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Hey, that kinda sucks for sure that you got kicked out. Have you been doing drills there for a while? Thats how I got kicked out of a target. I did drills there for months!
Anyways the week 4 drills are a bit of a bitch because they can really make you look like "someone who needs to be reported" if it goes wrong. Though it does get more intense around week 7 and 8.
I agree with RogerRoger, leave the venue if you get multiple bad reactions. Theres plenty of girls in other places.
The best way to get your confidence back is to continue approaching and hold onto the positive reactions you recieve.
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Hey George, when I was doing "Sesame Street" I got stopped by the police for "harassing women". It was a hot female cop, and when I told her what I had been asking the girls, she had to try so hard not to laugh. For some reason, she called for backup and like 3 cops showed up. They asked me lots of questions about where I'm from, what I do (I lied). Then they gave me a criminal trespass warning and said I was banned from the campus.
It really rattled my confidence for a week afterwards. I actually think it contributed to my giving up on the AA program and having to attempt it again a year later.
DO NOT LET IT PHASE YOU. I find that every person who does the AA program has ONE of these "events". Either getting kicked out of somewhere, stopped by cops, etc. It's like a rite of passage. You're a man for having done it.
I felt the same way about the sesame street drill. It was like, WOW, if THIS is what happens when I do something innocent, the fuck is gonna happen when I'm fucking grabbing girls and hugging them in the later drills? The answer is: nothing. It doesn't really matter which drill it is, there's just a very low percentage chance that you'll piss someone off. In my case I know it was a white knight guy who saw me do the drill on multiple girls, and then flagged down a cop. Fuck the haters, those people are miserable and have no control over their lives. They might try to bring you down to make themselves feel better.
You're not doing anything wrong. Some of these drills are DESIGNED to creep girls out. There's one really important thing you should know:
WHEN YOU TRANSITION TO ACTUALLY HITTING ON GIRLS, THESE BAD REACTIONS BASICALLY NEVER HAPPEN
This prankster shit just happens to rub some people the wrong way. Think of it this way: if you can just muscle through the AA program and get it done, hitting on girls for real will be easier. You'll see. These drills are actually HARDER than being genuine and complimenting girls.
DO NOT GIVE UP. You've got this, buddy. This shit happened to me, and I bounced back. So can you.
Recognize that you are GOING TO FEEL A LITTLE PARANOID for a while because of this event. However, that will pass too. Don't feel guilty about it, just move on. In the future if you want to try to mitigate some of these bad reactions, just try to adopt a more friendly demeanor. When I did the birthday drill I had a lot of reactions, because the WAY I delivered the lines was very happy, casual, and friendly. You may not even realize it, but you're staring these girls down. You can get tunnel vision from doing AA drills and not even recognize that you're being intimidating. Again, all that will fix itself when you start doing actual drills.
If you wanna talk about this, or anything at all, shoot me a PM. I basically did the AA program TWO TIMES to get it done, so I've seen and heard it all at this point.
EDIT: I just thought of something else, too. It's really ONLY week 3-5 drills that bring unwanted attention. Weeks 6-8 really don't seem to inspire the same kind of reactions. You are close to getting through the hardest part of the program. That's actually the SECRET of the AA program. Week 4 is the hardest. Once you get past it, you're on easy street. Go ahead and check out my approach anxiety log in my forum signature. I'll bet you'll recognize a lot of similarities between your experiences and mine.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
thanks for the support and helpful responses. It feels good just to know I'm not alone out there!
I will be out another week while I am living with my parents. When I move out next weekend, I can start up the drills again.
To keep myself engaged this week, I am thinking about working to improve my pof profile. Everyone on here pretty much agrees it sucks.
I haven't been doing online stuff because I've already done a lot of it in the past year, but I will try to take the best pics possible this week without being jacked. (that comes after week 8!)
I'm open to the idea of going backwards a few days if I come back rusty to the drills.
Also, this is ironic, since I'm gonna be moving to a hot spot with tons of shopping and girls my age....but I will drive far away from where I will live to complete the rest of the weeks, so I don't get some kind of rep in the area among cops.
George Volcano wrote: Also, this is ironic, since I'm gonna be moving to a hot spot with tons of shopping and girls my age....but I will drive far away from where I will live to complete the rest of the weeks, so I don't get some kind of rep in the area among cops.
Not exactly sure where you are but if you're doing drills in a moderate to large city (like Cleveland cough cough) then the cops are somewhat used to weird people (aka hobos).
If you're in a smaller city then ya it's maybe a good idea to do week 4 and week 8 drills elsewhere. BUT, I did almost all my drills (1000+ girls approached) along the exact same route in a city of 100k (so I approached about 2% of the girls in the city) and the cops (or the girls for that matter) were never the wiser.
If you have the motivation to take the drive then go for it, I'm just trying to say you don't necessarily have to take extra time out of your day for transportation.
Rodger, thanks for the offer to hang out. I might take you up on it one of these days.
The reason I dont just say "i'm moving to cleveland in a week" is because Its one of the nicer suburbs there (full of yuppie types and basic white girls that I'll hopefully be nailing soon). most people not from cleveland tend to think of the entire place as a shithole.
And BIB, you are probably right about the taking a break thing. I've been stopped for 4 days (not counting weekends) and already I can feel the scarcity mentality and social anxiety starting to creep its way back in. It will be very difficult for me to get any drills done this week, but I will try. Like you said, one at a time. My first priority is getting the last 8 reps of day 24 done. maybe that will help me get back in the swing?
I also have a few other questions for anyone reading:
How to find the scene in your city? Like I said, moving to a new locale with no friends in the area. I did some research online of good nightclubs nearby and they were deserted, I still need to do day 21 again.
HOW TO APPROACH GROUPS or any tips with dealing with them. I have asked this like a bazillion times. I have difficulty approaching groups of girls and guys together. I can approach all girls SOMETIMES, but not for all drills.
Also, is it a bad idea to try and fuck single moms? There seem to be two camps to this issue: one says that there's a reason they're single don't bother, and the other says go for it because they are so busy they often just look for a fuckbuddy and won't hit you with the player accusation. They are so much more patient online, should I go for it?
Finding the scene in your city: I had (maybe still have?) this problem big time - I went to Detroit once it was like a ghost-town!
I went on a date with a 3 (out of 10) in the city today and it's questionable if she passes the boner test but she did give me a great tour of the city, told me it was dead weekdays but pretty alive on the weekends at X, Y, Z bar...
So, my method would be to message some ugly chicks on pof and okc until you find yourself a tour guide
Approaching groups: It's really not necessary.
If girls are really scarce then maybe it is but otherwise cold approaching single girls is just better logistics (less likely to be cockblocked or for the girl to feel "judged) than approaching groups. Unless you want to make it a challenge for yourself, there's no real reason to do this imo.
Still, I approached lots of groups of girls just because I was too impatient to find single girls. I would start speaking to one girl but then switch to whichever girl seemed most receptive (like, sometimes the first girl I'd talk to would try to ignore me but the friend would be looking at me, so I'd switch to her).
No real advice other than GET IN THERE. Be a bot, move your feet at them, open your mouth, say the line(s) and it's done. The inability to approach comes from thinking about it.
Best to let someone with experience chime in. Otherwise, just do what you want.
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