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day 48 done
Did another 3 sets today. Didnt do the one approach though. It got late and dark, and the amount of women were decreasing. I think next time i will not wait until ive done the drills before i make an approach, i will do it whenever i see a girl that i found attracting.
Did 2 sets (8 reps). I also approached a girl but i only realised that i wanted to hang out with this girl after i did the "you should be my bodyguard" line. So i guess it counted as a indirect approach. Didnt count the approach as a rep though.
did another 2 sets. I think I will do another 2 sets of this drill and then move on. I also approached 2 girls today and asked for their number, one had a boyfriend, and the other girl was only 15 so she was a bit too young for me, I am 19 btw, she looked older though.
Day 49 done
Did another 2 sets. I will maybe redo this drill i am not sure though, i kinda feel like its time to move along too. I feel like time is against me, days are only getting shorter and shorter, and soon the sun will go down at 3 or 4 pm which really bum me out. Didnt do any real approaches though which i feel kinda bad for, i had made a decision that i was gonna approach at least one girl a day. I will do my best to keep a more steady approach rate. Also got a new haircut today, looks fly.
I am starting to get a little bit paranoid. It feels like all the girls are looking at me weird because i have already approached them. The thought that i have already done drills on this girl before is keeping me from doing approaches on girls i would normally with pretty ease do approaches on. I am paranoid that i am gonna freak them out because i have said the same thing to them once or maybe more times before. Its not all in my mind. Today i approached a girl and after i had done the drill she said, "wait a second, havent you already told me this before?". For some reason this freaks me totally out. I might have to change location. Or maybe i am just gonna say fuck it. Who gives a shit if i have approached them before, cant go to prison for that.
I did 3 sets today anyways, and it took me quite some time (90 minutes). I didnt do any real approaches either. I wanna get more comfortable with the approaches so i might redo this day when i am done.
Today went very bad. Went out to he usual crowded place to do approaches, but i couldnt. A combination of insecurities about my looks and style and paranoia did so i couldnt approach anyone. The worst part is that there were tons of lone walking ladies out today... did about 4 very weak approaches. I dont really have time to do approaches tommorow either. I dunno what to do. Got to find a solution to this problem.
Hey man,I know you been there much longer than I have so I can't give you advice,just suggestion and support.
I've been there too! it happened to me 2 times that I talked to the same girl about the same thing and I was very creeped out too just like you and developed my own fears about it.
My conclusion about it in the end is after thinking about it,don't let that get to you! it doesn't matter.
Keep approaching girls like you always have,you have gone so far to give up now,don't start "procrastinating",I did that and it feels hard to start again because the iron won't be as hot as it was before,you're on a good approaching spree keep that up!
This is my own solution and I discovered it through weight lifting.
If you're lifting heavy,you can't lift half heartedly,
you have to be focused,like you are on a mission that you are determined to succeed at (Half heartedness and doubt are unforgivable),you're mind is thinking only of success and how to get there,you have one goal in mind and that is lift it up.
If you constantly think you can't lift it up by saying it's too much for me,I am so tired,I can't do it,your sets become 30% harder than rather thinking I got this! I'm in control! I'll beat it!
Approaching is the same I can't approach when I'm not serious and hesitant about it,serious:I know am gonna approach,am here for that,no holding back.
No hesitation:I have a certain dialogue to throw off and I don't care if it sounds dumb to the girl I'm doing it because the program tells me to,I put all my courage behind it,I won't flinch.
We also forgot what Chris told us in day 1,do the drills don't care about the reactions at all,teach yourself to not be afraid or rejection,the fight or flight thing.
In your case <<You already said that>> Idk try something like <<I'm saying it again cause it's true.>> or <<Oh that so?>> Do whatever you want about it,we should be laughing at these things that go wrong.
I'm rooting for you dude,you're an inspiration to me,been following for a while,just don't stop,cheers.
Great work man! I seriously hope to be where you are soon. I'm only on day 29, but I find the most helpful attitude to have is focusing on a mindset that emphasizes the importance of rewiring your brain to respond in a positive way around hot girls You shouldn't give a fuck about how these girls react to you. If they act well, and like you, great... if not fuck em. I try not to have the "lets ogle hot girls at the mall" attitude and replace it with "let me take advantage of neuroplasticity by restructuring/rewiring my brain by exposing myself to stressful stimuli" Make the attitude be more scientific/social engineering than anything else.
But what the fuck do I know, I'm halfway where you are.
Life's purpose is growth
Life always moves
Your thoughts are the most powerful thing on this planet... mind your mind!
Thanks guys, this REALLY means alot to me. And you are absolutely right! I must remember what Chris said from day 1 "do the drill and dont care about the reactions". It doesnt matter how they react, every bad reaction is an obstacle in my pursuit of happiness, and I most not give in to these obstacles. It is our actions during hard times that define us, we must always remember that. So again thank you for the comments guys really gave me new motivation to keep going. These past two weeks has just been tough on me thats all; stress about school, not being able to work out because of shoulder injury, the weather turning dark at fucking 4 pm , and the approaching thingy too. But i must not give up now, not this close to the end goal.
Today, before i read your comments, i went out on mindset off "what would happen if i gave up the AA program and just started approaching for real instead". All i can say is that it did NOT work. Made maybe 3-4 weak approaches.
I have to finish the program if I dont it will be the biggest dissapoinment of my life. I just dont quit when i have a determined goal i wanna reach. I just dont.
So anyway actually have a date tommorow with the girl i got the number from a little while ago. I think i will either be doing drills before or after the date. I have to rebuild my momentum, thats for sure.
Anyway see you on the finish line guys
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