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@Dag: We're men. Part of being a man is constantly improving, constantly performing, constantly striving to do better and be better. We never ever ever take a break. Fuck I LOVE being a man.
Didn't have a whole lot of time today so I spent it on lifting weights and working, didn't do drills. Probably an excuse but oh well, I had a great day.
The 31yo Asian chick "Kr" came over at 4pm. She only just left a few mins ago - it's 11.45pm. Lol we fucked for 7+ hours (with a few breaks of course). My dick is so tired I was lucky to get it up at the end. I feel like my kegal/PC muscle is dead. I'm really not exaggerating, it was literally 7 hours of sex and chatting in between.
She was WAY more sexual this time compared to the first time. About halfway through started talking really dirty and being really horny. She initiated sex a couple of times (last time she was too shy).
She really hasn't done a whole lot sexually. I mean she's had sex a lot but only with her 3 long-term relationships. During sex I stuck a finger in her ass, she went completely wild and said she's never had that before. I pulled out during sex and came on her face, never done that. Asked her about a few things like has she had sex in public, nope never. Never kissed a girl (but she's curious to try). I made her taste her own pussy juice, she's never tried that.
She's definitely the best root (bang) I've ever had. Hands down. And it's made even better by the fact she's REALLY fucking tight, which feels mindblowingly good.
She's pretty cool to talk to. I enjoy her company. More than most girls. She's intelligent, feminine, cool, sweet, pretty open and loves to laugh.
I honestly feel like 99% of girls in my country aren't good for anything else except sticking your dick in - most are boring, shallow and not all that great to converse with. I know that sounds like I have a shitty attitude but I really really really try to keep an open mind, but girls keep letting me down.
So it's nice to find one who's actually cool.
We're gonna hang out again on friday. I also have a couple of dates this week. I know, I know... AA is my focus. But what the hell, I like sex/going on dates.
@Mike: Thanks buddy. Lol I love posting them, I still feel like I'm posting about someone else's life. Like "did these things really happen to ME? Or did I just dream it"
@NumberOneStag: Lol @ the girl asking you to be your boyfriend. I used to be the biggest pussy who thought it was "disrespectful to ejaculate your semen on a lady's delicate facial features." I thought women would HATE it - because they SAY they hate it. But as soon as you do it they go insane. Last night when I pulled out and went to cum on her face, she grabbed my dick and started sucking like a crazy bitch, which surprised the hell outta me. (She's really coming out of her shell, lol)
I've noticed the more "passionate" you treat a girl in the bedroom, the more feminine, affectionate and clingy she gets afterwards. If I absolutely go nuts on a girl and do every crazy thing I want, pull her hair, choke her, etc... Then afterwards she'll snuggle up to me like crazy.
It's about being dominant, and doing whatever the hell you want to do. Doing whatever turns YOU on. Men get turned on mostly by visual and physical stimulation. Women get turned on by feeling DESIRED. Nothing turns a woman on more than seeing YOU turned on by HER. If you want to get a woman dripping, say things like "You drive me crazy" or "I lose myself when I fuck you" or "I love the way you look on my dick, I just have to pound the shit out of you" or "You make me turn into an animal". Or do it without words - grab her and kiss the shit out of her, fuck her wildly, do all the stuff we keep talking about like pulling her hair and spanking and going crazy. Fuck her like a caveman would, let all your animal instincts out. Ignore every retarded thing feminists say - women want to be RAVAGED, fucked, pounded, 50 Shades of Grey style (as long as you look good).
My favourite move (that I keep forgetting to mention) is when you're on top doing just regular missionary position... grab her wrists/forearms, move her hands above her head and pin them down on the bed. Grip her wrists/forearms tight (don't hold her hands, you should be gripping her wrists), apply a bit of pressure, push down and keep them there. She'll struggle a little bit but as soon as she realises you're stronger and she's "helpless"... EVERY single girl does the same thing: her eyes will get really wide, she'll moan/gasp, and her pussy will instantly get wetter.
Handcuffs? Dude you're a beast, I gotta try that one day.
Really can't believe I used to think sex was all about being gentle & "making love" & holding hands while you gazed lovingly into each other's eyes. "Treating the girl with respect" and making sure you asked her before every sex act - I even asked before changing positions.
In case you can't tell, I fucking hate feminism. I listened to all the retarded bullshit that says you should treat girls with respect and be gentle. "Masculinity is "a silly archaic, outdated notion that has no place in today's modern society"." All the shit that says you should "just be yourself" and not worry about improving. "You should just wait to see if a girl likes you, instead of being bold and making a move BEFORE you know if she likes you." "You're a rapist if you kiss a girl without asking her first." I was honestly ashamed to be a man and tried my best to be more feminine, emotional, etc. I did everything that women SAY they want (nice guys aka beta faggots), and ignored what women actually DO (get attracted to masculine, dominant men - men who put themselves first).
I hated being a man. I despised myself. I felt like masculinity was "wrong", that I had this part of myself I had to bury and suppress - because that's what feminism teaches us.
You wouldn't recognize the old me.
EDIT: There's this story I forgot to tell. VERY relevant to GLL and stuff Chris has said. So the asian chick "Kr" from last night has this male best friend, he's like 30. He's VERY good looking (Kr showed me some pics, he could be a male model), absolutely KILLER style, his clothes/accessories are amazing, buff as fuck, low body-fat, super-successful career (he's a surgeon I think), rich, decently tall. He's seriously like top 0.0001% of men, no joke. The kind of man we all try to become.
I said to her, "Holy shit. This guy is seriously top 0.0001% of guys. He could just stand in a bar and women would come up to him." She said "YEAH! They do! Women come up to him all the time, it's crazy!"
But he has NO luck with women. Absolutely no fucking luck. He paid $80 to get a "Tinder coach" (I didn't even know that was a thing) and constantly tells Kr how bad his lovelife/sex life is. Don't think he's been laid in quite a while.
Why? Because he's missing the most important part: confidence, or "killer instinct" as Chris calls it. The guy has no BALLS. He is a nice guy to the very core. He's super clingy whenever he gets a girlfriend, and smothers them and they end up leaving.
He doesn't know how to execute and he has no game-plan, so when girls hit on him in a bar, he'll just talk to them for 4 hours and get drunk with them, but not kiss them, let alone take them home. Girls throw themselves at him (could you guys imagine girls throwing themselves at you? holy shit) and he still can't fuck them.
I said to her, "Jesus... This guy should be killing it."
Kr: "Yeah, and he's such a nice guy too."
Me: "HAH! 'Nice guy' is the worst thing you can call a man, that's the kiss of death. I'd rather be a douche, or a dickhead, or a complete abusive psychopath asshole, than a nice guy."
Her: "But you are a nice guy...."
*At that point I beat the shit out of her. Well, maybe not, but I did grab her and tickle the shit out of her until she took it back*
^ I wanna talk about that for a second. She thinks I'm a "nice guy". I tease her relentlessly and poke fun at her constantly. I call her "adorable" and patronise her non-stop. I ignore half of what she says. I've lost count of the number of times she's said "You never believe anything I say!" or "You never take me seriously!" or "stop calling me cute!" When she first came over yesterday she was telling me a story, I interrupted her and said "Take your clothes off", she protested so I just stripped her and then said "Ok, you may continue your story now." I told her during sex "I don't care if you orgasm, as long as I'm having fun". I constantly make "your momma" jokes and constantly tell her that her mum is a better lay than she is, lol. I shoved a finger in her ass, I came on her face, I pull her hair and choke her and slap her ass and do whatever the fuck I want with her. During sex when she says "Slow down" I go harder.
By all accounts, most women would say I'm horrible to this girl, I'm abusive, I'm a total douche to her, I don't respect her. Yet she says I'm a nice guy. I've had this a couple times before - girls will say I'm nice or they like the way I treat them, even when I do the opposite of what most people would say is "treating a girl nicely". Women in actual abusive relationships will often rationalise with things like "Yeah he punches me 3 times a day, but deep down I know he's got a soft side, he's really a nice guy".
Yet more proof you shouldn't be a total pussy - as Chris says, being too assertive is better than being too submissive.
" I can't think of a specific example, but she'd say something and I'd add a ridiculous end to her sentence that was implausible."
If you wanna get nerdy and be all PUA about it, that's called "agree and amplify". I do it all the time, it's hilarious (I do it to everyone, guys too). Eg last night:
Kr: "My little 6 year old nephew got bullied at daycare, I told him to stand up for himself and punch the kid back!"
Me: "Yeah, I agree with what you're saying. Ever heard of The 48 Laws of Power? One of them basically says you need to absolutely crush your enemies, so what I'd suggest is you tell your little nephew to get this bully alone and just stab him in the heart, literally kill him, but that's not enough, he needs to go to this kid's house and murder his entire family and everyone he's ever loved, that should do the trick and help stop the bullying."
Or "cocky and funny" - basically just being a dick and never taking anything she says seriously.
Her: "How many girls do you do this with?"
Me: "You're literally the first"
Her: *Laughing* "You're so full of shit! Tell me how many girls you've slept with"
Me: "Hang on I need to grab my phone and call my mum, I have to tell her I lost my virginity"
Her: "You're such a liar!" *Giggling*
Me: "We're probably going to get married now, I'm so excited to be with you forever, this is so amazing"
Every interaction you have with girls is made SO MUCH BETTER and so much funnier if you do this one trick: Never take any girl seriously. That's like the secret to life, lol. Works on older women, younger women, female coworkers, your family, your female friends, girls you're sleeping with. Just treat everything like one big joke and you (and her) will have so much fun.
@youniverse: Cheers man. Saw you just started, I'll follow your vlog. You're gonna love the program. If you stick at it, it's lifechanging.
Lol I broke my "rule" and went nuts on OkCupid/Tinder/POF. Got like 20 numbers, got dates lined up for most nights this week. It's addictive lol. I'm addicted to the whole process: Being attracted to a cute girl, chatting her up, grabbing her number, setting up a date, flirting on the date, sticking my dick in her. The whole thing is so much fun. I've changed my opinion on online dating so much. In my first/second Vlog post on here, I said I hate online dating. Now I love it. Yeah, it's never going to be as good as cold approach in terms of quality. But it's a good avenue for getting laid once you get decent at it. When I start cold approaching, I'll keep doing online dating as well.
Girls on Tinder are sluts. Try asking this question to girls, once you've sent a couple of casual messages: "So what are you looking for on here?" Half the time they'll directly tell you "Someone to have a little fun with" or "A good kisser!" Holy shit. That shit never happens on POF/OkCupid. Got a date tonight with a 20yo cute chick who said she's looking for a good kisser, and has been MAJORLY flirty via text. Calling me handsome, good looking, etc. Bitches be crazy on Tinder.
Generally speaking, I like girls who are a little less overt in their sluttiness. I'll still bang these girls (as long as they're not completely disgustingly slutty, like "I'm just looking for cock"), but I have a lower opinion of them because of their overtness. If they're this overt and slutty with you, that means they're this overt and slutty with other guys. Which hey, bitches can do what they like, but they're directly communicating "Hey I'm not much more than a wet hole to fuck. Don't bother getting to know me."
Also seeing the 31yo Asian "Kr" on friday. We've hung out for 12 hours total now, I'm really starting to like her. Best sex of my life, she's very intelligent, not slutty at all, very very affectionate and feminine, loves to joke and smile, and she's VERY into me. Been a few months since I really liked a fuckbuddy. It's a nice feeling.
When you bang girls, you don't have any expectations about them being cool - most girls AREN'T.
The AA drills teach you that. Chris actually says the vast majority of girls are boring as fuck in the
Day 38 audio
. So it's a really nice surprise when a girl is cute + cool + intelligent + sexually available + into you + not slutty, because that combination is EXTREMELY fucking rare.
I'm not nervous on dates anymore, I just realised this morning. Insane. I seriously feel no anxiety, no nervousness. The only thing I'm feeling is "I hope this girl is cool and cute in person". Before I used to think "I hope I don't screw up, I hope she likes me, I hope my jokes are funny, I hope I don't make a fool of myself, I hope I have the courage to kiss her." I have none of those thoughts any more. Holy shit.
I feel like I don't put my money where my mouth is enough on here; by that I mean I rarely post proof that I'm doing the things I say I'm doing. This forum is all about accountability and showing proof. I'll start posting pics of the girls I bang/date.
First attachment is the 31yo asian "Kr", I'll take another pic of her next time she's here.
Second attachment is my 18yo longterm fuckbuddy "Ti".
Third is "Ti" again
I was going to quit today. As in, quit the entire program. I really mean that.
Funny story: Chatting to this cute girl on tinder, got her number. Ask where she's from. She says the same suburb as me. Lol... Ok which street? The same street.... Wtf. Which number? She lives 13 houses down from me. That's like 50m (150 feet). She's coming straight over (not going to a bar first, just straight to my apartment) in like 30 minutes, as soon as I finish posting this vlog. Will let you know how it goes.
So the Tinder chick comes over. We talk for about 30 min, seems to be going ok. I grab her and kiss her. She's kinda into it, kinda not. She was kissing me back, but was hesitant, then she stops me and says "This isn't going to happen..."
Me: "Why's that?"
Her: "I'm not sure if I want to..."
Me: "Fair enough. Let's call it a night."
She stays sitting on the couch. Like she didn't really want to leave and was just putting up "last minute resistance"
Her: "This is awkward........"
Me: "How is it awkward? This is the part where you leave. See ya."
Holy shit, I just got "rejected" (maybe I rejected her, depends on how you look at it) and I'm actually HAPPIER than if I'd banged her. I feel like I learned more. And it felt good to just instantly boot her out of my apartment when she wasn't going to give me what I wanted. In the past I would have kept her around and tried to "work on her" and convince her and spend hours trying to "earn" her vagina. Can't tell you how many times I have been in this exact scenario and fought tooth and nail for hours, suffering blue balls, to try to get the girl to fuck me.
Now it's like SORRY BITCH, I have 3 cute fuckbuddies who want my dick, and possibly more in the pipeline, and there's an infinite supply of women in this city. Tomorrow night "Kr" is coming over to bang like rabbits. Sat night I have a date set up with a new girl, and next week already have 3 dates planned. And soon I'll be cold approaching. You get ONE CHANCE with me, and if you play games, you done. You fucking done.
Never in my life did I think I would EVER be in a position where I call the shots. I literally call the shots when it comes to my sex life. I have the power to get pussy, and the power to reject pussy. I can't believe this is me. I can't believe this is my life. This doesn't feel real.
Holy shit I feel good right now. Rejection = me feeling good. Wow.
On your breakthrough moment. I'm super proud of you, man. Day 38 was actually really hard for me too. You're totally right, it looks so easy on paper to tell girls 'you're cute'. But, when your feet actually hit the pavement and you're walkin' around telling random girls that they're cute... it's a different story.
I'm also really glad you savored the moment. I had one of those yesterday when I got that girl's number at the Pinkberry. I just felt like such a boss driving home. I cranked the jams up and sang along to Muse for 20 minutes. There's a natural high that comes from doing this stuff, and it's really intense. Yesterday I was so energized I actually paused and thought "wait, did I take phenibut today? Am I drunk? Holy shit no I'm just insanely happy". Easily one of the best feelings ever.
It's all downhill from here man. There's a good chance that you will never have a day that hard again. And even if you did, you'd be prepared for it.
I was actually contemplating not doing drill 55 today. Making all kinds of excuses like I didn't get much sleep, I'm hungry etc. Your post has re-inspired me to get out there and take care of business. No reason to slow down just because I'm about to begin week 8. If anything, I should kill it super hard so I can be DONE with this whole AA drill thing.
Count: 113 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
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