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George Volcano wrote: And mokele: thanks. I actually don't smile, or probably not enough anyway. I guess I'm trying to be cooler and more masculine. I dunno. "calibrated" is a good word to describe what I don't really have. I don't consider myself in tune with the unwritten rules of what is socially acceptable.
Yeah, then that could be it. Don't despair!!
Instead of 'masculine' think 'confident AND happy'. Confident that you are masculine but happy and carefree enough to not have to wear it on your sleeve or try to prove it to anyone. You're just a happy guy, unafraid of social barriers, who truly loves meeting and interacting with strangers.
Try that attitude on and see if it helps.
But first things first. You guys ask, and the 'cano delivers.
I was gonna get a haircut this weekend anyway, so I just bumped it up. Showed the lady Rousseau's pic of jake gyllenhal, and bam. I look like more of a man.
This is the other set of clothes I've been wearing for drills. I think it looks slightly better, but I was wearing the hell out of it and needed to give it a break.
remember I started out this program as the "polo-wearing guy."
Here is my audio log for day 36:
--doubting my progress. What the hell am I even comfortable with or not, I don't even know any more.
--Now no longer sure if I care about girls reactions or not
--want to repeat drills but scared for reasons mentioned. And don't know what I would repeat.
--thinking the sexual compliment / week 6 will be easier but I don't know.
--just confusion in general.
--don't get the same sense of accomplishment as before.
--did friend approach on a neighbor girl. Not aggressive, so I will probably never fuck her. That's fine, I need friends.
--accutaine coming soon
--getting comfortable with the mall again
-- have trouble keeping girls in the interaction
Agree with Dc7 on the shirt thing. Your shirt is way too damn big dude. You could easily go down a FULL size, or possibly even 2. If you're wearing a large, wear a medium instead, or if you're wearing a medium, wear a small instead.
You look like you should definitely buy the "slim fit" version of every t-shirt.
After that, start a training a log and start bulking. If you gained 10 pounds you would look even better.
Also, in your second picture (actually in both pictures) you look VERY INTENSE. That could be a part of the reason why you're getting kicked out of malls. Try to think of happy things and have more of a "amused" smirk on your face, rather than an angry looking stare.
Practice this smirk in the mirror every single day and try to emulate it when you're walking around.
This is the type of smirk that makes pussy's wet.
Buy slim fit jeans as well
If you do these things, you will not only stop getting kicked out of mall's and department stores, but you will also get more positive reactions from girls in general.
Don't underestimate the power of a smile. A smile can totally open a chick up to you when you're hitting on her.
I've said it before on here, but it's so true; get a tailor instead of getting expensive clothes. Spend half as much on things like t-shirts and pants and get no-name brands then take them to a place that does alterations and get them fitted. In the end you've spend about as much as on some fancy name-brand but it will look 10X better because it actually fits your body right.
Plus, you'll meet plenty of chicks who are going there to get their jeans tapered and dresses re-fitted.
alright guys. It's a quarter to five in the morning and the fire alarm in my building has been going off for like an hour plus. I guess it's as good a time as any to tell you guys how I did on
Day 30 (Night drill 2, nice/cute)
like I said, I'm a week behind on night drills because last weekend I didn't do one.
well, looks like that's not gonna change anytime soon, because I failed.Not one rep. Just 2 hours of laps around my city's main bar/club areas. I guess I at least got some familiarity with the hotspots since I just moved here.
I was very surprised that I did a lap tonight, especially considering how easy the first night drill was for me compared to what other guys have said on here. (day 21)
I didn't have butterflies or acute fear. What I was was intimidated, by other guys. I got downtown about an hour before the clubs got really packed. So I calmly sipped on a drink for like 15min, left, took a walk around, and came back. And what I noticed while going around was this: I was not dressed like an elite guy. I saw a couple elite guys going around tonight, I didn't look as good as them. Whenever I wanted to go do a rep on a girl after that, I was solidly convinced that she would look at me like I was a boy, not a man. I was so convinced of my ability to not compete with dudes better dressed than me, that I actually screened myself out.
I notice only the most extremely jacked guys can get away with wearing a t shirt to this sort of thing. Guys with skinnier builds dress in dress shirts or layers I guess??
There were even a small handful of girls that gave me strong eye contact as I was walking around, but.... fuck. Just no trigger finger tonight. So now I'm gonna have to find another time to do this, but saturday night is supposed to be fucking miserable weather wise.
I guess I'm still outcome dependent. I guess I DO still care what girls think of me. And I still have plenty of AA.
Have I made any progress at all? I don't know any more. It's been a few weeks since I last really killed a drill. Actually, the last time I felt that good about a drill was right before I got kicked out.
And I went over to BIB and Rousseau's AA logs today. By this point in the program, both of them were killing it way harder than I am now. Both were much more comfortable at this point in the program than I am now.
All this time I've been telling myself "BIB said that you would be extra paranoid for a while after getting kicked out of somewhere. Just focus and push through." But what if the anxiety I'm feeling isn't from that, and I'm in too deep? What if I'm not?
Anyway, I'm considering going all the way back to day 4 and starting over again. Should I? Is there a better option? Should I wait and see how "you're cute" goes tomorrow?
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