TOPIC: Creepy Adventures in London - Moonape's AA Journal

Time, Leave
Time, Random Question - Do you like my shirt?, Leave
Time, Random Question - Do you like my shirt?, I just got it and I can't decide, Leave
Time, Random Question - Do you like my shirt?, I just got it and I can't decide, I'm going to wear it and keep the tag on so I can return it, Leave
* Challenge: Time, Random Question - Do you like my shirts, My boyfriend bought it for me, I think it's gay

COMPLETE

This one was way easier than any I've had for the last five drills. I did feel a bit uptight going up to girls, like I was worried about my look, but it was pretty fun. Did the first three drills in about 20 mins before a break for lunch, and the rest in 15 or so.

A fair amount of the girls actually didn't really like my shirt (what happens when you're in one of the trendier parts of London)! but most said it was fine. A few acted like I was a bit of a creeper (hitting on them) and kind of ignored me and left the convo.

Also interesting how many girls got a shock when I approached them on the street. Seems like a lot of anxious ladies out there.

I forgot to do the challenge, but will hopefully tomorrow. Call me out if I haven't done it.

ok I just did the challenge to wrap up day 18. It was funny, girl laughed.

I'm on day 10 of nofap/no porn btw. Just about ready to explode.

Okcupid and Tinder are shit for me. Girls flaking. Little interest. Any thoughts on profile. Lemme know (above post link).

Day 19 - Bieber

Hi, How's it going? (Listen), Leave
Hi, How's it going? (Listen), Do you know if there's a hair salon around here?, Leave
Hi, How's it going? (Listen), Do you know if there's a hair salon around here?, I'm getting the Justin Bieber haircut, Leave
Hi, How's it going? (Listen), Do you know if there's a hair salon around here?, I'm getting the Justin Bieber haircut, What's your favorite hairstyle for guys?, Leave
* Challenge: Hi, How's it HANGIN'? (Listen), Do you know if there's a hair salon around here?, I'm getting the Justin Bieber haircut, What's your favorite hairstyle for guys?, Leave
Repeat this 4 times today, you will talk to a total of 16 girls;
Do it once talking gay, Do it once being COMPLETELY SERIOUS, Do it twice just being "yourself"

COMPLETE

Did the full 16 girls plus a few more for good measure and the challenge in about 35 mins.

Confidence was pretty good with this one. I found one of the harder bits of this was to flat out say, Hi, how's it going to someone, and then walking away. Bit awkward and had some strong looks, and was ignored a few times.

But man the gay thing was exhilarating. Funny how a lot of the girls opened up thinking I was a gay dude. I'm pretty good at impressions, so most probably thought I actually was a homo.

One of the more fun drills.

Tomorrow is Saturday, so I'm hoping to do day 20 and go out for day 21 in the same day...

Day 20 and 21

Bathroom Drill and Squeezee drill MOSTLY COMPLETE

I did most of both drills today because it is Saturday.

I did 2 of the bathroom sets this afternoon (10 girls) without issues. Maybe took 30 minutes because I did a lot of walking around. I then went home to rest because I'd be heading out again later.

I headed out with a glass of wine in me at about 8pm, to the usual area of East London where I do the drills. Nerves definitely up. I'm no stranger to heading out alone, but have never spent the whole night at bars alone. I also was rocking a quite shiny new jacket that I felt a little self conscious in.

I started off with a few of the bathroom drills, which went ok, but it was a little weirder doing them at night on dark alleys. I wanted to finish the bathroom drills before doing the clubbing drill, but there weren't enough single girls around (everyone in groups), so I went straight ahead to do the squeezie drill. I found a bar with a small queue outside and walked in. Pressure was up and I felt really vulnerable, really exposed, as expected.

The bar was quite busy, and most people huddled in groups. I headed for the bar and awkwardly squeezed two girls as I walked past. A few turned as I did not. I walked around a little more, but there weren't that many girls standing around to make a touch 'do-able' - I went downstairs and squeezed a girl coming up the stairs. I felt really awkward down there in the hot basement and there were no obvious opportunities, so got out of the bar.

I walked around a bit, found a club with a queue and asked the clipboard girl if there was a charge to get in. Wise guy drunk prick starts shouting in my ear that there was 'no chance!' I couldn't even speak to the girl with him shouting - clearly an insecure little shite, so I left. Found myself in another short queue for a bar that I find had a charge, so I left the queue at the door, feeling a little cheap.

Walked around some more, then went into a busy pub and had a chance to buy a beer and do ten more squeezes, upstairs and downstairs to standing girls. Still felt pretty vulnerable and self-conscous. I also felt like a drug dealing, shady character, and could tell girls were interested.

Got out, wanted to do the extra challenge so I walked around some more, found a small club - 63 feet east. Walked in up the stairs - not too busy - and as I was heading into the main club area, I took a look into a side room - standing there was a beautiful tall asian dressed in white, lit up by a neon glow. I thought I'd seen a gorgeous apparition. I was briefly stunned, but carried on to the club/bar along the hallway. I got there and the room was full of black, mostly women. I have no problem with that except that I was the only white dude in there, and to be honest it was just comical. I hung around for about 5 seconds, made a sheepish smile at a gaggle of girls, then got out of there.

Finally after some more walking about, I got into a busy pub - the 'Old Blue Last' which I knew would be busy, and did my remaining ten squeezes in there. Much easier to touch girls as you're walking about 'on your way somewhere' when they are slightly in your path.

I did a few more of the bathroom drills on the way to the bus home, but didn't finish, and plan to finish them another day.

Day 20 complete and Day 22 -

Hey, Leave.
Hey, Do you know where I purchase suspenders?, Leave.
Hey, Do you know where I purchase suspenders?, My mom says I look good in suspenders, Leave.
Hey, Do you know where I purchase suspenders?, My mom says I look good in suspenders, Suspenders are good idea because I've lost so much weight my pants won't even stay up, Leave.
* Challenge 5th Girl: Hey, Do you know where I purchase suspenders?, My mom says I look good in suspenders, Suspenders are good idea because I've lost so much weight my pants won't even stay up, You can see my asscrack, Leave.

Complete

This was a good day, helped by it being nice and sunny out. I did the remaining two drills for day 20 (toilet) with no problem, feeling calm. Took about 25 mins. Went straight into the next set of drills.

As I'm in London, people don't use the word suspenders, but 'braces'. This was a fun drill and quite challenging.

My anxiety level was good today - very low. I was also dressed in a shirt and it's amazing how well people responded to me today compared to days when I'm wearing my baggier olive green coat.

So saying hi to someone and then leaving was harder than the higher level drills in this. I said hey to a girl sitting on the grass, then left with a smile and got a chuckle.

Most girls laughed with these drills and it was fun to make them smile. I did the ass crack challenge on all three drills and one or two of them were a little cringe. I was pretty pleased with myself today for approaching some really cute girls. One girl was working behind the open window of a shop, and she was really helpful, giving me proper directions. Felt cruel to start talking about my arsecrack and it got a bit awkward but still funny.

Full sets of 15 girls done in about 45 mins.

Was going to do the sesame street drill today also but ran out of steam.

Onto the next day - really enjoy this right now and feeling my confidence growing in a big way.

Oh I also want to add that this shit never came naturally to me, by the way. I had pretty crippling social anxiety for most of my twenties, so this is a big deal for me. Those guys who are working their ways out of those issues can come a LONG way.

Day 23 - ask 30 girls: how do I get to sesame street.

30 girls done!

Pretty fun day today though I was feeling a touch of anxiety. Most of the girls smiled and about half laughed out loud - a couple even hit me on the arm playfully. Quite funny how a few of the girls seemed to really think there was a real sesame street and acted totally serious. One girl even hilariously directed me to where she 'thought' the street was.

I have to say I did often add the line, I'm looking for my mate Oscar (the grouch). I hope that doesn't disqualify me from the drill :-/. But I did 29 girls before some lunch and I did another afterwards.

When I was really comfortable with it, I approached an older lady and did the drill completely deadpan serious. she said she couldn't help quite politely - then as I was walking away she shouted something back at me along the lines of 'what was that about?' - I think she was offended when she absorbed that I was fucking with her.

Anyway, a good day of drills and was pleased with how I did them

I had a date in the evening from OK cupid. Kinda stupid because the girl (Indian Londoner) was quite attractive but I just wasn't attracted to her - knew I wouldn't be before the date even started. But we had a good conversation about travel and stuff outside (we were pretty cold) over a beer. Then it got a bit awkward. For some reason (I think because I was on a kratom comedown, especially after having taken it for a few days straight) I got really anxious. She was keen to go somewhere else for a drink, and I just didn't want to. I spluttered some stuff about whether she'd get on the underground to go home and that I didn't really want to drink any more.

It was a bit of a cringey end to an otherwise pretty good date, and I felt sorry for her at the end. I think it's hard for me to relax into a date with a girl that I'm just not attracted to. So bit of a downer, but hey - live and learn.

Onto day 24...

Ask 15 girls, "What do you want for your birthday?"
* Challenge: "I'll give you a- whatever she said she wanted" (see audio)
Repeat this 2 times, you will speak to 30 girls.

Almost complete

This was an interesting drill because I genuinely didn't know what to expect when heading out.

The first girl I met was awesome. She immediately answered as though it was the most normal question in the world. She said I don't know first, then this: peace in Gaza. Nice.

The most challenging part of the drill is the lack of closure by simply leaving. A lot of times I'd say 'nice answer' or 'I like it' rather than walking off. But I'm totally aware that the more I can deal with being a bit of a dick to girls the better this process will be for me.

Rejections and awkwardness is more important than being perfectly smooth.

So I had some fun interactions with girls - again responses were about as expected. A third of girls kept saying I don't know until I left. The other third gave me an answer after a while. Some of the answers I got included 'a pony', 'tickets to ... Brazil, south of France, Bali, Barbados etc', a million pounds, and my back covered in tattoos.

The remaining third of girls just walked off, either with an arrogant ed bassmaster style 'psh' or a smile.

Because there was this father/daughter dynamic sexual tension built into this drill, I did feel a bit of a creeper, but generally enjoyed it.

I even got the challenge done on one girl.

I got to about 29 girls before getting tired heading home. I will do a few more tomorrow before getting into the what's for lunch drill.

EDIT: forgot to add that I had another date last night with an OK Cupid girl. This is the FOURTH time I've looked forward to a date with a hottie and she turned out much chubbier in real life. Frustrating. But the date actually went ok - we had good conversation and I was pushing to take her home (she wasn't THAT fat, haha - just larger than her pics). Didn't push it though it was close. I haven't heard from her in a while, and I think she was put off with my pushy playery (touchy) vibe.

Day 25 What's for lunch COMPLETE

I did a handful more of the 'what do you want for your birthday' drills to finish off yesterday. Pretty fun. Was a nice warm up for today's main drill - what's for lunch.

This was definitely a step up from yesterday, though pretty ok to do. Most girls thought i was weird. Some looked disappointed when I walked away (like I realised they weren't attracted after a botched pick up attempt!) and some were really sweet and helpful, ESPECIALLY when they were slightly lower SMV than me, and I approached loudly and with confidence.

It's amazing how much assertiveness makes a difference. I pretty much shouted HEY and what's for lunch at a girl, and she reacted really well.

The insights I'm getting into different types of female personalities is interesting. Some girls are so BORING. others are very COOL. and the smallest things make ALL the difference. Tone of voice, what I'm wearing, what they're wearing. It's fascinating really.

Onto day 26 either go out again later today if I can find time, or tomorrow.

Just read through everything... great stuff! I really need to do the AA program too and your progress is inspiring.

BTW I have found in London that OKCupid is pretty shit. Plenty of Fish is far more active. Ive had loads of POF dates and not a singe okc date. Also now that summer is here Ive found its become less active anyway.

Appreciate that AJ. I really recommend it. I can see that this will be life-changing for me, already is.

That is excellent news. Tinder and OKC have been shite so far. Will def set up on POF. I thought POF wasn't really a thing in the UK.

Day 26 - Who's your daddy and what does he do?

Complete

Oh man, been a couple of days to work on my online business but back on the drills this afternoon.

This one was definitely challenging for me. Took me a while to get into it - like 20 minutes before I had the courage to do this damn thing. This was harder than previous ones because it does feel very creepy especially with the german accent (which I'm pretty good at!), and for the most part you will be burning bridges with these girls by being a creeper. Ha.

As always, after about five approaches, things warmed up and the last few were done with more assertiveness and confidence. A lot of girls walked off as I said we're going to play a little game because they were walking anywhere. Odd how many girls seem to be in such a rush when you start saying weird shit to them!

I must have approached about 17 girls with this drill today because I had to re-do a few because I said stuff like, 'so you havent seen the movie' - to make it less weird, but I know that's breaking the rules .

But I was saying this stuff looking girls dead in the eye and I was pretty proud of myself for doing it. Some girls were like what the hell is this? A few girls gave me their dad's professions with a smile. Most were really weirded out. But it got fun towards the end and I nearly didn't want to stop!

Tough drill. This one felt like a rush to complete.

I did the first three drills of day 27 - where's the beach, and flexed my muscles at a girl. funny. I wanted to do both days today because I want to do the night time drill on a Saturday, so I'll have to do a couple of days of two days crammed in this week. Hopefully time to do day 27 tomorrow.

Exhausted!

Day 27

Tap on shoulder, Hey/Bro - I have a question... Leave
Tap on shoulder, Hey/Bro - I have a question... Where's the beach?, Leave
Tap on shoulder, Hey/Bro - I have a question... Where's the beach?, (Start Flexing your muscles in all directions for 5 seconds), Leave
Tap on shoulder, Hey /Bro - I have a question... Where's the beach?, (Start Flexing your muscles in all directions for 10 seconds), Leave
* Challenge: Approach an additional 5th girl and flex your muscles for 30 seconds
Repeat this 4 times, you will speak to 16 girls.

Complete (not challenge)

Pretty good day today, nice and sunny. I had to meet a few people in town, so headed out in the morning to get this drill done. This was really the first day that tested doing moves in public (bar I suppose the high fives).

One of the hardest bits of this is really the very first drill, which is to tap a girl on the shoulder, say you have a question and then just leave.Tough. I usually did it and then said I forgot the question. Haven't had the balls, to be honest, to just leave. Might need to work on that, but I did count it.

A lot of girls reacted well to this one and it can be hard to walk away when a girl is clearly interested. Some funny moments were had flexing in front of girls, especially for ten seconds, which just felt really weird. Most girls were confused, and some a bit pissed off. But I am getting so 'hardened' to getting funny looks. As I'm totally aware, it's the dealing with rejection (i.e. weird looks, awkwardness) that is the most powerful part of this course.

I did the 5 second flexing drill in front of two black french girls who didn't really get it, but seemed intrigued. This was my first group approach, so pretty pleased with that. I did another really bold one, approaching two good looking girls sitting on a table on the pavement and did the full ten second drill in front of them, also with a few others watching right on the street. One girl was smiling all the way through, the other looked baffled. Really proud of myself for that one.

Didn't do the 30 second challenge, hopefully another time.

I was hoping to cram in the nerd glasses drill as well today, but I was pretty tired after seeing people (introvert here) so went home.