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Finished last 3 reps today. 2 while out getting gas, one at target.
Got in there today! First time since getting kicked out that I can say that. I'm back to being able to talk to who I want.
I was really in the mood to just start day 25 right then and there.... I move into my own place on Saturday. At that point I will either go out and do days 25 and 21, or hang out with a girl from pof (I scheduled 2, lets see if they both flake)
tomorrow I guess I'll do some reps of day 25.
God, talking to women is like crack. All I can think about is this weekend, when I will finally be out on my own and be able to dedicate all of my free time to doing this.
Last day of "no drills!" I did 2 reps of what's for lunch on 2 cuties. One of them thought I was asking her out.
Preeetty sure the pof girl will flake tomorrow, so I did some research on nightclubs near my new place so I can do day 21 (arm squeeze) tomorrow night. Hopefully this time I will find a venue with more than 7 people.
Flakes are just the reality i guess, but it's why I didn't want to do any more online dating with this program when I was griping about it on here last week. I am sick of girls wasting my time on pof, it seems to bring me down more than it helps. I mean, I'm screening pretty hard but still.
Reading your blog, and its very inspiring to a new comer. You can feel your growth and advancement in the text. Sucks about the mall, but sounds like you got some great advice. Thank man, and I will check back.
Ok guys, here are some of the events surrounding the evening, the drill itself, and some thoughts.
Went into downtown to one of the biggest clubs I could find. Did not want to risk what happened last time where there were too few people to do the drill.
Even at the most packed place, it was a little small and there were just barely enough people to be wall-to-wall in there.
In between reps 5 and 6 I talked to a cute employee to try to get my state moving, she told me about how next weekend is one of their biggest party weekends of the year. It will be interesting to compare the amount of people over the 2 nights.
Anyway, I know this day can be a real zinger for some guys, but it didn't take a ton for me to do it once I actually worked up the nerve to drive up there. Granted, I needed to have one drink (just one) to get past 4 reps, but still this is a lot like a bigger version of the parties I went to alone in college.
Maybe I'll give a little backstory here. After I split up with my college girlfriend, I was super lonely and introverted all the time. Then I realized that I would be pretty disappointed in myself if I graduated college without making the most of the party scene (well, whatever scene could be had at my tiny, isolated college.)
I didn't have any friends in the scene, so I went alone. Again and again. Over about a year, I worked my way up from being petrified at any party and wanting to leave after 10 minutes, to being reasonably comfortable going to them and even having fun some nights.
I consider that (as well as my time with the shrink, and going on tons of tinder dates) to be sort of like my pre-training for this program. It's what made the difference between the first time I attempted it and this time.
So it wasn't too intense. Took some doing, but I did it. I was even going to do the challenge so I bounced to another place, but it was pretty empty and I was tired.
But most of all, I'm so, so happy that I am back to doing full days of drills. I'm back.
I JUST WANT TO THANK YOU ALL FOR SUPPORTING ME THROUGH THIS WEEK, I COULD HAVE EASILY GIVEN UP (ESPECIALLY YOU RODGERRODGER, YOU KEPT ME ALIVE FOR THIS, IF I COULD THANK YOU TWICE PER POST I WOULD)
also, shane: I'm so glad I could inspire you! just yesterday I was reading some of BIB's and NSA's logs and getting pumped. It's great I can do the same for you. Go for it man!
I'm all moved into my new apartment! It's in a destination spot, there are honeys everywhere. Also, I've noticed that the guys walking around here are pretty attractive too. It seems like a lot of them have some style points over me, more sure to come since I think I will make a style critique thread and compare my style to some creepshots of the guys around here.
Yeah, moving here will be a big jump for my style. I'm gonna have to, or else I'll be invisible. In general this seems like a pretty challenging place to approach and I don't want a reputation (yet ) so I will approach away from home for the next few weeks.
I'm an adult! God, it will be so much easier to bring girls home to a place all my own. I've already got more pof stuff lined up, let's hope they don't flake this time. If they do, expect a day 25 report (what's for lunch) this afternoon.
and speaking of that, let me just tell this short funny story- I was grocery shopping with my dad yesterday to stock my apartment fridge. I was zoning out while he was looking at lunch meat options.
Dad: hey, what do you want for lunch?
Dad: what do you want for lunch?
Me: wait, what?
Dad: WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR LUNCH?
Me: oh uh, sorry, for what?
A few minutes later I realized the terrific irony of this situation.
The only way you can really thank me and anyone else is by finishing the program. It was really great you kept reporting back and doing 1 approach a day rather than quitting. There'll be other tough moments, just power thru and never give up.
You got this
Well, I got most of my reps done today. Two reasons why I wasn't able to do all of them:
1. I spent most of my evening getting yanked around by girls on pof. GOD I HATE THIS! I had 3 of them give me #s, call me, show more interest in the conversation than I did, and agree to come to my place yesterday. And they were all genuinely into me this time, I didn't have to fight for their attention just so they could make excuses not to come. Girl 1 got too drunk to drive over, girl 2 had a roommate that slut shamed her into not wanting to come to my place, girl 3 was busy with her kids.
Guess this goes to show: girls who are dtf at one moment, may not be at another moment.
Anyway, all this made me late going out because I wasn't sure what I would be doing. Then, I realized I was being outcome dependent, so I decided to go do the drills no matter what the 3 girls said to me.
2. Drill was not super hard, but I lost count of my reps because of the number of half-reps I wound up doing (not asking 4 times, letting them off with an unacceptable answer). I eventually got it moving and did the drill right every time.
I probably talked to 20-22 girls but by my most conservative estimate I only did about 12 reps. So I'll do 4 more at lunch today before I go home after work... To do day 26. (Who's your daddy).
I've found that wearing a huge smile throughout the interaction really helps to diffuse things a little bit. I'm saying almost exactly the same shit as I did on the day I got kicked out of the mall, but by changing my inflection, facial expression and posture, girls react so much more positively.
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