TOPIC: Dashedhopes' Approach Anxiety Log

Day 22 Suspender one.

So this one was pretty easy like some of the drills I've done. I even did the challenges where I had to talk about my ass crack lol. It took me a little while to do my first rep which is kind of discouraging but none the less I got in the momentum of doing the drills. The hardest rep of some of these drills is the very first one. And not just because you don't have momentum but because it's weird. For example my drill the first rep is just. "Hey". So I just yell at some chick and just say hey. This is really hard for me to do. Once I get into actual confrontations it's easy. Some girls were really happy and just thought I was being cute and funny. Another girl thought my approach was so unconventional that she was asking if it was a joke. A common trend with these types of girls is that they are never above a 7hot. The girls that think it's a joke or are really unhappy usually aren't cool and are pretty ugly. The cute girls were really awesome. Overall really fun drill.

Next is the sesame street one which I think is going to be easy but more extreme. What I mean by this is that I am going to get much better responses from the cute girls that are happy and then the pms'ing unhappy ugly chicks will probably give me a snarky comment or just walk away. (And then I'll laugh my head off afterwards like I usually do when I get awkward responses)

Peace hopefully I get this done tomorrow.

Oh ps. I got a date tomorrow I was at a party and hooked up(Made out/felt up) with some chick and I messaged her the next day and she agreed to have coffee with me. I'm pretty excited.

So today.. Went to class. Then did some drills but I was kind of nervous asking girls where sesame street was when other people were around us so I only asked girls that were really secluded and by themselves. So I got five done and only one just walked away from me. Which is good lol. One girl like chris said was trying to get the right answer. She was like, "There's probably a right answer but I don't know what it is." she was funny and cute about it. Im going to try and get a bunch of these reps done tomorrow(15 in total tomorrow).

Now.. I went on a date ! And to be completely honest.. This is the first ever real date I've been on.. Ever. This is really good progress. She was super cute and nice to talk to. And like chris says, you have to provide like 90% of the conversation with a girl which I didn't forget and was able to keep the conversation going. In retrospect thinking about it now I think I should've offered her a drink since she didn't want coffee. That was a fail but I'll remember next time. Hopefully.. Haha. I don't think she was the girl to really care though so it's not too big of a deal. I invited her to a party Friday so hopefully we can continue there and maybe I'll get the kill(Get her in bed**). I am really happy with my progress and I am super thankful for this site.

Anyway, peace out. Gotta hit dem drills tomorrow.

Congrats for your date! and keep going! kill AA!!

Thanks a lot man. I hope you continue with it aswell. After like 2 weeks of this you'll feel so much better around girls, it's awesome.

So today i went out and finished my, "Hey do you know where sesame street is drill." This one was super easy. It was honestly just asking for directions but the people never knew where the street was. So the discussion was, question and they said no or they thought I was being funny. It was really easy to mess with people because you've asked so many people and you know what they're thinking based on their responses. Either they laugh, smile or widen their eyes they immediately realize what you're doing and they're trying to figure out the answer that I'm looking for and you can immediately fuck with their head. My classic reaction is acting like Im serious even though they know that I'm not. It was pretty fun.

Online dating wise, I got a date! I was messaging this girl a while before she said she was comfortable meeting me on campus. So I have another date with her on Tuesday of next week which I'm looking forward to because she seems really shy and I'll need to really facilitate the conversation. So don't give up on online dating. It's a numbers game and if you message the right amount of girls and have a nice profile you'll get some dates.

Tomorrow I have to study for my midterm. Which is friday afternoon and then right after I have work. Then I have a party to go to where I am meeting up hopefully with that girl that I went on a date with. I am going to try and get some more action than just making out with her next time. My house is really close to the party so we'll be able to walk to my house if she's down.

I'll do next day's drills on saturday which is, "What do you want for your birthday". I am looking forward to this alot so I might leave this for sunday afternoon a bit so that I can get take my time and focus on getting the reactions that I'm looking for.

Anyway peace..

Tristan

Day 24 What do you want for your birthday!

So today I did the drill and it went really well despite chickening out yesterday to do it. Today I went to my school and I probably walked around campus for like 30 minutes before I did the first rep but afterwards I was able to finish it in less than 15 so In my head I thought it went pretty well and I got some similar and different reactions. Some girls by the 3rd time asking them what they wanted would just keep saying that they wanted nothing. This was pretty dumb but whatever. Then there were some girls that would say what they wanted on the 2nd try or the 3rd try. Nothing was weird or rude so I thought everything went really well.

Online dating..

So the girl bailed on me. Not a real legitimate reason but I gotta keep in mind that some of these girls are super shy so I'll just ask her again and see if she will.

Tomorrow,
is what's for lunch which I am going to have some momentum going into it because it's just as unconventional as asking someone what they want for their birthday. Talk to youse later peace

Ok, so I forgot to do the other half of the birthday drills so I guess I'll talk about those. They were super easy because I just finished talking to my friend who motivates me and we were just talking about money and our business so I was pumped. Very first girl off the bus wouldn't even talk to me which wasn't de-motivating but actually boosted my confidence.. Dumb bitch lol. The next couple girls would talk to me and they were just the normal responses that I'd already heard. Then, I went up to this brown chick and did my line and she just looked like she was disgusted and wouldn't even acknowledge me. I didn't even want to keep asking cause she didn't deserve my attention. I guess arranged marriages make people ass holes.

Anyway.. The drill went really well because I did all my reps right before class which was like 20 minutes. I was really proud of myself because that was the one drill I did exceptionally.

Hey guys,

So today I went out and could barely get three reps. It was pretty pathetic. I just finished exams and I put off doing the program for a week and a half which was really annoying.

I was supposed to ask what's for lunch today which seemed incredibly hard. There are less and less people out each day because students are going home for the holidays which is making drills harder. The three people that I talked to were super weirded out. I think this is just coincidence and I need to do a lot more reps till I get to 15.

I don't really know how the arnold set is going to go because that seems super hard, almost as hard as doing the abc's drill which in my opinion has been the hardest to ever do.

Anyway.. I am going to go out again tomorrow to hopefully complete this week because It's really hard.

Ok. "What's for lunch" completed. Today I went out with a friend but it's not what it sounds like. He wasn't there for help or anything like a self-esteem boost. He wanted to do some approaches himself cause he's a redpill kind of guy as well. So I told him to do his thing and we were just circling in the mall and at first I wasn't able to approach some girls but after about 4 reps the next 7 were really really easy and I did them in less than 10 minutes. 4+7=12 but I did 3 yesterday which is 15. I started to get the responses that seemed good to me like, some girls were really happy about getting talked to and some girls were a bit bitchy and didn't want to talk or they were just stupid and couldn't comprehend a simple question. All in all it went pretty well. Now that I am back in the groove I think tomorrow's drill will be much easier.

I might be going out tonight so hopefully with a bit of liquid courage I can get a girl into bed. I'm going to try at least. Online dating has been pretty lack luster and I must have messaged like 100 girls. I think it really has to do with location as well. My friend who came back from Whistler British Columbia(10,000 population) has had 2 tinder bangs and he doesn't even use OKCupid or POF but has had way more bangs than me. When he came back to Ontario he got 0. He was getting frusturated and we started to think that it must be a lot more difficult in the area that I'm residing in. Whatever.. I am going to keep trying and hopefully in the new year I'll get some action.

Anyway. I'll talk to you guys tomorrow. Wish me luck

Just wanted to change the Subject title to be more relevant.

Ok, so today I went out expecting the worse. This drill was saying, "Who is your daddy, and what does he do"? I probably walked around the mall for like an hour and a half before I got fed up, went outside and one girl was alone and I did it. It went badly too, she just walked away and barely answered me. She was just like, "I don't want to do this". I walked around for another 10 minutes and did another one outside in the rain and she said, "I don't want to play this". (Part of the drill is saying we're going to play game). I could only do 2. I just left. I think this is the worst I've ever done and this week has for sure been the hardest.

I am going to try again tomorrow to do 8 more and hopefully I get some good reactions so I don't force myself to start over, which I don't like doing. This week has been the hardest for me cause they are less normal and just doing these things by yourself with other people watching is really hard..

Wish me luck peace.

Guys.. I am at the mall right now and this is like my 4th time in a row doing this drill for like an hour each time with 0 success. I don't want to back track but I am having the hardest time. The other day I was able to get 2 done but that was all. I could not for the life of me approach another person.

Do you guys have any words of advice or boosts of confidence for me? My best friend has already called me a pussy for not doing them lol.

The drill is day 26.. "Who is your daddy and what does he do"

Ok day 26. Who is your daddy and what does he do. This one is still stumping me. It's kind of depressing but I took Matt's advice and I am starting to understand why I need to do the drill. I need to be comfortable being weird, funny, or even perverted. Perverted isn't what they are supposed to thing but these are for sure the reactions I get from a lot of people and It's how I feel. I shouldn't feel this way because these girls are extremely stupid if they don't connect that it's a joke.

I was thinking of just skipping the day but I am going to do the last 5 reps and just get it over with. I trust Chris that he put it in for a reason. I just have a feeling that later on it's going to help my progress by finishing this drill. What ever is actually stopping me so hard is something that has been stomping me from going up to girls before I started the drills.

Anyway. It's Christmas eve and I hope everyone has an incredible Christmas!