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Time. Have you been to a nearby restaurant?
Time. Have you been to a nearby restaurant? Did you like it? (x5 each)
I felt quite comfortable for the most part. I took 20-25 minutes to complete. I swear the drills seem so easy so far. It must have taken me about 2 hours to finish it the first time. I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong. When girls say they haven't been there, I asked 'Did you like it?' with a grin, they just laughed. Was a fun day. One thing to note, I did this all in the same store within 25 minutes, I have never finished a days worth of drills in the same place. Some girls wanted to keep telling me about the restaurant I asked about, I stayed and listened for a bit, but I just interrupted them and bailed. I'm really tempted to stay and talk for a bit, but the initial approaching is what I'm trying to overcome right now, I'll work on holding conversations later on, or maybe I'll just chat with one girl each day from each drill. The first three sets were cake, the last two I began to get in my head, "omg, did I ask that woman already?" "I think I asked her", "the loss prevention guy is probably onto me." On the last girl alone I wasted 5 minutes looking for the 'perfect' girl to do it on. I won't do a repeat, I felt comfortable enough. I just have to fight through the voice in my head making me think I'm doing something wrong.
Mindset shift this time around: I'm beginning to feel like what I'm doing is just a game. The reactions are so variable, and it's fun to see when I run into a playful girl and when I run into a socially awkward girl.
personal performance grade for today: 7/10
@healthyadda, @killtheinnerloser, I think it's a good thing to just think of yourself as just out to complete a mission for the day. I think there's lots of value in ignoring the reaction.
That's it you are done. If you found "do you like it" easy to ask, as long as you keep to the program in the steps and not skip any, you will finish it.
I like to think of this as an MMORPG. Like World Of Warcraft. You are now a level 10 rogue. I am starting to take this part a little too seriously, though . If I manage to get another lay, I am going to buy a notch-less belt as "war/experience gear" and start poking notches into it to count my lays and just wear it like I took their souls that are now inside my belt. Arrogant, maybe, crazy, yes! mwahaha
I like thinking about life as a MMORPG game sometimes also. It's similar in that you have to gain XP (experience) to level up and become more badass. The AA program seems to be the ultimate guide to levelling up social freedom. Let's get these gains.
Time. Is there a theater nearby?
Time. Is there a theater nearby? Have you seen any good movies lately? (x5 each for 15 total)
I started at a Target and got 3 sets done there. This drill felt much harder this time than the last time, maybe it's because of the early reactions. I felt the voice in my head trying to make me quit, I forced myself on. I got a horrible reaction on the last rep of my first set. I asked this lady for the time, she said she didn't know it, I asked her for a nearby theater, she didn't know, then I asked her if she's seen any good movies lately. She got mad... she told me 'Do you have to be asking me all those questions?' in an angry ass tone.. I told her 'yo, don't be that way' I should have told her 'yes, don't worry though, I'll go ask someone that's less rude.' That threw me off hard.. I did two more sets at the store. Then I went to a mall, it was much easier and it felt more natural to do at the mall. Some annoying ass black girls accused me of hitting on them, (you wish baby). I finished off feeling better.
I might repeat, I might not.
Time. Do you know anywhere that sells cellphones?
Time. Do you know anywhere that sells cellphones? What phone do you have?
Time. Do you know anywhere that sells cellphones? What phone do you have? Do you like it?
Got lots of mixed responses. Felt moderate levels of anxiety. I weirded out a bunch of women, but I
remembered that that's ok and these drills are sort of weird and I was just focusing on doing. I was trying to get the very last set in, I asked this hot girl for the time, she had her phone in her hand and just told me she doesn't know the time, I got upset and called her a fucking bitch. I kept walking and asked two younger girls, they stopped both turned their bodies towards me and were friendlier. Younger girls are more compliant. I should be more polite and not just leave the girls talking about their phone mid sentence, since it's these types of girls that I'll probably be hitting on in the future and these are the girls that help me build social momentum. Friendly not socially awkward girls and girls that are attracted to you make the drills much easier.
Things to do: DO NOT skip women just because of their age, I was doing that today. It kills off social momentum and makes the day longer and harder to finish. But also DO NOT just do it on older women because it's easier.
Time. Do you know anywhere that sells nice candles?
Time. Do you know anywhere that sells nice candles? I'm planning a candlelit dinner for my girlfriend.
Time. Do you know anywhere that sells nice candles? I'm planning a candlelit dinner for my girlfriend, I'm the sweetest guy ever. (x4, 16 total)
Did 2 whole sets and 3 reps of the 3rd set. Did not feel comfortable at all. I'm grinding through. The extra long interactions make me feel like girls I've done the drill on will see me. I'll finish this drill tomorrow. I might redo the drill at the end of week 4.
Just keep scratching away. You have the will dude.
Just to add to Slick's comment, the irony is, that once you complete the easier weeks 5 -7, and go back to something like asking if she has a cell phone or a week 4 drill, it is so easy, you will wonder how the fuck you couldn't do it.
I couldn't say the word fuck to a girl "it is a challenge". I tested myself, and just straight up asked a girl sitting in the grass if she would fuck me, straight out of nowhere, to her shock. You will see. Complete the program.
Was feeling shitty today. I did not want to go out to do drills. Was the anxiety getting hte best of me. I logged onto GLL and read how hard everyone else is working and that made me feel like forcing myself to go out. Anyways, here's the summary of today's drills:
Day 12b. Finished off day 12, felt slightly more comfortable doing the drill, but this one is still one I don't like. Like I said, I might redo this one.
Overall performance for day 12: 6/10
Time. Do you know where they sell good wine?
Time. Do you know where they sell good wine? I just passed my test/got a promotion and I want to celebrate.
Time. Do you know where they sell good wine? I just passed my test/got a promotion and I want to celebrate. What wine do you recommend? (x4 each, 16 total)
I went to a mall to do this one. This is a mall in a more upscale neighborhood, I used to struggle to do any drills at all at this mall. I finished rather quickly. There weren't many people but I managed to force myself everytime I saw a woman walking past me. I need to start going into the shops at malls and trying out some drills.
High fives. x10
High fives. x10 (total 20)
I drove to a different mall for this one. The parking lot was full but when I went inside, it was deserted. It took me like 30 minutes to do 20. I didn't feel as stifled as I did the first time I did this drill on my last AA program attempt. Most girls were compliant. I got rejected very few times, I must have gotten lucky today.
On the day 12b drills, I didn't get too many positive reactions. I was wearing a hoodie and a baseball cap though, maybe that's why. I've been told by my friends that I look like the unabomber when I wear that hoodie and a baseball cap. I removed the cap and hoodie for the rest of the drills, and I got much better responses. Either people treat you better when you look better, or I was feeling more comfortable by then and was putting off a better vibe.
Note to self: Don't wear a hoodie and a baseball cap, I look like the unibomber.
I've had days where I felt slightly below baseline which sometimes makes going out to do AA drills seem tedious. I still force myself to go out and do as much as I can and find myself feeling quite satisfied by the end of the day.
I would advise going into shops in the mall. When I started doing this I wasted less time. Pick good stores to find chicks in like Nordstrom, Forever 21, etc. I also like to window shop as I walk around and if I see a chick I want to approach in a store I'll go in. This sounds creepy but it is what it is.
I think looking good generally leads to better responses. People like to associate with good looking people. Its good to keep in mind that were not after a particular response but I still make an effort to look atleast half way decent when I go out.
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