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haha i just caught up your log and i am pleasantly surprised.
i took a BJJ class for the first time a couple weeks ago (broke my hand in a bar fight since then so i cant go back yet). Same thing happened. I was rolling with a few people and getting my ass kicked. I took a break to catch my breath and this girl comes over and asks me if I want to roll. I just said fuck it and legit tried to tie her up. I just treated her like she was a guy. I figured she's an adult, she wouldn't ask if she couldn't handle it. We were at bit of a stalemate because she had 7 months experience and I had NONE, but i was probably about 3x as strong as her.
This was a very outgoing girl though, sounds like a totally different type from who you described. It's pretty rad that a girl tried to partner up with you though. That cut must be helping (srs)
regarding the G4P shit: LOL look at you man, shooting the shit like one of the guys. sounds like you're assimilating whether you like it or not
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
When I was really fat and 250lbs with no muscle, virgin and probably smelled of alcohol, this really hot chick in class came to sit next to me even though there were plenty of seats left. She started talkin to me. I was so afraid of her that I stopped going to that class so that she wouldn't come talk to me.
Also happened in an NA meeting that this chick came and sat right next to me on a couch, I mean so that she was completely up against me and rubbing against me as if to fuck with me since she noticed I was in a bad mood.
I feel like sometimes chicks deliberately try to make me think they like me so that they can turn their coat and stab me in the heart to pump up their ego.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
Back in high school (and even college) I used to feel terrible when guys would talk about all the girls that they were fucking. My friends in high school even made fun of me sometimes for being a virgin, and because I didn't talk to any chicks back then at all.
So yeah... I understand how you feel when you say that it's hard to be around "normal" guys who brag about getting laid.
Just one thing to point out... most guys don't get laid often at all and are exaggerating when they tell their stories. Don't let that shit get to you. Realistically, if you put in some work over the next couple of years and went out with some girls, you wouldn't feel nearly as insecure about this issue.
Nowadays, I get laid way more than any of my old friends ever do and probably ever will lol. All those feelings of shame I experienced gave me the motivation to work hard though. The same can happen for you man
I know that you may not believe or accept this, but you're definitely good looking enough to fuck tons of hot chicks
Deltsbrah wrote: Even if I believe it rationally, deep inside I will still think I'm unattractive. I don't believe I'm hideously deformed or anything like that but I consider myself about 3/10 in looks?
I don't know how you can change your beliefs like that. I've considered making a post about this (ive had positive non-true beliefs too tbh that help me like I've always considered myself tall/big so even though im only 5'9" i never think I'm small even though rationally im not that tall lol)
I think the only way to change those beliefs is through experience. You can't mental-ninja yourself out of a self-image that was constructed over decades. The only thing that would really convince you that you are attractive is to experience an attractive girl with options picking you over other guys. That's how it worked with me. I was totally convinced I am unattractive until a really hot girl picked me up at a party and I lost my virginity to her. Ever since then I've been a true believer in my own attractiveness.
The point is: you don't need to think you're attractive to get laid. Sure, the sense of entitlement helps and is probably crucial for being a player, but just getting some basic experience under your belt, which will be enough to start rewiring those thoughts, is possible even when you're utterly convinced you're hideous..
So don't put the cart before the horse. Instead of, "I need to convince myself I'm attractive, so then I can go get laid," it should be, "I need to go get laid, so I can get convinced that I'm attractive".
Deltsbrah wrote: He goes on to say that i look "unhealthy" and have mental problems. great irony is that he is probably at around 40% bodyfat with a huge beer gut. (I'm not saying him being fat as fuck makes his claims untrue, the veracity of a statement does not depend on who says it, its just the irony of it..)
The day after I moved in with my current housemates, I told them I was following a ketogenic diet for rapid fat loss, and the fattest one of them, at least over 20%, who is also a habitual heavy drinker who routinely gets blackout wasted at bars to the point he can't even talk to anyone (including girls), told me that ketosis is bad for your liver.
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