TOPIC: Andy kills his inner loser (AA VLOG)

Hey all. I'm doing the Approach Anxiety Program listed here .

I wrote an intro about myself here:
www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/introduc...s/132367-yo-i-m-andy

Day 2:
(Forgive the shitty video quality, it's night time here and my camera doesn't work well in low light.)



Summary:
- I'm Andy, 28, Australia. Have never cold approached EVER in my life until one I did a couple of days ago that went semi-ok. But I couldn't force myself to do any more after that.
- I can get laid decently ok from online game/social circles, but I fucking hate both of those avenues and want to be a fucking MAN who can walk up to a chick and hit on her.
- Tried the "asking girls for the time" thing just as a test. I kept making excuses for each chick, "Can't ask her she's on the phone. Oh that chick is with her boyfriend I can't ask her. Those chicks are talking, it'd be rude to interrupt."
- I realised these excuses were fucking bullshit... and I've been making these excuses MY WHOLE LIFE. It's the reason I've never hit on any chicks.
- I FORCED myself to just ask for the time and it got fucking insanely easy. Did like 15 in a row in the space of like 10 minutes, some people even saw me ask multiple people but I didn't really care
- Something I didn't mention in the vid: I had to GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO INCONVENIENCE PEOPLE. Yes, it might be "rude" to interrupt someone who's on the phone. So fucking what. I have the right to be rude/inconvenience them.
- I'm fucking ready to do this AA program. I'm terrified beyond belief, but: "If it's worth having, it's worth fighting for."

Day 3:
Signed up for POF account.



Summary:
- I hate online dating. But I know there's a lot of benefits while doing the AA program so I'll shut my mouth and do what I'm told. YOUR JOB IS TO EXECUTE THE PLAN.
- I have 2 fuckbuddies (maybe 3, we'll see) at the moment. That makes me want to not put effort into the online dating, but I DO NOT want to get complacent just because I have reliable pussy at the moment. Comfort is death. Chris did a post on this: www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/get-laid/...-the-undersexed-male
- Messaged about 30 chicks, I'm being picky and only messaging hot girls between 18-24yo. A couple wrote back. I'm gonna focus mostly on the AA drills and probably won't do much with the dating profile unless I'm bored one night or something. My main focus is to kill my AA so I don't have to do online dating in the future.
- A little nervous for tomorrow (starting the drills). The drill itself is easy; I'm just nervous about taking that first step out of my comfort zone.

I feel you on the online dating. It's the worst part of the AA program for me. The caliber of girls I can get online are like 3 points below what I have pulled in real life. AND on top of being significantly less attractive, they almost always suck as people. Dude online dating for girls must be heaven! Like think about it, girls can get guys that would never go after them within a social circle. It must be rad.

Yeah. I basically use online dating to just have fun now. Sometimes I fuck with girls and tease/insult them just to see what happens. If a chick says something I even REMOTELY don't like, I block her. Most of them just seem to be on there for attention.

Yeah it's heaven for them. It makes them act like men - as in, they're the ones who set the rules, dictate the terms, etc. 9 times out of 10 they'll just directly ignore a question you asked, which I have never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever had happen to me in real life. It's insanely rude/weird.

I love "disciplining" them when they do it. They're like naughty little children that need to be corrected. Check out the 3 images I attached lol, all from just in the last hour.

That's how I know they're unavailable. ANY attempt to dodge planning a meetup or giving a number – as in anything other than directly answering yes or no – and I know there is no point in continuing.

A lot give me their number after I say "That's not an answer to my question", some even apologise. Some have even met up with me.

So then it's a question of can I be bothered trying to talk to someone who can't even basic questions properly or show moderate interest in following a conversation.

The more I learn about this stuff/the more I practice, the more I'm starting to do what you said and just cut off communication at the first sign of female bullshit/playing games. Thanks for your thoughts man. I think you're right, there's often no point in continuing.

Maybe it's a defeatist attitude. My advice on online dating isn't proven, because like I said I've never been good at it

Day 4:

Asking girls for time



Summary:
- Did it in about 5 or 10 minutes, asked about 10-12 girls + 3 guys (just because I could).
- Bad Idea Bear was talking about how a girl told him he's weird for doing this, and it threw him off a little. I intentionally wore my watch, and rolled my sleeve up to make it REALLY obvious, while asking everyone for the time. Just to look like a really big fucking weirdo.
- Good mindset to have while doing this: "Your mission is not to think. Your mission is to DO."
- As Chris said in Day 2's Audio: "Your job is to execute the plan".
- So shut your mouth, and do as you're fucking told. Do the drill. Don't think about it, JUST DO IT. "I HAVE NO CHOICE"

haha nice job ya cunt

thanks fuckface

Day 5:


Summary:
- Asked 5 chicks for time. Made it "weirder" to give myself a challenge - I wore my watch and pretended I left my glasses at home and couldn't read. Completed in about 20mins (not many women around).
- For the "asking 5 chicks for time, more quickly": Chris said a guy on the forum "JoeKnowsPussy" did it in 2 mins. I wanted to beat that. Stood outside a university and did it. Video (and description) below.
- Afterwards was so pumped, had SO MUCH SOCIAL MOMENTUM. I think people can tell, your body language is different and you have a different "vibe". A random stranger stopped me to talk to me about my necklace. People smile at me more, and I started saying "Good morning" to absolutely every person I walked past (I live in a huge city so nobody ever does this).
- Shout out to Bad Idea Bear at the end of my video, you're inspiring me man, keep killing your AA.

Timed Challenge:

I tried to make it a little more weird and out of my comfort zone by pretending I didn't have my glasses and couldn't read my own watch.

00:20 -> 2:09 is the time from when I finished the intro -> got the last girl to tell me the time. So that's 1min49seconds. BUT LOL I spent the first 43 seconds walking - there were no chicks around!

So if we cut out the walking time it's actually only 1min 6seconds. But I think the walking time should be included, I mean I could have sprinted in that time, I was lazy and chose to walk.

So official time is: 1min 49seconds.

Terrible video quality lol. I had to hold the phone in my hand so it wasn't so obvious I was recording. Chicks 2 and 3 were walking barely 3 metres from each other and definitely saw me ask both of them. Same with chick 4. She was REALLY fucking hot, like 9 or 10, and had this big buff guy next to her. She was funny, she couldn't read my watch "Sorry, I'm really not good at that". Lol retard. She pulled her phone out to give me the time. Chick 5 I fucking jogged to get to her lol.

HOLY FUCKING SHIT THIS WAS SO MUCH FUN. I was SO nervous before I started. But when I finished I felt like I could smash through anything. And you can't tell from the vid, but chicks 4 and 5 were REALLY hot. Like 8, 9 or 10 kinda hot. And they smiled and were NICE to me. I have seriously never talked to chicks that hot in my life, other than if I absolutely have to (like in a workplace or something).

Especially the last chick, and she had this cute American accent. I was so close to saying "Wow, your accent is so cute" but remembered I was supposed to be doing a timed challenge. But on that note - I had to STOP myself from saying "Your accent is cute". I was about to say it AUTOMATICALLY. The words were about to fall out of my mouth until I stopped myself. I'm starting to realise that hitting on girls is NATURAL, but we've all been conditioned to think it's weird. It's "against the rules". Yet it's the most normal, natural thing in the entire world. My body urges me to do it, I'm compelled to look at hot chicks and find them attractive and say hi to them and try to fuck them.

It's not weird to hit on chicks.

It's weird NOT to.

hahaha did you say "you're a legend" to that last girl? That was great, I was laughing throughout the whole video. When I was doin the high fives I also looked like a madman, running down the street.

Side note: total coincidence but I've been reading a lot about 'Straya recently. Like shit about the outback and the Great Australian Loneliness and stuff. Also Wolf Creek 2. Watch that movie.

I have a feeling you're going to beat this, you've got an even more positive attitude than me.