TOPIC: Me vs. AA

Update on Progress:

Last Saturday I went to do Day 34, but I just paced around a bunch and didn't get started. I was pressed for time but used that as an excuse to bail. That made it clear I need to work on Day 34 a lot. That evening I drove down to Oceanside to visit my parents. Sunday I wanted to try again but was super exhausted when I got back and basically just passed out.

Monday I went to the mall to try Day 34 again. Paced around for a bit but then got started. Approached 21 girls total in about 40 minutes. Had some pretty funny interactions. One girl recognized me from approaching her previously (probably for Day 33) and remarked she'll see me around the mall since I'm always there talking to people (note to anyone reading this: I totally got "caught", doesn't matter, she was still friendly/nice). Another girl actually got the reference and said, "did you really just sing the banana phone song"? Some girls were bewildered, others thought it was funny. I was still hesitant and not approaching "harder" girls in groups until near the end. I approached two girls and when I said, "hey, do you hear a phone ringing?", one said, "wait is my phone ringing?" then the other said, "that's a trick question!" On the last drill I did the full interaction on a girl with a guy. The guy was so confused haha, he was like, "huh, banana phone?" and stared at me as I left. They were definitely too young to get the reference.

Definitely need more work on Day 34. Doable but not totally easy yet. Need to be fearless about it. I'll probably repeat it 1-2 more times, at ~double the number of interactions the day calls for.

Tuesday I was really sleep deprived and didn't go to the mall, and yesterday I basically distracted myself with other bullshit I shouldn't be doing (nerdy stuff that can wait until I'm older). To avoid this being a consistent issue, I'm going to start doing what I did last year: going to do drills directly from work. No more pit stops at home. That's just begging to get me stopped in my tracks. I started doing that with Week 7 because I felt like there "weren't enough girls" around 6-7pm, but I know now that was just AA in disguise. Plenty of girls (I'm completing days, with extra credit, in 20-40 minutes again) so no reason to wait until later. Also I eat dinner later now (helps me sleep) so it makes perfect sense to get the drills out of the way immediately after work. That should dramatically help me stick with doing drills every day. On weekends I need to get out there early, like before noon. I can spend hours on Saturday/Sunday doing drills, which will also make me more comfortable with doing the night drills at bars.

Repeating Day 34 again today, probably again tomorrow too. I might finish Week 5 day drills this weekend, we'll see. Not rushing it, this time it's about beating AA, not finishing the program.

Thats what im talking about!
I totally feel you man. Like ive been getting through , emphasize on through the drills but i havent been able to do them with ear shot of hot girls i just asked... i

gotta do this too.
What im wondering is should i finish the aa drills first or not move on til i really really feel no AA doing the drills that o
Ive accomplished. Cause for example day 11 god that one was hard for me.

Keep it up brotha !

Yeah, I often catch myself trying to watch where a girl goes after I do a drill on because I'm worried she's still close by.

One time a girl totally "caught" me doing the birthday drill on other girls, and she just thought it was funny and asked me if I'm just asking everyone.

What im wondering is should i finish the aa drills first or not move on til i really really feel no AA doing the drills that o
Ive accomplished

No, don't move forward if a day is still a challenge. That will bite you in the ass later down the road. Repeat it until it's honestly boring. Watch out for creative avoidance. Don't let yourself make excuses.

So, on Thursday I went straight to the mall after work. No pit stop. I avoided a couple of opportunities right at the beginning but then got started on Day 34. After not too long I was killing it. One girl was bitchy, she said, "I'm not talking to you" but I thought that was funny, it didn't bother me. I got one girl to check her phone! Hah!

I was going so rapid fire I actually started to do the drill on this girl I realized was actually pretty young and she was with her family. She gave me a freaked out look and then looked back at her dad, who said "what?" to me. To be honest that kind of scared me and I said, "haha I'm just messing around" and left. I didn't want him to think I was hitting on his underage daughter and go tell security or something. I shouldn't be so easily intimidated though. I kept going after that and approached groups and girls with guys. I approached I think 25 girls in total. Took around half an hour I think.

Went again yesterday straight after work to do Day 34 some more. This time I started immediately and had basically no hesitation or avoidance. I approached 8 girls and by that time was legitimately bored so I called it a day. I am satisfied with that now, so now it's time for Day 35.

For some reason I feel like shit today, again probably due to aggressive dieting. The malls are open until at least 8pm so I stil l have plenty of time to get out there. I have all day tomorrow too. I don't think either of the two remaining day drills of Week 5 will give me any trouble and I can get bored with them quickly. Tonight is a good night to hit up the bars and do the Week 3 night drill as well.

Now that you mention it offcourse lol.
Obviously i have to do ghe days i barly scraped by with.
Thanks mate


Danm ballsy with the dad approach

Last week I did Day 35 on Tuesday and Thursday. The mall is just ridiculously crowded with families because of Christmas and that keeps getting on my nerves. Oh well, that should be over now anyways. Day 35 (U Mad Bro?) isn't giving me much trouble (I actually like this drill a lot) but as usual I have some hesitation and avoidance so I want to do 2x the drills (24 approaches) in one go before I move on and make sure this drill is totally easy for me.

Holidays and what-not are a bit of a distraction. Parents are coming to visit today and tomorrow. Everything should return to normal mostly starting next week and I can really focus on doing drills every day. Also I'm taking some measures explained in my journal to ensure I don't want to collapse into a coma as soon as I get off work so I have energy/motivation to do AA drills every day.

sweatervest wrote: Yeah, I often catch myself trying to watch where a girl goes after I do a drill on because I'm worried she's still close by.

One time a girl totally "caught" me doing the birthday drill on other girls, and she just thought it was funny and asked me if I'm just asking everyone.

What im wondering is should i finish the aa drills first or not move on til i really really feel no AA doing the drills that o
Ive accomplished

No, don't move forward if a day is still a challenge. That will bite you in the ass later down the road. Repeat it until it's honestly boring. Watch out for creative avoidance. Don't let yourself make excuses.

So, on Thursday I went straight to the mall after work. No pit stop. I avoided a couple of opportunities right at the beginning but then got started on Day 34. After not too long I was killing it. One girl was bitchy, she said, "I'm not talking to you" but I thought that was funny, it didn't bother me. I got one girl to check her phone! Hah!

I was going so rapid fire I actually started to do the drill on this girl I realized was actually pretty young and she was with her family. She gave me a freaked out look and then looked back at her dad, who said "what?" to me. To be honest that kind of scared me and I said, "haha I'm just messing around" and left. I didn't want him to think I was hitting on his underage daughter and go tell security or something. I shouldn't be so easily intimidated though. I kept going after that and approached groups and girls with guys. I approached I think 25 girls in total. Took around half an hour I think.

Went again yesterday straight after work to do Day 34 some more. This time I started immediately and had basically no hesitation or avoidance. I approached 8 girls and by that time was legitimately bored so I called it a day. I am satisfied with that now, so now it's time for Day 35.

For some reason I feel like shit today, again probably due to aggressive dieting. The malls are open until at least 8pm so I stil l have plenty of time to get out there. I have all day tomorrow too. I don't think either of the two remaining day drills of Week 5 will give me any trouble and I can get bored with them quickly. Tonight is a good night to hit up the bars and do the Week 3 night drill as well.

Wow, the way you handled the situation with dad is trully like a boss. I would have shat my pants.

Subscribing to this, there are really many things I can learn from you man.

Keep up the good work.

Hey guys, got behind on updating this. Week before last I kept doing Day 35 (U Mad Bro) until I got totally comfortable with it. I think I repeated it three or four more times.

This last week I repeated Day 36 on three separate occasions. I still feel like I have more work to do on that one so I'm going to repeat it a couple more times. This upcoming week I will do that and possibly review some other Week 5 drills.

In 2017, I need to finally conquer what has been my biggest problem as I've been tackling the AA program:

I need to get out there and do something every single day

Even if it's to just go say hi to one girl I don't know, I have to stop taking days off. I just added to my calendar a reminder every Saturday and Sunday at 2pm to go do drills. I am going straight from work to do drills on weekdays.

I also need to commit to going to bars 3 times per week. I actually have a lot of anxiety about just going to bars, not even about interacting with girls. Once I'm there I tend to get fairly comfortable, but I get apprehension thinking about going. So I just need to go, even if I don't talk to anyone when I'm there. So that's another pact that I put into my calendar. Finally, I've gotta get back on online dating and stop being lazy about that. To summarize:

Do drills/approaches every day, only allowable exception is on days I have a date.
Go to bars three times per week, even if I do nothing while I'm there
Hit on girls online every single day

Those are the Laws of 2017. Let's get shit done. This year is going to be the one I finally bring this all together.

Here we are, a year later, and I'm back at it.

Last summer I tried restarting the AA program from the very beginning but got sick of it because it felt like a waste of time. Then I wanted to just go cold approach, but ran up against the last dregs of my AA. I decided the optimal thing to do is to pick up where I left off here and actually finish the program. I crushed Week 5, so I need to do the same to Week 6. I only got through Week 6 once, and never did it full diligence and that's why Week 7 was such a struggle.

So anyways, I started on Day 38 on Saturday. That's right where I need to be, because I was nervous and paced around, but eventually started doing the drills and got on a roll. In total I think I did 5-6 before the mall closed, I got there too late.

On Monday I went again. Was in a really weird mood, like super wound up and anxious for some reason, not sure why. When I got there I thought, "man I don't want to do this today", and after walking around a bit I decided I wanted to leave. However, on the way out, a cute girl walked past me and I just did the drill. Felt great to actually do something on an off day.

Went again yesterday and made some good progress, but I successfully got in there. Very first attractive girl I saw, "you're cute"... she got kind of startled because I was very near her when I said it, then she immediately smiled and said, "thanks!" Did all 10 reps of that pretty quickly, then went onto "hey wait... you're cute". I think I let one or two slip by on that, so more work needed there, but I did I think 3 reps then left (again, got to the mall too late, it was about to close).

Like with Week 5, I need to work on each day until it becomes totally easy, which means:

• Get in there without fail. Very first girl, no hesitation.
• Do the drill on every reasonably attractive girl I see. Girls in groups, girls with guys, girls sitting down, all of them
• When I see a girl, doing whatever it takes to do the drill on her, even if it means running over to her

I am intending to repeat the night time drills over the weekend, starting with the simple arm squeeze and seeing how quickly I can work back up to Day 37.

Strong work, man.

I did something similar: the first time I tried the AA program I made it through week 4 and then life got in the way and I stopped.

1 Year later when I had my shit sorted out, I started again from week 1 and crushed it all the way through the end of week 8 (which is now gone because it was too hardcore lol).

I was anxious that because I'd failed the program once, I was "destined" to never complete it. Turns out that's not true at all. You can fall flat on your face and still try again. You have an UNLIMITED number of tries, since giving up is the only way you can fail.

I've read your log BIB, it's quite powerful to compare where you started to where you've gotten to now. In addition to the benefits it will give me, I really want to see this all the way through now so I can attach this whole log to my signature as proof that you really do have unlimited tries and you don't have to ever give up. There's a GLL article somewhere that mentions when you start trying to get laid, all of your problems will come to the surface. That really is true. I came up against drug addictions, discipline problems, various self-esteem issues (some unrelated to my attractiveness), unhealthy eating habits, sleeping problems, time management, uncertainty about what I even want out of life... the way it seems to be working out for me is getting laid is the top of the mountain. I had to climb up the whole thing, becoming a totally different, unrecognizable person in the process, before reaching the top was even feasible. Even though I'm not getting laid a lot yet, I handled basically everything else all in the name of one day getting laid a lot.

And what the hell happened to Week 8 haha? I assume after H3H3 made a YouTube video about it some white knight reported it to the police or something... either way, I made sure to save a copy of it, and I have every intention to make it through that too . When I first saw the AA program I read Week 8 just to see where it ends, I thought, "nope, never, I'm never ever going to be that guy". It was after Week 4 I think (that fucking Kindergarten Cop drill) when I re-read it and thought, "well, not today, but yeah... someday".

On Wednesday I did some more of Day 38. Got right in there and blasted through all 10 reps of "hey wait... you're cute". That's one of my favorite drills. One thing I noticed is my "mindset" is advancing a lot. Instead of feeling even a little guilty after doing the drill on girls who don't respond well (not that I got any "bad" responses, just girls who either don't ignore me or have a hint of sarcasm in their "thanks"), I think, "man that girl is boring". Because there's been enough other girls who give fun responses, you start to realize that you're the constant, the variable is the girl.

More of Day 38 on Thursday, another 10 reps of basic "you're cute", and a couple "hey wait... you're cute" after that. I was a little concerned because I felt like I didn't "get in there" immediately, and there were a few girls I hesitated on then didn't do the drill on. However, this is because when I got closer to them I realized they are older women. Then after that, when I saw a clearly young and hot girl, I just went straight for her and had no apprehension doing the drill, so I think that's fine, probably good I'm not "wasting reps" on less attractive women. I even did the "you're cute" drill on a girl who was with a friend, which stopped the conversation they were having haha. I need to do more of that because that's still a little challenging.

The first three days of Week 6 have a lot of repetition already built into them. They each require talking to a minimum of 40 girls. It's pretty challenging just because of logistics to do all of this on one weekday, but I know I can handle more than 10 per day. I should be able to get through 20, I just need to get there earlier, because I start getting tired later and the mall starts emptying. Also because of how many reps there are in these days I probably don't need to formally repeat them. Since I'll be doing nearly the same drill 120 times anyways, I can just assess at the end of it whether I need any additional work (can I do the drills on girls in groups, girls with guys, girls sitting down, etc.).

Yesterday I went to the mall but when I got there I decided I could really use a day of rest. I don't want to get burned out on this again and quit. Today is Saturday, and I have all day to do high volume. Tomorrow too.

Good weekend AA-wise. Yesterday I went to the mall to do the last quarter of Day 38. The way I started was pretty interesting. When I got there I decided I want to get some coffee before I "get started". I didn't really see any girls on the way to the coffee shop, but while standing in line, a girl walked by. I stopped her and did the "hey wait... you're cute" drill, then when I was standing there waiting for my drink another girl walked by and I did it again, then another girl was standing in line to get coffee and I did the drill on her. This was interesting because I wasn't quite fully in "drill mode" yet, but I just got started anyways. Not quite the goal of eliminating the idea of "approach mode" (instead integrating it into a lifestyle), I mean I was still at the mall to do AA drills, but a step in the right direction.

I rapidly fired through the rest of the reps, and was in a great mood (also on phenibut, that helped). I finished all 10 reps, and started working through the start of Day 39, which is actually the same drill again, and got I think 5 more reps in. Also, I did the basic "you're cute" drill on a girl with her friend, which stopped their conversation cold haha.

Today was even better. I got through a full half of Day 39, 20 drills in total (I did extra though). I immediately got in there. Saw a girl going up the escalator when I first go there, she stopped at the top and went right up to her. Blasted through the first ten reps. I have zero anxiety about doing the "hey wait... you're cute" on girls, as long as they are alone and no one overhears me. The second part concerns me. That will absolutely become my blocker if I don't handle it. So, I saw this girl sitting down, with people sitting in seats near her and standing near her. I saw her, and started to walk toward her, then pussed out and said to myself, "I can't do that right now, I can't handle the awkwardness of other people seeing me". I started to walk away, and thought, "this is what you're here for. You will either get out of your comfort zone, or you'll spend the rest of your life in your comfort zone, which is the most terrifying thought imaginable, because my comfort zone is fucking boring". So I turned around, walked up to her and did the damn drill. People nearby definitely saw and heard me. I don't fucking care (I mean, I obviously do, but I'm gonna fake this till I make it). Those people are background props in my movie. I'll never see any of them again. I don't even remember what they look like. This is something I need to be sure to continue working on. Girls not near anyone, that's not really even doing anything for me because like I said I have zero anxiety doing that (for this drill). I'm only growing and chipping away AA meaningfully by doing something that's hard.

I also did the "you're cute" drill on several girls with friends. That got pretty easy. I can tell it would be challenging to do "hey wait... you're cute" on girls with friends, so I'll work on that in the coming days. I got a couple of annoying reactions. One girl immediately said after "hey wait...", "I have to go to work". I ignored it and continued with, "you're cute" and walked away. It was interesting to watch my mind immediately go to, "I don't look good enough today". Funny how that works. I noticed that and processed it, reaching the conclusion she most likely would have done that to any guy (or person) who talked to her. After all, she did it before I said, "you're cute". She was wearing a Chipotle shirt. I thought about saying something like, "I'm sure you're so excited for another day at the job". If I had thought of that quickly enough I probably would have. Another girl said "thank you" kind of sarcastically, and as I walked away I heard her blow raspberries. Something tells me she did this intentionally for me to hear it. I ignored it. Should I have turned around and said, "did you just blow raspberries at me?" and gotten into a confrontation with her? Well... maybe. But after ignoring it, I genuinely forgot 30 seconds later. I probably wouldn't have forgotten a confrontation. I like carrying myself with a super-positive "social butterfly" vibe when I do this kind of thing, where I'm so overflowing with positive energy that negative peoples' negative energy just bounces off me. I'll bet when I approach a girl like this (saying something fun and positive in a fun and positive way), she's in a bitchy mood or has such a toxic mindset she actually thinks there's something wrong with what I did, and I just immediately leave without so much as making a face, it makes her feel like a loser. Not that I want anyone to feel like a loser. But if it's the truth, if she is a loser, my actions forcing her to stare at that fact... well that makes me kind of happy

The "hey wait... you're cute, I'm Dan" (that's my real name, you losers), was a little challenging but I got through all 10 fine, and did 2 extra. A few times I did things after the drill to ease the tension of introducing myself and just leaving, like saying, "nice to meet you" or just "bye". I don't think that necessarily bad or means I failed the drill, but I should cut that out. The point of this is to create social tension and just sit there in it, soaking it up. It's the social tension we're afraid of, and making best friends with it is the key to elite social freedom.

I stuck around a little bit thinking to finish all of Day 39, but I knew I didn't have it in me to walk around long enough to talk to 20 more girls. The first 20+ took a little over an hour, and man, maybe I'm just lazy or something, but that's a decent cardio workout! I've only done the marathons of hours and hours of AA drills on weekends a couple of times (most notably high-fiving 80+ girls in the span of about 3 hours), and I definitely had to sit down and take breaks. Either way, this might be challenging on a Monday but I'm gonna go there right after work tomorrow and try to get all 20 of the rest of Day 39 in. If not, I should at least be able to do the first set of 10.