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♫ Here's my comeback on the road again ♫ 22 Jul 2017 17:54 #287405

Thanks man, I really appreciate your posts. I had in my head all you said, just wasn't sure. I felt today like I'm almost gonna approach when I saw the 2 hot girls at the end, but they sat down on a bench in the middle of other people and started taking selfies. I was standing there for a while to see if they get up, so I could try it, but I really needed to take a shit, so I went home :D

Tommorrow's another day... luckily, now I feel like this, and not like it's the end of the world... like I did last year... I can feel success coming in my bone(s) ;)
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♫ Here's my comeback on the road again ♫ 22 Jul 2017 19:44 #287412

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Big in Japan wrote: tl;dr: Dropped out, let myself slip back into the comfortable life, realised it's bad, starting again

I had so many opportunities today that I don't know how I couldn't realise this before. I think the underlying anxiety made me blind and looking for excuses.

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When you start you only consider girls in "perfect" conditions. Only when she is alone. Only in the evening. Only if she is "not bitchy". Only if she shows signals. Only if she is your type. Only if she is really attractive, etc. Those are mostly excuses.

However, it is a good idea to start approaching girls that you are comfortable with (certain age range, looks, location, time, etc.) and then expand. I was afraid to approach older girls first and really pretty ones, or ones that look bitchy. Then I started expanding my range slowly. Approaching older ones, bitchier ones, hotter ones. I still have some blockages probably, but they are way fewer than when I started. I can approach probably 80% of fuckable girls now, maybe more.
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learn screening [partially done]

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♫ Here's my comeback on the road again ♫ 22 Jul 2017 20:35 #287413

Yeah I know man. I mean, even though I haven't had as many girls as the other guys here, I've been at this for 2 years almost, so I noticed these patterns all the time, even when I was trying the AA program. Especially guilty of this during bargame, a few times I went home alone even though I had potential targets eyeballing me... or even approaching me- if I went for a 6/10 girl instead of ignoring her and looking at a 9/10 dancing with someone else (who then also left with them), I could have fucked 2 girls in 3 hours when I was in Seoul the 1st time, 7 months ago - but I left alone... Sometimes, you just gotta do it... I already realized this, which is why I banged my last girl, #13. She wasn't the best girl in the bar I wanted to go home with, but I thought - "not again, better be secure with a good girl than wait for the best one and see her leave with someone else". Anyway, thx for the input again... appreciated

By the way: I haven't had my contact lenses since November, and now it's a really huge handicap, since I can't see if the girl is really cute until she has already passed me (if she even gets close). Which makes me less motivated to approach her, doubting the cuteness, giving me excuses .. blabla just need to get lenses. This week
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♫ Here's my comeback on the road again ♫ 23 Jul 2017 19:55 #287477

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Yes, small things can make it harder. Some guys don't smile cause they have bad teeth. I had issues approaching cause all my clothes were wack. It's still an excuse.

My easiest way to determine if something is an excuse or not is to see if someone is trying to solve it. If you are solving it, than it's not an excuse. If you have bad clothes, but are not trying to get better ones, it's definitely laziness. Still, sometimes we must do things despite imperfect conditions (bad clothes, weird teeth, bad eyesight, etc.)

Also, good for banging that average girl. Right now I am with a girl who is ok (which is already great for me). Although I am not super sexually attracted to her I will still try to bang. Chris was right. Bang everything bangable. Dry spells are way worse. If she is fuckable fuck it.
10 daygame lays ✔
complete my redshirt year [900+ approaches / 10 lays] ✔
approach 1000 women ✔
learn screening [partially done]

2018✔ 2019 goals
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♫ Here's my comeback on the road again ♫ 23 Jul 2017 21:49 #287485

Well to be clear, she wasn't average, she was still probably the best looking girl I have had ever. Just not the model looking kind of girl with big ass and fake tits that my ego would like to get. Actually, I feel like I could fall in love with this girl if she lived here lol.

So right now, my only problem is libido and motivation. I have the style, I don't have a killer body (far from it) but I still look good, I have some game and I think a kinda cool personality. I have no excuse. I just don't approach cause I kept playing with my dick the whole weekend. So, my plan for the next week is to do nofap and starve myself to desperation again. I'm gonna report back if successful (= approaches done)
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Japanese: 8
Korean: 6
Vietnamese: 1
non-Asian: 1 (but she looked Asian)

Got dat Yellow Fever ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Career + uni = GLL now on pause
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♫ Here's my comeback on the road again ♫ 07 Aug 2017 20:40 #288407

No approaches. Reason: Had a urinary tract infection, which became a kidney infection. Reason for that: Not sure, but I'm definitely gonna start using protection with random girls... guys, you really don't want to be sick like this... it completely threw me off my momentum, I was in pain for 2 weeks, and I'm kind of healthy now but I still don't feel like meeting anyone. I'm just tired, lost weight, look like a zombie. Self-confidence low.

Well, that was a fast summer. Let's see if I can still get back into it before the end of August...
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Japanese: 8
Korean: 6
Vietnamese: 1
non-Asian: 1 (but she looked Asian)

Got dat Yellow Fever ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Career + uni = GLL now on pause

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