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@Dag: You have no idea how many average chicks I had to bang to get the confidence to bang a hot girl. You also have no idea how many hundreds of girls I talk to each week online, and how many of them (99%) reject me. Don't make the mistake of looking at anyone on here and assuming just because they can pull a cute girl they must be doing that all the time. Keep going the way you have been and you'll bang a girl way hotter than that.
The bandana is a cool idea, I'll buy one and try it.
@NumberOneStag: Yeah tatts are fucking awesome. I don't know if I'll ever get one though. I don't like the permanence of it.
Last night with Kr (31yo asian) was cool. Awesome sex, good chats. I asked her if she still wants to fool around with a girl, she said yes. She's nervous about it (she said "I'll need a bottle of red wine first") but clearly wants to try it. Showed her a pic of Ka (the hot 21yo) and I got the sense she was a little "intimidated" by the fact Ka is younger and hotter. So I grabbed her and fucked her right then which probably made her feel better.
She has nothing to worry about though, lol. I actually prefer sex with her (Kr the 31yo), she's way more passionate, incredibly tight, tiny and petite and really gets into it.
So tomorrow Ka the 21yo is coming over. Will talk to her about the idea and show her a pic of Kr and tell her about her. I already know she's up for it, she's told me a few times it's her biggest fantasy. Then it'll just be a matter of setting a date for them both to come over. Jesus, so nervous/excited.
Any of you guys had a 3some - got any tips? I'm thinking it's best to make the night about THEM, rather than me. So by that I mean I'll obviously be the "director" and the one who initiates it (since they're both nervous and haven't done anything with a girl), but it'll be best if I make it their fantasy rather than my fantasy. So more a chance for them to both try out bisexuality and we all fool around together - rather than "Andy gets a 3some!" I feel like that would be a better experience that'd make them more likely to want to try it again later. (Remember, I want to keep my fuckbuddies around - "pump and dump" isn't my style)
I also deleted my tinder, OkCupid and POF accounts. Deleted all the youtube videos in my "Watch Later" playlist. Deleted the music from my phone. Cleared all the junk from my apartment. Deleted my porn stash, threw out my alcohol. I've just been distracting myself so much lately. I wasn't being honest with myself: The AA program stopped being my main priority some time around week 5.
I feel like I want the AA program to be my main goal again.
Tomorrow Ka (21yo hot chick) is coming over. But Kr (31yo asian) just messaged me also wanting to come over. My hopes rose for the 3some - but Ka (21yo) is really nervous and asked if we can do it the next time, not tomorrow night. They're both definitely keen (but they're both nervous as hell), so now I just have to set a date.
Ka (hot 21yo) texted me: "I just want to have a nice time with you tomorrow. I've been looking forward to it." Aren't girls sweet sometimes?
Here's something fun though: I'm going to bang Ka when she comes over at 5pm. We'll hang for a couple hours, then she'll leave. Then Kr is coming over later in the night at like 10pm. 2 bangs in one night will be fun. Only ever done that once in my life and it felt like an epic achievement. Good cardio workout too.
Shit happens.. Good to see you turning it around.. It's easy to be busy all the time, it's not easy to allow yourself to just enjoy being alive.
I love trains for the reason that you can't DO anything on them (that's not so true now actually, i'm forever glued to my phone learning things about this stuff).
When I lived in my old life in my old house, I had a routine that meant I spent an hour each morning before work (7.30-8.30) doing self development visualisations and then a meditation for 15 minutes (just complete silence). In the winter it was dark, so I used to light a candle and place it on the table in front of the sofa. I did that for about 6 months, can't say whether I miss it.
It's ironic, when life is so busy there's no time to meditate/it's too hard to meditate, that's when you need it the most.
I love yoga, but have stopped because it prevents me doing the AA drills on a Monday night. The state you're in on the Day 40(c) vid, that's the state I ALWAYS was in after an hour's class. The quality of the teaching probably matters, as does your commitment to being fully into it (breathing and spiritually). I can't wait to pick it back up again once I've time, when my priorities shift from beating AA.
This is some deep stuff dude. Just when I feel like I'm slipping, you post some video that puts me back on track. I've been sidelining the AA program and hitting on girls in favor of diet/exercise and making money. That's all well and good, but I haven't had my heart in doing week 8. Largely because I'm anxious about some of the stuff coming up. I'll make any excuse to avoid doing this aggressive shit.
You made me realize how many hours a day I spend avoiding my thoughts. Literally every time I'm in my car I'm either listening to a podcast or music. I also take my phone to the bathroom and shit (wham. double entendre, mother fucker). If I'm at home I'm ALWAYS cooking, cleaning, watching a movie or on the internet. I need to start scheduling some "nothing" time.
You got this man. Week 6 is the last 'danger week'. If you break through it, you're pretty much guaranteed to make it all the way through the program. Don't stop now, get fucking aggressive about it. You're gonna make AA your bitch.
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Mike and Dan, cheers to you both. Dunno where I'd be without you two.
@Dan: "You made me realize how many hours a day I spend avoiding my thoughts."
"Avoiding my thoughts" is exactly what I've been doing for the last 2 months. Like I've been TERRIFIED to be alone with my thoughts. Just like you, I've been filling every single second with music/podcast/Youtube/reading/something so that I don't have to be alone.
I've spent the last 16 hours (well, minus the 8hrs of sleep) doing nothing but thinking. Been thinking about all the reasons I started the AA program in the first place. All the things I want from life, the man I want to become.
Quote from The Rational Male, my favourite site: The real test for a man is how he lives with himself, alone. Precious few men ever truly allow themselves to be alone and learn real independence and self-reliance.
The Myth of the Lonely Old Man
In a few minutes I'll be finishing work an hour early to go knock off some drills. Will post the vlog when I'm done.
Day 40(d) and Day 41:
Andy's thoughts on "banging hot girls you don't really like":
Extra stuff on "sluttiness": When a chick is REALLY vocal about sex stuff (without you asking) it just comes across as unfeminine. That's what I was trying to get at.
Also, she was casually mentioning stuff about relationships, eg "If you and I get into a relationship, you should know I'm very jealous of other girls", asking about if I believe in marriage, saying things like "Do you like thai food? I could never be with someone who doesn't like Thai food", etc. Bitch, no. Just, no. Nobody ties Andy down, lol. My dick is too valuable to belong to just one girl.
Edit: She just texted me this:
"not that you need your ego stroked to inflate your head even more than what it already is... but my body is still going crazy. i've had a lot of crappy sex so idk if it means much but you're the best i've had... you're amazing in bed, keep it up dude!!!! ahhhhh xxxx"
Hmmmmmmm. That's a fucking epic ego boost of course. Still don't think it's worth it to have to endure an annoying personality. It also occurred to me now might be a good time to drop her, because she'll only get more attached (and more crazy) the longer things go on. Especially based on the text above. And she's already acting clingy (asking about relationships) when we've only banged twice.
I feel like these are huge red flags, and I'd be an idiot to ignore them. "Never stick your dick in crazy". She's really fucking hot though, god dammit. But then again, if I can get a chick as hot as her once - I can get another one.
So Kr (31yo asian) came over at about midnight and we banged/talked for about 3 hours. Sex with her is 10 times better than the hot 21yo. The asian girl is way more passionate, WAY tighter, tries hard to please me, and she's tiny and petite (only weighs 50kg/110pounds) so I can pick her up and toss her around. Plus she's actually fun to talk to/hangout with, which is pretty fucking rare (most girls are boring/dumb).
Couldn't make her squirt but gave her 3 orgasms (she said it was a record for her) which was pretty fucking fun. She went CRAZY, like she was screaming and she almost passed out and she couldn't talk for about 20 minutes afterwards. If you guys haven't done it you've gotta give it a try, it's HEAPS of fun.
Hah, I watched that video about a year ago - To me that's 'fingering' now, I dunno what else you'd do. My wife always came off doing it, and the lass that I shagged a few weeks ago (ONS) did as well. It suprised me at first how fast/aggressive you can be with it..
Glad you've having fun Andy - No constructive comments aside from that Ka sounds like a fucking irritation and I'd save her for special occasions if that.. You big slut.. Hahaha. It doesn't matter why she's behaving like that, she is.
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Andy kills his inner loser (AA VLOG)
04 Nov 2015 06:40 #227573
Day 42 aka 4 HOURS OF HELL
No shit, hardest day of my life.
I forgot to say in the video, but as I was walking through the shopping centre, there are these balconies where you can look down to the bottom floor. I honestly had thoughts of "If I jumped right now, this would all be over." I'm serious.
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