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Day 52 in progress. 2/5 sets done. One girl refused to shake my hand four times so I had to do it again.
Santa Monica was a bust. Some girls, but not any more than at the mall nearby, so it's a waste to drive all the way up there. There were plenty at the nearby mall today. Frankly I think yesterday I was making excuses. Maybe there weren't a ton of girls but the bigger problem was I kept pussing out.
Took me a while to get started. Probably 'cause it's been a few weeks since I've done drills. I got my momentum back though, so let's get though this shit!
I'm making a pact to spend at least 1+ hours every day doing drills. As I said in my previous post I'm literally not going to do anything else, including online dating, until I finish this.
Day 52 done. Bullshit week, really bad insomnia first half and work shit the rest of the time. Doubling down on my pact to do drills 1+ hours every day. Today I did a single rep of Day 53. I'll make a VLOG with details of Day 52 tomorrow.
Doing the AA program has completely changed the way I interact with girls. Before I started, I had a really bad problem of never flirting with girls I liked, and worse yet never making moves on girls in even the most obvious situations. Here are some highlights of how it's changed me:
At the start of the program, I had a hot Tinder girl over at my place on the 2nd date for a "movie" (read: hooking up), but I didn't even put my arm around her. Didn't see her again. A month or so later, when I was on the 3rd or 4th week of the program, I fucked a girl on the second date, then a month later made out with and felt up a girl on the second date. A few weeks ago I fucked a girl on the beach on the first date.
Before I started I was never able to talk to girls at bars. Right after finishing Week 6, I walked right up to a girl in a bar, started dancing with her, and was making out with her within a couple of minutes.
After only a couple of weeks into the program I was at a pool party (Splash House) and was going around chatting with and dancing with a bunch of girls all day, something I never would have been able to do before.
It's not just about cold approaching. It's about generally making you more comfortable and aggressive with girls. It also makes you more confident as a man. If you're wondering if you should do it, I personally strongly recommend it.
Unfortunately I didn't finish Week 7 yesterday. I went to a few malls (I'm changing venues for these final drills, don't want to get kicked out of the nearby mall because I actually shop there haha), first one was way smaller than I thought, next two the crowds weren't really in my favor (not many lone young girls). I was really exhausted all day and passed out after the gym so I got started too late. I saw one really cute girl when I was walking into the second mall and went right up and introduced myself to her, but after taking a couple laps around and not seeing any other "targets" I got discouraged.
I'll try again today. I''m wondering if refusing to do anything else before I finish this is a good idea. I'm sticking with that plan for now, but I'm noticing that I'm getting depressed over the fact I don't really have any friends right now. Not because I suck, I just haven't prioritized building a social life at all in LA. I'm completely failing Chris
, and it's actually making it harder for me to go do drills. We'll see. I'm really determined to finish this though. If I focus I should be able to finish it at least within the next two weeks if not sooner, I just need to stick it out on days where there aren't as many girls.
Making progress on Day 55, I did the 5 standard intros Tuesday and then 11 intros + "you're sexy" yesterday. I did those at the Venice Boardwalk, I think that's a good venue for this. One girl gave me a dirty look for calling her sexy but mostly girls were flattered by it.
One girl I walked up to when she was using an ATM, she was super rude and said, "I'm in the middle of something right now, seriously!?" I just walked away and it didn't phase me that much, but I did get bothered by the fact I just walked away. The next time a girl acts like that to me I want to call her a bitch to her face. Good for my confidence haha.
I'm restarting the AA Program at Week 5. Got a video about it here:
This time, it's not about finishing the drills. It's about crushing the AA. Key points in the video:
"There aren't enough girls" = Approach Anxiety. This is a side effect of avoiding too many opportunities
"I'm being lazy about doing drills/approaching" = Approach Anxiety. This is a side effect of moving too fast.
This time, I can't move forward to the next day until I complete the current day with no hesitation of avoidance
Specific effort toward overcoming anxiety about particular types of approaches (listed below)
There are certain situations that make me more anxious and I would tend to avoid them when doing drills. This time, I automatically fail a day and must repeat it if I ever hesitate or avoid with any of these situations:
Girls in groups
Girls with their parents
Girls with guys
Girls walking into stores
Girls sitting down
Girls near a lot of other people
Girls in earshot of other girls I previously did a drill on
The point isn't whether or not it would be conducive to getting laid to approach girls in all those situations. The point is those situations cause me approach anxiety and I have to crush it.
I started with Day 32 today, and immediately failed by letting a girl slip by right when getting to the mall. I nevertheless continued and did drills on 27 girls. I eventually got near 100% "getting in there". I must repeat Day 32 tomorrow.
Once I complete Day 46 I will do real approaches after drills while I do Week 7. This time I will see the program to its completion, including Week 8.
Last week I had some dates from online to go on and then went snowboarding for the weekend. Now it's time to get some serious progress done with the AA drills.
Yesterday I did Day 32 again and totally nailed it, I approached 21 girls in less than 30 minutes. Satisfied with that, so I'm getting ready now to go do Day 33.
I'm being reminded of the feeling when I know a day is really complete. I know when a certain drill is easy enough that I really don't have anything stopping me. That feeling was never there through the last part of Week 6 and Week 7. I was moving too fast, not actually completing every day, just "going through the motions".
I think Week 5 will go pretty fast, except I need to go back and repeat the first night drill of just squeezing girls' arms as I walk by. The thought of doing that is making me nervous again. It got so easy I just did it naturally last year, so I just need to get back to that point. I will work myself back up to the Week 5 and 6 nighttime drills.
Week 6 is where I really need to be dedicated and crush every single day. I think I first got off track when I was significantly nervous about walking past girls and calling them cute so I had to pace around for a while to get started, and I didn't stick with that day until it was totally easy for me. Slow and steady wins this race. Once I properly conquer the Week 6 drills I can start approaching for real. A huge red flag is that I didn't want to start approaching when I "finished" Week 6 last year. Because I didn't do it right. If I do it right, I'll be excited to try real approaching alongside Week 7 as the program recommends.
Wednesday I felt really shitty for some reason in the afternoon/evening (possibly related to dieting pretty hard), but I got out to the mall kind of late to do Day 33. I talked to 12 girls and got pretty comfortable with it but then them mall was starting to close to I went home.
Yesterday I repeated Day 33 and fuckin' killed it. I talked to 20 girls in about 20 minutes, and several times I approached girls with guys. I had no hesitation or avoidance. Did a great job. Ready for Day 34.
This is how this stuff should be going. I'm so glad I am doing this right. Going at my pace and really making sure to get through Week 6 properly, I should make it to the end just fine and truly conquer my AA. I am no longer overwhelmed with how long it would take to complete a drill, I can comfortably do a day of drills in under half an hour. The reason why it took so long with later drills is I wasn't ready for them. I know that now, so I may even impose another condition that I have to be able to complete a day in under some time limit like 30-45 minutes (in a reasonably crowded area) or I have to redo it until I can comfortably complete the day that quickly.
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