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Finished the rest of the drill today, I followed both your advice healthyadda and Andy, I guess that's the purpose Chris put so many reps for most of the last 3 weeks of drills. I felt much better about it today. I got more good reactions. Good reactions near the beginning really do make the drills easier. For doing it for the first time, it's better for bad reactions to come later I think. I started getting more neutral and a couple of bad reactions near the end, but by that point, I felt almost complete indifference. Girls that were rude to me(aka. try to ignore me, or rudely respond to me) I just tell them "You're welcome." in a rude way back and just continue to the next. I don't know if I should just ignore them, but doing that definitely makes me feel better.
A few things to note today: One thing that stops me from going up to girls is if guys are lingering around, I feel that one of the guys will see me talking to his girl and become belligerent to me. At a Target, I went up to this girl alone in a aisle and did my thing, then I walked back into the main aisle and this guy was just trying to stare me down. His body language was making me feel angry, I stared back at him, then we both just went on our way. I was left wondering, "I wonder if he's a loss prevention guy" then I thought, "Oh, I must have done a drill on his girl." I just went to a different area of the store and continued. Also, yesterday, I ran into a guy I know from the gym at a different Target, I spoke to him for a bit then continued to do drills and didn't think twice about him seeing me. There were some girls that looked receptive to continue talking, both today and yesterday.
I noticed the same pattern today: Girls younger than me look the most receptive, girls that look older than me are more standoffish.
"Girls that were rude to me(aka. try to ignore me, or rudely respond to me) I just tell them "You're welcome." in a rude way back and just continue to the next."
Lol I've had this conversation with Healthyadda several times. When I tell a girl she's cute and she walks off/has a weird reaction, I feel like saying "GIMME MY COMPLIMENT BACK, YOU DON'T DESERVE TO KEEP IT"
Day 39 A
Hey wait a sec. You're cute. x10
Hey wait a sec. You're cute. I'm (name.) x10
x2, (total 40)
I went to one of the college campuses, it was dead... that was quite a waste of a drive, I managed to do 5 reps of "Hey, wait a sec. You're cute." I struggled to get in there and got what I felt were some 'weird' responses. Then I drove to another campus and it was much more lively. I did the next 5 reps fairly easily. Then I did the "I'm ganzo' part. After I did those reps, I suddenly realized, I wasn't getting 'weirded out' reactions, when you say "you're cute, I'm ganso" the girls see you as ballsy and know what's up, going up to girls and saying 'youre cute and running away is actually rather odd. I got some receptive girls but I just left.. I should have stayed in there. Then I went to a Target and struggled to get in there again. Seeing so many people nearby makes it difficult. I struggled to do one and I saw this lady about my age, in my mind I assumed she'd blow me off and ignore me, but to my surprise, she giggled and said thanks in an actual kind way. Total girls approached today 22. I need 18 more to finish this day. Overall I'm happy with my performance.
Things I noticed today: at the second college, I noticed a girl on a bench looking at me from afar, I saw her look at me for a few paces. She was obviously checking me out. I thought about approaching, but I pussied out. At a Target, I noticed this girl buying clothes, she was quite cute, she saw me and looked down. Then I walked past her again and she saw me and immediately looked at the floor... it's unusual behavior, I should have approached her and investigated further.
Tomorrow I'm going to finish day 39 and do 1 actual approach. I feel almost ready to transition. I think my go to opener will be 'hey, you're cute, I'm ganso' I got lots of polarizing responses, either "I have to go" or the girl walks and ignores me, or "Hi, nice to meet you" and the girl stays there.
I'm a few days behind you but I'm also getting the feeling that I'm ready to start approaching. I'm assuming this drill is like the others in that after you get past your first few reps, your state goes up and you perform the drill even better. Hence the less weird reactions, maybe. It's a numbers game so keep putting yourself out there.
You can approach on the side once you get up to a certain point. Just one thing, don't drop the program.
Keep it up Ganso! I remember the first couple of times I said the whole cute thing. That shit caused the only breakdown of my psych. It was weird to just leave but no pressure dawg. You'll be in the game for real once the training wheels come off.
Hmm. Felt less anxiety. I went to the University I used to go to when I lived in LA. There's lots of girls. It wasn't that busy yet there were girls everywhere. I did almost all the rest of the reps on campus, I decided to leave 5 so I'd have to force myself to do them at Target. It was easier to do it at Target as well. I'm not going to lie and say that I don't hesitate and can do it on every girl, but it feels so much easier compared to the other day. For the first time I got an actual 'bad' response, I told this lady at the uni, 'hey, wait a sec, you're cute' she called me an asshole and walked away. I've approached probably like 85 girls total, and have called twice as many girls cute only doing drills and I've never seen that. It was quite funny. I still struggle to do drills near a lot of people, however, I am managing to do drills with at least 1 or 2 people nearby which is progress. I wasn't able to approach. I was thinking of doing one of my drills into an approach, but I automatically walk away after I do what I'm supposed to do. I'll have my 'fuck it' moment soon enough, I can feel it. Also, after that happens, I think I'll start investing half my time on drills and half my time on approaching while I'm out and I'll stop doing drills all together when approaching feels easier than drills.
I should move back to my old town sometime next week. These are my expectations for the rest of the year: I'll be happy to have 1-2 girls every 3 months. Keeping my expectations low. I'm going to set a new goal for myself, so I'll be focusing more on gaining weight after I feel that I've 'beaten' my approach anxiety and I'll shoot to be 160lbs with 11-12% bodyfat by the end of the year.
Doing drills in your old college town sounds super sentimental.
LIke for real, maybe in a few years or so maybe I'll just cold approach on my old campus for the hell of it, get mega stoned, and see if I can find a DTF girl that DAY lol.
It would be cool
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It wasn't so sentimental for me. I don't have too many memories of any of the community colleges or that University that I went to, I was a hermit back in the day. One thing I do have is the fear that I'll be recognized at that university for some reason even though there's probably less than 10 people out of tens of thousands of students that go to that school that could recognize me.
Yea she was actually. She probably 'felt' that I cat called her then went home to complain about it and write on her blog that women aren't even safe on campus or something like that. Most girls looked like I brightened their day when I complimented them, but not her. I did become slightly paranoid after that because there were some campus police officers parked right behind me. There was no way I'd be able to do all these drills without having access to such a populous town, I have access to 3 decently big college campuses 3 shopping malls and dozens of department stores in an area with a high population density. The downside is a one way 30min drive each day that I go do drills.
Ok boys. I'm officially moved out, feels good to sleep in my own room on my own bed again. I'm going to resume AA drills tomorrow. I'm going to go out and do 10-15 reps of tomorrows drills. I'm expecting some AA build up again, but nothing that I won't be able to handle. The first one will be the hardest again.
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