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Man you're a living legend. Appreciate the kind words.
There's one guy in my city that I know of. And I know it'd be easier with someone else there. But this is something I need to do solo, 100% on my own. I've come so far and I'm at the very last hurdle now.
I never ever thought I could have more than 1 girl at a time. I never dreamed I'd be capable of talking to strangers, highfiving them, embarrassing myself in front of crowds, etc. I never even knew it was possible to kiss a girl within an hour of meeting her. I've spent my whole life thinking I was a complete fucking loser when it comes to women.
And now I'm an entirely different person. I kiss EVERY girl I go on a first date with, and quite a few times now I've banged them on the first date. Insane. I have ZERO nerves when going on dates. Absolutely zero nerves in the bedroom, no sexual anxiety. I have confidence with women and I'm very slowly starting to see myself as the prize, they should be trying to impress me, I should be screening them.
I got here entirely on my own, with hard work, persistence, etc. I can't tell you how many times I have doubted myself, how many times I have been depressed, how many times I've felt helpless and hopeless. This is BY FAR the hardest thing I've ever done, and I've done some tough shit in my life. I got here by myself.
I absolutely have to cold approach by myself. I need to prove to myself I can do this, with no help.
Had a date last night with a cute 18yo. Super bubbly personality, fun to hang with. She was shy, feminine playful.
Took her highfiving she pussied out 50 times but finally got one. Awesome. Had this moment where I wanted to kiss her, so I just grabbed her and kissed her. It's so natural now, so easy, so normal. I used to overthink it SO MUCH and spend hours trying to work up the courage to kiss a girl. Now when I want to kiss her, I do. There is literally nothing in my head, no thoughts, just "Kiss her". I only got to this point by FORCING myself to kiss girls (like you FORCE yourself to do the AA drills). So if you're reading this and you're not quite comfortable kissing girls whenever you feel like it, just know IT GETS EASIER. Keep fucking practicing.
As for the kiss, she was super shy, more than any other girl ive kissed. I actually thought for a second she might not be into it, but she immediately grabbed my hand and held onto it, and wanted to kiss me again later.
Will see her again next week probably. Also got another date this weekend with a cute, feminine (sensing a trend?) asian 22yo.
I've been reading these logs for a while now, its really awesome to see how far you've come and how you've pretty much done a few things that a lot guys could only dream of. I'm looking forward to see your cold approach journey and completion of the AA program. I'm also really into asian chicks. Their dope.
Style: I'd swap out the shirt for something plain. White/black v-neck or crew. Also I'd swap out the watch for wristbands.
Cheers man. Cheers for the style tips too, will try black v-necks and see how they look. White doesn't look all that great on me since my skin is white as fuck.
The AA program is taking a backseat for the moment while I work on other things - fitness, health and money. Still getting laid a good amount through online. Will get back to AA/cold approach soon enough.
Yeaahhh man asian chicks are awesome. The city I live in has plenty of them. One of my current girls is a 22yo Malaysian chick who is TINY. Only weighs 80 pounds, very slim, wears these tight little mini-shorts, fucking hot. Tits actually look big her for body size. Crazy in the bedroom, but absolutely feminine/sweet/conservative at other times. Very different from all the other girls I've banged, i think because of her conservative culture she's super feminine and tries very hard to please me. Does thoughtful things for me, gives me gifts, that sorta shit. Something most western chicks have no clue about - I've only ever met TWO other girls in my whole dating life who've been this sweet/selfless. That's pretty sad lol.
Where are you at with all this stuff? You doing the AA program/cold approach?
I'm in ATL. I'm currently working on lifestyle improvement. I've done some approaching but never did the AA program. I got into game/approaching around the end of 2014. Everything was pretty mind blowing. I got over the anxiety through trying the 90 day No Fap (lol not necessary) and making approaching fun (photography game).
My first approach was an asian fob on the train. She didn't say a word and I went home without a number. The more I did it, the better I felt about talking to random women.
I've logged my progress in my journal on another site (pm if you want to check it out). I've approached in the gym, on the streets, train stations, malls, etc. With my current logistics situation, nothing really went as far as getting girls out on dates and getting the makeout. My current goal is getting an apartment downtown and working on transitioning into an IT field.
With game, I approach when I'm out but I'm currently talking to a cute 22 year old asian chick. Time will tell what happens with that but she's definitely my type and has a lot of qualities many women lack here stateside.
Also, fitness! Since joining the gym I experienced a massive confidence boost and more receptiveness when I started approaching. I used to be skinny fat, but I've improved leaps and bounds. To meet my fitness goals I work with a trainer and portion my meals. I don't follow any specific diet, but I don't eat a lot of junk food.
Definitely keep killing it Andy. I may not post much but I'll definitely be around, so hit me up if you need any insight or to talk about chicks, haha.
@Wright: Sounds like you're epic at cold approach but just need the logistics. I'm the opposite - great logistics (my own really nice apartment), but have only cold approached once in my life. I get laid a lot from online dating/tinder/etc, proving logistics are really fucking important.
And fuck yeah re: gym. I used to be fat, now I'm somewhere between skinny-fat and having some slight muscles. You ever wonder why the fuck you never hit the gym sooner?
@The Exile: Hey man, cheers! My log stalled at Day 46 and I'm currently working on other shit at the moment, mainly fitness and money. Will finish the program + start cold approaching at some point. What day you up to now? Got a link to your log?
"Took her highfiving she pussied out 50 times but finally got one. Awesome. Had this moment where I wanted to kiss her, so I just grabbed her and kissed her. It's so natural now, so easy, so normal. I used to overthink it SO MUCH and spend hours trying to work up the courage to kiss a girl. Now when I want to kiss her, I do. There is literally nothing in my head, no thoughts, just "Kiss her". I only got to this point by FORCING myself to kiss girls (like you FORCE yourself to do the AA drills). So if you're reading this and you're not quite comfortable kissing girls whenever you feel like it, just know IT GETS EASIER. Keep fucking practicing."
Haha, when did I post that? I'm so far past that point now. Most of the first dates I spend it looking at the girl, thinking "I'm going to kiss you, and you have no idea... You don't even know that I'm going to kiss you. But I already know I am, it's just a matter of whenever I feel like it."
You feel so much power, so much confidence from being on a date and KNOWING you're going to kiss her.
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