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Ask for time + know anywhere that sells phones + what kind of phone do you have + do you like it
- Did it at a shopping centre (mall). Went really well
- Not a single bad reaction. Im getting more good reactions lately. I put it down to a few things:
Im "planting" myself. So if a chick is walking towards me, I say "excuse me" to get her attention. Then I stop and stand still (before, I would keep walking until we were standing next to each other). By standing still, I make come to me which seems to stop them being in a rush and they stick around and let me finish all my questions. Highly recommended.
I'm talking slower. Much slower, like I'm more relaxed and have all the time in the world to talk. Before I was rushing just to get the drill done, I was firing off the questions one after another like a drill sergeant. Now I'm slowing down which seems to make them slow down too.
Im also smiling more because I'm having fun now and I'm not so nervous. I'm making little jokes/comments and stuff without even meaning too. I'm just naturally more relaxed, which is a product of doing this so many times over and over and over again. So the conversation is more relaxed.
- One chick who I did the drill on later saw me do it on another chick. She smiled, and I said to her "I still can't find a phone store!" She laughed.
- On the last chick i went into the samsung store and asked for directions to the apple store and told her I hate samsung. Lol.
- Hot chicks are really friendly, 90% of the time. Can't believe I used to be scared of them.
I know this is a (relatively) old post but in the time I have I'm slowly catching up to your recent ones day by day. And this is as far as i've got thus far. At first I was intimidated by your confidence (thinking 'how the fuck can I match up to that) but now i'm far enough in to see the light at the end of the tunnel and really be inspired to see someone else stick it.
Really good points made in the second half of the video re. 'you cant interrupt a girl on the phone, that's RUDE'. I can still remember the first lady that I interrupted to ask for the time whilst she was on the phone. I thought she'd tell me to fuck off but she was probably MORE helpful in some ways because she probably thought 'he's interrupted me, it must be important'. She was a middle aged lady so really sweet anyway but the concept is the same. I know don't think it's rude. I'll do it to anyone. There is a healthy amount of selfishness involved in getting what you need. As you mention, if they need the phone call, they will tell you to fuck off. That's COMMUNICATION. We can't communicate unless we actually interact, which is what most guys shy away from.
We condition ourselves to think in these fucked up, limiting ways. And when we decide to breach them or decide not to follow the 'rules' because we know they are stupid, we generally have no template to follow - no actual light at the end of the tunnel to change towards.
Which is why i'm finding this so great, and why it's so great to have someone ahead acting as the canary down the mine (ok, canaries are yellow, you're ginger, but you get the point bud).
There may be a few more of these post revives as I sort my shit out and review your vids, hope it's a nice reminder of how far (I assume) you've come since even then. Keep it up, I can't wait for the newer drills myself!
What confidence? I'm very unconfident until I start the drills each day. If you saw me at the start of every day, you'd see me pacing around the house, full of anxiety, procrastinating walking out the door.
"There is a healthy amount of selfishness involved in getting what you need." Yeah. The drill I just did last night - squeezing a bunch of girls on the arm in a bar - required a HELL of a lot of arrogance. I had to tell myself "I am better than every fucking person in this bar. I am literally a God to these people. The women should feel blessed to have me touch them." Part of this AA program is developing a "sense of entitlement" as Chris puts it.
"We condition ourselves to think in these fucked up, limiting ways." Yeah they're called "limiting beliefs". Everyone has them, they're the automatic thoughts that pop into your head whenever you think about trying something new, or doing something hard. We don't have to listen to those limiting beliefs though.
Quick reply bud, I'm clearing out a backlog of posts by you guys (Dag and you), learning from your vids.
I'll go through Badideabear's thread once I've caught up to you. In immediate terms where you two are at is more relevant because you're closer to my learning 'curve'. Whereas you're probably looking to BiB for the same thing. It's literally a time limitation on my part (sorry badideabear - hope this makes sense).
Honestly Andy you're a good presenter, this is what I mean by confidence. I suppose I've only seen your vids after you've done the drills.. I'm not insinuating that you found the drills easy etc, just bear in mind I've only seen the 'after' pics, if that makes sense. Keep it up, clearly the you that makes the vids is who you want to be.
You guys are both awesome. Mike I'll have to check out your logs. Imma do it right now.
Andy's right. I'm on day 47 and I recently posted a video featuring me pacing and breathing heavily in preparation for the drill. Some days are just scary and there's no shame in being afraid. But afterwards you almost always feel 200% better.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
Been lazy yesterday and today (Sat and Sun), haven't done any drills. I'm not tooooo worried - it's not anxiety stopping me, it's laziness. Complacency too - the girl I banged on thurs is coming over again tonight. I am going to fucking destroy her pussy, she's a wild child. So it feels like there's less "urgency" to do the drills. Have also just made an okcupid account (only had a POF one before), spent all day spamming hundreds of girls and now I have like 50 messages waiting to be answered.
I'm actually looking forward to doing drills - it's week 4 which is the FUNNYMAN shit. Stupid laziness. If nothing else, this afternoon I'll go do the "know where I can buy suspenders?" drill on just 1 girl. Better than nothing.
PS regarding women: you guys notice that after you bang a girl, and I mean REALLY bang the shit out of her, pull her hair, slap her ass, choke her, fuck her for hours roughly in every position and call her your dirty whore... She instantly turns into a really feminine girl? Every single girl I've ever fucked the shit out of has turned super feminine and submissive. Even one who was a self-declared feminist. The chick from thurs is now super feminine since we banged, texts me multiple times a day, trying really hard to please me, told me she was worried I wasn't going to see her again, etc.
Hey Andy, can't comment on the submissive girl stuff as i'm a recovering monogamist of 8 years.
Wrt the laziness though, pull your fucking socks up - Every day you do now takes you a day closer to the life you wanted when you started. If you skip a day (especially the weekend) you're robbing yourself and postponing what you really want.
You sound a bit like you're inferring you're 'comfortable enough', why not nip that in the bud? Fuck comfort, we both know it's not what you came here for. You're better than that.
On a different note, if you have downtime look into David Dieda's stuff if you havent already - I think you'd like his philosophy.
Yeah I need to pull my finger out and stop fucking around. The last 7 days, I've only done 3 drills - WTF. Before that, I was absolutely killing it, only had 1 day off but made up for it by doing 2 x drills the day after.
"If you skip a day you're postponing what you really want." Yeah. I mean I *kinda* tried to use the days productively to get laid (twice with that chick from POF) and went nuts on OkCupid/POF... But getting laid is NOT my main priority right now - the AA drills are. Dunno why I let myself go this week, it's pure laziness. Also let my diet go, ate so much junk food/shitty meals/carbs (I'm doing Chris' keto diet). Drank too much and didn't get enough sleep either. Too much porn too. Shit week.
"Fuck comfort, we both know it's not what you came here for. You're better than that." I needed to hear that. Thanks. Complacency is a killer. I think the danger is it's relatively easy enough to get laid from online only. And when you have some success (bang a girl), it's so tempting to relax with the AA stuff. Fuck that.
Made a note to check out David Dieda, cheers.
EDIT: Oh, he's the author of The Way of the Superior Man. That's been on my todo list for ages.
Dunno why I let myself go this week, it's pure laziness. Also let my diet go, ate so much junk food/shitty meals/carbs (I'm doing Chris' keto diet). Drank too much and didn't get enough sleep either. Too much porn too. Shit week.
Literally ALL of those things perfectly describe my week as well. Let's take this opportunity to really jump on our goals this next week. Monday is the beginning of our kickass week. We will let nothing get in the way of diet, AA drills, abstinence from drinking/porn etc. Let's keep each other accountable and make it so on Sunday the 4th we can all say we busted our respective anuses working.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
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