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An ok day. I took two days to visit relatives and when I came back, I wasn't sure if I would lose a ton of progress and have to go back again. But surprise! I was totally fine. Progress!
I feel like I had some good solid performance today, not really nervous. But, I had a tiny bit of acne which made me feel not so good at the start. I don't think It affected me too much.
No super notable reactions today. Man, I can't believe I'm already considering it a slow day if I don't get bedroom eyes from anyone...
One funny thing that happened though was a cute girl thought I said "What kind of fun do you have?" when I said "what kind of phone do you have?" Nice to know she was willing to stick around, she got super shy when I said that though haha.
Still trying to build more touching into the mix. didnt do it a ton. baby steps.
Also, as long as we're talking about doing the program to the letter, I think I need to revitalize my online stuff. I haven't paid it much attention because I went out with a ton of girls from tinder/pof last year, and I'm kinda sick of girls wasting my time/being super entitled online.
I threw a critique thread up already in the online section, but they said to ditch my shirtless pic, which I put up because chris said it's better for being more aggressive and I don't care about getting a bunch of responses anymore necessarily.
Thanks for the explanation FS. I'll reserve the shirtless pic until I get more ripped.
Today was pretty easy. I did it while I was out running some errands and I don't think it even took 40 minutes.
I've been getting better at approaching girls that are hard to reach, like ones who are with groups of friends or family members.
As long as we are talking "approach all the girls you want, all the time," I still can't talk to girls who are alone with a guy who is very clearly their bf. Even if I'm way more attractive. Guess that's the ultimate scumbag move lol, is it even possible to do?
And one other question. The place I went wasn't super crowded, so I am always at a loss as to whether I should
keep doing laps looking for girls my age (teens/twenties)
or give up and hit on girls way out of my age range (late 30s -40s)
All right guys. I wasn't sure if I would be able to do any drills tomorrow or not, so today, I did something I have never done:
2 DAYS BACK TO BACK
This was not too bad and a little more fun than yesterday. I have no trouble being a nice guy (probably because I still have a lot of nice guy in me lol) but I did get bored of appearing too harmless and not really 'flirting.'
So I had more fun. Even though today wasn't very busy, I was able to get through almost my entire 4 sets inside of just 1 store. I was also very surprised by the amount of girls who didn't drink.
I didn't get a ton of super receptive people, they were kinda low energy. A few were hot though.
Also I have historically been nervous about doing reps in line of sight or earshot of the last girl I did it on. But this time, I just thought, NAH, THEY KNOW I'M BEING WEIRD, FUCK IT.
I was pretty satisfied with my day 13 performance, so much so that I jumped next door to a jcpenney and intended to start day 14 right afterwards.
Wimped out. There's something different about going for a high five.
I thought, oh well, and ran the rest of my other errands for the day.
Then I drove past walmart and thought I would give it one more shot. I did it.
I was very nervous at the start, so I did my first few reps on random unattractive 40 something frumpy women.
Almost universally- the reaction was either confusion, or acting fed up/disdainful, like they couldn't be arsed to give a high five.
I got a shot in the arm when a plucky older lady gave me a solid high five on my 3rd rep and said - "HI! HOW ARE YA!"
From then on out I got the courage to do hi fives on attractive younger girls. still mostly confusion or suspiciousness. I got a lot of high fives that felt like dead fish, like they were doing it to placate a hyperactive child. Ugh.
one good trick though: I saw a really hot girl with her equally hot young mom, without thinking I just said DOUBLE HIGH FIVE! GO! and got both of em.
Changed my tune a little bit. I would sometimes say : "you know what? gimme a high five, i feel great today" or " High five! [slap] thanks, I'm in a great mood today, see you!
Is this cheating? if so, I can do it over.
this set I actually got refused some high fives, which initially took the wind out of my sails a little since one of them was pretty hot. I think it was because her hands were full.
but, I got better reactions overall. When an equally hot girl responded really well, I remembered what chris said that it's THEM, NOT ME.
both sets done in 8 minutes.
I finished today with so much energy! Yay!
When I did this I would give a high five and say "happy friday" or something. I counted it.
I bet it feels good approaching all these chicks
Saw your concern about doing laps trying to find enough chicks. I can't stress enough how different it is to approach chicks in USA compared to Europe. Honestly outside of NYC most US cities don't really have a lot of pedestrians. Chances are you're in a decent size US city but have to drive around to different places to approach. You're prob also approaching inside stores so you can find chicks too... which is good cuz you'll have less anxiety over that. Anyway when I was living in Europe I would just be in the city centre hit on 20 girls in under an hour. Now that I'm back in USA I'm hitting on less than 10 chicks a day and sometimes have to drive to different places. I think what you are going through is common. Just stick with it and find some girls.
I DID wind up doing drills today after all, but also, I did something I know I wasn't supposed to.
I approached a girl and got her number. BUT I DID NOT convert a drill into an indirect approach. It was a real one.
Let me explain. I was on a bike trip today and she waved at me twice. She was super hot, and she was expressing interest in me. I remembered what chris said (get in there!) so at the shop when I stopped for a drink of water at the same time as her, I made small talk and asked her out. And she agreed, and I took her number.
I don't have my hopes up guys. I know chris wants us not to do this so that we a.) dont get in the habit of doing lame half-approaches and b.) dont get fully blown out until we can handle it. But here's the thing: I DON'T CARE if she flakes, or gave me a fake number, or whatever. I am just glad I was able to walk straight up and ask her out, because I have never done anything even close to that before. And I wanted to approach someone IRL because I am so. tired. of online girls giving me the run-around with stupid text stuff and flakes. This girl will be in or out, because she has to leave for school in a few days.
EDIT: I THINK SHE GAVE ME A FAKE NUMBER. I DON'T CARE. I COLD APPROACHED A GIRL FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE AND WASN'T NERVOUS AT ALL. I GOT IN THERE.
despite valiant effort, I was not able to cut my old time (8min) in half to 4 min.
I listened to the audio in the car and didn't see the 'younger than 70' rule... oops. I did it only on hot girls my age. This is probably why.
First set, I actually got it done in one minute LONGER (9min) than my old time. Despite doing a big move where I high fived a whole group of young hotties (Hey, I feel great today, everyone high five! "why do you feel great? did you get a date with your girlfriend or something?"). oh well.
second set, I got 4 reps in, and when I saw I was past my old time again, I gave up. fuck.
I will try again tomorrow and not restrict myself to girls my age. and also try to do better in my own performance too.
This time I did it. 10 x 2 high fives in 4 x 2 minutes! For once, this is a drill that was hard going in, and is still hard. I haven't hit the IDGAF stage yet I guess. Did first 10 at a mall and second 10 at a target. I tried to get both sets at the mall, but got turned down for a high five a couple times in a row and got discouraged. I think I also took too long of a break between sets and let the approach anxiety build up, second set it was really tough to get in there.
But anyway, I did cut my old time in half to 4 minutes, Bear in mind that chris says in the audio, "you could do this in 5 minutes if you wanted to." I did it in 4.
I even used a phone timer for both sets and made sure it was down to the second.It's still a little uncomfortable for me to do. But I did it.
For some reason the high-fives were my first "wall," and caused me to quit the program. So if you're pushing through them you're doing pretty good. Just one thing: Don't alter the program!! There's no reason to, do it exactly as written and you'll beat AA.
# girls: 4
-Summer 2016 (she approached me)
-January 2020 x2 (daytime cold approach)
-April 2020 (social circle)
6 new girls (completed: 4 / 6)
* Include one abg / party asian girl (completed?: NO)
* Include one fobby asian girl (completed?: YES)
* Include one "alterntive" girl (tats, maybe piercings, etc.) (completed?: NO)
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