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Thanks man, I really appreciate your posts. I had in my head all you said, just wasn't sure. I felt today like I'm almost gonna approach when I saw the 2 hot girls at the end, but they sat down on a bench in the middle of other people and started taking selfies. I was standing there for a while to see if they get up, so I could try it, but I really needed to take a shit, so I went home
Tommorrow's another day... luckily, now I feel like this, and not like it's the end of the world... like I did last year... I can feel success coming in my bone(s)
Yeah I know man. I mean, even though I haven't had as many girls as the other guys here, I've been at this for 2 years almost, so I noticed these patterns all the time, even when I was trying the AA program. Especially guilty of this during bargame, a few times I went home alone even though I had potential targets eyeballing me... or even approaching me- if I went for a 6/10 girl instead of ignoring her and looking at a 9/10 dancing with someone else (who then also left with them), I could have fucked 2 girls in 3 hours when I was in Seoul the 1st time, 7 months ago - but I left alone... Sometimes, you just gotta do it... I already realized this, which is why I banged my last girl, #13. She wasn't the best girl in the bar I wanted to go home with, but I thought - "not again, better be secure with a good girl than wait for the best one and see her leave with someone else". Anyway, thx for the input again... appreciated
By the way: I haven't had my contact lenses since November, and now it's a really huge handicap, since I can't see if the girl is really cute until she has already passed me (if she even gets close). Which makes me less motivated to approach her, doubting the cuteness, giving me excuses .. blabla just need to get lenses. This week
Well to be clear, she wasn't average, she was still probably the best looking girl I have had ever. Just not the model looking kind of girl with big ass and fake tits that my ego would like to get. Actually, I feel like I could fall in love with this girl if she lived here lol.
So right now, my only problem is libido and motivation. I have the style, I don't have a killer body (far from it) but I still look good, I have some game and I think a kinda cool personality. I have no excuse. I just don't approach cause I kept playing with my dick the whole weekend. So, my plan for the next week is to do nofap and starve myself to desperation again. I'm gonna report back if successful (= approaches done)
No approaches. Reason: Had a urinary tract infection, which became a kidney infection. Reason for that: Not sure, but I'm definitely gonna start using protection with random girls... guys, you really don't want to be sick like this... it completely threw me off my momentum, I was in pain for 2 weeks, and I'm kind of healthy now but I still don't feel like meeting anyone. I'm just tired, lost weight, look like a zombie. Self-confidence low.
Well, that was a fast summer. Let's see if I can still get back into it before the end of August...
Nobody is reading this fucking forum anymore but I'll write it here anyway, for sentimental reasons
Today I had my first full on approach, in my own language and city
Idk why I was always extremely anxious to approach or even flirt in my own language, probably since childhood I had it somehow connected to rejection
So I always approached only when travelling to Japan etc, I could do that in English. You know as they say, people have different personalities in different languages, I feel very confident in English, I can even imagine what Chris would say for example and just repeat it word for word, kinda "act it out". But it's not easy to translate. Anyway, it's been since 2019 when I did my last approach in Tokyo. And I've been super down and isolated since. So, even considering that...
After dealing with a long oneitis for half a year, I went to a book shop today, to buy Marcus Aurelius' diary. I approached a store assistant where to find the philosophy section... when she turned to me, I got surprised for a bit, because she was stupid cute. Small redhead with glasses, miniskirt... maybe it was a normal skirt, she had really long legs haha
Anyway, she pointed me to the right section. I thought she smiled at me a bit
I went to find my book and then I kept thinking, maybe I should ask her for her contact... after I got the book, I wanted to go back to her but I got super anxious and I was thinking if it's a bad idea, maybe she will get offended or something, or maybe she isn't that cute, or she will give me her number but I won't talk to her anyway... just excuses... took me like half an hour of walking through different sections to give myself the courage. Funny enough, I just bought and had stoic manual in my hand, so I kept thinking "what's the worse that could happen? memento mori" and maybe that's what pushed me over the edge
I finally started walking back to where she was standing before, thinking "she probably won't be there anyway, or if she is, I won't have the balls and I'll walk past her and go home"
And of course she was there, I couldn't get off so easily. When I saw her, my legs got weak, I have never had such a strong reaction to an approach, I was so fucking nervous I thought I would pass out. Literally physically got weak and lightheaded a bit. I walked past her and to another section... I thought, "fuck, I'm gonna look like a total creep if I hang around her, I need to take action or call it a loss and go home". So then I walked around the section once, looked at some books for like 2 minutes and headed back to her.
I said "Thanks a lot for your advice, I found what I was looking for" "That's great, you're welcome!" "By the way, there's one more thing. I hope it's not too weird, but before, I thought you were really cute. So I was thinking if I could take your phone number." I was smiling but nervous as fuck. "Unfortunately....... I have a boyfriend." "Oh, okay. Well please don't be upset at me (it sounds polite in my language, in English it's weird), I had to try! Have a nice day!" "Haha I understand!" and I walked out as fast as I could
It made my fucking day. I came home and had to take some selfies (as memento) because I haven't seen myself this happy for so long. I've been struggling with depression for half a year because of this colleague I fell in love with... I wanted to finally start dating again, so I started drills, online dating, started taking care of myself, being more social etc... past month. This was the final test I feel like. I hope things are going to get better now.
I'll read it from time to time. Or hey fuck it come to kill your inner loser. I think gll's prime > current KYIL. But even so its pretty great. I miss seeing hunks old logs, BIB, Chad. Good times. But we do what we got to do.
Nice work on the approach. I'm getting back into it as well and its rough. But after a week or so it should get easier. Just have to stay consistent and make it a lifestyle. I remember when I would look up old posts and see your profile and wonder what happened. Glad to see some old vets are still here.
I post mostly on KYIL now same profile name
Just PM with any questions I come on every once and awhile
Thanks bro. I have already looked at the KYIL forum, actually I've had it open in my tabs for like 2 weeks planning to make an account haha. I'm super attached to GLL tho, changed my life. I've seen some zoomers reference to it recently because of dc7 / Derek's videos, maybe it will relive its past glory one day But yeah I might migrate eventually
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