TOPIC: Dashedhopes' Approach Anxiety Log

Approach Anxiety Day 45
Walk up to a group of girls and give BOTH/ALL of them a high-five, Leave.
•Walk up to a group of girls and give BOTH/ALL of them a high-five, say "You guys are cute,", Leave.
•Walk up to a group of girls and give BOTH/ALL of them a high-five, say "You guys are cute,", I'm [Name], Leave.
•Walk up to a group of girls and give BOTH/ALL of them a high-five, say "You guys are cute,", I'm [Name], Shake hands with at least 1 girl, Leave.

This drill was pretty straightforward and easy. I don't really know why Chris said it was hard. Some people probably have a harder time with it just like I had the hardest time on the EC drill.

I've been in Whistler BC for the past 2 weeks and I never got laid here which sucked. It was probably mostly because the only places we went to at nights were these super loud clubs. Good for dancing and it was pretty fun but unless you go to the club with a group of girls, you aren't getting laid. We should've went to bars... Lesson learned. Plussss my best friend here totally fucking made me bum'd out about Cold approaching and I finally convinced him that it was good but I only regained my confidence in the last few days and then it was kind of pointless to do real approaches so I just decided to do some AA drills.

My friend I think has mastered social circle game better than anyone I know. In the past 3 weeks he's gotten 3 different lays and 1 fuck buddy all from the same group that he created. He introduced so many people into his group and now has this sick group of people that he likes that enjoy the same stuff. It won't work for him forever but for now he's killing it. Also, it's good to note he supplements this with online dating where he's gotten several notches. I wish I could share his lay reports on here. They are baller and funny as fuck.

Anyways... Peace peace

Great to see you moved on past the eye contact drill, and gratz for you lay!
that story you posted is very relevant and i guess we all make mistakes in that sense, in general life.

A bit pissed off that I took a break from the AA program. I've been going out trying to do just the:
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, So.. tell me what your up to today, Leave.

I did 0/24 approaches and I've gone out 3 times to try and do them. I am not going to beat myself up though because after reading Gorilla Mindset, I know that's not the answer. Instead I am going to focus on the actual problem, what I can do better and what I've done well in the past couple months.

1st... The reason I can't approach is because I stopped approaching for a little while and the anxiety came back.

What can I do better to improve? I need to bite the bullet and just do the drills, even if it's just a couple for the day.

What have I done well? I got my first gll lay who became my fuck buddy. I improved my looks and I am pretty close to making the University rugby team. Tryouts are soon and I've gotten really fucking good. I've been seeing a girl that is my sisters friend that I hit on and got her number. She is coming over today to my house and I will be escalating for lay #2 !

My advice for guys starting the AA program. Don't stop the AA program just because you can start approaching. I was able to approach by myself and I stopped approaching when I got a lay and the anxiety came back. Just finish the program all the way through, no matter what. I am going to finish it for good this time, no excuses.

Keep at it you fucking pimp you.

Aight so did 12 reps of this drill! I am pretty stoked.

Three things helped me get through it

-Lower looks threshold so that I was doing drills on girls that were less attractive than girls that I would actually approach
-Kratom(Made me feel fucking great)
-I have a sexy girlfriend and it gave me a sense of status and confidence.

12 more to go and onto week 7 !

did 2 reps of the last drill

Mall was pretty dead but the important thing is that I didn't pussy out completely.
1st girl said thank you and then asked me if she's seen me before doing this. I said no and just said that I wanted to compliment her. She probably has seen me but I don't really care. I approached another girl after letting her pass, which was a big step for me because I wouldn't have turned back and got her attention. She eyed me before and I called her from behind. She seemed like she wanted to keep talking like she was interested. She was cute but I have a girlfriend now and It was just a confidence booster getting a positive response from a good looking girl.

I'll go out tomorrow again after work. I have school coming up which will increase the population of my city by several thousands. I'll be able to really get reps in and just focus on AA, school and rugby.

14/24

"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, So.. tell me what your up to today, Leave.

24/24

Finally done! Week 7 here I come : )
This is pretty exciting. I did these right after working out and I feel on top of the world right now. Can't wait to do week 7, honestly.

Normal responses from most. Some Asians didn't speak English, some girls didn't give me the time of the day at all. However, some girls were ecstatic that I would even notice them and it seemed like they always wanted to keep talking to me. I did 12 more instead of 10 because I wanted a more constant stream of responses... None of this dumb 2 per day thing...

Day 48 Drill (Level 6)

"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, "You have a strong handshake, maybe you should be my bodyguard.", Leave.
Repeat this 6 times, you will speak to 18 girls.

18/18 DONE EZ PZ

I went after the gym again and it went very well. First girl I saw, I approached. One girl even said she was married haha. I was like, "No that's fine haha" Like I wasn't interested anyway, and I wasn't. Most girls that actually showed some interest in me were the hotter girls. I've come to realize very greatly that any girl under a 5 will react negatively to my approach because they can't believe a guy like me would approach them. The girls 6 and above usually respond positively and seem interested a lot of the time.

I didn't do the bar drills just because I've been skipping them most of them anyway because I don't have good logistics for bar game anyway. It would be too tedious trying to get girls from there. For now, I am going to work on getting girls at parties and day game. I am thinking I am going to dump my girlfriend, this month. Online game, with parties, and day game I'm thinking I am going to get laid a lot.

"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, "You have a strong handshake, maybe you should be my bodyguard.", Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, "You have a strong handshake, maybe you should be my bodyguard." SQUEEZE HER ARM, Leave
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, "You have a strong handshake, maybe you should be my bodyguard." SQUEEZE HER ARM and say "You're jacked.", Leave

16/16

I felt really good after this one and got it down in like 30 minutes. I am really starting to recognize and capitalize on this screening method. A lot more often I start to only have good or bad reactions. I can tell within almost 5 seconds if a girl is interested in me or not. Then with the joke, the girl will for sure be in or out. It was very good for my confidence when girls still seem interested and want to keep talking to me. These are good looking girls too and it makes me feel way better about the numbers game.

I am really glad I restarted the AA program and gave it a good nother shot. When I go after the gym, it gives me this killer confidence and I just own up these hoes. I even went before the gym for a couple reps and I was able to do them easily as well. Very soon I'll be able to translate this to the real world and get some real numbers.

"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", "Aren't you going to tell me that I'm cute too?", I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", "Aren't you going to tell me that I'm cute too?", "What did you say?" (pretend like you didn't hear her), I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.

15/15

This was an interesting day haha. Some girls would say they have a boy friend or I'd ask if they thought I was cute too and if they say no, I'd say, "what was that???" Then I'd just start laughing. Some girls were really enthusiastic about me talking to them. One girl kept talking to me and said that I looked like a hot buff surfer guy. I cut her off and just said, nice meeting you haha. She seemed pissed after that because she was annoying the fuck out of me and she knew it.

Then when I was walking some random girl with her friend was eye fucking me looking me up and down and was like, "Mmm Mmm Mmm". I started laughing really hard after that. I just took it as a compliment. So many girls stare at me when I am looking really good. Next drill should be easy, it's just an extension of this one.

Day 51
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", "Aren't you going to tell me that I'm cute too?", "What did you say?" (pretend like you didn't hear her), I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", "Aren't you going to tell me that I'm cute too?", "What did you say?" x2 (pretend like you didn't hear her), I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", "Aren't you going to tell me that I'm cute too?", "What did you say?" x3 (pretend like you didn't hear her), I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
Challenge: "I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", "Aren't you going to tell me that I'm cute too?", "What did you say?" x5 (pretend like you didn't hear her), I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.

15/15

Sick drill. Was pretty fun. I had a bit of anxiety because of the massive crowds between classes. Classes just started today so the inbetween times were insane. I couldn't do any reps until it slowed down. I got going really fast after that and got them done before seeing my girlfriend. I had way more girls to choose from so I picked a shit ton of girls that I thought were better for me and would be more receptive and it actually helped. I got waaaay less negative responses. Sometimes before, there wouldn't be enough girls that were good looking so I'd do it on ugly chicks and I'd get really shitty responses. The only girls that didn't seem interested this time either had a boyfriend or they weren't available. Well one girl said she was into girls lol. That was pretty funny. Getting close to finishing this shit and I am going to get mad girls!

"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, I'm [Name], Handshake, I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.
"I know this random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi", I'm [Name], Handshake, I'm [Name], Handshake, I'm [Name], Handshake, I'm [Name], Handshake, Leave.

20/20

I split this up and did it in two days but got momentum and did it quick each time. Lots of predicatable stupid responses. Girls pushing me (Jokingly) and laughing. Some girls totally interested and some girls not interested at all. compliments on groups should be easy enough. I got asked if it was a social experiment too haha. Can't wait to start actually getting laid. Gotta deal with the gf first though.