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Creepy Adventures in London - Moonape's AA Journal 05 Apr 2015 17:59 #198302

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Today is Day 2. I have just signed the petition, and I'm psyching myself up for my first week of drills.

I'm sick of my nervy past. I want to change. I see this program as being one of the best ways to get confident about all things. I'm looking forward to the thrill, but obviously anxious.

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My AA and Social Anxiety Destruction Log - It's Happening 10 Apr 2015 08:41 #199331

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Day 4

I've been generating a few dates/leads through Tinder, and plan to set up an OKCupid account soon.

I'm actually going to use this journal to document my no porn exploits also. I'm on day 8 clean of PMO as of today. Feeling good.

Drills complete. Approached five girls for the time, three of them said they could not help me. There was definitely tension before starting and it felt a little weird asking the time - like it was forced. But I can see how even doing these is really important. I'm making eye contact etc.

Had a date with a nice Korean girl from Tinder tonight also. Went well - she walked me to the bus stop (her place was in the other direction). She's a 6 for me. Will prob ask her over to my place this weekend.

On to tomorrow's drills...
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I WILL BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF SOCIAL ANXIETY 10 Apr 2015 18:58 #199429

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Week 1 Day 5:

Walk up to 5 women and ask them for the time. LEAVE. - complete
Walk up to 5 women again an ask them for the time, but do the drill faster. LEAVE. - complete

Went out for a run and intermittently asked girls for the time. Most of them were not attractive and older, so it was quick and easy. The thing I struggle with the most with asking the time is the sense of not feeling like it, because I feel it's a waste of time when I already know the time! When I think about the how my character will grow in all this, it helps me get bold again about doing it.

In the evening I went out again and asked the time from about 6 women within about ten minutes. I could have done it quicker but there were not many women around my local area.

Loving the phrase - 'fight for every inch'. It certainly applies to these drills.
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I WILL BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF SOCIAL ANXIETY 11 Apr 2015 14:08 #199566

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Week 1 Day 6:

Time, Leave
Time, Directions, Leave
Time, Directions, Have you been there?, Leave
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 15 girls in total. COMPLETE

Total girls spoken to: 18.

I headed out today with a little trepidation. I didn't have too many nerves when I had done a couple of them. I found asking them whether they'd been there a little awkward. I didn't want to ask it for mundane places, so had to think of places that made sense for me to ask that. A couple of times, me asking if they had been, came off as a little sarcastic-sounding, which led to a couple of chuckles.

Generally I found it a long physically demanding task. I didn't jump on all opportunities, did a ton of walking, and did it all in about an hour and a half. I remember thinking that I just wanted to finish it at one point. I was really tired towards the end. Clearly I can shave a ton of time off this. I was aware how I was trying to minimise awkwardness as much as possible.

There were a couple of really sexy girls I spoke to and I really enjoyed just being present with them.

Feel great now that I've done it. I definitely am feeling a ton of benefit already - more confident, lighter, etc.

On to the next day...
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I WILL BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF SOCIAL ANXIETY 12 Apr 2015 17:27 #199764

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Week 1: Day 7

Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Directions, Leave
Time, Directions, Have you been there?, Leave
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 15 girls in total.
Key = GET IN THERE, DO NOT WAIT to do the 1st rep (time, leave). Do it right away. COMPLETE

Have done all drills four days in a row. Dropping the ball on the porn though. Must eradicate that shit from my life now - need to set up more dates and lays for sure.

Did the full task in about half the time (40 mins) as yesterday. Am getting a little bored of asking the time, but will keep going.

Great day today doing the drills around Brick Lane, London. Tons of women were out, sunny and people in good spirits. This made the task pretty quick, easy and even fun.

Feeling totally anxiety free during brief convos with girls (up to 7s) -I didn't approach anyone above a 7 today, and know I'm finding excuses not to approach fitter girls. I'm also not that comfortable approaching girls who are not alone. I will likely start experimenting with groups soon, as that is definitely out of the comfort zone.

On to day 8...
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I WILL BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF SOCIAL ANXIETY 13 Apr 2015 15:37 #199962

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Day 8:

Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Directions, Leave
Time, Directions, Have you been there?, Leave
Time, Directions, Have you been there?, Do you like it?, Leave
If the girl says "No, I haven't been there" repeat the drill on another girl who has and ask her "Do you like it?"
Repeat this 4 times today, you will speak to 16 girls in total. NOT COMPLETE

I didn't have much time today except on the way to do something in town so did not complete the day.

I did approach about 8 women - a mix - and a couple of 8s. I did not manage to get the conversation all the way to: 'do you like it'. I was in the Soho area of London, and everyone seemed to be in a rush which made it more challenging. Some of the interactions were a little awkward. Looking forward to moving on from asking the time all the time.

Hopefully will finish these off tomorrow. I plan to do more to make up for the break.
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Moonape AA Log and smashing Social Anxiety for good 14 Apr 2015 15:18 #200163

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Day 8b:

Complete. Approached about 20 girls.

I did the drills from scratch because yesterday was a half day. I headed out to a busy part of town - nice sunny day. Enjoyed doing it. Towards the end, the discomfort was gone. A few 8s in there. Still finding a few excuses for some situations like groups, girls sitting on grass, hotter girls. But enjoying doing what I need to do.

Feeling good today.

On to day 9...
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Moonape AA Log and smashing Social Anxiety for good 16 Apr 2015 11:04 #200519

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Day 9:

Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Leave
Time, Have you ever eaten at [nearby restaurant]?, Did you like it?, Leave
If the girl answers "No, I haven't eaten there," you need to still ask her "Did you like it?"
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 15 girls in total.

I have to say, this one was tough for me. I'm ok in interactions where you're 'getting along' with the person, but this one threw me because you're asking a question and then abruptly leaving the convo. Felt strong, but this is about feeling ok with discomfort.

I also found asking if they liked it when they said they hadn't eaten there a push. Anxiety was certainly not through the roof but uncomfortable for sure.

I spent about an hour and did only one set after approaching about 9 girls (a few I re-did because I didn't quite stick to the rules, carrying on conversation etc).

Will continue tomorrow.
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Moonape AA Log and smashing Social Anxiety for good 16 Apr 2015 19:36 #200567

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Today I had a lot on, and a long meeting with someone I hadn't seen in a while - I was feeling a little socially drained from that so I gave myself the day off. Back on Day 9 (and possibly some more Day 8 practice before that) tomorrow.

I didn't mention that I had a 'watch a movie date' last night with the Korean 6/7 that I had a first date with the other day, which ended with me sleeping with her. A good night!

Looking forward to blasting through Day 9, which I was having some trouble with...
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Moonape AA Log and smashing Social Anxiety for good 17 Apr 2015 12:16 #200684

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Day 9 Cont'd:

COMPLETE

Was depressed this morning and really not looking forward to it.

Started off with a quick warm up set from day 8. Day 9's drills started slow.

I found it awkward at first, but gradually increased the pace and found the interactions weird but no longer scary. A very liberating feeling. It definitely helps to do these drills with speed. You don't have time to think about it, and it leads to a 'better' performance. Most girls seemed more nervous than I was, and most were pretty keen to leave the conversation.

So I approached about 20 girls around my area today. I did five sets of Day 9 despite covering two the other day, and did it all in about 70 minutes (i know - slow).

Great how a good round of drills can put you in a great damn mood.
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Moonape AA Log and smashing Social Anxiety for good 18 Apr 2015 16:30 #200857

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Day 10: Ask for movie theatre and if watched any good films lately. COMPLETE

Walking around SOHO London on a beautiful day - many cute girls around. I asked a few 7s, no higher than that.

I found this pretty easy after a couple of warm ups with asking the time. 15 girls took about 30 mins - def can do quicker - wasn't pushing it too hard.

On to Day 11!
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Moonape AA Log and smashing Social Anxiety for good 19 Apr 2015 14:14 #200976

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Day 11: Ask 20 girls time, if phone shop nearby, ask what phone they have, and if they like it. COMPLETE

Wasn't planning on doing drills today as I really need to focus on making money in my business, but I know that beating anxiety is my biggest priority (money an extremely close second!) I decided to just go for it. I want to do at least one set of drills every day, and never leaving a day of nothing, no matter what.

Did this one in about half an hour. Quite enjoyed it.

Starting to really enjoy the process now, even though I feel some jitters here and there. The moment when you complete the last set is the best.

Kudos to Chris for structuring and planning this whole thing. So far, the order in which you've set drills are great - incrementally harder, but not too far out of newly established comfort zone each time.
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