TOPIC: Dashedhopes' Approach Anxiety Log

Fucking yes! I finally finished day 26. This was a brutal day. At first I wanted to just go back or skip it but I took some advice and figured out what was really bothering me about the drill. It was partly that I was afraid that girls thought I was perverted and that girls thought I was really weird but that was stupid. All the hot girls were just confused and didn't necessarily care that I was doing this weird thing. I shouldn't have been worrying about it all.

I think I really really kicked into this at the end on my last rep. I was getting picked up by my sister at the mall to go home to see my family but I needed just one more rep. I saw this fat ugly short chick and I knew exactly how she'd respond right before I talked to her. This is why I normally avoid them cause I want better reactions but I just needed one more. I said to myself, "Who the fuck cares what this whale or any girl thinks.." So I went up Who's your daddy and what does he do.. Etc.. She literally couldn't say a word cause a handsome well dressed guy was talking to her. She probably thought I was making fun of her or something cause it was that unusual that a good looking guy would even look at her ugly face LOL.

I didn't even try to keep asking her. She was embarrassed enough.

Overall results were good but not what expected. I thought girls would understand the game a little bit more but either they've never heard of kindergarten cop or they were all just extremely stupid. I was satisfied with the answers I got and feel I took too much time on this drill just walking around but this is going to make the rest of the drills in this week a lot easier.

Another thing I should mention is that I just tried Kratom and Kava. Both were so awesome and Kratom really does help for doing AA drills. It doesn't even feel like it's helping you, you'll just feel like you got this increased confidence and motivation that transpired into you getting the courage to go up to anyone and do anything. It was great.

I can't wait to do my drills tomorrow. I am going to take some Kava do my drills and then get a tea from starbucks and work on my blog. When I'm on this stuff I feel incredibly motivated.

Peace and happy new year

K fucking right! This was probably one of my favorite drills. Day 27 I went up to girls and asked, Where's the beach and I flexed my muscle for 10 seconds.

All of the reactions were really similar and relatively positive but I think mostly because I was asking store workers. This would've changed if I asked 50% random people just walking cause those ones can walk away and be rude to you but even those this time wouldn't walk away which was good.

I did all the approaches in the branch of 3 days since all the students aren't back yet so there's significantly less people and girls by like 30 - 40,000 people which makes it a lot harder.

The one approach I did was in front of 2 girls that worked for the store and they thought it was the funniest/bizare thing ever. It was pretty funny. The funnier thing though was that I didn't know the mall so I went two laps of the mall and didn't realize I went to the same place and asked a different girl right next to the other two I did earlier so they laughed while I was doing it haha. Whatever.. It was still funny and I laughed really hard.

Overall this drill was pretty easy. After doing the arnold drill I think the next week and a half is going to be really easy especially since I am going to have a plethora of girls at the campus back from break. I'll have school and work but I am going to really focus on getting these done even if it's like 5 reps per day. I don't want to lose exposure by stopping for a month.

Peace!

Ok day 28 ez pz. Finished this one in a day. This one is by far the easiest one I've done in a while. Responses were typical so I tried to do things that make it more awkward for me on harder drills like walking the same way as the girl after finishing. I did things like approaching girls from multiple angles and approaching girls that were in really busy spots. I was also doing this in the dark at like 6:30pm. It's Canada so It's dark pretty early and girls get startled easily when they have their headphones blaring and coats up. Even when this happened I was still getting pretty good responses. I feel like a lot of week 5 will be like this simple stuff but introducing different concepts and exposures.

If there's anything I find easy, it's doing excessive complimenting. Stuff that is annoying but not hurtful. In these drills I try to approach ugly girls and those are the girls that give me shitty attitude where I don't mind pissing them off.
However, it's hard being mean or annoying to girls that are so nice and innocent. I have to be able to do anything to any girl without any anxiety.

The super high five I don't think is going to be challenging plus it's like 10 girls I think which is a piece of cake.

Good luck everyone. Peace.

dashedhopes wrote: Fucking yes! I finally finished day 26. This was a brutal day. At first I wanted to just go back or skip it but I took some advice and figured out what was really bothering me about the drill. It was partly that I was afraid that girls thought I was perverted and that girls thought I was really weird but that was stupid. All the hot girls were just confused and didn't necessarily care that I was doing this weird thing. I shouldn't have been worrying about it all.

I think I really really kicked into this at the end on my last rep. I was getting picked up by my sister at the mall to go home to see my family but I needed just one more rep. I saw this fat ugly short chick and I knew exactly how she'd respond right before I talked to her. This is why I normally avoid them cause I want better reactions but I just needed one more. I said to myself, "Who the fuck cares what this whale or any girl thinks.." So I went up Who's your daddy and what does he do.. Etc.. She literally couldn't say a word cause a handsome well dressed guy was talking to her. She probably thought I was making fun of her or something cause it was that unusual that a good looking guy would even look at her ugly face LOL.

I didn't even try to keep asking her. She was embarrassed enough.

Overall results were good but not what expected. I thought girls would understand the game a little bit more but either they've never heard of kindergarten cop or they were all just extremely stupid. I was satisfied with the answers I got and feel I took too much time on this drill just walking around but this is going to make the rest of the drills in this week a lot easier.

Another thing I should mention is that I just tried Kratom and Kava. Both were so awesome and Kratom really does help for doing AA drills. It doesn't even feel like it's helping you, you'll just feel like you got this increased confidence and motivation that transpired into you getting the courage to go up to anyone and do anything. It was great.

I can't wait to do my drills tomorrow. I am going to take some Kava do my drills and then get a tea from starbucks and work on my blog. When I'm on this stuff I feel incredibly motivated.

Peace and happy new year

I know that feel Bro with Arnold drill. Was very anxious before doing it but shouldn't have been.

I reckon its harder than the drills in week 5 on paper.

I reckon its harder than the drills in week 5 on paper.

Fuck man. It was really hard for me. I was not doing the program for like 5 weeks cause school and work was a lot. When I was on break I must have went to the mall like 3 times and didn't talk to one girl. It was demoralizing but I just finished day 29 today so I'm pretty happy that I got my momentum back.

Day 29, go up to girls and say, "Super, Super High five !" get a double high five and then say, "Super" again.

This drill was probably one of the easiest I've done in awhile. It took me probably 5-10 minutes and I got all good responses.

The funniest part which is starting to become a common trend is that I run up to girls that are walking away from me and I scare the shit out of them. One girl gasped and just smiled and laughed. She gave me the high-five like it was super normal.

Another girl said thanks when I gave it like it was some sort of ultimate gesture haha. Some girls thought it was kind of weird and were hesitant to give the double high five. One girl had her phone in one hand and slapped each hand with her one. That was pretty cute.

I thought I'd also mention that I am on Accutane now. This is a powerful drug meant for eliminating acne and I am on week 2 of 20mg/day and it's already getting noticeable in terms of dryness in the face. My forehead is getting pretty bad but I know in the long term it's going to be good. The only thing I'm concerned with is that I am rushing a frat this weekend and I am hoping that my skin isn't peeling and shit from the dryness. This could affect my chances of getting in if they think I am some druggy with peeling skin. I am not too, too concerned but It just means I am going to have to be really cool with the guys. I already know three guys in fraternity so I know I have their votes and I've been to a couple of their parties where I've hooked up with girls.

For my upcoming drills I am going to skip the bar one until this weekend when I go to a bar cause going on a Tuesday or Wednesday is pretty lame and boring cause there won't be a lot of people there. I'll go Thursday or Saturday cause I have to do Frat stuff and my buddies are throwing a part Friday night. Possibly, I'll do day 30 there and grab a bunch of girls arms . So I am going to do day 31 Reflection right now cause I don't see why not. Week 5 won't be at all hard for me.

Day 31 Reflection !

Which single drill was the hardest for you?

The hardest drill at first I thought was the Arnold drill but that was mostly because I was inactive in the program for awhile before I attempted to do this. When I got on a roll this was a lot easier. So I have to say the ABC drill was the hardest! I didn't want to say this one because Chris recommends that I go out and kill it now. -.- But I am going to go out and kill it. This includes doing the challenge which is singing the alphabet till she leaves over and over.

How are things going so far?

Things are going great. I feel like I am a better more confident person. I mean the progress I've made is completely apparent. My very first day I could barely ask for the time! That was crazy .. Now I am singing the alphabet to random people ! I am able to hit on 50 girls online without a second thought. I've noticed that when I do some of these drills some girls based on their response I could pick them up so easily. This happens every like 10th girl and it really gives perspective on the success rate of approaching random girls. It's awesome. I am really happy about my progress.

How does the future look?

The future? It looks fucking awesome. The reason I am not approaching girls right now is because Chris doesn't recommend that I do. There are many instances after doing a lot of reps of my drill where I've been so confident that I believe that I can do a real approach to the next girl I see. In 30 days I feel that my anxiety will be gone and I'll be able to get girls.

Looking forward to wrecking AA completely!

I'm posting a lot today but I had to put this in cause it was too funny. I was redoing the abc drill cause it was my most difficult drill. I decided not to do any reps but just the challenge a couple times. I sang it to this cute girl who automatically seemed interested in me because she stayed while I sang the alphabet 8 times! Literally.. 8 times lol. She like took 3 steps away but stayed for another round of the alphabet then walked further away but I didn't let up. She was like 10 feet away now and I kept singing till she finally started walking away laughing. I couldn't resist laughing either, It was awesome! I could tell she was interested cause she kept asking questions and she was looking around for a camera. I did the same challenge to another girl but she only stayed for half of the second set of the alphabet. One girl was super interested and I feel If I put in some game I could've got her number and hung out or went on a date with her. The other girl I wouldn't have been able to do that.

This was awesome because after this reflection I know that I haven't rushed anything and I am at the point that I am at for a reason.

Day 32 - Time, Directions, compliment, leave.

I didn't find this one hard. It was actually really easy. Seemed like a week 2 drill to be honest. Maybe this was harder for some other guys but giving girls a compliment to get a smile was really fun and easy. All girls responded positively(Who wouldn't). I don't really have much to say for this one

I kind of did an advanced move without knowing it cause I saw a girl that I asked for the time that I thought I knew and I asked what her name was, I shook her hand and said, "Hi I'm Tristan, It's nice to meet you" it wasn't the girl I was thinking of so i just left.

Anyway. I feel like this week will be boring and uneventful in terms of these posts.

Peace!

Day 33 - Directions, I fell a couple minutes ago I hope I can make it, Compliment, I should be more careful, I hope you don't fall and break your neck.

This drill was again pretty easy and didn't take me more than 20 minutes. The thing that was weird was that when I said that I fell they were like are you okay or omg that sucks. The weird part was that I forgot about my actual dialogue. After I asked people what's the time the directions I don't listen at all and kind of zone out thinking about the next thing that I am going to say or trying to read their facial gestures. So when they acted concerned for me I was taken aback and realized that it was because of the dialogue lol. Some girl even touched my shoulder and said that I'd be fine in a sincere voice.

I'm happy I am being so consistent with finishing the drills each day. I am a little nervous about the banana phone drill which should be interesting but I should be fine. I've done enough ridiculous drills already.

Peace!

dashedhopes wrote:

I reckon its harder than the drills in week 5 on paper.

Fuck man. It was really hard for me. I was not doing the program for like 5 weeks cause school and work was a lot. When I was on break I must have went to the mall like 3 times and didn't talk to one girl. It was demoralizing but I just finished day 29 today so I'm pretty happy that I got my momentum back.

Gotta keep the momentum going, little and often. Well done on finishing week 4, you'll be one week 6 pretty quick by the looks of things.

Thanks man. This week is super easy and I am able to do the drills consistently cause they're really fast and I don't have much work to do.

In particular though the arnold drill was stupid hard I think for me and I got into my own head. I read another guy's journal and he gave me a really good idea to get over what I was saying inside my head. I might go out and do the arnold drill again just to make sure that I am completely over it.

Day 34 - Ring ring ring banana phone.

Literally just did the drill like 5 minutes ago and it only took maybe 15 minutes. I got some really good responses. Girls were super happy and responding well. One girl caught me off guard by saying, yea it's my banana phone and then I kept going saying, your banana phone is ringing and she held it up to her ear jokingly. It was pretty funny but I had no idea what to say after. She beat me, LOL. She's like, I am afraid what you're going to say next but I just left and said bye. I got stumped really hard, I hope I don't get stumped like that in a real conversation with a girl I'm actually approaching.

There were a couple girls that just kept on walking and one said rudely, "I"m on the phone!" This was pretty funny and stupid so I just kept asking her the questions until it might seem like harassment. What a dumbass lol. There was one girl that was so confused that she said, "I think I heard beeping". There was no beeping. She was really clueless/brainless. I laughed really hard after she left.

I didn't take a look at the next drill but I am thinking it's going to be another easy one. I am going to do it at the mall this time to some store owners and see how that works. Hopefully well.

I am going to two parties this weekend but I am not going to drink very much at all at either. I am going to go on Kava and see if I can take home a girl or at least hook up with one. The next one is a frat party kegger rushing event. I am rushing so it should be fun. I hope the frat has something special for the guys rushing. I might drink a bit if I am out of kava just to keep me a bit more social and loose. Sometimes I run out of shit to say or do when I am at a party or bar sober. I am trying to improve this because I want to be able to really have fun at a party without alcohol which for a ton of people would be difficult. However, I am a pretty fun and crazy guy sober. Some people shortly after meeting me and I get comfortable with them, sometimes will think I'm drunk when in fact I'm perfectly sober, just super happy and energetic.

Anyway, wish me luck!