hitting on girls or making those indirect approaches, they probably won't go so well and we won't have positive interactions.
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